北大毕业生匿名发帖引热议 显露儿女既厌恶父母为他们设计的人生又担心辜负父母矛盾心情

Peking University graduate from anonymous Posting hot debate children dislike for both parents revealed they design in life and live up to what his parents worry about contradictions in the mood

　　本报北京讯 （记者谢绮珊）“爸爸，对不起，我北大毕业，但我没能挣大钱、当大官。”又到一年毕业季，近日，北京大学未名BBS的匿名板块上发出一个帖子，题为“你们的父母也这么想吗”。帖子作者在帖子中写道：“本人，今年小硕毕业，找了份起薪8000多元/月、年底会有些奖金的工作。未来会有些许上升空间。算是比上不足比下有余，本来对物质没有太多期望。但是我爸爸早就在亲戚面前夸下海口，大约是我每年赚上百万毫无压力之类……知道我的offer状况之后，更是对我恶语相加，认为我给他丢了脸……打了好多电话骚扰我……他还说北大的学生应该去当市长、省长……”

Our newspaper Beijing （Reporter XieQiShan）“dad，I'm sorry，I graduated from Peking University，But I didn't earn a lot of money、When big officer。”And to a year of graduation season，recently，Beijing university anonymous anonymous plate in a BBS a post，titled“Your parents think so”。Post the author wrote in posts：“I，Small this year following graduation，Found a starting salary RMB 8000 / month、Some of the bonuses at the end of the year will work。There will be some room to rise。Be BiShangBuZu ratio descend enough to spare，Was not too much for material expectations。But my father would have in before relatives bombast，I earn millions every year is about any pressure and the like……Know that I offer after the situation，But for I sparring，Think I give he has lost his face……Playing a lot of telephone harassment I……He also said of the university's students should to be mayor、governor……”

　　这个帖子引发北大学生和广大网友的热议。很多人表示“原来北大人也压力山大啊”！他们在发言中流露出既厌恶父母为他们设计人生，又担心辜负父母的矛盾心情。

This post cause students of pku and hot debate of Internet users。Many people said“The original also pressure: Peking University of shandong university”！They speak in midstream shows both of their parents' disgust design life，And worry about the contradiction of the live up to what his parents mood。

　　有网友跟帖说：“父母跟别人拼了20多年的儿女，学习都是最好的，他们觉得赢了。儿女毕业工作后他们才知道，生活上还是拼不过煤老板的儿女。现在他们觉得可以在儿女的婚姻上拼一把，就千方百计阻挠儿女的正常感情，想让找个有钱的……”

Netizens gentie said：“Parents with others for more than 20 years, children of the spell，Learning is the best，They think won。Children work did they know after graduation，Life or spell but coal boss's children。Now they think can in children's marriage spell a，Will leave no stone unturned obstruct the children normal feelings，Want to find a rich……”

　　昨天，教育学者熊丙奇在接受本报记者采访时表示：“其实不仅仅是北大、清华，其他学校的毕业生也有如此遭遇。名校情结顺带提高了家长对子女就业的期望，当现实不尽如人意的时候，就会产生一种落差。如果大家认为上名校的目的就是升官发财，会导致对自身定位的错误，对教育的期望也会发生错误。”

yesterday，Education XiongBingJi scholars in accepting our newspaper reporter to interview said：“In fact is not only Peking University、tsinghua，Other school graduates also have such encounters。School also improve the parents to the complex of the employment of children expectations，When reality not satisfactory，It would produce a gap。If you thought that on the purpose of the school is promoted to become rich，The positioning itself can lead to mistakes，Education to the expectations of the error also。”

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　　匿名网友：我爸觉得我北大博士毕业，一个月不拿个1万元以上就是白念书了。

Anonymous users：My dad thought I graduated from Peking University, dr，A month don't get a 10000 yuan of above is white study。

　　匿名网友：我今年和我男友结婚。我们都是研究生，我男朋友不想花家里的钱结婚，自己就那么几万元。但是家里人却因为我们在北大，觉得我们钱多得不得了似的。他们也不想想，我们还是研究生，我们一个月不花钱也没那么多钱。

Anonymous users：My boyfriend and I get married this year。We are all graduate students，My boyfriend don't want to spend the money home to get married，His so tens of thousands of yuan。But his family but because we in the north，Think we have the money to impending like。They also don't want to think，We still graduate students，A month we don't spend money also don't have as much money。