献一束鲜花，道一声问候，自然送一份礼品，递一个红包，尴尬

Offered a bunch of flowers，Way a salute，Natural send a gift，Handed a red envelope，embarrassed

　　教师节快到了，送上一束鲜花、一句问候，表达对老师的感激和尊敬之情，乃人之常情。然而，不知从什么时候开始,教师节逐渐演变成了送礼节,一些家长为了和老师套近乎，请老师对孩子多加“照顾”,礼物也“水涨船高”，由鲜花与问候变成了昂贵的礼品与红包。

Teacher's day is coming，On a bunch of flowers、A word of greeting，Express gratitude and respect to the teacher's love，Is human。however，Do not know from what time does it start,Teacher's day gradually evolved into send etiquette,Some parents and teachers to befriend，Please the teacher to the child more“care”,Gift also“A rising tide lifts all boats”，The flowers and regards become expensive gifts and red packets。

　　家长：送与不送都困惑 parents：Don't send offered to all confused

　　在省城银行系统工作的李欣女士，由于工作很忙，今年6月份，把刚满两周岁的儿子送到了幼儿园。李女士接儿子放学时，常常发现他尿湿了裤子。老师说，孩子太多顾不过来。李女士觉得老师说得有理，但却纳闷：为什么别人家的孩子没有这种情况呢？

In the provincial capital bank system work ms li xin，Because the job is busy，In June this year，The just is 2 years old son to the kindergarten。Ms. Li joint son when school was over，Often find he wet pants。The teacher said，The child too much to not come。Ms. Li think the teacher said is right，But wonder：Why is everyone else's child no this kind of situation？

　　李女士的同事小刘听说了此事，赶紧给李女士指点迷津，原因是李女士“不懂事”。小刘的儿子强强刚送幼儿园时，总是哭，小刘的妈妈只好在班里看着。不久，老师让家长们送完孩子后都离开，可强强总是哭。为了能让妈妈在幼儿园多陪陪孩子，小刘悄悄给老师送了一张500元的超市购物卡，此后，老师不再让小刘的妈妈离开，老师每天还主动抱着强强逗他玩，很快孩子就不再哭了。小刘告诉李女士，想让老师对孩子好，不送点礼怎么成？

Ms. Li colleagues xiao liu heard this matter，Hurry to ms. Li advice，The reason is ms. Li“No sensible”。The son of xiaoliu willing just send kindergarten，Always cry，Xiao liu's mother had to look at in the class。soon，The teacher let parents send out after children leave，Can be powerful always cry。In order to let mother in kindergarten spending more time with children，Xiao liu quietly to the teacher gave a 500 yuan supermarket loyalty card，Since then，The teacher no longer let xiao liu mom leave，The teacher every day also actively hold powerful amusing him to play，Soon the children didn't cry any more。Xiao liu told ms. Li，Want to let the teacher to good children，Don't send point how gift into？

　　李女士听得半信半疑，难道真的是因为没送礼？眼看着教师节要到了，李女士在网上想看看其他家长的态度，从幼儿园到大学，家长给老师送礼已经成为潜规则，不少购物网站都推出了礼物推荐，这些礼物有价值千元的健身年卡、超市购物卡、美容卡、高档的珍藏图书等等。

Ms. Li heard dubitation，Don't really because no gifts？See teacher's day is coming，Ms. Li in the online to see the attitude of the other parents，From kindergarten to college，Parents give the teacher a gift has become the latent rules，Many shopping website are introduced present recommend，These gifts has $one thousand worth of fitness years card、Supermarket loyalty card、Hairdressing card、High-grade collection books and so on。

　　“难道这是正常的尊师礼节吗？”李女士不明白。

“Isn't this is normal teacher etiquette？”Ms. Li don't understand。

　　老师：收与不收皆尴尬 The teacher：The revenue and don't accept all embarrassed

　　某重点中学的一位班主任老师表示，教师节快到了，面对前来送礼的家长她感到很头疼。她的父母总是教育她“吃人家的嘴短，拿人家的手软”，收了礼，老师就无法公平客观地对待学生，有悖师德。

A key middle school of a teacher in charge teacher said，Teacher's day is coming，Face to come to a gift of parents she felt very headache。Her parents always education she“Eat the somebody else mouth short，Take a somebody else of thine hands be slack”，Accept the gift，The teacher can't fair objectively treat students，Against virtue。

　　“但是，现在和以前风气不一样。”这位老师无奈地说，很多家长三番四次地送礼，老师不接受的话，家长就会认为老师不关照他的孩子，弄得老师们很是为难。“尽职尽责地完成好自己的本职工作，这与家长送不送礼是无关的。”

“but，Current and former atmosphere is not the same。”The teacher said helplessly，A lot of parents and four times three gifts，The teacher didn't accept it，Parents will be think teachers don't care of his children，Get teachers is very difficult。“Conscientious to finish his job，The parents don't send gifts is irrelevant。”

　　乔老师是一位小学老师，提到给老师送礼的问题，他说：“家长送礼让老师们无所适从。”乔老师表示，以前教师节，很多同学和家长为了表示感谢会送鲜花、钢笔等礼物。学生一片心意，我们也就收下了。但是，这两年，家长送的礼物越来越贵重，动辄上千元。看着这些礼物，备感压力之大。

Joe teacher is a primary school teacher，To give the teacher a gift problem，He said：“Parents gifts let teachers at loose ends。”Joe teacher said，Before teachers' day，Many students and parents will send flowers to thank you、Pen gifts, such。Students' hearts，We'd like to accept them。but，The two years，Parents send gift more and more valuable，Frequently thousands of yuan。Look at these gifts，This is not his ki。

　　乔老师对于家长送礼很是反感，他表示，如果是学生感激老师，他会接受，但是现在很多家长是为了让老师 “办事”。乔老师的班上一位男同学上课总是说话，影响其他人听课，有好几个代课老师都点名批评他。无奈之下，乔老师只好把这个学生调到后排坐，家长知道后竟然送来了一个红包。他认为，这种做法是对老师的侮辱。

Joe teacher for parents gifts are wearing，He said，If students appreciate the teacher，He will accept，But now many parents is to let the teacher “work”。Joe the teacher's class a male classmate always talk in class，Influence others to attend a lecture，There are several substitute teachers criticized him。Helpless under，Joe the teacher had to leave the student transferred to sit back，Parents know that had brought a red envelope。He thinks，This kind of practice is to teacher insult。

　　专家：尊师应当重情谊 experts：Teacher should heavy friendship

　　山西大学的李教授表示，中国自古就有尊师重教的传统，老师被认为是一个非常神圣的职业。师道尊严一方面要求全社会都要尊敬老师，另一方面也要求老师要加强自律，对待学生一视同仁，毫无保留地传授知识。所以，在适当的时候，尤其是教师节这样的日子，家长或学生通过一定的方式，比如一个电话、发条短信或一束鲜花表达自己的感激和尊敬之情并无不妥。

Shanxi university professor li said，China since ancient times has had a tradition of respecting teachers，The teacher is considered to be a very sacred profession。The teacher's dignity requirements, on the one hand, the whole society should show respect for their teachers，On the other hand also requires the teacher to strengthen self-discipline，Treat their students equally without discrimination，No reservation to impart knowledge。so，At the right time，Especially the day that teachers' day，Parents or students through a certain way，For example a phone call、Clockwork SMS or a bunch of flowers to express their gratitude and respect of love there is nothing wrong。

　　但是，现在很多家长和一部分不自律老师的做法却让这一行为变了味。礼物的价格上去了，对老师的尊敬也就更多了吗？李教授表示，恰恰相反，现在很多家长拿着贵重的礼物送给老师，暗地里却在骂老师，甚至有的家长还直接告诉孩子，父母已给老师送了礼物。这样的现状，背离了国家设立教师节的初衷。

but，Now a lot of parents and one of them is not self-discipline teacher practice but let this behavior changed taste。Present price go up，To the teacher's respect more？Professor li said，On the contrary，Now a lot of parents with a precious gift for the teacher，But secretly in scold the teacher，Even some parents also directly tell children，Parents have to the teacher gave gifts。Such a situation，From the establishment of teacher's day state of the original intention。