和谁应酬，你会焦虑？(可多选) Service and who,You will be anxious?(Can choose)

　　应酬多的原因？(可多选) With many reasons?(Can choose)

　　面对不喜欢的应酬，你通常怎么做？ In the face of don't like dinner party,How do you usually do?

　　随着春节临近，不少年轻人感叹应酬又多了起来。从公司年会到客户答谢会，从同事聚会到亲友聚餐，纷至沓来的应酬让本来就被年终总结、加班压得喘不过气的职场人士倍感焦虑。

With the Spring Festival is near,A lot of young people with sigh and more up.From the company to the customer DaXieHui annual meeting,From my colleagues to relatives and friends dinner party,Waiting for the end of service was summarized/Work overtime overwhelmed workplace people feel anxiety.

　　上周，重庆晨报通过腾讯大渝网和966966公众服务热线，对1100名重庆居民进行了一项在线调查,调查显示，超半数受访者(55.0%)直言现在应酬不少。其中，16.2%的人表示应酬“非常多”，38.8%的人应酬“比较多”。另有36.6%的人表示应酬“比较少”或“非常少”，仅8.4%的人“没有应酬”。

Last week,Chongqing morning through the tencent big chongqing network and public service hotline 966966,Chongqing residents of 1100 was an online survey,Investigation shows that,Over half of respondents(55.0%)The truth is now a lot of entertainment.the,16.2% said dinner party"Very much",38.8% of the people entertainment"more".Another 36.6% said dinner party"less"or"Very little",Only 8.4% of the people"No entertainment".

　　和谁应酬最焦虑 And who the most social anxiety

　　71.5%的人首选领导 71.5% of the people preferred leadership

　　受访者周先生告诉记者，春节前后，他有近10项应酬，每项都不得不去。每次应酬都免不了喝酒，为此，他还和朋友在网上团购了“解酒药”。

Respondents Mr Zhou told reporters,Before and after the Spring Festival,He has nearly ten dinner party,Each have to go.With every time all avoid drinking,therefore,He also and friends online in the bulk"Solution wine medicine".

　　在国企采购部门职员田鑫看来，绝大多数应酬都是利益使然。“该请谁了，谁该请了，我们心里都有数，会写进备忘录。作为中间商，我们经常有求于人，当然得变着法儿地找机会请客送礼。我们也有被求着办事的时候，像供货商，就把我们当上帝，但他们请客也不得不去捧场。”田鑫说，看着酒桌上主客之间的表演，他打心眼里觉得假。“请客的和被请的，很多都不是心甘情愿的。但没了应酬或拒绝应酬，大家心里又不踏实。所以都配合演戏。”

In the purchasing department staff TianXin looks,The vast majority of entertainment are due to interest."This please who,Who should have,There are in our hearts,Will be written into memo.As middlemen,We often want people,Of course have to BianZhaoFa son to find opportunities to treat or gift.We also have the work for the time,As the supplier,We when god,But they treat also had to pay tribute."TianXin said,Look on the wine table between the subjective and the performance,He kind of think false."Treat and are invited,Many are not willing.But didn't the dinner party or refuse to dinner party,Everybody's heart and not practical.So with acting."

　　调查显示，95.8%的受访者坦言，当前年轻人的应酬确实太多了。

Investigation shows that,95.8% of respondents said,The young man's dinner party really too much.

　　对于应酬多的原因，57.1%的人认为这是整个社会功利化的表现；41.1%的人将原因归结为年轻人没职场安全感，怕拒绝应酬影响工作；35.1%的人选择“酒桌上更容易职场公关”；33.2%的人感觉是一些人交友观扭曲，认为应酬才能加深感情；23.8%的人确信应酬多源于权力寻租现象普遍。仅23.0%的人认为应酬多是情感交流需要。

For the reason of more than entertainment,57.1% of the people think that this is the whole social utilitarian performance;41.1% of the people attributed the problem to the young man didn't workplace security,Afraid of refused to work with influence;35.1% of people choose"On the wine table easier to workplace public relations";33.2% of the people the feeling is some people make friends view distortion,Think entertainment to deepen the feelings;23.8% of the people that more entertainment from power rent-seeking phenomenon generally.Only 23.0% of the people think that dinner party is emotional communication needs.

　　想到接下来两周连绵不绝的饭局，80后公务员方小婕常常失眠。“谁说他们会对女孩子手下留情？现在的职场是，女人当男人使，男人当牲口使。”方小婕说，她刚参加工作时，曾因推酒被领导谈话，“他说年轻人不能太自私，要会审时度势。”

Think of the next two weeks and continuous dinner party,After the 80 civil servants FangXiaoJie often insomnia."Who said they would hand for a girl?Now is the workplace,When a man makes a woman,When animals make man."FangXiaoJie said,She just to work,Once for push wine is leadership talk,"He said that the young man can't be too selfish,To size up the situation."

　　调查中，67.9%的受访者为应酬感到很焦虑。其中，30.3%的人感到“非常焦虑”，仅10.7%的人“完全不焦虑”。

In the investigation,67.9% of respondents for dinner party feel very anxious.the,30.3% of the people felt"Very anxious",Only 10.7% of the people"Not anxiety".

　　你会为了和谁应酬而焦虑？71.5%的受访者首选“领导”，其次是客户(39.1%)，还有同事(24.1%)、朋友(13.1%)、亲人(8.7%)、同学(7.4%)等。

You would have to who and entertainment and anxiety?71.5% of respondents preferred"leadership",The second is the customer(39.1%),And his colleagues(24.1%)/friends(13.1%)/relatives(8.7%)/students(7.4%)etc.

　　面对不喜欢的应酬 In the face of don't like dinner party

　　67.6%的人能躲就躲 67.6% of the people can hide hide

　　岁末年终，网络上各种“应酬攻略”、“应酬礼仪”方面的小贴士以及相关书籍大受追捧。为了让自己的酒桌表现不会太难看，方小婕身边不少同事会探讨应酬技巧和经验，还有人专门订购介绍中国式商务应酬细节“攻略”的书。

Year-end year-end,Network all kinds of"Social strategy"/"Social etiquette"Aspects of the tip and related books by chase after hold in both hands.In order to make their own wine table performance will not be too ugly,FangXiaoJie side many colleagues will discuss social skills and experience,Others special order introduced Chinese business dinner party details"strategy"book.

　　方小婕告诉记者，有的书籍和热帖从官渡之战、赤壁之战说起，谈生意场上的成功离不开一个人运筹帷幄、左右逢源的应酬技巧，有的大谈应酬礼仪，敬告职场人士注意“长者优先入坐”、“切忌用餐巾擦拭餐具”等应酬细节。

FangXiaoJie told reporters,Some books and ReTie from the battle of guandu/The battle of red cliff about,The success of the business from a person have a card up one's sleeve/Able to service skills,Some talk about social etiquette,All people pay attention to the workplace"Elderly persons priority sat down at the table"/"Don't use your napkin to clean tableware"Entertainment such as details.

　　“这些书籍或网帖的大热，其实反映出年轻人的迷茫和焦虑心态。一方面，大家都期望能有积极向上的职场环境；另一方面，大家又害怕自己在‘职场厚黑学’、‘办公室哲学’上输在起跑线上，不得不思考和学习投机、钻营之术。”方小婕说。

"These books or net post big heat,Actually reflects the young people's confusion and anxiety mentality.On the one hand,Everyone is looking forward to a positive workplace environment;On the other hand,Everyone again afraid themselves in‘Workplace HouHeiXue’/‘Office philosophy’The lost at the starting line,Have to think and learn speculation/Gaining the technique."FangXiaoJie said.

　　心理咨询师张楠，在多家企业做员工心理辅导和培训。她告诉记者，现在很多年轻人因为不知如何与领导、客户应酬，而出现对人际关系感到紧张的心理情绪。

ZhangNan psychological consultant,In a number of enterprises do employees psychological counseling and training.She told reporters,Now many young people because we don't know how to lead/Customer service,And the emergence of interpersonal relationship feel nervous psychological mood.

　　张楠建议年轻人以平常心对待应酬，学会拒绝。“你如果极度反感应酬，就得适度拒绝，即使因此丢工作或令领导同事不快，也不必自责。那说明你不适合这个工作或企业文化，继续做下去，也不会有好的前程。”

ZhangNan suggest young people to be treat dinner party,Learn to refuse to."If you as objectionable dinner party,Have to moderate refused,Even if therefore losing your job or make leadership colleagues unhappy,Don't blame.That means you don't fit for the job or the enterprise culture,Continue to do it,Also won't have a good future."

　　方小婕说，近期出现了一些教年轻人如何“逃应酬”的小贴士，介绍了“称病法”、“年假法”、“申请出差法”，以及鼓励你、让你心安理得逃应酬的“安抚帖”，让众多80后、90后职场人士大呼实用。调查显示，面对不喜欢的应酬，67.6%的受访者通常能躲就躲；5.2%的人直接拒绝。也有18.0%的人从不推脱，硬着头皮上。

FangXiaoJie said,Recently there have been some teach young people"Fled with"tips,Introduces the"Goldbrick method"/"Annual leave method"/"Application on business method",And encourage you to/Let you feel at ease with the escape"Comfort for",Let many after 80/After 90 workplace people call big practical.Investigation shows that,In the face of don't like dinner party,67.6% of respondents can usually hide hide;5.2% of the people directly refuse.And 18.0% of people never evade,Hardened his scalp.

　　张楠指出，在应酬方式上，现在不少企业开始转变思路。有的企业年会是踏青、泡温泉，既健康又环保。有的企业取消客户答谢会，取而代之的是给客户礼品券、健身卡，既表达了谢意，也让双方都能轻松过节。

ZhangNan pointed out that,In the dinner party in the way,Now many enterprises began to change the thought.Some enterprise annual meeting is a spring outing/Bubble hot spring,Is healthy and environmental protection.Some enterprises DaXieHui cancel the customer,Instead to the customer gift certificate/mrship,Both expressed their gratitude,Also let both sides can easily the feast.

　　有评论说，由于当今社会规则不完善，大家普遍缺乏安全感。你想走得顺，有时不得不请客送礼去应酬。实际上，这种应酬维系的安全感十分脆弱。

Critics say,Due to the imperfect social rules,We lack a sense of security.Do you want to go to the,Sometimes have to treat or gift to dinner party.In fact,This kind of social security that is very fragile.

　　我们应如何面对应酬？调查中，44.2%的受访者建议提倡健康环保的应酬方式；35.2%的人认为应倡导“君子之交淡如水”，杜绝功利化应酬；24.0%的人觉得年轻人应该学会拒绝；23.7%的人期待对公务员的应酬加强制度规范。不过，45.0%的受访者还是认为，应酬在所难免，年轻人要学会接受与变通。

How should we face dinner party?In the investigation,44.2% of respondents suggested to promote a healthy environmental protection service mode;35.2% of the people think that should be advocated"A hedge between keeps friendship green",Put an end to service utilization;24.0% of the people think that young people should learn to refuse;23.7% of the people are looking forward to strengthen the system of civil servants service standard.but,45.0% of respondents or think,Dinner party unavoidable,Young people should learn to accept and adaptations.

　　重庆晨报记者 肖舒楠

Chongqing morning paper reporter XiaoShu nan

　　领导 71.5%

Leadership 71.5%

　　客户 39.1%

The customer 39.1%

　　同事 24.1%

Colleagues 24.1%

　　朋友 13.1%

Friend 13.1%

　　亲人 8.7%

8.7% of the family

　　同学 7.4%

7.4% of the students

　　是整个社会功利化的表现 57.1%

The performance of the whole society is being 57.1%

　　年轻人没职场安全感 41.1%

The young man didn't workplace security 41.1%

　　酒桌上更容易职场公关 35.1%

On the wine table easier to workplace pr 35.1%

　　应酬才能加深感情 33.2%

To deepen the feelings with 33.2%

　　源于权力寻租现象普遍 23.8%

Comes from power rent-seeking phenomenon generally 23.8%

　　应酬多是情感交流需要 23.0%

Entertainment is emotional communication needs to be 23.0%

　　能躲就躲 67.6%

Can hide from 67.6%

　　直接拒绝 5.2%

Direct refused to 5.2%

　　从不推脱，硬着头皮上 18.0%

Never evade,Hardened his scalp 18.0%

　　不好说 8.6%

Not say 8.6%

　　其他 0.6%

The other 0.6%

　　○据《半岛都市报》报道，因丈夫年底工作忙应酬多，经常早出晚归，不久前青岛一女子因怀疑丈夫变心寻短见。

○ according to[Peninsula metropolis daily]reports,Because her husband works at the end of the year with more busy,Often go out early and return till late,Not long ago the woman because the doubt of her husband commit suicide.

　　○据《玉林日报》报道，广西玉林市第一人民医院消化内科，近段时间因为饮食引起的呕吐、腹泻、消化不良、消化系统紊乱等症状病人比平时增多两成。

○ according to[Yulin daily]reports,Guangxi yulin city the first people's hospital digesting internal medicine,Nearly time for eating cause vomiting/diarrhea/indigestion/The digestive system symptoms such as disorder patients increased twenty percent than usual.

　　○据《扬州晚报》报道，年关将至，药店的解酒药热卖，销量翻番。专家指出，解酒药并不能解除酒精对肝脏和肠胃等器官的伤害，很多时候起到的是心理安慰作用。

○ according to[Yangzhou evening]reports,The end of the year will be to,The wine drugstore sells medicine,Double sales.Experts say,The wine medicine and cannot remove alcohol to the liver and stomach and organ damage,A lot of time is a psychological comfort.