“一等男人，家外有家；二等男人，家外有花；三等男人，急了乱抓……”这是一条流行短信。人们在转发的同时，总不忘问一句“你是几等男人？”虽然只是一句调侃，却也反映了一个普遍的社会现实：很多丈夫渐渐不爱回家了。

"First man,Outside the house of a home;Second class man,Outside the house of a flower;Third man,Nasty scratch..."This is a popular message.People in the forward at the same time,Do not forget to ask"You are a man, etc?"Although only a sentence saying,But it also reflects a common social reality:A lot of husband is don't love to go home.

　　著名社会学者、上海复旦大学教授顾晓鸣分析，男人不爱回家的原因是多方面的。“一类是主动型的。有的男人事业心强，积极参加社交活动、扩大交友圈；有的人比较贪玩，一下班就跟朋友混在一起。”还有一些男人不爱回家则有点被动的意味。“家里的妻子太唠叨，晚点回家能耳根清净。”

Famous social scholars/Shanghai fudan university professor GuXiaoMing analysis,The man does not love home reason is various."One kind is active.Some men ambition,Take an active part in social activities/Expand the circle of friends;Some people compare naughty,A work is hanging out with friends."There are some men do not love home is a little passive means."Home wife too nagging,Home late can ear clean."

　　顾晓鸣提醒女性，要让丈夫爱上回家，首先要弄清他不爱回家的原因，再针对性地采取应对方法。对那些“主动不回家”的丈夫，妻子应该积极培养共同的爱好、增加家庭的吸引力。

GuXiaoMing remind women,Let the husband love home,Should make clear above all he does not love the cause of the home,Then pointed to take way to deal with.For those who"Active don't go home"husband,The wife should actively cultivate common interests/Increase the appeal of the family.

　　对那些“被动不回家”的男人，妻子要好好检讨自己：是否太唠叨，对丈夫管得太多、太严，让他产生了逆反心理？顾晓鸣认为，女人都有一定的独占欲，会要求丈夫遵循自己的喜好，干预其空间。“男人是多元、感性的动物，在物质精神生活丰富的今天，配偶不可能完全满足他们的需要。聪明的女人应该让男人有一块儿‘自留地’，特别是让他在家里有轻松、愉悦的感觉。女人如果能给自己留出空间，多享受自己的生活，那男人会反过来围着你转。”若家有幼子和老人，那夫妻俩应该时不时地“出逃”，外出看场电影、在饭店吃顿饭等，都能增进感情。“一起犯错”会成为彼此的小秘密，让你们更亲近。（赵海滨）

For those who"Passive don't go home"man,His wife to take review:Too nagging,To her husband tube too much/Too strict,Let him produced negative mentality?GuXiaoMing think,Women have a certain monopoly to,Will ask her husband follow his be fond of,Intervention its space."Men are multiple/Perceptual animals,Rich in material and spiritual life today,Spouse may not fully meet their needs.The clever women should let men have together‘cropland’,Especially let him at home have easily/The joyful feeling.If a woman can give yourself the space,Many enjoy my life,The man will, in turn, turn around you."If the young and the elderly home,That a couple should regularly"escape",Go see a movie/In the hotel to eat meal, etc,Can enhance feelings."Together to make mistakes"Will become each other's little secret,Let you closer.(ZhaoHaiBin)