40名班级同学见证“婚礼” 专家认为是儿童模仿行为不用紧张 40 class classmate witness"The wedding" Experts say is children imitate behavior need not nervous

　　本报讯 因为彼此关系要好，两名三年级的男女同学决定结为“夫妻”，并自制了一张画有双方头像和写着姓名的“结婚证”。可是好景不长，一周后，两人因为闹矛盾而选择“离婚”，并严格遵照形式，不忘另外制作了一张“离婚证”。

Report from our correspondent relationship because each other better,Two grade three of the men and women students make decision"Husband and wife",And make a picture the head portrait and write the name"Marriage certificate".But a flash in the pan,After a week,Two people because the contradiction and choose"divorce",And strictly follow the form,Do not forget to also make a"Divorce certificates".

一周后就“离婚”了 After a week"divorce"the

　　前不久，渝北一所小学三年级（一）班传来“喜讯”。班级里关系要好的妮妮和涛涛互生好感，在40名班级同学的见证下，公开宣称结为夫妻。两人还拿出一张A4纸，用彩色笔在左边画上双方的头像，右边写下名字，像模像样地绘制了一张结婚证。

Not long ago,YuBei a primary school grade three(a)Class came"Good news".In the class relation to good nini and surging alternate favor,In the 40 class students under the witness,Publicly announced that became husband and wife.The two men also take out a piece of A4 paper,Use colored pens on the left picture on the head of both sides,Wrote the name down the right,With an air of importance to draw a marriage certificate.

　　之后，这对小“夫妻”开始在班级里出双入对，在生活和学习中相互“扶持”。下课时，共享小人书；午餐是水果对分。“夫妻”缘分不长，一周后，因为认为涛涛爱作弄人，两人选择“离婚”。于是，另外一张A4纸对折而成的“离婚证”由此而生。

after,The small"Husband and wife"In the class started out in pairs,In the life and learning each other"support".Next class,Sharing picture books;Lunch is fruit to points."Husband and wife"Fate is not long,After a week,Because they think surging love horse,Two people choose"divorce".so,In addition a piece of A4 paper folded and become"Divorce certificates"created.

家长疑虑重重 Parents suspicion

　　“为什么小孩子会出现关系好就结婚的想法？”其中一位学生家长找到了协和心理咨询所副所长、亲子与情商教育专家蒋华，寻求帮助。

"Why the child will appear good relationship between the idea of marriage?"One of the parents of the students found the Concorde psychological consultation institute vice director/Parent-child and emotional quotient education experts JiangHua,Seek help.

　　“这是儿童的模仿行为，家长不必惊慌。”对于妮妮和涛涛的做法，蒋华分析，可从以下三方面来探寻原因。如今成年人的婚姻质量偏低，存在结婚不假思索、离婚意气用事等问题，而这种现象的常态化，潜移默化中对孩子的婚姻观念造成影响。

"This is children's modeling behavior,Parents don't panic."For nini and surging practice,JiangHua analysis,From the following three aspects to explore reasons.Now adults of marriage quality is low,Existing marriage without thinking/Divorce emotional problems,And this kind of phenomenon of normalization,Imperceptible to the child marriage concept affect.

　　部分家长整日忙于工作，没有充足的时间来陪伴孩子，造成孩子爱的缺失，致使他们从身边的伙伴中寻求温暖。

Some parents are busy working all day long,Do not have enough time to accompany children,Cause the lack of children love,Cause them from the side partner for warmth.

　　此外，蒋华还谈到了外界因素的负面影响，据她了解，很多还未进入青春期的孩子都喜欢看韩剧、偶像剧以及成人漫画，而剧（书）中涉及的一些感情观也会扭曲孩子对于婚姻的认识。

In addition,JiangHua also talked about the negative effects of external factors,According to her understanding,Many are not enter adolescence children are fond of watching Korean dramas/Idol drama and adult cartoon,And play(The book)Some of the feelings involved in view will distort the child for the understanding of the marriage.

专家建议引导勿责备 Expert proposal guide don't blame

　　此外，对于妮妮和涛涛的行为，蒋华还认为属于未平稳过渡儿童婚姻敏感期的一种现象。

In addition,For nini and surging behavior,JiangHua also believe that belongs to the not smooth transition children's marriage sensitive period of a kind of phenomenon.

　　蒋华介绍，儿童婚姻敏感期是儿童认知社会关系的必经过程。从四五岁开始，孩子就开始对人群组合发生兴趣。由于婚姻的组合形式离儿童生活最近，所以儿童的探索就会先从婚姻开始。这时，他们会研究谁和谁结婚了，如果他们喜欢一个人，就会假想与对方结婚的情况。

JiangHua introduced,Children's marriage sensitive period is children's cognitive social relations with necessary course.From the age of four or five,The child started to people interested in combination.Due to the combined form of marriage from children live recently,So the children of exploration will start from the first marriage.At this time,They will study who and who married,If they like a person,Will imaginary and each other of marriage.

　　蒋华建议，当孩子出现非常态化的婚姻观念时，家长需认识到这是一种正常的现象，更不能责备孩子；其次，应该从家庭关系的角度加以正确引导，告诉孩子爱和喜欢的不同。引导后，家长还需自我反思，“如果一个孩子在家庭中得到了足够的安全感和爱，他（她）不可能产生类似妮妮和涛涛的行为。”

JiangHua Suggestions,When children appear abnormal change of marriage idea,Parents need to realize that this is a normal phenomenon,More can't blame the children;secondly,From the Angle of the relation between family should be the correct guidance,Tell the children love and like different.Guide after,Parents still need to reflect on oneself,"If a child in the family get enough security and love,he(she)Could not produce a similar nini and surging behavior."

　　(重庆晨报)

(Chongqing morning paper)