“敢再玩游戏，老爸就把你裸照放班级QQ群”

"Dared to play the game,Dad took you put nude class QQ group"

　　新快报记者 何宁

New express HeNing reporters

　　“你再不听话，我就把你这张裸照发到你们班的QQ群里去。”近日，家住汉口的焦先生为了使12岁的儿子乖乖离开电脑游戏去写作业，竟然想出了拿裸照威胁的“奇招”。用此怪招威胁孩子，家长或许可以达到管教的目的，但是否后患无穷，会给孩子带来不好的心理影响？上周，“新新家长群”就这一问题展开了激烈的讨论。

"You don't listen,I will give you this piece of nude sent to your class to the QQ group."recently,Live in hankou of Mr. Coke to make 12 year old son darling leave computer games to write operation,Should come up with take nude threat"Odd recruit".The children GuaiZhao threat,Parents might be able to achieve the purpose of the discipline,But if your ruin,Will give children bring bad psychological impact?Last week,"New parents group"The problem started a heated discussion.

　　极品老爸做法涉嫌犯法？

Gourmet dad suspected of illegal practice?

　　“哇塞，还有这么极品的老爸？！”铭铭妈的第一反应是，这位极品老爸这样的做法和常常见诸报端的那种拍了女孩的裸照威胁的坏人没啥两样。“这老爸还觉得很得意是吧？孩子都初一啦，还以为是小猫咪你可以逗着玩啊？！这个爸爸因为儿子表面被钳制住而沾沾自喜，却没想到自己其实已经起了一个很坏的榜样作用。”

"wow,And so gourmet's dad?!"Inscription inscription mom's first reaction is,The best dad such practices and often in the central hunan province of that kind of took the girl's nude threat villains nothing different."This old daddy still feel good right?Children's first,Thought is the kitten you can make the play with?!The father because son surface is strangulation live and complacency,Didn't know I had really up a very bad example role."

　　张女士很严肃地表示，这位爸爸的做法一点都不好笑，“这个爸爸简直没大脑啊，拍裸照、威胁放上网，这已经快触犯法律了。而且孩子有样学样，他以后为了达到自己的目的也会像他爸爸这样威胁别人，不择手段。”

Ms. Zhang is very seriously said,The father's approach is not funny,"The father is have no brains ah,Take nude/Threat to put on the Internet,This is the fast break the law.And the child be a copycat,He later in order to achieve the purpose of his will, like his father this threat to others,By hook or by crook."

　　威胁手段会破坏亲子关系

Threat means can destroy parentage

　　这位爸爸的做法除了给孩子起到了坏榜样的作用外，家长们认为，对孩子自身的成长也很不利。

The father's practice in addition to give children played a bad example of the role,Parents think,To the growth of the child's own is very adverse.

　　铭铭妈认为，孩子对外界的探索都是以家庭为根据地向外延伸出去的，当孩子在向外探索时遇见不愉快或者令他觉得不安全的时候，他会坚信后方还有自己的家，有自己的父母在爱自己和信任自己。“这位爸爸的玩笑是在亲手破坏亲子间这种最可贵的信任感与安全感，如果生活在担忧自己的家人会给自己带来伤害的环境中，那么等孩子长大了，他的人际关系中也会潜伏着原生家庭带来的阴影。”“他一方面会有样学样，用胁迫这招来达到自己的目的；另一方面，他无法和别人建立亲密关系，潜意识里会对所有人有所提防，因为最亲近的人都曾经这样给他不安全感。”铭铭妈补充道。

Inscription inscription mother think,Children on the outside of exploration are the base for family extend out,When a child to explore in the met unpleasant or make him don't feel safe,He will believe that the rear and his own family,Have their own parents in love and trust yourself."The father's joke is in hand damage between parent this most valuable trust and security,If life worrying about his family will bring you hurt environment,So when the child is grown up,His interpersonal relationships will lie dormant primary family bring shadow.""His hand would be a copycat,With stress this recruit to reach own purpose;On the other hand,He couldn't an intimate relationship with others,The subconscious mind to all people to guard against,Because the most close to the people ever so give him insecurity."Inscription inscription mother added.

　　果果妈也认为，这种威胁的手段特别不值得提倡，肯定会起反作用。“如果家庭里平时就是严父慈母的状态，估计这招也使不出来；如果平时就是朋友式的，估计孩子也会‘上有政策，下有对策’来对付老爸。”玉妈认为，这位爸爸的做法就是不把孩子当人看，“孩子是独立的个体，要尊重他的感受和隐私，不能把孩子当宠物来戏弄。”

GuoGuo mama also think,This threat means special not worth recommending,Will react."If the family is at ordinary times stern father mother state,Estimate the recruit also make don't come out;If at ordinary times is the PengYouShi,Estimates that children will also‘policy,XiaYouDuiCe’To deal with dad."Jade mother think,The father's approach is not the child when people see,"The child is independent individuals,To respect his feelings and privacy,Can't the child as a pet to tease."