本报记者王小波 实习生雷冲/文

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　　失独家庭，一个特殊的群体。事实上，这是一场场意外风险的代价，城市的许多家庭都面临着这样的风险。这些人承受了伤痛，很多人还面临着政策缺失带来的种种重压。我们一直劝他们离开封闭的家，出来加入到正常的生活中，却又没有给他们提供他们需要的特殊帮助。

Lost family alone,A special group.In fact,This is the price of risk accident holds,City of many families are faced with such a risk.These people have suffered pain,A lot of people are still faced with lack of policy bring all sorts of stress.We have been advised them to leave the house of closed,Come out to join to the normal life,The but again failed to provide them with special help they need.

　　“我们去了就去了，惟一放心不下的是孙女”

"We went to the went,Only be upset is granddaughter"

　　空气中没有一丝风，窗外是密集的蝉声鸣奏。盛夏的石家庄某小区，马连喜睁开浮肿的眼睛，看到孙女小洁(化名)在眼前飘然而过，这熟悉的身影让她脑海中FLASH一般弹出另一个人的身影。那是她已经去世6年的儿子。“都过去了，什么东西都不能重来。”她曾无数次强制自己不要去想，但这父女俩的神态如此相似，小女孩的每一个小动作每一句话都像针一样刺痛了她。

No wind in the air,The window is intensive cicada sound MingZou.Summer in some district of shijiazhuang,MaLianXi open swollen eyes,See little granddaughter clean(alias)At present, drifted over,The familiar figure let her mind FLASH general pop-up another man's figure.Is that she has died, the son of six years."All over,What things can't again."She had numerous times forced oneself not to want to,But this both father look so much alike,The little girl's every petty action every word as the same as the needle stung her.

　　长期失眠几近摧毁了马连喜的身体，虚胖的躯体早已压得她不堪重负。在这个小区生活了整整一年，除了采办生活必需品，她几乎不下楼。不知道姓名的邻居冲她友好地点点头，她一低头闪进屋里，“砰”地一声关上了门。之所以刻意回避，是因为她害怕人家问她：“孩子呢？多大了，在哪儿上班？”

Long-term insomnia nearly destroyed MaLianXi body,Puffiness body had oppressed her unbearable heavy burden.In this village life for a whole year,In addition to procurement necessaries of life,She almost don't go downstairs.Don't know the name of the neighbors rushed her friendly nod,Her head a flash into the house,"bang"Sound shut the door.Are deliberately avoided,Because she is afraid of the somebody else asked her:"The child??How old,Where work?"

　　马连喜对孙女总怀愧疚之情，但她无法控制自己的情绪。小洁刚学会走路时，父亲意外溺水身亡，不久母亲外出打工，再没有回来。

MaLianXi granddaughter to total with the feeling of guilty,But she could not control his emotions.Small jie just learn to walk,Father accidentally drowned,Soon in a mother,There is no back.

　　那段经历已经成为她心里永远无法平复的伤痛。事发前，小洁的父亲刚从学校辞职出来，他告诉父母，“我们五口人挤在这么小的房子里，我要出去自己干，换大房子，改善生活！”

That experience has become her heart never remove pain.Before the,Small clean father just quit from the school come out,He told his parents,"We five people crowded in such a small house,I'm going out to do it on his own,The big house,Improve life!"

　　这个励志故事刚刚展开就不幸夭折，小洁骨子里种下了父亲的影子。“我知道她幼小的心里其实压力蛮大。”马连喜说。从小，这个孩子就表现出一种与年龄不相称的大人腔。还在幼儿园时，老师就发现小洁总坐在座位上叹气。去年夏天，从幼儿园毕业的小洁突然对马连喜说：“奶奶，我们搬家吧？”马连喜追问了半天，小洁才吞吞吐吐从牙缝里挤出几个字：“小朋友老是问我，你爸爸是怎么死的？”

This inspiring story just opened died,Small clean skin of his father's shadow."I know in her little heart actually pressure pretty big."MaLianXi said.from,The child will show a kind of and age disproportionate adult cavity.Also in the kindergarten,The teacher found that small jie always sit on the seat sigh.Last summer,From kindergarten graduation little clean suddenly to MaLianXi said:"grandma,We move it?"MaLianXi cross-examine along while,Small clean to tail off through clenched teeth squeeze out a few words:"Children always ask me,Your dad is how dead?"

　　听到这话，马连喜毅然从住了二十多年的地方搬走了。新老住处位于石家庄市两个大调角，除了至亲的人，没有人认识她们。小洁依然小心地保守着那个秘密，她还央求奶奶，让姑姑参加学校组织的家长会。

Hear this,MaLianXi resolutely from live for twenty years of local moved.Old and new residence is located in shijiazhuang city two major Angle,In addition to close relative person,No one know them.Small clean still careful to keep the secret,She pleaded with grandma,Let aunt participates in the school organization's parents.

　　对马连喜来说，最困难的日子已经熬过去了。小洁上幼儿园，每月几百元的费用加上三天两头闹肺炎，常让他们捉襟见肘。儿子去世后，马连喜突然被心脏病击倒，想起这个摇摇欲坠的家，她又硬撑着站起来。马的丈夫接连做了两次大手术，自理费用有3万多元，全是东拼西凑和亲戚们接济。而这个家庭的全部月收入仅2000元。

For MaLianXi to,The most difficult days have survived.Small clean in kindergarten,The cost of hundreds of yuan per month plus three days two head make pneumonia,Often let them under.Son died,MaLianXi was suddenly knocked out heart disease,Think of the tumbledown home,She stood up and carry.The horse for her husband to do two major surgery,Physical charge is 30000 yuan,Is full of scrape together and put relatives.And the family of all monthly income of only 2000 yuan.

　　丈夫住院期间，无助的马连喜给计生委、居委会等打了一圈求助电话，询问像她这样的失独家庭有无特殊政策，得到的答复都是，“目前没有相关政策。”

Her husband during be in hospital,Helpless MaLianXi to state family planning commission/Neighborhood committee and played a ring ask for help a telephone,Ask such as she lost the only family have any special policy,Get answer is,"There is no relevant policies."

　　气馁和懊丧包裹着她，马连喜出生在一个特殊家庭，父亲曾留学日本，她从小便被划为“黑五类”子女，15岁就进了工厂，处于“被教育”地位的她对组织上的安排总是选择了顺从。“我是少数民族，当年本来可以要二胎，工厂里的计生干部不停地上门做工作，说是让出二胎指标光荣，还组织我们戴着大红花参加了全市的表彰大会。当我的家庭遇到意外，组织上却没人出面，哪怕是一点安慰啊！”

Discouraged and depressed package with her,MaLianXi was born in a special family,Father was studying in Japan,She from urine are delimited"guy"children,15 years old he entered into the factory,in"Be education"The status of her organizational arrangement always chose to follow."I am minority,That could have to be two foetuses,A factory or cadre kept the door work,Say make two foetuses index glory,Also organization we wore red hibiscus attended a city commendation congress.When my family has had an accident,But no one to organization,Even if it is a little comfort ah!"

　　身体每况愈下，头上还起了几个囊肿，马连喜一直不敢去医院就诊。“我们老俩去就去了，惟一放心不下的就是这孩子，我们走了她怎么办？”她曾经和一位同病相怜的姐妹商量过此事，那位姐妹咨询的结果是，把孩子送孤儿院。“家里再困难我也不会这么做的，我们已经承受过一次骨肉分离的痛苦了，决不想承受第二次。”马连喜嗓音分贝数直线上升，吓得小洁慌乱地从屋里跑出来。

Body go from bad to worse,Also the head up a few cyst,MaLianXi didn't dare to go to a hospital."We go to the old couple,Only be upset that the child,We walked her to do?"She once and a misery loves company sister discussed this matter,The sisters consultation result is,The children send an orphanage."Home again difficult I wouldn't do it,We have inherit a flesh and blood separation of pain,Never want to inherit the second."MaLianXi voice decibels in a straight line,Frighten small clean confusedly from ran out of house.

　　“我只希望有人能陪我聊聊天，听我诉说”

"I only hope someone can accompany me to chat,Listen to me tell"

　　“让我再看雷雷一眼吧！”丈夫葛路安挣扎着从心脏病的魔爪中苏醒过来，攥着李瑞英的手，迸出这么一句有力的话。李瑞英眼泪一下子就涌了出来，赶紧叫过儿子葛雷到病床前，她深深地害怕这是丈夫的最后一句话，因为那时的丈夫本已被心脏病折磨得虚弱不堪了。

"Let me see LeiLei take a look!"Husband GeLu Ann struggle from the clutches of the heart disease come back to life,Clutched the LiRuiYing hand,Gush so a powerful words.LiRuiYing tears was poured out,Hurriedly call a son Greg to before bed,She deeply afraid this is her husband's last words,For then husband this has been heart disease torture to the weak.

　　不久，丈夫被心脏病夺去生命，那一年是1998年。“没想到他就这么先走了，就像是天一下子塌了！”李瑞英的眼睛在丈夫去世之后肿起来就没有再消下去。她自杀过，幸好被人发现及时救了回来。

soon,Husband is heart disease devitalization,The year is 1998."Didn't expect him to so walked first,Like a day falls!"LiRuiYing eyes swollen after her husband's death is no longer disappear go down.Her suicide,Fortunately, was found timely saved back.

　　儿子雷雷让她找到了活下去的希望，“我不能再丢下雷雷，他那时候才17岁。”

Son LeiLei let her find the hope of live,"I can't leave LeiLei,He at that time only 17."

　　儿子成了李瑞英活着的意义。

Son became LiRuiYing alive significance.

　　父亲去世，给了葛雷很大的打击。“每次从老家给父亲上坟回来之后都要大醉一回。”身体也每况愈下。“他身体本来就不好，和他爸一样有心脏病，还有癫痫……”提到儿子，李瑞英总是哽咽不止，说不出话。

Father's death,To Greg big blow."Every time from their hometown to father back after chenjiayuan's time."The body also is gone from bad to worse."His body was bad,And his father had heart disease,And epilepsy……"Mentioned son,More than LiRuiYing always choking,Say a word.

　　那个时候的李瑞英只能在背后默默支持儿子，鼓励儿子，母子俩相依为命。

At that time only in the LiRuiYing behind silent support son,Encourage son,Mother and child are depended on each other.

　　2008年11月，疾病缠身的儿子去世了。李瑞英再也扛不住，任由天塌下来，把她砸得粉身碎骨。“一点希望都没有了啊！”李瑞英大哭起来，那种绝望的哭声，那种被生活彻底压垮的哭声，声嘶力竭。大家都放心不下她，亲人、老同事、老同学相继来看望照顾她，她老母亲也搬来和她一起住。

In November 2008,The sick son died.LiRuiYing can not carry,Let the sky fell,She hit the sky-high."A little hope all have no ah!"LiRuiYing burst into tears,That kind of desperate cry,That was life completely overriding cries,Clawing at.Everyone be upset her,relatives/Old colleague/Old students have come to visit and look after her,Her old mother also moved to live together with her.

　　她两次哭得晕死在家里，醒来就想，“如果就这么不醒过来就好了，这是我最后的幸福。”她答应大家不再做傻事，大家才慢慢放心一点。

Her two cry faint at home,Wake up and you want to,"If so don't wake up good,This is my last happiness."She promised to you no longer do foolish things,Everybody just rest assured a bit slowly.

　　李瑞英把老母亲送回家后，把和儿子有关的东西都烧了，她答应了大家好好活，但是一看见儿子的东西整个人就会陷入回忆，然后就只剩下掉眼泪……

The LiRuiYing old mother returned,The son and the things are burned,She promised you a good living,But a son see things the whole people is in memory,Then only tears……

　　她平时也不出门，“我一看见和儿子岁数差不多大的，就想上去摸摸，问问，然后就止不住流泪。”

She doesn't go out at ordinary times,"I saw and son about the size of age,Just want to touch up,ask,Then no tears."

　　现在，李瑞英的屋子里空荡荡的，充满了浓浓的药味。她一个人住在里面，只有过年的时候84岁的老母亲会来陪她。“我不怕死，就怕过年过节，就怕自己出个事犯个病，就怕自己想说话却只能说给自己听，那样孤独……”

now,LiRuiYing house empty,Filled with thick taste.She lives alone in the inside,Only the new 84 - year - old mother will come to accompany her."I don't afraid of death,He was afraid the Chinese New Year festival,Is afraid that the oneself a matter to make a disease,Is afraid that the oneself want to talk but can only say to listen to,So lonely……"

　　李瑞英老人在儿子去世后，身体突然就垮了，似乎各种病痛突然找到了突破口。“丈夫去世那年我就患上了心脏病，只是我为了儿子一直撑着，没怎么犯病。现在，稍微有一点刺激，心率就快得不行。”胃病、腰椎间盘突出、退行性关节病也折磨着她的右膝，她现在已不能蹲下了。

In LiRuiYing old man son died,The body suddenly collapsed,Seem to all kinds of sickness suddenly found a breakthrough."Her husband died that year I had a heart attack,I just for a son has been supporting,Didn't get ill.now,A bit of a stimulus,Heart rate is not faster."Tummy bug/Lumbar intervertebral disc herniation/Degenerative joint disease also afflicted her right knee,Now she has not moved down.

　　而针对李瑞英这样的失独家庭，国家计生特别扶助政策补助是每月100块。这样的经济救助对于老人来说只能是杯水车薪。“我给你看点东西。”李瑞英老人神神秘秘地带记者来到隔间，里面就放了一个大衣柜。老人哆哆嗦嗦地打开衣柜门，衣柜里的最上面一层被收拾得干干净净，葛路安和葛雷的遗像静静地倚靠在那里。“没人的时候我就把他们俩放我身边，有人要来我就把他们俩放在这里。”父子俩以这样一种方式团聚在一起，留下了李瑞英老人孤独地天人相隔。

And according to LiRuiYing such loss of single family,National family special assistance policy subsidy is $100 per month.Such economic aid for old people can only be a drop in the ocean."I'll give you something to read."LiRuiYing old man ShenShenBiBi zone reporters came to compartment,It put a big wardrobe.The old man compound shiver talk to open the wardrobe door,The top of the wardrobe a layer was spick and span,GeLu Ann and Greg's portrait quietly trust in there."No person I put both of them put my side,People want to come to I put both of them in here."The father and his son in such a way that gather together,The old man left a LiRuiYing alone from nature.

　　她在外面的时候常常和人诉说自己的经历，希望别人能珍惜自己的生活。她说，她只是太需要有人去关注关心她，能陪她聊聊天，听听她诉说。

She is outside and people often tell their own experience,Hope others can cherish your life.She said,She is just too need someone to pay attention to care about her,Can chat with her,To hear she complained of.

　　在虚拟的QQ空间里无助地抱团

In a virtual QQ space BaoTuan helpless

　　李瑞英和王钧相识是在一个失独家庭QQ群。“热心大姐”，是王钧在这个群里给人的印象。“今天是儿子的忌日，我喝了半斤酒，哭了。”一位失独老人在群里说，王钧赶忙上线安慰。

LiRuiYing and WangJun acquaintance is in a loss of single family QQ group."Enthusiastic elder sister",Is WangJun in this group give the impression."Today is the son's death,I drank half jins of wine,cry."A loss of the old man in the group said,WangJun quickly on-line comfort.

　　其实，那位老人的境况比王钧好得多，她还有丈夫，退休金也比王均可观。王钧孤零零住在石家庄西北一个大杂院一样的小区里，中年和丈夫离异，晚年失去了惟一的宝贝女儿和外孙。

In fact,That old man is better off than WangJun much better,She and her husband,Pension is better than the king are considerable.WangJun solitary lives in shijiazhuang northwest a warren of the same village,Middle-aged and her husband divorced,Old age lost only baby daughters and sons.

　　两天前，正逢女儿的生日，她接到亲家母打来的电话，对方只说了一句注意身体，她眼泪就哗哗流了一地。大学毕业的女儿出落得亭亭玉立，成家后，乖巧聪明的女儿深得婆家欢喜。那些日子，王钧生活在五彩阳光里。

Two days ago,When the daughter's birthday,She received QinGuMu telephone call,Each other only said 1 note body,Her tears that fix flow on the ground.University graduate daughter grown tall and straight,After a family,Clever clever daughter is deep joy husband's family.Those days,WangJun live in colorful sunshine.

　　那种美妙的感受在10年前戛然而止。那是新年之前，那个她最爱的生命，她生活的全部希望在一场突出其来的车祸中香消玉殒。那年，王钧54岁。从绝望中缓过来，王均的10年是在为女儿维权中度过的。

The wonderful feelings in 10 years ago to an abrupt end.It was the New Year before,That her love life,Her whole life hope in a highlight for the car accident sweet away jade so young.That year,WangJun 54 years.From despair to slow,The king is 10 years is in for her daughter spent rights.

　　她拖着瘦弱的身体，不停地往返石家庄涿州两地，10年仅获得了5万元赔偿。今年6月，王钧一怒之下将所有的卷宗材料付之一炬，发誓从此放下此事，让自己好好过完余生，这或许是另一个世界里女儿最企盼的。

She dragged emaciated body,Keep back and forth between zhu state of shijiazhuang,10 years had made only 50000 yuan compensation.In June this year,WangJun in a rage will all of the file material go up in smoke,Swear since then put down the matter,Let yourself live out the rest of my life,Perhaps this is another world the daughter to do.

　　女儿的遗物都被亲戚们收走了，他们怕她触景生情。有些记忆却无法抹掉，独自坐在空荡荡的房子里，往事像连续剧一样，一幕幕浮现在王钧脑海中。空虚孤寂随着年关的迫近而愈发凄凉，“别人过年我过劫。”

Her daughter's relics are take the relatives,They afraid of her ChuJingShengQing.Some memory but can't erase,Sat alone in the empty house,The past like series,Scenes WangJun emerge in mind.Empty lonely with the approach of the end of the year and be more desolate,"People celebrate New Year's eve me of a."

　　王钧所在的小区内，三三两两的人们团坐在一起，棋牌娱乐自得其乐，她却很少下楼，邻居们都不认识这个熟悉的陌生老太，她怕的是人家问起：“孩子和老公在哪里上班？”很少有热心的人能完整地听完她诉说，她担心自己会遭遇祥林嫂式怪异的目光。

In WangJun inside the village,The 3322 people TuanZuo together,Chess entertainment field,She seldom go downstairs,The neighbors all don't know this familiar with the strange woman,She is afraid is somebody else asked:"Children and husband where work?"There are few warm-hearted man can completely finish listen to tell her,She was concerned that she might encounter XiangLinSao type strange eyes.

　　更多的时候，她们在虚拟的QQ空间里抱团取暖，相互倾诉。有时候，她们会在网络上约在一起来一次小范围的聚会，同命相怜的人在一起时光短暂，却都成为他们弥足珍贵的记忆。

More time,They in virtual QQ space BaoTuan heating,Talk each other.sometimes,They will on the network about together to a small range of party,With MingXiang flow in a short time together,But all become their precious memory.

　　王钧现在惟一的后顾之忧是今后如何养老？她曾四处打听养老院，她每月的退休金有1600元，有自己面积不大的一套房子，以她的收入，住不起社会力量兴办的养老机构。如果选择居家养老，生病住院手术连个签字的人都没有，遇到这种情况怎么办？

The only trouble back at home WangJun now is how to pension?She had ask around a nursing home,She have a monthly pension have 1600 yuan,Have their own area not big a house,With her income,Can't afford to stay sectors of society to establish endowment mechanism.If the choice of family endowment,Is ill in hospital operation even a sign people have no,Encounter this kind of situation?

　　她把自己的顾虑写在群里，期望有朝一日国家能把她们这样的失独老人安置在一起养老，得到了大家的赞同。“我现在身体还不错，我可以在养老院照顾你们，这套房子对我来说也没什么用处了，只是希望大家能聚在一起，知冷知热，让我们有尊严地离去。”这是她生命最后一程的愿望，但眼下只是一个愿景。或许眼前有人只是需要一个亲人来为他(她)在手术单上签字，这样的故事不停地在新闻中出现，有人会因此难过好几天。

She put her own worries written in the group,Hope one day countries can make them such loss only old man placed together endowment,Got everyone's approval."I now the body is good,I can take care of you in a nursing home,This house is not much use,Just hope everybody can get together,ZhiLengZhiRe,Let us go with dignity."This is her life last path wishes,But for now, just a vision.Perhaps sight someone just need a family for him(she)Signature on an operation permit,This story kept in the news,Someone will so sad for several days.

　　对失独家庭缺乏刚性的政策

To lost only family lack of rigid policy

　　今年3月，全国的失独父母们起草了一份书面文字，委托全国政协委员张晓梅向大会提交了一份建议。这份建议书说：

In march this year,The loss of single parents have drafted a written text,Entrust the CPPCC national committee members to the congress ZhangXiaoMei presented a suggestion.This proposal said:

　　“我国第一代独生子女的年龄已在30岁上下，他们的父母已进入老龄化。据统计，目前我国独生子女意外死亡的家庭约已上百万。独生子女弱冠之年早逝，几乎等于家庭破碎，父母大多不能再育，在以后的岁月里，只能在痛苦中度过余生。这些家庭老来膝下无子，担心病卧在床时无人照顾，临终之时无人关怀。因此有必要从政策上、法律上扩大救助范围。”

"China's first generation of only child's age has set up a file in the 30 s,Their parents has entered the aging.According to the statistics,At present our country only children of accidental death in the family about has millions.Only children coming of age at 20 years early death,Almost equal to the broken homes,Most parents can't brood,In later years,Only in pain for the rest of my life.These families old to knees no child,Worry BingWo in bed when no one to take care of,Deathbed no one care.Therefore, it is necessary to from policy/Legal aid scope expanding."

　　建议虽然引起了社会广泛关注，但由于这部分家庭在整个社会中仍然是“小众”，他们的权益和境遇在一些地方仍然被漠视。“虽然我们的不幸只是一个个例，这种风险却潜藏在每一个独生子女家庭之中。”一位失独母亲说。

Advice and a widespread social concern is caused,But as a result of this part of the family in the whole society is still"The small",Their rights and situation in some places still is ignored."Although our misfortune is just an example,This kind of risk is hidden in each of the single-child family."A loss of single mother said.

　　北京大学社会学系教授夏学銮告诉记者，由于我国的计划生育政策无前例可循，当初设计这一国策时对相关的风险预计不足，偏重于严格控制人口，而在对独生子女意外伤害家庭的社会扶助方面存在缺陷。其突出表现是，对失独家庭补助的标准不统一，财政支持力度不强，没有相关的法律条文可依据，各地方政府补助的随意性很大，缺乏制度上的保障。

Beijing university professor of the department of social XiaXueLuan told reporters,Because China's family planning policy of no precedent to follow,This policy was designed to related to the risk of expected shortage,Focus on strictly control population,And in the one-child family accident harm the social assistance are defect.Its outstanding performance is,To lost only family subsidized standard is not unified,Financial support is not strong,No relevant laws but basis,The local government subsidies and randomness of great,The lack of protection of the system.

　　由于这部分家庭严格遵守了国策，对他们的风险和不幸，国家应该理所当然地予以政策关照。夏学銮建议，国家应该出台相关的政策，在住房、养老、医疗、乘车等公共服务上给予他们特殊关怀。此外还应加大财政支持力度，在建立救助基金，各种扶助应该有统一刚性的要求。

Because of this part of the family strictly abide by the state policy,To their risk and misfortune,Countries should rightly be policy attention.XiaXueLuan Suggestions,Countries should publish relevant policies,In the housing/endowment/medical/Ride and other public services give them special care.In addition still should increase financial support,In establishing a rescue fund,All kinds of AIDS should be unified rigid requirements.

　　至于众多失独老人提出的统一集中养老要求，夏学銮认为目前还有一定难度。随着中国老龄化的提前到来，未富先老已经带来了严重的养老问题，各地养老院床位紧张，很难为他们另立一套养老体系。但政府在为这部分人提供居家养老服务，或是为孤寡老人进养老院打开绿色通道等方面，尚有较大改进空间。

As for many of the unity of the old man puts forward focus pension requirements,XiaXueLuan think there is certain difficulty.With China's aging arrival in advance,Get old before it gets rich has brought serious pension problems,All beds nervous nursing home,Have a hard time set up other a pension system.But the government in this part of the people to provide home-based care,Or for an elderly person into a nursing home opened the green channel, etc,There is great room for improvement.

　　是什么妨碍了他们走入正常生活

What hinders them into normal life

　　失独家庭的境况牵动着社会各界的心，而各种社会支持系统尚未完全做好应对准备。“我们都会主动帮助失独家庭老人申请低保，申请“三无人员”补贴，申请廉租房。”石家庄长征西街居委会周凤玲主任介绍说，“这样的家庭我们能理解他们的痛苦。”周主任说起了其中一户失独家庭，“我们给他申请了廉租房，但是他身体不好，没有工作，每个月就靠400元低保费生活。实话说，杯水车薪，药费都不够。但是居委会能做的毕竟有限，有什么政策他能享受的我们都会马上帮他申请。”“希望有这样的基金会或者国家出台一些补贴政策，加大对他们的经济补贴。”周主任眉头紧锁，也很无奈，“毕竟居委会是没有经济来源的，有时候只能自己掏钱带点水果去看看他们。

The lost family situation affects the social from all walks of life's heart,And all kinds of social support system has not yet been fully ready."We will be offered to help the old man lost family for residents,application"Neutral personnel"subsidies,Apply for low-cost housing."Shijiazhuang long march west street neighborhood committee ZhouFengLing director said,"Such family we can understand their pain."Week of director of one of the family lost family alone,"We give he applied for low-cost housing,But he is in bad health,No work,Each month by 400 yuan low premium life.To be honest,ocean,Expenses for medicine are not enough.But residents' committees can do co., LTD., after all,What is the policy he can enjoy we would help him to apply for.""Hope to have such a foundation or the country has issued some subsidy policy,To increase their economic subsidies."Weeks director frown,Is also very helpless,"After all, residents' committees are no economic source,Sometimes can only spend their own money to take some fruit to look at them.

　　让这些失独老人们遗憾的是，本地的志愿者服务和北京、上海等地尚有差距。“新闻里一直说有志愿者上门，我孙女也需要有志愿者给她做心理疏导，可我们一次没盼到过。”马连喜说。同她一样，许多这样的特殊家庭至今还没见到志愿服务者的踪迹。“我们能有尊严地走完人生最后一程吗？”这是许多失独父母横亘在心中的疑问。我们一直劝他们离开封闭的家，出来加入到正常的生活中，却又没有给他们提供他们需要的特殊帮助。

Let these lost only old people is a pity,Local volunteer service and Beijing/Shanghai there is gap."The news always say there are volunteers to the door,My granddaughter also needs to have the volunteers give her to do psychological counseling,But we once didn't wish to."MaLianXi said.With her,Many of these special family so far have not seen a trace of volunteer service."We can have dignity gone finally a ride?"This is many lost parents only exists in the heart question.We have been advised them to leave the house of closed,Come out to join to the normal life,The but again failed to provide them with special help they need.

　　这种状况正在逐步改善。在对计划生育特殊家庭关怀上，石家庄市走在了前列。7月2日，该市下发了《石家庄市计划生育特殊家庭关怀扶助办法》，除了将独生子女患重病救助金门槛提升至1.5万外，失独家庭和独生子女父母发生意外的，均可得到相关救助。

This situation is gradually improving.In the family planning special on family care,Shijiazhuang city walking in the forefront.On July 2,,The city issued[Shijiazhuang city family planning special family care assistance measures],In addition to the one-child seriously ill threshold aid ascending to 15000 outside,The lost family and singleton female parents of the accident,All can be obtained from the relevant rescue.

　　石家庄市人口和计划生育委员会相关负责人介绍说，《办法》首批需要筹措资金1300万元，采取市、区(县)二级财政分担的办法，目前市级财政资金已经到位。石家庄市将逐步建立起维护家庭尊严、增加经济补贴、开展亲情关怀、提供医疗保障、实施应急帮扶“五位一体”的计划生育特殊家庭关怀扶助服务保障体系。这种扶助体系今后会逐步完善，它不是临时的，将是一种长效机制。

Shijiazhuang city population and family planning commission relevant controller introduces said,[way]The first need to raise capital of 13 million yuan,Take city/area(county)Secondary financial sharing method,At present the municipal financial capital already in place.Shijiazhuang city will gradually establish maintain the dignity of the family/Increase economic subsidies/Carry out family care/Provide medical security/Implement emergency aid"Five one"Family planning special family care AIDS service security system.This support system will be improved step by step,It is not temporary,Will is a kind of long-term mechanism.