中新网广州9月6日电(记者 宋秀杰 索有为)新学期的开始使得一波“高考状元”的潮水渐渐退去，曾经的安徽省文科“高考状元”、专业女作家盛琼出版的新书《孩子，我要你快乐》，则又掀起了一轮对于状元的培养和家庭教育的思考。

Beijing on September 6, guangzhou(Reporter SongXiuJie SuoYouWei)The start of the new semester makes a wave"College entrance examinations"The tide of receding from us,Once the anhui liberal arts"College entrance examinations"/Professional writer ChengQiong publishing new book[children,I want you happy],A round, and for the cultivation of the champions and family education thinking.

　　盛琼在书中以真诚的勇气反思自身成长，揭秘“状元”背后的得失成败，并与读者分享了她的育女心得，回答了现代家长一系列难题。中新网记者6日专访了这位在2010年获得过鲁迅文学奖的广东省作家协会专业作家。

In the book ChengQiong with sincere courage reflect on their own growth,revelation"champions"Behind the gain and loss success or failure,And sharing her brood female experience,Answer the modern parents a series of problems.A reporter 6, the interview in 2010 won the lu xun literature prize guangdong province writers association of professional writers.

“状元”并不意味着快乐 "champions"It doesn't mean happiness

　　盛琼是1985年安徽省文科“高考状元”，毕业于复旦大学新闻系，曾在媒体工作多年，现已发表和出版过两百多万字的小说和散文。这位昔日的女状元提及当年，并没有些许的兴奋，相反，她在新书中表达了这样的观点：“状元”并不意味着快乐。

ChengQiong is liberal arts in anhui province in 1985"College entrance examinations",Graduated from fudan university department of journalism,Once worked for many years in the media,Has been published and published more than two hundred words of the novels and prose.The former women champions mention the,And not a little excited,instead,In her new book expressed the view:"champions"It doesn't mean happiness.

　　盛琼说："高考状元’算是一种荣誉吧，但我从来没把这种荣誉当成一种可以骄傲的资本，相反，它对我来说，更是一种鞭策和压力。实际上，在一个人的人生中，‘状元’并不能解决什么，你跟所有人一样，要面对一切的难题、挫折，你的人生也不一定就比他人顺利。有时‘状元’恰恰造成了一些束缚，比如我曾经的完美主义倾向和怯弱逃避的心理。”

ChengQiong said:"College entrance examinations’It is an honour,But I never took the honor as a can be proud of capital,instead,It to me,Is a kind of spur and pressure.In fact,In a person's life,‘champions’And can't solve??????,You and all the people,To face the problem of all/setbacks,Your life is not necessarily than others well.sometimes‘champions’Just caused some bound,For example I have perfect socialist orientation and though you may be thought cowardly escape psychological."

　　盛琼也坦承，由于是“状元”，她的人生起点较高，也能对自己提出较高要求，能坚持不懈地追求自我的完善。她正是想通过自己的人生故事，让孩子们从她身上吸取经验和教训，从而选择一条正确的成长之路。

ChengQiong also admits,Because is"champions",Her life higher starting point,Can also to oneself higher demands are proposed,Can persist to pursue the perfection of the self.She just through his life story,Let children from her body draw experiences and lessons,Selecting a correct the road of growth.

　　作为一个获得过“鲁迅文学奖”的专业作家，盛琼自称自己的写作都是自然而然从心灵迸发出来的，不会刻意写什么，而是静静地等待着灵感的降临。但无论写什么，都一直强调以一颗真诚的心灵去写作，并尽力以自己的作品给读者带去一些启迪和温暖。

As a won"Lu xun literature prize"Professional writer,ChengQiong claim to his writing is naturally from the heart gush out,Would never write??????,But quietly waiting for inspiration comes.But no matter what to write,Have been emphasized with a sincere heart to writing,By his works and try our best to give the reader to some enlightenment and warm.

要与应试教育周旋 With the exam-oriented education move

　　盛琼在新书中提出了“幸福教育法则”，即把追求幸福当成教育的目的，让孩子们在快乐中成长，最终实现幸福的人生。为此，她提出了成人比成才更重要、向“狼爸”“虎妈”坚决说不、平凡的孩子也能获得不平凡的快乐等观点，还如何带领孩子走出叛逆期和挫折、如何让孩子既拥有勇敢的竞争心理又拥有良好的合作精神等一系列教育难题。

ChengQiong in new book puts forward"Happiness education law",The pursuit of happiness as the purpose of education,Let the children happy growth,Finally realize the life of the happiness.therefore,She presented a more important than adults/to"The Wolf dad""Tiger mother"Firmly say no/Ordinary children can also get extraordinary happy view, etc,Also how to lead the children out of the rebellious period and frustration/How to let the child has brave competitive psychological and have a good cooperation spirit and a series of education problem.

　　面对现行的教育体制，盛琼在书中提出“要与应试教育周旋”的思路。

In the face of the current education system,ChengQiong put forward in the book"With the exam-oriented education move"Train of thought.

　　“周旋的涵义就是既不完全与现有的教育体制决裂，游离于体制之外，又用适当的方式，减轻孩子的负担，在环境和心态上，尽量为孩子打造一方轻松愉快的小天地，并尽可能地培养孩子的综合素质，保证孩子健康快乐的心态，让孩子全面发展”，盛琼说：“在应试教育的体制里，如果将孩子完全置身于外，一味地强调素质、能力、兴趣、自由的个性、创意的想象、天性的发挥、快乐的游戏等等，虽然可能有极少数天赋好的孩子，最终也能成才，但这样的概率是极低的，只能作为个案特殊对待，不具备普适的推广意义。对绝大多数普通的孩子来说，我们还是要提倡‘周旋’的智慧，既不盲目加压，也不置之不理，更不放任自流，而是帮助他们一起勇敢地参与竞争，迎接挑战。不管是哪个阶段，家长都应该多鼓励孩子，不要有攀比、焦虑的心态，要明白，人生是长跑，未来的路还很长。”

"Move the meaning is neither completely and the existing education system rupture,Free from outside the system,And with the appropriate way,Reduce the burden of the children,In the environment and the mentality,As far as possible for the children make party relaxed and happy one's own little world,And as far as possible, develop the child's comprehensive quality,Make sure your child healthy and happy state of mind,Let the child all-round development",ChengQiong said:"In the examination-oriented education in the system,If the children complete keep out of,Blind emphasis on quality/ability/interest/Free personality/Creative imagination/Nature play/Happy game, etc,Although there may be a few talent good children,Finally also can become,But such probability is very low,Only as case special treatment,Does not have the promotion of universal significance.For most common for children,We still have to advocate‘alongside’wisdom,Neither blind pressure,Also don't ignore,More don't let slide,But help together they bravely participate in the competition,Meet the challenge.No matter what stage,Parents should encourage the children,Don't have bandwagon/Anxiety state of mind,To understand,Life is a long,The future is still a long way to go."

孩子不仅仅属于家庭 Children not only belongs to the family

　　在盛琼的培养下，她的女儿素质全面、性格阳光。盛琼结合自己的育女经验和教训，在书中穿插了不少家长和孩子的信件、日记，未加任何改动，展现日常生活中真实朴素的一面。

In the cultivation of ChengQiong next,Her daughter quality comprehensively/Character sunshine.ChengQiong combining with my own brood female experiences and lessons,In the book with a lot of parents and children's letters/diary,Without any changes,Show daily life real simple side.

　　盛琼说：“我的孩子健康快乐地长大了，我感到很欣慰。但我认为，孩子不仅仅属于家庭，他们更属于未来的社会，把他们培养成一个健全的美好的幸福的人，这是父母对全社会做出的最大贡献。这样的孩子长大后，又会给很多人带来美好和快乐，社会的和谐与进步也正由此生发。”

ChengQiong said:"My children to grow up healthy and happy,I feel very glad.But I think,Children not only belongs to the family,They are more belongs to the future society,Train them into a sound good happy person,This is the parents of the whole society to make the greatest contribution.Such children grow up,And will give a lot of people bring good and happy,Social harmony and progress are stituation."

　　她认为，父母要在家庭里营造一种无私真爱、温馨和谐的氛围，不要盲目攀比，要有长远眼光，要把幸福作为人生的追求目标，帮助孩子树立乐观向上的人生观，让孩子在成长中找到快乐，享受幸福。无论你的孩子是卓越的，还是平凡的，他(她)首先都应该是快乐的。(完)

She thinks,Parents will in the family to build a kind of selfless love/Warm and harmonious atmosphere,Don't blindly bandwagon,Want to have a long - term sight,The happy life as the pursuit of the goal,Help children establish optimistic outlook on life,Let the children growing up to find happiness,Enjoy happiness.Whether your child is excellent,Or ordinary,he(she)First of all should be happy.(finish)

　　(来源:中国新闻网)

(Source: China news network)