生活中，常有一些人在上班时侃侃而谈，回到家却疲惫懒言；聚会应酬时笑容满面，面对亲友时却麻木冷淡。这些上下班时间判若两人的人群，似乎患上“下班沉默症”，对正常的情感交流避之不及，甚至拒绝亲友的抚慰，进入了交际怪圈。

life，Always have some people at work in speaking，Return to a house but tired lazy to talk；Party dinner party was all smiles，Friends and relatives but numb with cold。The working hours of different people，Seems to have“Silence work disease”，To normal emotional exchange away from the sufferer，Even refused to friends and comfort，Enter the communicative circles。

　　近日，中国青年报社会调查中心通过民意中国网和中国雅虎，对2750人进行的一项调查显示，83.1%的受访者坦言自己不同程度上有“下班沉默症”。其中，34.7%的人认为自己有“下班沉默症”，48.4%的人认为自己“有一些”。受访者中，80后占50.1%，70后占30.9%；45.5%的人居住在大城市，28.9%的人住在中等城市。

recently，China youth daily social survey center through the public opinion and Chinese yahoo also，Of 2750 people conducted a survey，83.1% of respondents said their own different extent“Silence work disease”。Among them，34.7% of the people think they have“Silence work disease”，48.4% of the people think“There are some”。respondents，After the 80 accounted for 50.1%，After the 70 accounted for 30.9%；45.5% of the people live in big cities，28.9% of the people live in medium city。

　　75.4%受访者直言身边存在患有“下班沉默症”的人 75.4% of respondents to exist around with“Silence work disease”people

　　张叶是一名销售员，面对顾客时她总是“反应敏捷”，和同事聊天也总能“妙语连珠”。但一下班，她就感觉自己像“死机”了一样，不想多说一句话。“乘公交回家时，我习惯面对窗户，尽量避免和别人有眼神交流。”张叶说，下班后可以面无表情，在她看来是件很幸福的事。

A leaf is a salesman，She is always to the customers“Quick reaction”，And his colleagues chat always“wisecracking”。But a work，She felt like“crash”The same，Don't want to say a word。“Take the bus home，I'm used to face the window，Try to avoid eye contact with others。”Zhang leaves said，After work can noodles have no facial expression，In her eyes is a very happy。

　　平面设计师于杰说，自己下班后很少和家人坐下来聊天，即使聊，大部分时间也是对方在说话，他只用一两个字回应。“同事都说我工作时很有激情，特别活泼。但我感觉自己最喜欢做的，是一个人安静地玩电脑游戏。”

Graphic designer YuJie said，Their little family after work and sat down to talk，Even talk，Most of the time is the other party in the talk，He takes only one or two words response。“Colleagues say when I work very passionate，Particularly lively。But I felt that I like to do best，Is a person quiet to play computer games。”

　　调查中，75.4%的受访者直言，身边存在患有“下班沉默症”的人，其中41.2%的人认为这样的人“非常多”或“比较多”。

survey，75.4% of those surveyed the truth，Side with existing“Silence work disease”people，41.2% of the people think that such people“Very much”or“more”。

　　北京师范大学心理学系副教授王芳告诉记者，据她了解，十几年前，容易“下班沉默”的人多从事“助人工作”，比如，老师、医生、警察。但现在，从事技术性工作，如IT行业的人，也容易有类似表现，其严重程度与从事“助人工作”的人不相上下。“下班沉默症”已经跨越职业界限而存在了。

Beijing normal university psychology department associate professor wang fang told reporters，According to her understand，Ten years ago，easy“Silence from work”People engaged in more than“Help others work”，For example，The teacher、The doctor、The police。But now，Engaged in technical work，If the IT industry，Also easy to have a similar performance，Their extent and engaged in“Help others work”People are。“Silence work disease”Professional boundaries and has already crossed over there。

　　为什么一些人会“下班沉默” Why do some people will“Silence from work”

　　为什么一些人会“下班沉默”？调查中，59.6%的人认为原因是工作压力让人身心疲惫，难以兴奋；52.7%的人认为长时间疲劳，使一些人形成了排斥情感交流的惯性；40.5%的人认为人们总是习惯性地对陌生人客气，忽略亲友感受；37.0%的人认为工作和交通环境太嘈杂，导致人们迫切寻求安静空间。

Why do some people will“Silence from work”？survey，59.6% of the people think that the reason is working pressure to exhaustion of body and mind，Difficult to excited；52.7% of the people think that long time fatigue，Make some people formed the rejection of the emotional communication inertia；40.5% of the people think that people always habitually kind of strangers，Ignore relatives and friends feel；37.0% of the people think that the work and the traffic environment is too noisy，People desperately seeking to quiet space。

　　张叶感觉，自己上班时跟顾客说的话基本形成一个套路，经常对自己到底说了什么完全没有意识。跟同事相处时表现得幽默活泼，也只是为了处理好职场人际关系。而下班后之所以沉默，主要还是因为工作太累了。

Zhang leaves feel，His work with customers when said basic form a routines，Often what to what you said no consciousness。With colleagues behave humor and lively，Also just to deal with workplace relationships。And after work are silent，Largely because of the job is too tired。

　　于杰告诉记者，家庭本该是一个温暖的港湾，但由于工作中已经消耗完自己的激情和精力，下班后与家人交流，如今变得更像是一种负担。“我感觉说话比玩游戏累得多。”

YuJie told reporters，The family should have is a warm harbor，But because the work has depleted his passion and energy，After work and family communication，Now became more like a burden。“I feel talk much more tired than playing games。”

　　“上班时为达到工作要求，维持良好的人际关系，人们往往需要付出更多精力去跟人交流，这样上一天班会觉得很累，回到家就想安静地休息。”王芳说，很多人在工作压力大的时候，都有这种回家后“累得说不动话了”的感觉，于是就表现出少言寡语或冷淡麻木的状态，“但如果这成为一些人习惯性的休息方式，他们将来即使有精力进行交流，也不会这样做了。”

“To work for reaching the job requirements，Maintain good human relations，People often need to pay more attention to communication with people，So one day in the class meeting feel very tired，Return to a house to quiet and rest。”Wang fang said，A lot of people in work pressure，There is this kind of come home“Was too tired to say move words”feeling，So he showed ShaoYanGuaYu or cold and numb state，“But if that becomes some habitual way of relaxing，They will even with energy for communication，Also not do so。”

　　中南大学社会学系副教授董海军认为，在工作、应酬和家庭中，人们扮演的角色不同。在角色转换时，人们往往会忽略家庭角色对人的期望，按照自己的需求选择休息方式，没有很好地考虑家人的感受。此外，每个人精力都有限，工作繁重或急切希望有所成就的人，会把精力更多地放在工作上，而没有充足精力去关注家庭生活。对安静环境的需要可能导致他们对亲友表现出沉默、冷漠的状态。

Central south university associate professor, department of social DongHaiJun think，In the work、Dinner party and family，The role of different people。In the role transformation，People tend to overlook the role of the family of expectations，According to the needs of their choice means of relaxation，Not very good to consider the family feel。In addition，Everyone energy Co., LTD，To work hard or anxious to have success，Will concentrate more on the work，Without enough energy to focus on the family life。The need to quiet environment can lead to relatives and friends show silent、Indifferent state。

　　59.6%的人认为“下班沉默”会让人缺乏情感交流并引发心理疾病 59.6% of the people think“Silence from work”Can let a person lack of emotion exchange and cause mental illness

　　“我大概有半年没和朋友聚会过了。有些很要好的朋友，即使在同一个城市，也很久没联系，偶尔碰到还感觉十分尴尬。”张叶说，她感觉自己变得越来越“宅”，即使是假期也懒得出门。

“I have half an year probably didn't and friends。Some very good friends，Even in the same city，And for a long time no connect，Sometimes I feel very awkward encounter。”Zhang leaves said，She feels he becomes more and more“curtilage”，Even if is holiday also lazy to go out。

　　调查显示，63.4%的人担心“下班沉默”会让人无心关注生活细节，对生活失去热情；59.6%的人认为“下班沉默”会让人缺乏情感交流，引发更严重的心理疾病；58.5%的人认为“下班沉默”会让亲友间产生隔阂和矛盾；58.3%的人认为“下班沉默”会让真正关心自己的人受到伤害。

survey，63.4% of the people worry“Silence from work”Can let a person unintentionally attention life details，Lost enthusiasm for life；59.6% of the people think“Silence from work”Can let a person lack of emotional communication，Cause more serious mental illness；58.5% of the people think“Silence from work”Will let relatives and friends have estrangement and contradictions between；58.3% of the people think“Silence from work”Will make real the people who care about you get hurt。

　　王芳告诉记者，虽然有些人下班后通过沉默的方式补充自己的情感资源，但这种自我保护可能会起到相反的效果。长期“下班沉默”可能形成逃避情感交流的惯性，破坏必要的社会关系网络，进而导致抑郁症等更严重的心理问题，甚至引发身体疾病。

Wang fang told reporters，Although some people the way after work through the silent added his own emotional resources，But this kind of self protection may have the opposite effect。long-term“Silence from work”May form escape the moment of inertia of the emotional communication，Destroy the necessary social network，And then lead to depression and much more serious psychological problems，Even trigger the body to disease。

　　如何改善“下班沉默”影响正常社会交际的状况？60.7%的受访者建议容易“下班沉默”的人努力关注生活细节，寻找生活乐趣；53.3%的人建议他们多与亲友沟通，有助于降压；44.7%的人建议他们主动跳出交际怪圈，重视情感交流；另有44.8%的人建议用人单位进行人性化管理，多让员工和家人在一起；44.2%的人建议亲友给重压下的人更多理解和关怀。

How to improve“Silence from work”Affect the normal social communication of the situation？60.7% of respondents suggestion easy“Silence from work”The attention to detail life，Looking for fun；53.3% of the people suggest they many and relatives and friends communication，Help to buck；44.7% of the people suggest they jump out active communication cycle，Pay more attention to affective communication；Another 44.8% of people suggested that the employer humanized management，More let employees with my family；44.2% of the people suggest to relatives and friends under pressure people more understanding and care。

　　“对工作压力的有效管理能减轻情绪负担。”王芳说，人们首先需要明白自己的压力来源是什么，是工作量太大、职业不合适，还是人际关系太复杂。然后，人们应主动改变不良的生活方式，选择对自己真正有效的解压方法，而不要总是通过独处或喝闷酒等方式排解压力，“其实，与家人和朋友的交流，恰恰是补充情感资源最有效的方法。”

“The effective management of the pressure of work can reduce the emotional burden。”Wang fang said，People need to understand that their first source of stress??? What??，The workload is too big、Occupation not suitable，Or interpersonal relationship is too complicated。And then，People should take the initiative to change bad way of life，Choose to really effective decompression method，And don't always be alone or shot after shot through means such as pressure generated，“In fact，The communication with family and friends，Just is added emotion resources is the most effective way。”

　　王芳建议，对于工作劳累而“下班沉默”的人，亲友应在适当的时间适当介入，不要在其烦躁或疲劳时强制交流。面对有类似症状的人，亲友要更重视日常的关怀，学会倾听，认真体会对方感受。如此一来，“下班沉默症患者”会更愿意向亲友敞开心扉。

Wang fang Suggestions，For hard work and“Silence from work”people，Friends and relatives in the appropriate time should be appropriate intervention，Don't be agitated or tired in the compulsory exchange。Confronted with similar symptoms，Friends and relatives to pay more attention to the daily care，Learn to listen to，Serious experience feelings each other。so，“Silence from work in patients”Will be more willing to open up to relatives and friends。

　　董海军认为，作为单位员工，即使工作繁忙，也应给予工作和生活同样的重视。用人单位应提高对人性化管理的重视，给员工更多的休息放松时间，或者向西方很多国家那样，组织一些让员工及其亲友共同参与的活动或聚会，促进情感交流。本报记者 周易

DongHaiJun think，As a unit staff，Even if the job is busy，Should also give the job and life the same regard。Unit of choose and employ persons should improve the humanized management attention，To give their employees more time to relax，Or to the west that many countries，Some let employees and its relatives and friends organization involved in activities or party，Promote emotion exchange。Our correspondent zhou