教育专家建议，暑期里与孩子接触更多，家长应加强家庭的吸引力防止“出走”

Education experts suggest，In the summer and child contact more，Parents should be strengthened to prevent the attraction of the family“flee”

　　女孩晓雪和玲玲离家出走，她们的父母找遍了成都所有网吧，仍一无所获；与此同时，初三毕业生小黄也离家出走，他的父母和同学全城搜寻，仍无他的消息……

The girl xiao-shueh and lingling away from home，Their parents searched the chengdu all Internet cafe，Still nothing；At the same time，3 graduates yellow also away from home，His parents and students search for the city，Still no news of him……

　　暑假、青春期少年、和父母争吵赌气、离家出走这样的故事为何在暑假里频频发生？

Summer vacation、adolescents、And parents quarrel in anger、So why the story to run away from home in summer holidays occurred frequently？

　　

她们，职高学生，十五六岁 they，Vocational students，15-and 16-year-olds to

　　

女儿QQ还亮着 Daughter QQ is still on

　　

父母在网上到处找线索 Parents everywhere for clues on the Internet

　　15岁的晓雪和16岁的玲玲，父母口中的乖娃娃，四天前结伴离家出走了。与她们一起消失的，还有18岁的女孩轩轩一个在两家借宿一个半月的女孩。

The age of 15, xiao-shueh and 16 at lingling，The lovely doll parents mouth，In four days ago to run away from home。And together, they disappear，And 18 year old girl porch porch a night in two and a half months girl。

　　汤晓雪15岁，甘俊玲16岁，她们都住在保和乡东升二组，两人在同一所职业高中上学，是好朋友。一个半月前，汤晓雪带回来一个女孩，告诉父母她要借住3天。汤先生说：“身份证上显示她叫李雨轩，今年18岁。”

ShangXiaoXue 15 years old，GanJunLing 16 years old，They all live in insurance and township dongsheng two groups，Two people in the same vocational high school to go to school，Are good friends。A month and a half ago，ShangXiaoXue come back with a girl，Tell parents to lend her three days。Said Mr Soup：“The id card that she called LiYuXuan，18 this year。”

　　汤先生说，雨轩告诉他们，她从理发店辞职了，需要一份工作。汤先生向她推荐了几份工作，她却推辞不去，这引起汤先生的怀疑，“我说了她几句，也劝女儿和她保持距离。”7月初，雨轩离开了汤家，去了甘俊玲家，一住就是大半个月。

Said Mr Soup，YuXuan tell them，She resigned from the barber's，Need a job。Mr. Soup to her recommended a few job，She was ashamed，This causes the suspect Mr Soup，“I said a few words of her，Also advised daughter and her distance。”In early July，YuXuan left the soup home，Go to the GanJunLing home，To live is a half a month。

　　7月26日晚，不愿女儿玲玲暑假总和雨轩待在一起，玲玲妈妈徐女士给内江老家的亲戚打了个电话，希望第二天就能让玲玲回老家。“可能是我打电话让她听到了，打完我去上了个厕所，不出10分钟，两人就都不见了。”与她们一起离家出走的，还有晓雪。

July 26, late，Don't let daughter lingling stay YuXuan sum summer vacation，Lingling mother ms xu to home of minjiang relatives a call，Hope the next day can make lingling trip home。“May is I call let her hear......，After I go to a toilet，Not out ten minutes，Two people were missing。”And together, they run away from home，And xiao-shueh。

　　“现在想起来，她(雨轩)就是来路不明。”昨日下午1时许，在保和派出所门口，晓雪的父亲汤先生哭肿了双眼。徐女士给女儿玲玲打电话，“第一遍正在通话中，再打就关机了。”7月27日，汤先生加玲玲的QQ号，请求添加好友。不一会儿，玲玲就加了他，但QQ头像一直处于隐身状态。

“Now like to，she(YuXuan)Is collected。”Yesterday afternoon at about 1，In the police station and the door，Xiao-shueh's father soup swollen eyes Mr Cry。Ms xu to daughter call lingling，“The first time is on the phone，Again dozen shut off。”July 27,，Mr. Soup with lingling QQ number，Request add buddy。Not and in a short while，Lingling will add him，But QQ head has been in stealth state。

　　“你们在哪里？你们好吗？快回家吧……”汤先生不断给玲玲留言，却没有得到任何回复。他点开玲玲的QQ空间，找到常给她留言的网友“下页碎碎念”，请求他劝劝孩子们。“下页碎碎念”给了汤先生一个手机号，打过去后，对方是一个男生，骂了他一顿后挂断了电话。“我猜八成这个人和她们三个在一起。”

“Where are you？How do you do?？Let's go home……”Mr. Soup to lingling constantly message，But didn't get any reply。He opens at the ling ling QQ space，Find the message to her often users“Page 2 read broken broken”，To ask him to advise the children。“Page 2 read broken broken”To Mr. The soup a mobile phone number，Play after the past，The other is a boy，Gave him a piece of my mind after hung up。“I guess the eighty percent and their three together。”

　　记者随后联系了李雨轩的母亲，号码显示归属地为南充。当问及她是否知道女儿近况时，电话突然断线，再打过去已是关机。汤先生说，两年前晓雪就离家出走过一次，那时他正和妻子闹离婚。“我承诺女儿，再也不和她妈妈吵架了，没想到她这次又走了……”

Reporter then contacted the LiYuXuan mother，Where number display for universal。When asked if she know daughter when situation，Telephone suddenly break，Call the past already is turned off。Said Mr Soup，Two years ago from a walk through a xiao-shueh again，Then he is talking with his wife getting divorced。“I promise daughter，Never quarreled with her mother，Unexpectedly she the left again……”

　　

他，16岁，初三毕业 he，16，3 graduation

　　

赌气离家出走 In anger away from home

　　

同学们全城找人 The students for the city

　　“他身高162cm，16岁，初三毕业。脚穿黑色篮球鞋，身穿白色或蓝色T恤衫和灰色裤子……”近日，一条寻人信息在新浪微博上引起网友关注。7月13日，一个初三毕业生离家出走，半个多月仍没有消息，昨日家长已报案。不少同学发动QQ群友、发微博，甚至走上街头……展开全城搜寻。

“His height 162 cm，16，3 graduation。Feet to wear black basketball shoes，Dressed in white or blue T-shirt and grey trousers……”recently，A wanted information in sina blog cause the micro attention。July 13,，A third day graduates away from home，Half a month still no news，Parents already report yesterday。Many students start QQ group members、FaWei bo，Even took to the streets……Search the city on。

　　微博称，一位刚刚从七中嘉祥外国语学校毕业的初三男生自7月13日离家后，再无消息。昨日上午，成都商报记者拨通微博中的电话。接电话的是孩子的父亲黄先生。黄先生称，7月初，孩子称想跟同学去重庆玩。然而他报名的暑假“衔接班”马上就要开班，“也不是不要他去，‘衔接班’只有半个多月，我们是希望上完课再去……”

Micro bo said，A just in foreign language school graduation from jiaxiang the third day the boy since July 13, after away from home，There is no news。Yesterday morning，Chengdu shangbao reporters went to the micro bo of the telephone。Pick up the telephone is the father of the child Mr. Huang。Mr Huang says，In early July，The child says students to play to chongqing。However he registered for summer vacation“Cohesive class”Opened soon，“Also not him，‘Cohesive class’Only half a month，Our hope is to go after class……”

　　然而，7月13日后，儿子就再没回家。“之前听说他到小区附近的复印店打过类似简历的材料，可能是要打工”。黄先生还得到消息，说儿子在金象小区某网吧出现过。然而经过10余天的寻找，始终一无所获。

however，After 13 July，Son didn't go home again。“Before he heard that to the community of copy shop near a similar material of the resume，May is to work”。Mr. Huang also got the news，Son said in a net bar area gold elephant appear。However, after more than 10 days looking for it，Always found nothing。

　　“小黄出走后，学校通过‘家校通’给我们发了短信……”张茜(化名)是小黄的同学。张茜说，7月18日左右，学校给学生和家长发送了“求助”短信，号召大家一起帮忙寻找小黄，不少同学主动加入。

“Yellow away，The school through the‘Home school the’For we sent a text……”ZhangQian(aliases)Is yellow classmate。ZhangQian said，July 18, or so，The school to students and parents sent“For help”Text messages，Call for everyone to help find little yellow，Many students actively join。

　　“我们分了工，每个人负责自己居住的区域”。同学们还利用网络，通过微博、贴吧、QQ群等平台发布了寻人的消息，但仍一无所获。

“We divided the work，Everyone is responsible for their own living area”。The students also using the network，Through the micro bo、stick、QQ group, released without news of the platform，But that also turned up nothing。

　　“小黄人很好，他突然出走让我们很意外”，张茜说小黄平时在学校人缘不错，同学们还给他起了个“一休哥”的外号，他也并不生气，“现在同学们也很担心他，我们都希望出份力”。

“Yellow people is very good，He suddenly flee let us very surprising”，ZhangQian said yellow at ordinary times in the school popularity good，The students back to him a name“Ikkyu elder brother”nickname，He also was not angry，“Now students also worried about him，We all hope that part out”。

　　

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仅一月内已有5起“出走”报道 Only a month since it has been five“flee”report

　　

孩子，回家吧 children，Go home

　　加上今天的两例孩子离家出走，短短一个月左右，经本报报道的就有5例孩子离家出走。孩子一冲动就离家出走，可是，带给家长的却是无尽焦虑和担忧，以及漫无目的的寻找。离家出走的孩子们，别犹豫了，快回家吧！

With today's two cases of children away from home，Just a month or so，This newspaper has reported by the 5 cases children away from home。A child impulse will run away from home，but，Bring the parents is endless anxiety and worry，And aimless looking for。The children ran away from home，Don't hesitate，Let's go home！

　　6月22日：经过长时间的“预谋”，成都20中四名初二的女学生结伴离家出走。6月27日，四人在眉山被警方找到。

June 22,：After a long time of“premeditated”，Chengdu 20 of the female students four second caravans away from home。June 27,，Four people were found in meishan police。

　　7月2日：13岁的小波自称被父亲虐待，独自骑行川藏线。网友“随心迁徙”在318国道上遇到了他，于7月6日将他送回位于西藏自治区波密县的老家。

July 2,：13 years old wavelet claim to be father abuse，ChuanCangXian rode。the“Follow migrating”In 318 the national highway met him，On July 6 will him back to the home in the Tibet autonomous region BoMiXian。

　　7月4日：为做暑假作业，文文和父亲起了争执，文文离家出走。7月19日，离家出走半个月的文文在公交车上被找到。

On July 4,：Do homework for summer vacation，Text and father been in dispute，Text to run away from home。July 19,，Half a month to run away from home in the text was found on a bus。

　　

调查 survey

　　

寒暑假、考试前后最易离家出走 Winter and summer、Before and after the exam most easily away from home

　　

男生多于女生初中生最多 The boy more than girls most junior high school student

　　一项调查显示，男生大部分出走的原因是亲子冲突、情绪失控、沉迷网络等，而女生出走的原因更多的是学习。

An investigation shows that，Most of the boys is the cause of the parent-child conflicts run away、emotionally、Addict network, etc，And the reason of the girls flee more is to learn。

　　上海曾对19个区县数万名初高中学生进行调查，20.1%的学生调查前过去的1年中想过离家出走，3.1%的学生在调查前过去的1年中离家出走过。从统计数据来看，学生离家出走的比例近几年呈上升趋势，而且呈现一定的特点：

Shanghai had to 19 districts (counties) of tens of thousands of high school students were investigated，20.1% of the students of the past 1 years before the investigation to run away from home，3.1% of the students in the investigation of the past year left home before the walked。From the statistical data and see，The proportion of students to run away from home in recent years, are on the rise，And present certain characteristics：

　　第一，期中考试、期末考试前后离家出走的比例高于平时。考试前迫于考试压力、考试后成绩不良都可能是青少年离家出走的诱因。

The first，Midterm exam、Before and after the final exam to run away from home proportion than usual。Before the exam, under pressure test、After the test results may be bad is the youth to run away from home triggers。

　　第二，寒暑假中青少年离家出走的比例高于平时。寒暑假中一些学生生活无规律、受到不良诱因的影响或在家与父母频繁接触引发冲突，都有可能使青少年离家出走。

The second，In winter and summer youth leaves home proportion than usual。Some students in summer and winter vacation life erratic、Get bad incentives impact or at home with their parents to cause conflict frequent contact，That makes it possible for teenagers to run away from home。

　　第三，家庭关系不良的孩子离家出走的比例较大。家庭夫妻关系紧张、亲子关系紧张使孩子不愿待在家里，选择离家出走。

The third，Family relations bad children away from home larger proportion。The tense relationship between husband and wife、Tension between parents make child would not stay at home，Choose to run away from home。

　　第四，初中生离家出走的比例高于小学生和高中生。刚刚进入青春期的初中生由于认知不成熟、情绪易冲动，成为离家出走人群的大多数。

The fourth，Junior high school students away from home higher proportion of elementary and high school students。Just for the onset of puberty of junior high school students' the cognitive maturity、Emotional impulsive，As most of the people to run away from home。

　　第五，男生离家出走的比例高于女生。不管是从电话咨询还是从来访的情况来看，男生离家出走的比例约为女生的3倍。(综合郑州晚报等)

The fifth，The boy leaves home proportion than girls。No matter from telephone consultation or from visiting the situation，The boy runaway ratio is about three times as much as the girl。(Comprehensive zhengzhou evening news, etc)

　　

专家观点 Experts point

　　

时间、空间……暑假给“出走”提供了很多要素 time、space……Summer vacation to“flee”Provide a lot of factors

　　孩子离家出走，原因是多方面的。从心理学上看，小学高年级、初中的孩子，独立意识增强；从社会学上看，这是孩子在脱离家庭前的一个过渡时期，因此常与家长闹“独立”，离家出走就是这种独立意识的外在表现。

Children away from home，The reason is various。Look from psychology，The elementary school higher grades、Junior high school of children，Independent consciousness enhancement；Look from sociology，This is child in a family from before the transition period，So often and parents make“independent”，Away from home is this kind of independent consciousness external performance。

　　“从心理发育来说，10多岁的青春期少年，犹如羽翼刚丰满的小鸟，从心理上来说渴望独立飞翔。”对于青少年离家出走的原因，四川师范大学教师教育学院院长游永恒认为主要有三个因素：首先，青春发育期的孩子具有激烈性、叛逆性等特质，一些性格中过于反叛的孩子，易用离家出走的方式反抗家庭教育的权威。二是孩子与父母相处的压力大，孩子的意愿得不到尊重，一些父母粗暴简单的教育方式让孩子想通过离家出走的方式得到解脱。三是父母创造的家庭生活无聊乏味，使得孩子容易被外面世界的新鲜刺激因素所吸引，致使一些缺乏对父母尊重的孩子选择离家出走。游永恒说，父母应创造一个和谐的家庭氛围，加强家庭对孩子的吸引力，让青少年对家有归属感、亲切感，父母应避免对孩子有居高临下的感觉。

“Mental development from it，More than 10 years of adolescents，Like wings just full of birds，From psychological is eager to independent fly。”The reason for teenagers to run away from home，Sichuan normal university teachers' education, dean of the college of swim eternal think there are three main factors：first，The children have JiLieXing youth development、Rebellious such traits as，Some character too rebel child，Easy way to run away from home against family education authority。2 the children and their parents to get along with great pressure，Children will not be respected，Some parents rough simple education way to let the children want to run away from home was free way。3 it is the parents create dull family life，Which makes children to outside world attracted new stimulation factors，The lack of respect for some parents children chose to run away from home。Swim eternal said，Parents should create a harmonious family atmosphere，To strengthen family to the child's appeal，Let teenagers have belonging to the home、kindness，Parents should avoid the child feel like royalty。

　　“为什么大多数青少年，选择在暑假离家出走？”中国青少年研究中心副研究员洪明表示，与平时有学校、老师管理孩子不同，暑假往往为青少年的出走提供了时间上的客观原因。假期中，孩子与家长接触的时间更多了，并且希望有自己独立的安排，如果父母满足不了孩子的愿望，就有可能由于某个事件触发反叛的情绪，演变成爆发性事件离家出走。

“Why do most teenagers，Choose in summer vacation away from home？”China youth research center associate researcher HongMing said，And usually have a school、The teacher to manage different children，Summer vacation for young people often the departure time of the provide objective reasons。vacation，The child and parent contact time more，And hope to have their own independent arrangement，If the parents can't satisfy the child's wish，There may be due to an event the flame of rebellion，Evolved into explosive event away from home。

　　1个、2个、3个、4个……暑假，本是让孩子愉快的假期，青春发育期的青少年却频频离家出走，让大量找娃娃的家长焦头烂额。已经成年的您当年是否有过离家出走的经历？您对“暑假孩子容易离家出走”又有什么感想和建议？欢迎拨打成都商报热线86613333-1。(成都商报记者 关琼 杨艺 桑田 实习记者 吴晗)

1、2、3、4……Summer vacation，This is to let the children happy holiday，Youth development period of adolescents are frequently away from home，Let a lot of parents find baby assignment。Have adult you that year if there have been away from home experience？you“Summer child easy to run away from home”And what do you think of it and advice？Welcome to call chengdu shangbao hotline at 86613333-1。(Chengdu shangbao reporter GuanQiong YangYi change practice reporter wu)