我市(南京)至少有5000户“失独”家庭，多数“失独”者进入老年期—— zhuhai(nanjing)At least 5000 homes"Lost only"family,most"Lost only"Person into old age --

　　

“失独”家庭老人养老如何不“失爱” "Lost only"Family old man endowment how to not"Lost love"

　　

新闻提示： News hint:“失独”家庭——一个特殊的群体正渐渐走进人们的视野。日前，市领导在调研民生工作时，特别对我市“失独”家庭的生活现状及其养老问题给予了充分关注。

"Lost only"Family -- a special group are gradually enters into people's field of vision.a,Municipal leaders in the research the livelihood of the people work,Specially to zhuhai"Lost only"Family life status and pension problem has given full attention.

　　“失独”家庭，指失去了家中独生子女的家庭，尤指40、50岁以上夫妇组成的已经没有再生育可能的家庭。对于丧失爱子而又日渐年老的“失独”者来说，在承受巨大悲痛之后，一个不容回避的问题接踵而至，“失独”家庭的老人该如何养老？

"Lost only"family,Refers to the lost home the singleton female family,Especially a 40/50 years old of couples have no longer birth may be family.For lost a child and growing old"Lost only"For those,In bear huge after sorrow,A unavoidable problems follow,"Lost only"Family old man how to pension?

　　

“失独”家庭的心痛：孩子走了，心也被掏空了 "Lost only"Family heartache:Children went,The heart is also empty

　　“妈妈，要好好活，千万别想不开，儿子今生不能尽孝了，来世再报答您。”近日，在白下区五老村街道淮海路社区，王兰兰不断重复着儿子临终前的话，眼里噙满了泪水。

"mother,To a good living,Don't take things too hard,Son this life can't fulfill my duty,The world will reward you."recently,In BaiXiaOu five old village streets huaihai road community,WangLanLan repeating words son before his death,Eyes filled with tears.

　　王兰兰，今年60岁，2000年12月30日，她突然接到福州打来的电话，说儿子李木因为食用海鲜中毒被送进医院。

WangLanLan,60 years old this year,December 30, 2000,She suddenly received a telephone call from a fuzhou,The son said LiMu because edible seafood poisoning was sent to the hospital.

　　王兰兰说，等她赶到当地医院，医生告诉她，她儿子的病情很严重。

WangLanLan said,Waiting for her to a local hospital,The doctor told her,Her son's illness is so serious.

　　不幸很快降临，李木因突发性肾衰竭，抢救无效去世。“孩子走了，就像天快塌了下来，身体一下子跨了，没办法从单位办了离职手续。最初几年，天天坐在儿子曾住的房间发呆，数不清的夜晚，抱着儿子的照片痛哭。” 王兰兰说。

Unfortunately come soon,LiMu for sudden renal failure,Rescue invalid death."Children went,As day fast fall down,Across the body at a draught,Can't from the unit to the exit formalities.The first few years,Every day sit his son had room in a daze,Countless night,To embrace a son photos and wept bitterly." WangLanLan said.

　　王兰兰告诉记者，1983年与丈夫离婚后，自己没有再婚，一个人拉扯儿子，儿子成了自己的精神支柱。好不容易李木长大成人，谁知这个巨大的灾难却无情降临。

WangLanLan told reporters,1983 years after the divorce with her husband,Yourself not remarried,A man pulling son,A son of my own spiritual prop.Very not easy LiMu grown up,Who knows the great disaster but heartless coming.

　　王兰兰说，逢节日，很多亲戚朋友会打电话叫她一起吃饭，自己会早早就关机，或躲在大家不知道的地方。看着亲戚朋友高高兴兴地过节，心里就更不好受，也不想破坏他们过节的氛围。

WangLanLan said,Every festival,A lot of friends and relatives will call her for dinner,His early will be shut down,Or hiding in the place where you don't know.Look at friends and relatives cheerfully the feast,My heart is more terrible,They don't want to spoil the atmosphere of the feast.

　　“别人是过节，我们是躲‘劫’。”这是很多“失独”家庭共同的感受。

"Others is the feast,We are hide‘kalpa’."This is a lot of"Lost only"Family common feelings.

　　

“失独”家庭的忧虑：伤心之余，养老怎么办？ "Lost only"Family worries:More than sad,Endowment to do?

　　记者和一些‘失独’家庭接触中发现，伤心之余，他们最担心养老。

Journalists and some‘Lost only’The family found in contact,More than sad,They worry most about endowment.

　　家住白下区淮海新村的李维花已经65岁了。“今年8月，老伴因病去世，在医院为丈夫住院签字时，突然意识到今后自己孑然一身，以后连生病签字的亲人也没有，以后养老怎么办呢？”李维花无奈地说。

Live in the BaiXiaOu saemaul undong huaihai LiWeiHua is 65 years old."August,His wife died due to illness,In the hospital for her husband when signing in hospital,Suddenly realized that the future yourself alone,Even after sick relatives have not signed,Later endowment to do?"LiWeiHua helplessly said.

　　“儿子是1991年突发心脏病去世的，只有12岁。”李维花说，她结婚生育都比较晚，孩子走的时候，自己已经44岁了，这么多年，就与丈夫相依为命。

"Son is 1991 years the death of a heart attack,Only 12 years old."LiWeiHua said,She got married fertility are late,When children go,He has 44 years old,So many years,With her husband depended on each other.

　　前不久，记者跟随白下区五老村街道老龄办进行了一项调查，街道所能统计到的“失独”家庭就达33户，其中19户是60岁以上家庭，14户家庭又属鳏寡孤独。最年轻的一对父母，年龄也在42岁以上，再生育的机会渺茫。

Not long ago,Reporters followed BaiXiaOu five old village streets aging to a survey,The street can be counted on"Lost only"The family reached 33 families,With 19 door is 60 years old family,14 families and genera GuanGuaGuDu.The young couple parents,Age also in 42 years old,To bear the chances are slim.

　　有调查称，目前我国的“失独”家庭已超100万个，但具体多少，还没有官方统计数据，我市也是如此。

A survey said,At present our country's"Lost only"The family has over 1 million,But how many specific,There are no official statistics,Zhuhai so.

　　“一些‘失独’家庭并不想让别人知道失去孩子的事实，而是选择自己默默承受，不过这个群体的日益增多，却是不争事实。”玄武区民政局一位负责人说，据不完全统计，该区有300多户“失独”家庭。这位负责人介绍，如果以年龄段人口疾病死亡率来推算，15岁至30岁年龄段的死亡率至少为40人/10万人，加上交通事故等意外，我市起码有5000户“失独”家庭，而且大部分家庭都是中老年后丧失孩子的。

"some‘Lost only’Family and don't want to let others know the fact of losing a child,But choose to silently,But this group of growing,Is known fact."Xuanwu borough civil affairs bureau said the head,According to incomplete statistics,The area has more than 300 households"Lost only"family.The chief introduction,If the population age disease mortality to calculate,15 to 30 years of age mortality at least 40 people / 100000 people,Plus traffic accidents, accident,There were at least 5000 homes in zhuhai"Lost only"family,And most families are after the old age of the loss of children.

　　“孩子是父母的希望与保障，一旦独生子女家庭失去唯一的孩子，谁给这些做父母的养老送终确实是个问题。”市民政局一位负责人说。

"Children are the parents hope and security,Once the one-child family lost the only child,Who gave these parents provide for the aged parent is really a question."Citizens political a person in charge said.

　　

“失独”家庭的期盼：“失独”不失爱，心灵需抚慰 "Lost only"Family look forward to:"Lost only"Do not lose love,Soul need to comfort

　　对于“失独”家庭最关心的养老问题，记者在采访中了解到，很多“失独”家庭希望在全市建一所专门容纳“失独”者的养老院，进行“抱团养老”。

for"Lost only"Family care most endowment problem,Reporter in the interview to understand,A lot of"Lost only"Family hope in the city to build a special accommodate"Lost only"Person nursing home,for"BaoTuan endowment".

　　不过，一些专家认为操作很难。“‘失独’者虽有共同的遭遇，如果把这些群体集中在一起，表面来看，比较容易互相理解和沟通，但事实上，彼此情绪的传染，更不利于‘失独’者走出心理创伤。”市心理危机干预中心主任张纯说。

but,Some experts think it is difficult to operate."‘Lost only’Who is a common experience,If these groups concentrates in together,Surface to see,Easier to understand each other and communication,But in fact,Each other emotional infection,More against‘Lost only’Person out of psychological trauma."City psychological crisis intervention ZhangChun, director of the center said.

　　张纯介绍，失去孩子后，“失独”家庭一般会经历否认、憎恨、自责、抑郁、平复等几个心理阶段，每个阶段都有不同的精神抚慰方法，这就需要社会多方面的关爱。

ZhangChun introduced,After losing a child,"Lost only"The family will generally experience denied/hate/era/depression/Remove and so on several psychological stage,Each stage has different spiritual solace method,This needs the social various care.

　　据了解，近年来，政府除了提高“失独”家庭扶助标准，以减轻“失独”家庭的经济负担外，着重在精神慰藉上做了很多工作。“建立温暖之家连心卡，社区工作人员与‘失独’家庭结对，制定特别的服务计划，让‘失独’者感受社区大家庭的温暖。”白下区民政局老龄办负责人说，社区除了结对帮扶，还为“失独”家庭人员购买人寿保险、安装安康通、举办联谊会、组织外出游玩、逢年过节“家庭成员”一起过，让“失独”家庭真正体会到“失独”不失爱。

It is understood,In recent years,In addition to improving the government"Lost only"Family the standard,In order to reduce"Lost only"The economic burden of the family,Mainly in mental comfort on a lot of work."Build a warm home and able card,Community work personnel and‘Lost only’Custom of family,Formulate special service plan,let‘Lost only’Feel the warmth of the family community."BaiXiaOu civil affairs bureau aging do officials said,Community in addition to supporting the custom,for"Lost only"Family personnel buy life insurance/Installation well-being through/Association held/Organization go outing/holiday"Family members"together,let"Lost only"Family really experience the"Lost only"Do not lose love.

　　针对日益增多的“失独”家庭，今年南京理工大学等4所高校的一些社会组织，专门成立“失独”家庭关爱联盟，共同为“失独”者传递坚定、勇敢、积极的生活理念和自我疗伤的生活方式。

According to the increasing"Lost only"family,This year, nanjing university of science and technology etc four universities and some social organization,Set up"Lost only"Family care union,Together for"Lost only"Person transfer firm/brave/Positive life concept and self healing way of life.

　　“对于‘失独’家庭，除了从经济、心理等层面加强对‘失独’家庭的分类帮助外，最重要的是，政府应建立良好的养老制度和医疗保障制度，完善社会化养老和救助机制，帮助‘失独’者在社会的关爱中找到心灵慰藉，安度晚年。”南京人口学院一位教授这样建议(文内“失独”者姓名均为化名)。*(记者 马道军 实习生 谢佳玮 本报通讯员 倪萌)

"for‘Lost only’family,In addition to from the economic/Psychological and other aspects to strengthen‘Lost only’The classification of the family outside help,The most important thing is,The government should establish a good pension system and medical security system,Perfect socialization pension and relief mechanism,help‘Lost only’In the love of the society find soul comfort,In comfort in their old age."Nanjing institute of population a professor such advice(Within the text"Lost only"The name of the person are alias).*(Reporter the gravelled army interns XieJiaWei our newspaper reporter NiMeng)