春光明媚，眼看着气温噌噌蹭蹭直升，大家纷纷脱下厚重的冬装，换上轻薄的春装。很多人也再度把“三月不减肥，四月徒伤悲，五月徒伤悲，六月徒伤悲……”这样的减肥励志语录挂在嘴边。不过，作为一个有着瘦老公的“胖妹纸”，家住城东的孙小姐觉得，在一段浪漫关系中，体重可以算得上是最难以启齿的话题。“因为体重的原因，我跟老公之间常常爆发冲突。”

Beautiful spring scenery,Watch the temperature ChengCheng Dally helicopter,We take off the heavy winter clothing,Put on light spring clothing.Many people also put again"Don't lose weight in March,April idle young, needy old,May idle young, needy old,Idle young, needy old in June..."The motivational sayings in reducing weight.but,As with a thin husband"Fat younger sister paper",Who lives in city, think,In a romantic relationship,Weight is the most difficult subject."Because of the reason of the weight,I often conflict between with the husband."

　　

◆国外研究发现 In pieces abroad study found

　　

体重等级不一致冲突更多 Inconsistent conflict more weight level

　　近日，《社会与个人关系》杂志刊登了这样一则研究，华盛顿塔科马市的菩及海湾大学与亚利桑那州图森市的亚利桑那大学的研究人员研究发现，与体重等级相当的夫妻相比，体重等级不一致的伴侣──即一方超重，另一方不超重的两个人──彼此的分歧冲突会更多，包括争吵及愤怒和厌恶的情绪。

In recent days,[Social and personal relationships]Magazine published such a research,Tacoma Washington university and in the puget sound region at the university of Arizona in Tucson, ariz., researchers found,Compared with the weight level as husband and wife,Is inconsistent with the weight level partner ─ ─ that is overweight,Both of the other party not overweight ─ ─ differences of conflict will be more to each other,Including quarrels and anger and disgust.

　　据悉，在参与调查的43对异性伴侣中，那些冲突最多的伴侣，都是由体重正常的男性和超重的女性构成的组合。而在体重等级不一致的伴侣中，如果常常一起进餐，产生的矛盾冲突更多。

It is understood,In a survey of 43 to heterosexual couples,The conflict partner at most,Is made up of men of normal weight and overweight women.In the weight grade not consistent partner,If you often have dinner,Produce more conflict.

　　报告称，当超重的那方感受到伴侣在支持他们进行锻炼、健康饮食的时候，夫妻间的冲突就会少一些。

According to the report,When the party feel overweight partner in support of their exercise/A healthy diet,Will be less marital conflict.

　　

◆“胖”惹来多少冲突？ In pieces"fat"How much conflict from time to time?

　　说起体重的话题，现在胖的人还真不少。因为胖而导致夫妻间产生冲突，很多人此前并没有特别在意。记者在采访中发现，虽然不乏恩爱的夫妻，但事实上，与那些体重等级差不多的夫妻相比，体重等级不一致的夫妻，往往会更多地因体重而产生冲突。而“瘦妻子”对“胖老公”的容忍力，与“瘦老公”对“胖妻子”的容忍力相比，则要宽容得多。

Speaking of weight,Now there's plenty fat people.Because fat lead to marital conflict,Many people had no particular care.Reporter discovered in the interview,Although the conjugal love of husband and wife,But in fact,Compared with the weight rating for about husband and wife,Is inconsistent with the weight level of husband and wife,Tend to be more conflict because of the weight.while"Thin wife"for"Fat husband"The tolerance of,With the"Thin the husband"for"Fat wife"Compared to the tolerance,Is much more forgiving.

　　

不愿去海边玩 Don't want to go to the beach

　　

只因老婆太胖穿泳衣难看 Because the wife is too fat to wear swimsuit

　　自从怀孕生孩子后，孙小姐的体重就开始飙升。怀孕后当了全职太太，虽然带孩子也累，但一没事，她就会吃吃睡睡，再加上天天在家都穿睡衣，衣服宽大，等孙小姐突然意识到自己好像很胖的时候，这时的体重已经完全不受她控制，再也回不去了。“我结婚前只有110斤，那时我老公125斤。现在，我的体重是165斤，而我老公是140斤。我们俩的体重完全倒挂，不在一个等级上。”

Since the conceive, and bear children,Miss sun's weight began to soar.As a full-time wife after pregnancy,Although the children are tired,But one is ok,She will eat and sleep,Plus wear pajamas at home every day,big,Such as ms. Sun suddenly realized that he seems to be very fat,When the weight is completely not under her control,No longer can't go back."Before I was married only 110 catties,When my husband 125 catties.now,My weight is 165 jins,And my husband is 140 jins.We both weight completely upside down,Not on a level."

　　当孙小姐和爱人都意识到这点时，两人之间产生的矛盾也越来越多。“孩子上幼儿园后，我准备出来工作，但家里已经没有衣服能穿，出去买衣服时老公就不愿意陪我。”孙小姐说，试衣服时，老公一开始还委婉地说“你还是换套衣服吧”，试了十几套后，老公的话就变成“这么胖还买什么衣服”。自此，孙小姐再也不愿意在爱人面前提买衣服的事。出去吃饭时，孙小姐总喜欢点一些大荤，但每次一点，老公就会旁敲侧击，说再吃这些荤菜就更胖了等等，好几次搞得她饭也不想吃只想回家。

When miss sun and lover have realized it,The contradiction between two people is also more and more."After kindergarten children,I am going to work out,But home has no clothes to wear,Go out to buy clothes when the husband is not willing to accompany me."Miss sun said,When trying on clothes,The husband at first also said gently"Are you still in suit",After tried a dozen sets,The husband becomes"So fat still buy what clothes".Since then,Miss sun is no longer willing to buy clothes in lover side premise.Go out to eat,Who always like to order some big meat,But every time a little,The husband will beat about the bush,Said again to eat the meat is fat, and so on,Several times she don't want to eat rice just want to go home.

　　前两天，孙小姐在准备清明小长假的出行时，提议去日照海边玩玩。“去海边？你这么胖怎么穿泳衣啊？不去不去！”孙小姐说，听到这句话时她也只有忍。“哎，像这样的事很多，我天天听，听得都快习惯了。但被自己的老公这么嫌弃，你要说不难过，也是假的。”

Two days before,Miss sun in preparation for the tomb-sweeping day small long holiday travel,Proposal to sunshine beach to play."Go to the beach?You how so fat to wear bathing suit?Don't go or not!"Miss sun said,When I heard those words she also only."ah,There are many things like this,Every day I listen to,Hear are going to used to it.But by his own husband so abandon,You don't say sorry,Is false."

　　

老公同事离婚了 The husband colleagues got a divorce

　　

据说是嫌老婆胖危机意识陡增 Wife is said to be too fat spurt crisis consciousness

　　家住城南的常小姐的情况，还没有到孙小姐这个地步。不过，回忆一下自己从恋爱到结婚生孩子这5年时光，常小姐发现，自己收获的除了爱情，就是一堆肥肉。“恋爱3年胖了20斤，怀孕生孩子又胖了将近30斤。”常小姐说，目前两人还没有因体重问题产生太多的冲突，一方面她觉得可能是自己现在赚钱比老公多，“经济基础决定上层建筑”；另一方面，她还没有胖到让人无法忍受的地步。

Who lives in Chang Xiaojie, south of the town,Not to miss the point.but,Recall your children from love to get married this 5 years,Chang Xiaojie found,In addition to love their harvest,Is a compost of meat."In love for 3 years fat 20 jins,Pregnancy gave birth to a child is fat nearly 30 pounds."Chang Xiaojie said,Two people so far have no too many conflicts because of weight problems,On the one hand, she thought might be my money more than the husband,"Economic basis determine superstructure";On the other hand,She is still not fat to the point of unbearable.

　　不过，考虑到老公的面子，常小姐现在已经开始减肥了。“男人也有自己的交际圈，有时也需要把我带到他们圈子里，如果我长得太胖，老公也没面子呀。”常小姐说，她常换位思考，既然女人都要求男人钱拿得多，男人也可以要求女人不那么胖呀。其实，在他们的生活中，常小姐有时还是能感受到老公对自己体重的微词。“比如有时他会开玩笑说我又胖了，说要是这会儿结婚肯定背不动我了。”除此以外，喜欢运动的老公经常会一大早拉她去锻炼，而她则喜欢睡懒觉，为此两个人闹了好几次不愉快。“两人体重不在一个等级上，爱好不一样，闹矛盾也算正常。但我要是瘦一点，不就没这些矛盾了嘛。”

but,Considering the husband's face,Chang Xiaojie has now started to lose some weight."Men also have their own circle of friends,Sometimes also need to put me into their circle,If I am too fat,The husband didn't face ah."Chang Xiaojie said,She often transposition thinking,Since women are required a much more money,Men may also ask women weren't so fat ah.In fact,In their lives,Chang Xiaojie sometimes still can feel the husband of her weight."Sometimes he would joke I was fat,Said if get married won't touch my back at the moment."In addition to this,Likes the movement of the husband often pull her to exercise early in the morning,And she likes to sleep late,Therefore two people make it several times."Weight is not in a level two,Different hobbies,Make antinomy is normal.But if I were a little thin,Not just don't have these contradictions."

　　而让常小姐下定决心减肥的重要原因之一，是听说老公一位同事离婚了。大家私底下都说，是因为那个同事嫌他老婆太胖了。“其实那个女孩也不是特别胖，据我目测，估计也就150斤的样子。这是个危险的信号，我的危机意识陡增。”

And let Chang Xiaojie made up his mind to lose weight, one of the important reasons,Is a colleague heard that her husband divorced.Big private said,Because the colleague was his wife's too fat."Actually that girl also not very fat,According to my sight,Estimate is 150 jins.This is a dangerous signal,I sense of crisis surge."

　　

老公180斤 The husband 180 catties

　　

老婆意见反而没太多 The wife comments rather than too much

　　说到肥胖给夫妻带来的困扰，家住丹凤街的石小姐就一肚子话：“我老公180斤，我108斤，我还没嫌他胖呢，他倒经常说我腿太粗，什么穿裤子不好看、要多穿裙子啦。”

When it comes to obesity brings to the husband and wife,In red phoenix in morning Shi Xiaojie is full of words of the street:"My husband 180 catties,I am 108 kg,I didn't think he is fat,He often said that my leg is too thick,Don't look good in pants/To wear a skirt."

　　石小姐的老公在结婚前就比较胖，结婚两2年，石小姐胖了10斤，爱人胖了近20斤。“我以前虽然也觉得他胖，但总觉得无所谓，男人嘛，胖一点才有安全感。”石小姐说，没想到她生孩子坐月子，她瘦了，老公倒一下子胖了近10斤。虽然生完孩子后石小姐已经瘦了近20斤，但爱人还是会经常开玩笑说“好女不过百”。这样的玩笑话，常常在两人的打打闹闹中说过就完了。

Shi Xiaojie husband before marriage is fat,两2 years of marriage,Shi Xiaojie fat 10 jins,Lover fat nearly 20 jins."Although I thought before he is fat,But always feel it doesn't matter,To man,Fat is just a sense of security."Shi Xiaojie said,Didn't expect she recovering from childbirth,She thin,The husband fell nearly 10 jins fat at a draught.Although Shi Xiaojie after giving birth has lost nearly 20 pounds,But love will often joked"Good woman but best".Such a joke,Often in the two person's tear said.

　　不过，石小姐也坦言承，他们虽然经常会把体重挂嘴边，但胖这个话题实际对他们的夫妻生活并没什么影响。“有时我唠叨两句，也是考虑到他的健康，希望他少吃些高热量高脂肪的食物。”但如果是两人的体重调换一下，“别说是他，估计我自己也会忍受不了。”

but,Shi Xiaojie also admitted that socket,Although they often hang the weight,But actual fat this topic and make little difference to their husband and wife life."Sometimes I nag,His health is also taken into account,Hope he eat less high-fat high-calorie foods."But if it is two people's weight change,"Don't say is he,Estimates that I can't stand myself."

　　

◆专家说 Mixer, experts say

　　

社会文化对男女要求不同 Social culture of men's and women's different requirements

　　婚姻生活中，为什么胖妻子会比胖老公更受气？

Marriage life,Why fat wife will be better than a fat husband suffer indignities?

　　“夫妻感情是好是坏，往往受多种因素的影响。”南京爱之图婚姻咨询中心主任周正猷告诉记者，大部分男人都喜欢女人瘦。男人一般用眼睛去爱，一些女人在结婚后逐渐肥胖，她们的爱人往往会逐渐对其失去“爱”的感觉，更多的是靠亲情维系。

"That relationship is good or bad,Often is influenced by many factors."The figure of nanjing love marriage counseling center director zhou zhengyou told reporters,Most men are like thin women.Men usually use eyes to love,Some women gradually fat after marriage,Their lovers tend to gradually for its loss"love"The feeling of,More is to rely on the family.

　　因为女人偏胖，导致越胖越吃、越吃越胖，如果丈夫体形型较好，夫妻间就更容易为此爆发很多争吵。周正猷说，这与社会文化有一定的关系。“唐朝以胖为美，而现代则以瘦为美。男人往往希望自己的女人最美，如果带个很胖的女人出去就会丢面子。如果老婆苗条、精巧，男人也会信心大增。”相反，女人对男人的要求，往往希望对方要高、魁梧，壮实的男人，女人反而觉得荣耀。

Because the full-figured woman,Lead to more fat more to eat/The more you have, the more fat,If the husband body type is better,Between husband and wife is more easily to many quarrels.Zhou zhengyou said,There is a certain relationship with the social culture."The tang dynasty to fat,While modern with thin for beauty.Men often want to own a woman the most beautiful,If take a very fat woman out will lose face.If wife slim/smart,A man will confidence."instead,Woman to man's request,Often want to each other/burly,Very strong man,Women feel glory.

　　周正猷建议，如果夫妻间因为胖而产生问题，双方就要多多交流。“老公要主动带着老婆锻炼身体，在饮食方面帮助老婆控制，那些太伤害夫妻感情的话也最好不要说。通过实际行动帮助对方，真心实意对她。特别是在对方刚开始胖的时候就进行干预，这样结果更好。毕竟，不管对方变成什么样，当初两人的内心还是相爱的。” (记者 施婷婷)

Zhou zhengyou advice,If husband and wife because fat and create problems,Both sides will be more communication."The husband to take the initiative to exercise with the wife,In dietary respect help wife control,Those too hurt feelings of husband and wife also had better not say.Through the practical action to help each other,To her heart.Especially in the started to intervene when I was fat,This result is better.After all,,Regardless of each other to become what kind,When two people's heart still in love." (The reporter ShiTingTing)