灰色技能悄然流行——职场，不靠能力靠酒力？ Gray skills quietly popular--the workplace，Not a good drinker by ability？

　　

核心提示： Core clew：从前是学历、证书称霸职场的年代，而今似乎已被新兴的灰色技能悄然替代。喝酒、唱歌、打牌、搓麻成为入职必修课，甚至有了专门的“厚黑学”之类教材风行于世。作为职场中讨论得沸沸扬扬的话题，灰色技能真有那么重要吗？

Once upon a time is the degree、Certificate of s dominate the workplace，Now seems to have been emerging gray skills quietly replaced。drink、singing、CARDS、Playing majiang become the job required courses，Even with the special“HouHeiXue”Teaching material such as popular in the world。As discussed in the workplace is attempting to topic，Gray skills really that important？

　　如今一些大学生为了能找到一份比较满意的工作，除在毕业前发动亲友跑关系，还开始修习一些灰色技能，而高校周边的一些书店里，也有很多修习灰色技能书籍……

Now some of the college students in order to be able to find a satisfactory job，In addition to launch before graduation friends run relationship，Also started to practice some gray skills，And some of the bookstore around the university，Also has a lot of studying grey skill books...

　　所谓灰色技能，主要是指一些求职者为了找到一份比较满意的工作，或职场人士为了更好地适应工作“需要”，专门修习一些专业知识之外，诸如喝酒、唱歌等应酬方面的技能。

So-called "grey skills，Is mainly refers to some job seekers in order to find a satisfactory job，Or people in order to adapt to the workplace“need”，Special to practice some professional knowledge outside，Such as drinking、Singing and other social skills。

　　

喝酒应酬，竟成敲门砖 Drink wine dinner party，Unexpectedly into open

　　“现在的就业竞争非常激烈。我感觉灰色技能在一些用人单位的招聘人员眼中，的确显得相当重要。”

“Now the obtain employment is very competitive。I feel gray skills in some of the employer recruiters eyes，Does seem quite important。”

　　杭州某高校2012届硕士应届毕业生杨睿，在长达一年的求职过程中发现，尽管招聘公告中，用人单位不会把喝酒、打牌明确作为招聘条件写出来，但与招聘人员交流中，不少用人单位会暗示希望应聘人员有喝酒、唱歌等灰色技能。

A hangzhou university this year's master graduate of 2012 YangRui，In for as long as a year that the job search process，Although recruitment in the announcement，The employing units won't drink、Play as a recruitment conditions clearly written out，But with the recruitment of staff exchanges，A lot of the employing unit that will hope to apply for personnel have to drink、Singing and other gray skills。

　　“我的专业是文科方向，所以找的大都是文职工作。面试官往往在问了一些专业技能之后，就会从侧面了解，或绕个弯问，比如‘你是北方人，应该挺能喝酒的吧？’‘你对喝酒之类的应酬怎么看？’他们甚至还暗示喝酒是工作需要。”

“My major is liberal art direction，So find are most civilian work。The interviewer often in asked some professional skills after，Will know from the side，Or around the corner ask，For example‘You are from the north，Should can drink a lot of？’‘You like to drink the dinner party how to see？’They even hinted that drinking is a job。”

　　作为一个女孩，杨睿基本上不喝酒，也不喜欢喝酒，有时拗不过了，才喝一点点啤酒而已。“我真不知道自己酒量如何，只能说我不大会喝酒。”她说，这样的回答估计不能让公司招聘人员满意。

As a girl，YangRui basically don't drink，Also don't like to drink，Sometimes the ao however，Just drink beer just a little bit。“I really don't know how to drink，Can only say that I don't congress to drink。”She said，Such answer estimate can't let company recruiters satisfaction。

　　不过，如今已找到工作的她，有了更冷静的看法：“今后工作中难免会遇到喝酒这种事，应该学会巧妙处理，这毕竟也是适应职场的一种技巧。”

but，Now she found a job，A more sober opinion：“The future work hard to avoid can meet drink it，Should learn to juggle，This is, after all, to adapt to the workplace a skill。”

　　杨睿告诉记者，用人单位除在面试中了解求职者的灰色技能外，还会从大学生的求职简历中了解这方面的情况。

YangRui told reporters，In addition to the employing units in an interview about job seekers gray skills outside，Will students from your resume in understanding about it。

　　“比如求职简历中，社会实践经验比较丰富，他们一般会觉得交际应酬能力会比较强一些，这也是一种侧面了解。”杨睿补充道，所以有些学习成绩平平但实践经验丰富的同学，反而比学业优秀但实践经验缺乏的同学更容易找到工作。

“For example in your resume，Social practice more experience，They are generally think intercourse dinner party ability will be strong some，This is also a kind of lateral understanding。”YangRui added，So some grades go but practice experience of students，But instead of the outstanding study but practical experience of students lack much easier to find work。

　　“还有一些大学生在找工作过程中，需要先在用人单位实习一段时间，合格后才能被录用。而在实习过程中，特别是在一些销售、推广类的岗位上，不少实习生经常会因为不会喝酒、不懂应酬之道，完不成公司交给的‘任务’，从而无法通过实习期。”

“And some of the college students in the process of looking for a job，Need to practice in the employing unit for a time，Qualified to be hired。And in practice teaching process，Especially in some sales、Promotion class jobs，Many interns often because not drink、Don't understand the way of entertainment，To finish the company to give‘task’，Can not through the internship。”

　　根据杨睿的观察，并不是所有的用人单位都会考量求职者的灰色技能，“主要是一些销售类、文秘类的岗位，而且一般是规模比较小的公司和一些比较基层的单位，才会有这方面的特殊要求。”

According to YangRui observations，Not all the unit of choose and employ persons will consider a gray skills，“It was a major of sales、The post of secretary，And generally is the relatively small size of the company and some more grass-roots units，Will have the special requirements。”

　　

灰色技能，并非万能药 Gray skills，Is not everything medicine

　　找工作中，许多大学生不解，辛辛苦苦考的那摞证书还不如会喝酒应酬有竞争力。也有人表示，为了就业会向现实妥协，学一些灰色技能。

Looking for work，Many college students don't understand，Take an examination of the pile of certificate hard as will drink dinner party competitive。Also someone said，In order to obtain employment will compromise to reality，Learn some gray skills。

　　车洁莲是2013届的毕业生，即将踏上求职的道路，她也十分关注灰色技能这个话题。

Car clean Ephraim is the 2013 graduates，On the road to job，She is also concerned with the gray skills this topic。

　　“如果找工作遇到这种情况，内心确实比较抵触。但若真的是工作需要，正常的交际应酬，我会努力去适应，毕竟这也是一种社交方式。但若经常需要应酬，那我还是不会接受这种工作。”车洁莲对记者说。

“If find work in that case，Heart is really resistance。But if really is to work，Normal intercourse dinner party，I will work hard to adapt，After all, this is a kind of social way。But if often have to entertain，That I still can't accept this kind of work。”Car clean told reporters Ephraim。

　　谈到灰色技能，在杭州一家IT公司工作、一年到头大部分时间都在各地跑的吴煜明，显得似乎已有些习惯了：“就业压力这么大，找一份好工作很不容易，不会喝也得喝，慢慢学。谈业务中，为了客户满意，应酬是相当重要的工作内容。有时候，如果不喝酒，对方就会说你没诚意，最后硬是把自己喝倒了，才拿下了业务。”

Talking about gray skills，An IT company in hangzhou、All the year round in run most of the time all over the WuYuMing，Appear seems to have some habits：“The employment pressure is so great，Find a good job is not easy，Won't drink also have to drink，Slowly learning。Talk about business，For the sake of customer satisfaction，With the content of the work is quite important。sometimes，If don't drink，The other party will say you haven't sincerity，Finally threw down his drink，Finish with only business。”

　　在与同事的相处中也存在同样问题。有些单位经常搞聚会，老板、同事一起出去唱歌、喝酒。“同事邀请，咱可以婉拒；要是老板邀请，咱能说不去吗？”在金融部门工作的职场新人小吴很苦恼，如果自己不抽烟喝酒、不唱歌、不打牌，就会被笑为“三好男人”。“三好男人”会被领导认为没能力，被同事看成自命不凡，在单位被晾着的几率就变大了。

And his colleagues in the is also getting along with problems。Some units often make party，The boss、Colleagues out singing、drink。“Colleagues invited，I can declined；If the boss invited，I can say not to？”In the financial sectors of new in job market xiao wu distressed，If you don't smoke and drink、Don't sing、Don't play，Will be smile for“Three men”。“Three men”Will be leaders thought didn't ability，By colleagues as self-glorification，In the unit was airing chance of getting too big。

　　“传统观念里的人际交往，往往是各种饭局、酒局，也就是大家常说的应酬。你能喝酒、会应酬，就能调动气氛，宾主皆欢，很多事情也就事半功倍。”小吴说，“企业招聘员工，需要创造利润，而不是单纯地为了解决就业。现状就是如此，你多一门技能，就多一个机会，你就可能比别人活得更好。同事们也都说，要想在职场混出名堂，那就要豁得出去，喝酒喝到胃出血，摸牌摸到手抽筋。”

“The traditional concept of interpersonal relationships，Often is various dinner party、Wine innings，Which you can often say the dinner party。Can you drink、Entertainment will，We can turn atmosphere，Is here,，Everything is easier。”Small wu said，“Enterprise staff recruitment，Need to create profits，Rather than simply in order to solve the employment。Situation is so，You one more door skills，Just one more chance，You can live better than others。Colleagues have said，In the workplace to mix the tricks，The world will have to go out，Drink drink to stomach bleeding，Touch a card to touch hand cramps。”

　　有调查显示，70%的人认为在职场竞争中具备灰色技能很重要，其中20%的人表示非常重要，64%的人表示自己具备灰色技能。

The surveys that show，70% of the people think that on-the-job field in competition with gray skills are important，20% of the people said is very important，64% said yourself with gray skills。

　　不过，专家唐雷恒认为，既然称灰色技能，就不是社会崇尚的技能，属于非主流。一个人假如有很出色的职业能力，不会喝酒、唱歌、跳舞，他一样可以把工作做得很优秀，利于职场发展。但假如一个人的职业能力不行，只有灰色技能，又有哪家单位愿意接收呢？

but，Experts TangLeiHeng think，Now that says gray skills，It is not the social advocate skills，Belong to the mainstream。A person if have excellent professional ability，Won't drink、singing、dancing，He can do his job very excellent，Workplace development to。But if a person's occupation ability not，Only gray skills，And have a unit to receive？

　　因此，灰色技能，充其量只不过是职场的一种润滑剂，不能当做汽油这样的主燃料。一味强调灰色技能，是一种危险的舍本逐末，换来的很可能是一个灰色人生。

so，Gray skills，At best is just a kind of lubricant of the workplace，Not as gasoline such main fuel。Fastening on grey skills，Is a dangerous at the shadow and lose the substance，Change is likely to be a gray life。

　　

职场发展，还是靠实力 Duty field development，Or on strength

　　“实力，才是真正的职场成功‘敲门砖’。”同时考进杭州一家事业单位的阿胡、阿龙，对此深有感触。

“strength，Is the real workplace success‘open’。”Also entered into a business unit of hangzhou, hu、A long，This very。

　　刚进单位时，阿胡很受宠，因为他酒量好，性格外向，善交际，领导一有什么应酬，都要带着他，很快就成了红人。阿龙恰恰相反，业务能力不错，但性格内向，不善言辞，也不喜欢应酬，喝一杯啤酒就满脸通红。

Just enter when unit of，Hu very loved o，Because his capacity for liquor，outgoing，Good communication，To lead a what dinner party，All want to take his，Soon became the meal。Alonso on the contrary，Business is a good，But introverted，Little words，Also don't like dinner party，Drink a glass of beer is flushed。

　　事实也如同事们所料，阿胡很快就被提拔为办公室副主任，阿龙则被下派基层锻炼。但时隔5年之后，两人的命运发生戏剧性转变：应酬导致“三高”的阿胡，还是办公室副主任，而阿龙因在基层单位工作表现突出，得以重用，今年被调回总部担任主要部门负责人。

The facts such as colleagues expected，Mr Hu was soon promoted, for the deputy director of the office，Aaron is XiaPa grassroots exercise。But after five years later，The fate of the two dramatic change：Dinner party lead to“Three tenors”, hu，Still, deputy director of the office，And a long for outstanding work in basic units，To reuse，This year was moved to headquarters as main director of the department。

　　“直到今天，我才真正明白，‘塞翁失马，焉知非福’的道理。”阿胡说，他总以为自己的交际表现好，与领导关系近，应该提拔重用，就不大重视业务水平的提高。但没想到，真到选拔干部时，领导跟他说，你平时的确很辛苦，但一个单位总要有人干事情，你的业务能力不如阿龙，只能先提拔阿龙。

“Until today，I didn't really understand，‘Nothing so bad，Might be a blessing’truth。”O nonsense，He always thought their communication performance，And the leadership close relationship，Should promote reuse，Is less attention to raise the level of business。But I didn't know，True to the selection of cadres，Leaders told him，Do you usually really hard，But a unit total want to be done things，Your business ability as a long，Can only be promoted a long。

　　的确，无论是什么类型的用人单位，归根到底需要的还是真才实干的人才，灰色技能更像是锦上添花，不能救人于水火。过度重视灰色技能，往往也是求职者对自身信心不足，能力不济的一种心理暗示。为此，专家建议，求职者在综合技能尚不完备时应增加自信，要相信通过自身努力和技能积累能够改变命运，切勿陷入灰色心理的消极泥沼。

indeed，No matter what type of the employing unit，In the final analysis, the need to work or true of talents，Gray skills more like entertainments，Can't save in fire and water。Excessively gray skills，And is often a job seekers for their own lack of confidence，Ability of losing a psychological suggestion。For this，Experts suggest，Job seekers in comprehensive skill is not complete should be increased self-confidence，To believe that through their own efforts and skills accumulation able to change destiny，Never in gray psychological negative bogs。

　　社会学专家徐华还指出，一般用人单位对于交际技巧是有底线的，他们只会在专业水准相近的情况下，适当考虑灰色技能。如果因此就把“厚黑学”看作职场法宝，认为掌握灰色技能就能所向披靡，这完全是一种误解，对自身成长毫无益处，甚至祸害多多。

Experts also point out that XuHua sociology，Generally the employing unit for communication skills is the bottom line，They will only in the professional level of similar，Due consideration of gray skills。If so“HouHeiXue”As a magic weapon workplace，Think master gray skills can be overwhelming，All this is a mistake，No profit growth of their own，Even more evil。

　　一位多年从事人力资源工作的职场人士对记者说，工作中，确实需要一定的交际应酬能力，但大多数用人单位更看重的，还是应聘者的综合能力和发展潜质，这些要靠多年的学习和努力才能培养起来。此外，被视为职场“软实力”的人际交往，其实远不限于吃喝玩乐等方面，更不应该盲目地把这些狭隘的灰色技能理解成职场智商，而是应积极培养业务能力、沟通能力及解决问题能力等实用“必杀技”，这些才是取得事业成功的关键。

A years in the human resources work career people say to the reporter，work，Really need certain intercourse dinner party ability，But most of the employing unit of more value，Or the comprehensive ability and development potential，These by years of study and hard to train up。In addition，Is considered as the workplace“Soft power”interpersonal，Actually far not limited to beer and skittles, etc，More should not blindly take these narrow gray skills to understand workplace IQ，But should actively cultivate business ability、Communication skills and problem solving and practical“Will kill technology”，These are the key to a successful career。

　　北大社会学系教授夏学銮：大学生应该拥有自己独特的人格魅力和品质，包括修养、学识和见识，用这些来吸引雇主，而不是靠拉关系、喝酒赢得对方青睐。不少学生潜移默化地被社会风气熏染，早早地具有了“社会化”的心态，令人担心。另外，毕业生对就业市场有些误读，用这个标准来衡量用人单位也是以偏概全，其实并非所有的用人单位都以喝酒、拉关系来要求应聘者，这种考虑往往和工作性质相关，不值得提倡。(记者 朱海兵 通讯员 俞磊)

Peking University, professor at the XiaXueLuan society：College students should have their own unique personality and quality，Including cultivation、Knowledge and experience，Use this to attractive to employers，And not on the alliance、Drink win the other party favour。Many students are subtle social ethos edification, and finally，With early......“socialization”mentality，worrying。In addition，Graduates employment market of some misread，Use the standard to measure the employing unit is spontaneous，But it's not all the unit of choose and employ persons is to drink、Making advances to request the applicant，This considering the nature of work and often related，Not worth recommending。(Reporter ZhuHaiBing YuLei correspondent)