今年刚大学毕业的黄丽娜，两个月前才在红旗河沟一家物贸公司找到了一份做内务的工作，但老板天天请客吃饭，她几乎成了专职应酬，每天作陪吃饭、喝酒、打牌、唱歌,常常晚上11~12点才能回家。黄丽娜觉得每天喝酒让身心受伤，不知如何应对这样的局面。

This year the HuangLiNa just graduated from the university,Two months ago the red flag to stream a WuMao company found a do house work,But the boss is on every day to eat,She almost became a full-time dinner party,By every day to eat/drink/CARDS/singing,Often at 11 ~ 12 points to go home.HuangLiNa think everyday drinking let physical and mental injury,Do not know how to deal with such a situation.

诉说： tell:

天天应酬身心受伤 Physical and mental injury with every day

　　前天中午，记者在红旗河沟某快餐店见到了黄丽娜，身高1.68米的她长得漂亮，装扮简单清爽，给人一种眼前一亮的感觉。

At noon the day before yesterday,Reporter in the red flag brook a fast-food restaurant met HuangLiNa,Height 1.68 meters she looks beautiful,Simple and relaxed dress up,Give a person a kind of an impact.

　　黄丽娜自我介绍说，她今年25岁，刚从大学毕业，7月份好不容易在红旗河沟一家物贸公司找到了一份做内务的工作，虽然底薪只有1200元左右，但她很珍惜这个来之不易的工作岗位。

HuangLiNa introduce myself said,She is 25 years old,Just graduated from college,July, very not easy in the red flag brook a WuMao company found a do house work,Although only a base salary of 1200 yuan,But she's very cherish the hard-won jobs.

　　在工作了一段时间后，她发现自己俨然成了老板的私人应酬员，每晚陪老板外出吃饭喝酒不说，还要打牌、唱歌很晚才能回家。第二天还得8多起来，坐半个多小时公交车去上班。

In work a long time,She found herself peremptory become the boss's private dinner party member,Every night with the boss dine out drinking don't say,Will play/Singing very late to go home.The second day still have more than 8 up,By more than half an hour the bus to go to work.

　　上周五，她感冒了，不想参加应酬，可老板还是叫上了她。半夜回到家，一阵阵胃绞痛让她难以入睡。

Last Friday,She caught a cold,Don't want to take part in social,But the boss should call her.Midnight came home,Waves gripes let her sleep.

　　第二天一早，到医院看病一检查，竟是胃溃疡。“因为应酬多，我的胃早就有问题了，这回直接就喝出了病。”黄丽娜无奈地说，过几天老板又有一个饭局要她参加，因此只能让她请两天假养病。“好烦，一想到又要喝酒，就浑身不自在。”

The second day early in the morning,See a doctor to the hospital a check,Is gastric ulcer."Because more than entertainment,My stomach would have a problem,This time direct drink out of the disease."HuangLiNa helplessly said,In a few days the boss and have a dinner party to her to,Therefore can only let her take two days off for illness."Very vexed,The thought of going to drink again,Is a fish out of water."

老板： The boss:

就是看中她能喝酒 Is to take a fancy to her to drink

　　“天天晚上都要应酬，为何老板这么喜欢拉着自己外出应酬呢？”黄丽娜忍不住问了老板一句，老板表示，当初招聘她就是相中她的美貌和酒量，她才得以顺利进入该公司。

"Everyday in the evening to dinner party,Why the boss so like and pull himself out dinner party?"HuangLiNa cannot help but ask the boss a,The boss said,For she is phase at her beauty and capacity for liquor,She was able to get to the company.

　　这时，黄丽娜才想起，当初进入这家公司时老板曾问过她能不能喝酒，因为自己从小生长在喝酒氛围较浓的四川，所以酒量还算不错。

At this time,HuangLiNa remembered that,First entered the company boss had asked she can't drink,Because he grew up in a drink atmosphere is strong sichuan,So the capacity for liquor is not bad.

　　“应该说这是好事吧，因为公关能力得到承认了，但总不能每次都要去应酬吧。”黄丽娜很是惶恐，为了工作又不得不忍受。现在她不知该如何面对这样的局面。

"It should be said that this is a good thing it,Because the public relation ability get admitted,But always can't every time you want to go with it."HuangLiNa is fear,In order to work and have to endure.Now she don't know how to face such a situation.

专家： experts:

勇敢地对老板说NO Bravely to the boss says no

　　从事人力资源服务行业已17年的陈平表示，黄丽娜可以勇敢对老板说“NO”。他认为一家公司光靠应酬来获得业务会显得这个公司很不专业，导致公司发展前景令人堪忧。

In the human resources FuWuHang has 17 years of Chen ping said,HuangLiNa can brave said to his boss"no".He thinks that a company by light entertainment to get business would appear this company is not professional,Result in the company's development prospects worrying.

　　他建议黄丽娜等职场人士在面对应酬时要把握原则，与工作无关的应酬要尽量回避，不能为迎合老板的需求让自己被迫接受，能推则推，实在推脱不掉，在酒桌上也要根据自己的实际情况适可而止。

He suggested that HuangLiNa workplace such as people in the face of dinner party should grasp the principle,Neither has nothing to do with the job to try to avoid,To meet the needs of the boss can't let yourself be forced to accept,Can push, push,Really tergiversation not to drop,On the wine table also according to their actual situation enough is enough.

　　此外，职场人要遵从自己的内心，让自己工作得开心。不能仅仅为了工作岗位，一味点头配合老板的需求，做一些自己不愿意参加的应酬活动。

In addition,Workplace people to follow your own heart,Let oneself work happily.Can't just in order to work,Just nod fit the needs of the boss,Doing what you do not wish to participate in service activities.

职场声音 Workplace voice

应酬适度就好 学会心理调试 It is good to learn with moderate mental debugging

　　在江北红鼎国际写字楼12楼上班的王贤萍曾和黄丽娜有着同样的烦恼。她曾经有3份工作，都是因为不堪应酬而辞职了，这次到这个事务所工作，应聘前就勇敢地申明适当应酬可以，如果繁多，就主动放弃。

In the jiangbei red the tripod with two handles the international office 12th floor work WangXianPing once and HuangLiNa have the same trouble.She once had three job,Because of a dinner party and resigned,By the time the office work,Before applying for courageous statements with appropriate can,If many,Just give up.

　　昨天，记者通过热线QQ群调查了13个职场人士，让他们谈谈对应酬的看法。4人表示为工作天经地义，其余9人表示应酬都是迫不得已。“我很少在办公室正儿八经地跟人谈生意，反而经常在酒桌上、茶餐厅里、酒吧里谈，而且谈成功几率很大。”一家从事外贸出口的私营企业主王洪表示，这种现象在职场里是广泛存在。

yesterday,Reporter through the hotline QQ group survey 13 professional personage,Let them talk about entertainment to view.Four people were said to work for god's truth,The rest of the nine people said all entertainment is forced to do so."I seldom in the office with business people talk business,But often on the wine table/Tea restaurant/Bar about,And a good chance to talk about success."Engaged in foreign trade export private business owners wang hong said,This phenomenon is widespread in the field.

　　“其实应酬的方式有多种多样，我觉得这是一个心理调试的问题。”在和平房地产担任部门经理的杨梵表示，不用把应酬想那么极端，换个角度，如果把应酬当做是一个认识结交朋友的过程，就会让人变得轻松很多。同时，不要把应酬的消极情绪带回家里，这样才能让自己的心态处在一个比较平衡的位置。记者 刘真

"In fact there are various entertainment way,I think this is a psychological debugging problems."In peace as the real estate department manager YangFan said,Don't put the dinner party want to so extreme,Change a point of view,If the dinner party as is a understanding the process of making friends,Can let a person become much easier.At the same time,Don't put the phatic negative emotions back to home,This can let oneself state of mind in a more balanced position.Reporter LiuZhen