一直以来，男人都被定位成性爱中的“积极分子”。殊不知，共浴爱河时，男人也常常感到紧张，唯恐自己表现不佳。以下这些恐惧“谋杀”了激情，让他们无法全身心享受性爱。

Has been,Men are locate in sex"activists".Little imagine,Common bath in love,The man also often feel nervous,For fear of his poor performance.The following these fears"murder"The passion,Let them not enjoying sex.

　　她不满意我的尺寸。近日，《印度时报》一篇文章指出，男人在性事方面最在意生殖器的大小。即使在激情时刻，仍担心由于尺寸不够大，不能满足伴侣期待的乐趣，甚至因此产生自卑情绪。

She is not satisfied with my size.recently,[Times of India]An article points out,The man in the sex care about the size of the genitals.Even in passion moment,Still worried about the size is not big enough,Can't satisfy the pleasure of looking forward to partner,Even so produce inferiority.

　　对策：成年男性阴茎勃起时，长度超过6—7厘米就算正常，并不是越大越好。女性阴道的敏感部位在外端1/3处，所以阴茎长6厘米以上就足够了，过长反而可能让女性感到不适。应更多地了解伴侣的身体，发现唤起她性快感的敏感部位，那才是让她通往性福的大门。

countermeasures:The adult male penis erection,Length more than 6 -- 7 cm if normal,And is not the bigger the better.The feminine vagina's sensitive parts of the outer end a third place,So the penis long 6 cm above is enough,Too long but may make women feel ill.Should know more about your partner's body,Found that arouse her pleasant sensation of sensitive areas,That's what made her way to the door of year.

　　万一这次时间太短。虽然男人百般讨好伴侣，但是每次激情迸发时，仍会担心射精过快，不能让伴侣获得高潮。这是一个非常普遍的担忧，早泄足以打击男人全部的性自信。

One thousand this time is too short.Although men in every possible way please partner,But every time when sudden passion,Still worried about ejaculation too fast,Can't let partners to achieve orgasm.This is a very common concerns,Premature ejaculation man enough to blow all sexual confidence.

　　对策：很多男性误以为“马拉松”才是性能力强的表现。其实只要阴茎充分勃起，并在阴道内持续运动2分钟以上，再配合适当的性技巧，女性一般都能得到满足。有一些简单的行为训练方法，如停动结合方法、挤压法等，也可以有效延长射精时间，减少内心的顾虑。

countermeasures:Many men mistake"marathon"Is sex ability performance.In fact as long as the penis fully erect,And in the vagina continuous movement 2 minutes or more,Coupled with the appropriate sex skills,Women usually can get satisfaction.There are some simple behavior training method,Such as stop moving combination method/Extrusion method, etc,Also can prolong the time of ejaculation,Reduce the worries of the heart.

　　怎么和情色电影不一样？很多男人以情色电影为“教科书”，模仿电影里的一些性行为方式。一旦女性伴侣没有积极回应，或和电影中的反应不同，男人就开始担心自己性能力不足。

How and erotic movies?Many men to pornographic movie"textbook",Imitate the movie some sexual behavior.Once a female partner no positive response,Or in the movie and different reaction,The man began to worry about lack of ability.

　　对策：男人的性心理往往比较脆弱，容易患得患失。其实，性生活中没必要过于在意自己的表现和对方的反应，性爱不仅是肉体的感受，更是精神的交流。不妨问问伴侣的感受，然后投其所好，这样才能在轻松的氛围中享受完美性爱。

countermeasures:Man's psychological tend to be weak,Easy to be swayed lost.In fact,Sex doesn't need too care about their own performance and the other side of the reaction,Love is not only a physical feeling,But also spiritual communication.Ask the feelings of your mate,Then throw the good,Such ability in relaxed atmosphere enjoy perfect love.

　　是不是自慰让我不行？很多人误以为自慰是一种不良行为，随之而来的内疚感甚至相伴终生。一旦他们在性生活中表现欠佳，或出现阳痿、早泄等情况时，往往归咎于自慰。

Is masturbation let I can't?Many people mistakenly think that masturbation is a bad behavior,And of the feeling of guilt or even associated lifetime.Once they are poor performance in sex,Or appear impotence/The situation such as premature ejaculation,Often due to masturbate.

　　对策：多项研究表明，童年或青少年时期的自慰并不会影响日后的生活，由此引发的诸多恐惧完全没有必要。适度自慰并不会对健康造成损害，反而可以释放压力、促进阴茎勃起、减轻前列腺充血。

countermeasures:A number of studies show that,Childhood or youth period of masturbation will not affect the life of the future,Caused by the many fear is entirely unnecessary.Moderate masturbation does not cause damage to health,It can release pressure/Promote penile erection/Reduce the congestion of the prostate.

　　千万别意外怀孕。虽然性生活的一个重要目的是繁殖，但谁都不想在激情过后来一个计划外的“意外惊喜”。不少男性抱怨，安全套在关键时刻经常“掉链子”，意外脱落或突然破裂等，这些都让他们担忧。

Don't accidental pregnancy.Although sex is one of the most important goal of breeding,But who do not want to be in a passion later an unplanned"surprise".Many men complain about,Condoms in the critical moment often"Off chain",Accident off or burst, etc,All of these let them worry.

　　对策：一般来说，使用避孕套避孕的有效率可达98%以上，口服避孕药可达98%—99%，外用避孕药可达94%—97%，这些都是比较安全有效的避孕措施。不要存在侥幸心理，选择适合自己的避孕措施并严格按照要求去做，一般不会意外怀孕，不必过度担心。

countermeasures:Generally speaking,Condom use contraceptive efficiency can reach 98%,The pill can amount to 98% - 99%,For external use contraceptives can amount to 94% - 97%,These are relatively safe and effective contraceptive measures.Don't have luck,Choose the suitable contraceptive measures, and in strict accordance with the requirements to do,Generally not accidental pregnancy,Don't worry too.

　　会不会传染疾病？有些男人在性爱过后担心会感染性传播疾病，有的因为胡思乱想影响了工作和生活，有的甚至过度多疑焦虑，反复去医院检查。

Will not contagious disease?Some men in the sex worry about sexually transmitted diseases,Some because bosh affects the work and life,Some even too suspicious anxiety,Go to a hospital checking again and again.

　　对策：倡导健康的性生活方式，避免不洁性行为。如果出现高危行为，要及时到正规医院检查就诊，不能讳疾忌医耽误病情。(北京中医药大学东直门医院男科主治医师 王彬)

countermeasures:Advocate healthy way of sex,Avoid dirty sex.If a high-risk behavior,To timely to normal hospital check to see a doctor,Can't pathomeiosis delay an illness.(Beijing university of Chinese medicine dongzhimen hospital by attending doctor wang bing)