内人的表弟阿毛，28岁那年跳出“农门”，进城承接了一些诸如建个仓库、修个厕所之类的小业务，掘到了第一桶金之后，阿毛开始鸟枪换炮了：穿了西服，换了座驾，从上到下色色新，逢人便说：“我这西服某某牌的，3000元一套；这皮鞋是某某牌的，1500元；这皮带是进口真皮的，500元一根……”他的炫耀有了效果：有人表示惊讶、羡慕，有人则不屑一顾。

My wife AMao cousin，28 years old jump out“NongMen”，The city to undertake some such as build a warehouse、Take a toilet or small business，Dig in after the first bucket of gold，AMao the corners has been started：Wore a suit，In the ride，From the top down all new，Would tell people,：“I this suit so-and-so brand，A set of 3000 yuan；This leather shoes is so-and-so brand，1500 yuan；This belt are import real leather，500 yuan a piece of...”His show the effect：Someone said he was surprised by the、envy，Others despise an attend to。

　　有一次，他又当众炫耀新买的一块手表，引起大家的围观。事后，我悄悄对他说：“阿毛，你没有必要到处显摆。”阿毛听到批评，不好意思地说：“我是一个农民，又没读什么书，总感到处处不如别人。这两年赚了点钱，就觉得非要显摆一下，心里才舒服。”他一句话道破天机：他显摆是因为不自信。

once，He bought a new public show a watch，Cause everybody of the onlookers。afterwards，I quietly said to him：“AMao，You don't have to show off everywhere。”AMao to hear criticism，Said shyly：“I'm a farmer，Don't read any books，Always feel is not as good as those of others。The two years to earn some money，Feel to show off once，Heart just comfortable。”He told a cat out of the bag：He show off because not confident。

　　心理学认为，炫耀的目的，是希望赚取旁人廉价的仰慕和赞美，从而得到自我满足，以为自己高人一头，比他人更强势。因此，有钱的人摆钱脸，有权的摆权脸，长相俊美的红尘男女则直接把自己的靓照贴到网上去。然而，恰恰是这种炫耀，暴露出炫耀者内心的空虚和不自信，只不过是想以显摆的方式给自己增加筹码，以此来达到“不居人后”的目的。然而，阿毛能不能通过展示那身昂贵的行头来增加自身在众人心目中的份量和威望呢？据笔者所知，不但难以如愿，而且越发显得浅薄。

Psychology think，The purpose of showing off，Is to make others cheap admire and praise，Thus get self-gratification，Think you master a head，More strong than others。therefore，Rich people put money face，Has the right to set the right face，Looks beautiful world of mortals men and women is directly put their equal to post online。however，Exactly is this kind of show，Exposed cutup inner emptiness and confidence，Just want to show off to the way give oneself increment chip，So as to achieve“Don't the people”purpose。however，AMao can through the show that body expensive costumes to increase their own in the idea of quantity and prestige it？According to the author know，Not only difficult to get it，And the more seemed shallow。

　　其实，真正有所建树的人，自信的人是沉默的，内敛的，低调的，他好比一株熟透了稻谷，低垂着沉甸甸的果实，从不炫耀。但是，他们即便再怎么低调，识货的明眼人依然知道他们的分量，会自然而然向他投以敬佩的目光。

In fact，Truly ambition people，Confident people is silent，Inside collect of，low-key，He is just like a plant and done the rice，Hung with lots of fruit，Never show off。but，They even if again how low profile，The recognizes it still know their component，Will naturally flashed him a admire eyes。

　　行文至此，想起一个古代小故事：据《史记》记载，齐国的矮个子宰相晏婴外出时，他的车夫坐在大车盖下，鞭打着四匹马，大声吆喝，引起广大市民的围观，他非常得意。这情景正巧被车夫的妻子看见了。车夫回家后，妻子要和他分手。车夫惊问：我没有做错什么啊？妻子说：“晏婴身高不满六尺(战国时的一尺相当于现在的22.5厘米，晏婴实际上不足1.35米)，身为齐国的宰相，名声显赫，可人家神态深沉，表现谦虚。你身高八尺(约合1.8米)，给人家当车夫，竟然这样趾高气扬地炫耀自己，你不觉得丢人吗？”马夫听了，感到羞愧，从此不再张扬，变得谦虚谨慎起来。

Writing so far，Think of an ancient story：According to《historical》records，Qi short prime minister YanYing go out，His driver sitting on the big under the hood,，Flog a four horses，yelled，Cause the general public of the onlookers，He is very proud。This situation happened to be the wife of driver saw。Wagoner after coming home，The wife want to break up with him。Wagoner be surprised to ask：I didn't do anything wrong？The wife say：“YanYing height dissatisfaction six feet(When warring states a rule are equivalent to the 22.5 cm，YanYing actually less than 1.35 meters)，As the prime minister qi，mark，Can somebody else deep expression，Show modesty。Your height eight feet(1.8 meters)，Give somebody else when the driver，Unexpectedly so high and mighty to show off yourself，Don't you think a shame？”Groom to listen to，Feel ashamed，Never make public，Become modest and prudent up。

　　如今，时间过去了几千年，类似晏婴车夫式的人依然大有人在，他们前赴后继，步其后尘，是不是有点悲哀？不过，奉劝那些患有“炫耀癖”的诸君，学一学晏婴的车夫“知错即改”的勇气，从此低调做人，恐怕不会很难吧？(梅承鼎)

now，Time in the past for thousands of years，Similar YanYing wagoner type was still there，Another they，Following its lead，Isn't that a little sad？but，Advise those with“Show bug”16-21，Learn to learn a YanYing driver“Say that change”courage，From now on low key personhood，I'm afraid it won't be difficult it？(MeiChengDing)