该帖引起北大学生及微博网友的很大共鸣，不少学生纷纷“吐槽”。有人跟帖说：“父母跟别人拼了20多年的儿女，学习都是最好的，他们觉得赢了。儿女毕业工作后他们才知道，生活上还是拼不过煤老板的儿女。”

By students of pku and defer micro bo users to great resonance，Quite a few students are“Vomit slot”。Someone said the placard：“Parents with others for more than 20 years, children of the spell，Learning is the best，They think won。Children work did they know after graduation，Life or spell but coal boss's children。”

　　其实纠结的并不只是名校学子的家长们，记得我也采访过一位儿子从普通大学毕业但心态类似的父亲，他的儿子找工作时企业开出的多是两三千块的工资，“还不如打工的”，这位父亲无论如何也接受不了这个现实，不断找媒体反映情况。

In fact of tangled not just the school students parents，Remember I also interviewed a son from ordinary university graduation but mentality similar to the father，His son job enterprise on the LiangSanQianKuai salary is more，“Than to work”，The father anyway also can not accept this reality，To continuously seek a media report the situation。

　　望子成龙、望女成凤，这无可厚非。对很多家庭来说，培养孩子上大学不容易，总希望学成后能有不错的收入，最好还有社会地位。但在这种朴素想法之外，很多家长从小把孩子当作一件“商品”进行攀比，比成绩、比学校、比才艺，长大了后还比收入、比地位、比谁娶得好嫁得好。而一旦子女无法满足家长的虚荣心时，他们便会大失所望，认为子女辜负了他们的辛勤付出。

competitive、Looked female ChengFeng，This understandable。For many families，Train children to college is not easy，Always after hoping to learn a good income，The best and social status。But in this simple idea besides，Many parents from the child as a“goods”Compare to，Scores than、Than school、Than talent，After grow up than income、Position than、Compare who marry well to marry。And once the children can't satisfy the vanity of parents，And they will be greatly disappointed，Think children failed to live up to their work hard。

　　由此，很多家长喜欢“控制”孩子，要求子女按照自己的想法去成长，有家长还会将自己的遗憾和未完成的梦想强加给子女。我有个要好的朋友，从小喜欢历史，高考后打算报考历史专业，但家长认为这个专业没有前途，硬是要她选择了“金融学”。我的这位朋友对此很遗憾，大学期间抑郁寡欢。

this，Many parents like“control”children，According to oneself idea to ask their child to grow，Parents also will regret and unfinished dream on children。I have a good friend，Like history from，After the university entrance exam to enter oneself for an examination professional history，But their parents think that this major no future，Just to her choice“finance”。My friend is very sorry about this，During the university gloomy。

　　或许家长们并没有对子女怀恶意，而且多是“以爱之名”。只是家长们不明白，这种“自私的爱”会毁了子女的幸福，也不可能造就真正的“龙与凤”。因为正如一位网友所言，“只有在自由、宽广的环境里，龙凤才能飞翔”。因此，劝家长们，收起虚荣的爱，允许孩子平凡，允许孩子走自己的路。

Perhaps the parents of children and no malice，And many is“In the name of love”。Only parents don't understand，this“Selfish love”Will destroy their children's happiness，Can't make real“Dragon and phoenix”。Because as a net friend said，“Only in a free、In broad environment，Dragon and phoenix can fly”。so，Advise parents，Down the love of vanity，Allow kids to ordinary，Allow kids to go his own way。