春节将至，当大家都在收拾心情筹备年货、准备过年时，也有不少人对过年产生了忧虑、恐慌的情绪。大龄剩男剩女怕回家被“催婚”；职场新人难逃攀比心理；学生族怕被问及成绩、实习情况；异地结婚的独生子女更是对过年回哪家头疼不已。专家提醒，适度的压力对自己有好处，不妨正视现状，调整态度，用轻松愉快的心情去面对。

The Spring Festival will come,When you are in the mood for up their doors/Ready to New Year,There are many people on New Year's day produces the worry/Panic mood.Older women with male left home was afraid"Urge marriage";New workplace up bandwagon psychological;Students race afraid to be asked about results/Practice situation;Different marriage only children but also for the Chinese New Year back to which a headache.The expert reminds,Moderate pressure be good to yourself,Might as well face present situation,Attitude adjustment,With relaxed and happy mood to face.

　　职场新人出游避“攀比” New workplace from travel"bandwagon"

　　刚刚走进职场的年轻人，不仅要经历从“接红包”到“给红包”的转变，而且还有不少人会遭遇长辈的“善意盘问”。

Just walked into the workplace of young people,Not only from experience"Pick a red envelope"to"Give red packets"change,And there are a lot of people will encounter the elders"Bona fide questioned".

　　“过年要给压岁钱，要请工作中照顾自己的领导吃饭，还要孝敬长辈，买礼物送人还人情债，这样一来整年的收入几乎化为泡影了。”这样的抱怨在网上并不少见，一些职场新人总是担心自己能力不够，财力不够，在生活交际方面也不能游刃有余。甚至有一些同时跨入职场的同学，为了躲开过年“大出血”而相约出游，自己逍遥去了。

"New Year's day to give lucky money,Please take care of her leadership in the work of eating,Also presents to elders,Buy gift also debt of gratitude,So the income the almost come to nothing."The complaint on the Internet is not rare,Some new workplace always worry about your ability is not enough,Money is not enough,In the life communication can do a job with skill and ease.Even some of the students at the same time into the workplace,In order to dodge the Chinese New Year"hemorrhage"Travel and meet,His fun went to.

　　专家支招：心理咨询师钟华提醒，无论是长辈还是年轻人都不要把红包的多少看作是否成功的标志。从心安的角度来看，把红包给到家人和小辈就已经证明了自己的能力和心意。千万不要“打肿脸充胖子”，做自己能力范围之内的事，不要太注重攀比。别人的看法也不要太放在心上，调整心态，看清现实，有多大的能力就办多大的事。

Experts move:Psychological consultant remind apart,Whether the elder or young people don't how many red envelopes as the sign of success.From the point of view of mind,The red packets to home and junior will have proved their ability and intention.Don't"Puff oneself up",Do your ability range of things,Don't pay attention to "keep up with the joneses".The view of others don't too much to heart,Adjust state of mind,See reality,How big is the ability to do much things.

　　另外，不要把年关看作是事业的汇报阶段，过年是亲人团聚，子女尽孝，其乐融融的节日。过度夸大事业的重要性，眼里只有追求成功，容易导致心理失衡。在父母眼中子女的开心、健康会是最大的红包。

In addition,Don't put the end of the year as a business report stage,New Year's day is a family reunion,Hoping their children,Happy holiday.Overstating the importance of career,Eyes only the pursuit of success,Easy to cause psychological unbalance.The happy children in his parents' eyes/Health is one of the biggest red packets.

　　走亲戚学生最怕问成绩 Relatives students most afraid to ask result

　　过年对大多数学生是件高兴的事，既可以放假，又可以拿压岁钱。但对另一部分学生族来说，是个“难过”的事。亲戚围坐在一起，免不了要把自己孩子拿出来比较一番，问成绩、问排名，这可苦了成绩中等的孩子。因此有些孩子宁愿放弃诱人的红包，也不愿跟着父母去走亲访友。

New Year's day for most students is a happy thing,Can holiday,And can get lucky money.But for the other part of the students for the family,Is a"sad"things.Relatives is surrounded sit together,Avoid to take their children out of a comparison,Q result/Ask ranking,This can be bitter result medium child.So some children would rather give up inviting red envelopes,Also don't want to follow their parents to visits.

　　专家支招：著名心理专家、华师大心理工作室资深咨询师陈默认为，学生此时的心理压力非常大，长辈、亲戚这时不该过分关注孩子的成绩，更不要拿他们作为比较。家长应该学会保护孩子的心理感受，别让亲友给孩子施加压力。在饭桌上主动提及一些轻松的话题，也可缓解孩子紧张的情绪，让他们真正放松一下心情。

Experts move:Famous psychological experts/HuaShiDa psychological studio senior consultants ChenMo think,Students the psychological pressure is very big,elder/Relatives at this time should not pay much attention to children's performance,More do not take them as a comparison.Parents should learn to protect the child's psychological feeling,Don't let relatives and friends to put pressure on children.At the dinner table active mention some light topic,Also can alleviate children nervous,Let them really relax.

　　其次，学生面对亲属的“询问”可以一笑带过，或者转移话题，或者简单说“还行”、“不错”之类，不去接别人的话茬。

secondly,Students in the face of the family"ask"A smile can be brought,Or change the subject,Or simply said"ok"/"good",,Not to pick up other people's us.

　　过年回哪家？愁坏了小夫妻 Back to Chinese New Year which?Sorrow is broken small husband and wife

　　小夫妻在外地结婚，过年时间只够回一家拜年，但是两人谁也不愿自己的父母孤单单地过年。商量不成，就升级为吵架，甚至亮起了婚姻的红灯。

The young couple get married in the field,New Year time is just enough to a happy New Year,But two people who don't like her parents alone New Year's day.Consult a,Just upgraded to quarrel,Even light up the marriage red light.

　　独身子女过年回婆家还是娘家的困扰是个“有中国特色”的问题。中国人过年讲究个团圆，是入乡随俗在男方家里团圆，还是到女方家拜年？小夫妻究竟谁该退一步？这个问题既要考虑两地的文化差异，父母的感受，也要顾及到夫妻双方的情感。

Single children back to the husband's family or home New Year with a"Has the Chinese characteristic"problem.During the Chinese lunar New Year pay attention to a reunion,Do in Rome as Rome does is in the man reunion in the home,Or the woman's house to pay New Year call?The young couple who this step back?This problem should not only consider the cultural differences between the two,Parents feel,Also want to take into consideration to both sides of husband and wife feelings.

　　专家支招：过年回哪家的问题对小夫妻的婚姻也是一种考验，两个人心平气和地协调、商量、妥协才是解决问题的关键。

Experts move:New Year's day back to a question to the young couple's marriage is also a kind of test,Two people calmly coordination/consult/Compromise is the key of resolving the problem.

　　此外，心理咨询师钟华表示，探望父母也不一定要强求在过年，国庆中秋假期完全可以展现子女的孝心。平日里多些问候，多些牵挂，即使过年有一时缺席，想必父母也能理解子女的难处。处理这个问题最主要的是不要影响到双方家庭的感情，提前做好沟通，再加上适当的让步会让关系更加牢靠。

In addition,Psychological consultant said apart,Visiting parents also don't have to demand in the New Year's day,National Day Mid-Autumn festival holiday can show their children's filial piety.Daily more greetings,More care,Even if a New Year's day have absent,Parents must also can understand their children's difficulties.Deal with the problem of the main is not to affect the feelings of the family,Ahead communication,Plus appropriate concessions will make the relationship more firm.

　　过年期间老人心理落差大 During the Chinese New Year old man psychological gap big

　　不少老人有这种感觉：过年了，子女集中在年末回家大展孝心。可是初七一过，呼啦啦孩子们又一下子散了。家里、心里无比冷清。

Many old people feel this way:The New Year,Children focused on the end of the year to go home show filial piety.But the seventh lunar month,Shout at the children and scattered.home/Heart very cold and cheerless.

　　平时得到的关爱不够，过年又被过度关爱，难免造成老人的心理落差。老人一方面期待过年的热闹，另一方面又害怕人走茶凉的冷清。想到节后子女上班离开，生活又会恢复简单平静，难免就会出现一些焦虑的情绪。

Usually get love is not enough,New Year's day was over love,Hard to avoid cause the old man's psychological gap.The old man, on the one hand, looking forward to the new lively,On the other hand, afraid of people walk tea cool cold and cheerless.Think of work after their children leave,Life is simple and restore calm,Hard to avoid can appear some anxiety emotions.

　　专家支招：心理专家表示，亲子关系从小建立，同时要在成长过程中不断改变和调整。比如说，孩子上大学了以后要往外冲，要有自己的天地和圈子，这样才是真正的长大。父母从孩子的角度来考虑，此时应该学会放手让他们去建立自己的社会关系。其实，子女能够生活得好，对老人也是一种孝敬。

Experts move:Psychological experts say,Parenthood set up since childhood,At the same time in the process of growing up the change and adjustment.For instance,The children go to university later will go to the impact,Have their own heaven and earth and circle,This is the real grow up.The parents from the children's point of view to consider,At this time should learn to let them to set up their own social relations.In fact,Children will be able to live well,The old man is also a kind of filial piety.

　　对老人来说，处理亲子关系的心态要慢慢调整，孩子不可能每天陪在身边。老人不妨在平日里多安排一些学习、娱乐活动，从而充实老年生活。身为子女也要多抽空陪伴老人，不只在过年时大展孝心，更要注重平日的孝顺和关爱。（管子薇）

For old people,Processing parenthood state of mind to learn to adjust,The child could not every day accompany in the side.The old man might as well in the daily schedule some learning/Entertainment activities,So as to enrich the old life.As a child will take time to accompany the old man,Not only the New Year show filial piety,Should notice more ferial filial piety and love.(Pipe eu)