1、戒过度保护 1/Quit overprotection

　　有时候，由于太注重表面的安全，忽略看不见的心理需求，纵使孩子具有优秀的先天条件，却得不到应有的发展，当孩子想跑、想玩时，大人会害怕孩子受伤而禁止他。如此的话，孩子便会养成不好动的习惯，身体变得迟熟、孱弱多病，心智的发展也必然受到阻碍，性格也会变得退缩胆小、缺乏自信、无法面对困难。我们必须明白，关怀是心灵上的沟通，并不是行为上的干预。过份的干预既令孩子反感，也妨碍他发展潜能。

sometimes,As a result of too pay attention to the safety of the surface,Ignore see psychological needs,Even if the child has excellent natural conditions,But a lack of development,When a child wants to run/Want to play when,Adults will be afraid children hurt and forbid him.so,The child will develop the habit of not active,The body becomes late ripe/Weak and sick,The development of the mind will inevitably hindered,Character also can become timid retreat/Lack of confidence/Unable to face the difficulty.We must understand,Concern is the heart communication,And is not the behavior of the intervention.Excessive intervention both make children dislike,Also interfere with his development potential.

　　

2、戒过份宠爱 2/Quit too favor

　　事事顺从孩子的要求，替他完成所有事情，孩子什么事情都不必动手，于是容易变得以自我为中心、任性、依赖、迟熟、不能忍让、也不懂自己照顾自己，即使表面看来柔顺温和，但当孩子长大，需要面对难题时，就可能出现性格突变。

All obedient child's requirements,Complete all things for him,What children not begin,So easy to change to self-centered/capricious/Rely on/Late ripe/Can't tolerance/Also don't know oneself care oneself,Although the surface looks soft gentle,But when the children to grow up,Need to face problems,May appear character mutation.

　　家长的包办代替是孩子形成性格软弱的重要原因之一。一些家长对孩子百依百顺，不让孩子做任何事情。这等于剥夺了孩子自我表现的机会，导致了孩子独立生活能力的萎缩……

Parents' package instead of a child form of weak character, one of the important reasons.Some parents of children jump through hoops,Do not let the child do anything.This is equal to deprive the child self-expression opportunities,Cause the child independent living skills atrophy……

　　

3、戒揠苗助长 3/Quit push them

　　孩子年纪愈小，基本动作愈少受学习或训练影响。不顾孩子的发育情况，强迫他提早学站、学走路、学写字……造成孩子身心严重失衡，导致产生脾气暴躁、焦虑、冷淡、退缩等问题，兼且会拒绝学习，也不懂与人和谐相处。

The small child age,Basic action is less influenced by learning or training effect.Regardless of the child's developmental state,Forced him to learn early stand/Learning to walk/Learning to write……Children body and mind caused by imbalance,Lead to temper/anxiety/cold/Back problems,And and will refuse to learning,Also don't understand and harmony.

　　

4、戒过份专制 4/Quit too despotism

　　经常以权威口吻规范孩子的举动、限制他的自由、否定他的想法，会使孩子长期处于恐慌之中，无法表达自己，只懂唯唯诺诺，不懂快乐；并使他失去自信，变得紧张、没有安全感，面对事情不知所措，失去尝试新事物的勇气等。另外，为了发泄不满，孩子会欺负比他小的孩子，当孩子长大，他更可能会对我们存有怀恨的心理，把以往积压的不满，发泄回我们身上。

Often with authoritative tone of voice regulate the child's behavior/Limit his freedom/Deny his idea,Will make the child long-term in panic,Unable to express their,Only know yes,Don't understand happiness;And made him lose confidence,tense/insecurity,In the face of things at a loss,Lose the courage to try new things, etc.In addition,In order to let off steam,The child will bully than his little children,When a child grow up,He is more likely to we being malicious psychological,The past the backlog of discontent,Out back to our body.

　　

5、戒脸孔严厉 5/Ring face severe

　　孩子无法在严肃当中感受到我们的爱，摆出严厉的脸孔，只会令他对您却步。我们应避免用苛刻字眼责备他，即使他做得不够好，也应温和地给他意见，使他容易接受。 点灯的心

Children can't in serious feel of our love,Set out stern face,Will only make him to you hang back.We should avoid using harsh words blame him,Even if he did not good enough,Should also gently to his opinion,Make him easy to accept. Light heart

　　

6、戒忽略孩子优点 6/Quit ignore children advantages

　　觉得孩子没什么长处，就算有，也视之为理所当然，使其天份无从发挥。中国人比较谦逊，不在人前称赞孩子，有时还会不经意地批评他。其实，我们对孩子的评价是他建立自我形象的依据，如果经常提及他的缺点，孩子会怀疑自己的能力，不仅影响其自信心，甚至会认定自己一无是处，更不思进取。

Feel the child's strengths,Even with,Also be taken for granted,Make it a day can't be exerted.Chinese are humble,Praise children in front,Sometimes unwittingly criticize him.In fact,We to the child's assessment is established based on his self-image,If often mention his faults,The child will doubt his ability,Not only affect their self-confidence,Even can be maintained so worthless,More adventurous.

　　

7、戒忽略孩子说话 7/Quit ignore children to speak

　　孩子喜欢问问题，我们会觉得很烦，而打断孩子的话，或要他收口；人家问孩子问题，我们却经常替孩子说话。这样，会剥夺孩子练习说话的机会，导致自我表达能力差，孩子并会渐渐不再跟我们说话，严重影响亲子间的沟通。

Children like to ask questions,We will feel very vexed,And if children interrupt,Or binding off;The somebody else asked the child problems,We often speak for children.this,Will deprive your child to practice opportunity to talk,Lead to self expression ability is poor,Children and will gradually no longer talk with us,The serious influence the communication between parent.

　　

8、戒经常对孩子唠叨 8/Quit nagging often to the child

　　误以为多对孩子说几次，他就应该懂得如何做，即使在安慰孩子时，也是喋喋不休地指出他的过失，叮咛告诫他应该如何做，而忽略孩子的难处。孩子难免会感到麻木，变得了无生气，没有自信。另外，唠叨还会使自己的脾气变得暴躁，情绪变得无法控制。

To mistakenly assume that boy said several times,He should know how to do,Even in comfort a child,Also volubly pointed out that his negligence,Reminds warned him should be how to do,While ignoring the child's difficulty.Children will inevitably feel numb,Become lifeless,Without confidence.In addition,Nagging still can make his temper become irritable,Mood has been unable to control.

　　

9、戒嘲笑挑剔 9/Quit laugh at critical

　　挑剔孩子的过失，经常把其缺点挂在嘴边，说话刻薄，用骂人的字眼嘲笑他“笨手笨脚”“无用”等，甚至在别人面前斥责数落孩子，均会使他感到丢脸，严重损害其自尊，变得自卑懦弱，认为自己真的没有能力做好事情，不敢发展潜能，记忆力和创造力也因而大减，变得退缩、胆小、缺乏自信。须知道，孩子的自尊心一旦受到伤害，是需要一段长时间，甚至永远无法重新建立起来的。另一可能是，孩子会对我们产生怨恨，不但不会尊重您，长大后还会找机会报复。

Critical child's negligence,Often the faults in noises,Sharp tongue,Use call names words laughed at him"clumsy""useless", etc,Even in front of other children at grumble,All would make him feel embarrassed,Serious damage their self-esteem,Self-abasement weak,Think you really didn't have the ability to do things,Can't development potential,Memory and creativity and thus reduced,Become back/timid/Lack of confidence.Must know,The child's self-esteem once hurt,Is take a long time,Even never to set up.Another may be,Their children will we produce resentment,Not only won't respect you,Grew up will also find opportunities to take.

　　

10、戒对孩子乱发脾气 10/Ring to the child temper tantrum

　　父母情绪不稳定、乱发脾气，会令孩子的性格变得扭曲、行为变得极端：一是变得反叛、是非不分、缺乏责任感；或是变得自闭、缺乏安全感；也可能同样爱乱发脾气。

Parents emotional instability/Temper tantrum,Can make the child's character become distorted/Behavior becomes extreme:One is to become rebellious/Are regardless of/Lack of sense of responsibility;Or become autistic/Lacking a sense of security;Also may also love temper tantrum.

　　

11、戒低估孩子能力 11/Quit underestimate the ability of children

　　质疑孩子潜能，处处要求他跟随自己意愿行事。孩子不能从失败中学习，变得依赖心重、惯于被命令、缺乏思考力。

Questioned the child potential,Everywhere asked him to follow their own thing.The child cannot learning from failure,Become dependent on heart heavy/Wont be ordered/Lack of contemplative faculties.

　　

12、戒以偏概全 12/Quit overgeneralization

　　用主观的情绪和期待去看待孩子，自以为是地认定他的发展，并以一个特点概括其全部性格，导致他自我规限其发展方向。例如，经常指责他“你又给我惹麻烦”“总是这样！”“没出息！”等，暗示了不能改变，会给他也认定觉得自己比人差，因而放弃改正，慢慢地，他便会向被认定的方向发展，做个没出息的人。认定，也容易做成偏见，导致经常错怪孩子，令他疏离您，对他的影响力也相对地减低，甚至变得反叛。

With subjective emotion and expect to see the child,Presumingly recognized his development,And in a characteristics summarized all of its character,Led to his ego gauge limit its development direction.For example,Often accused him of"And you get me into trouble""Always so!""losers!", etc,Suggested that can't change,Will give him also that feel poor than people,So give up correct,slowly,He will be considered to the direction of the development,Do a good for nothing.that,Also easy to make prejudice,Often lead to the children,To his disenchanted with you,To his influence is also relatively reduce,Even become rebellious.

　　

13、戒漠不关心 13/Quit indifference

　　对孩子表现出漠不关心，孩子为了引起我们注意，会做出种种叛逆的行为，却不幸误入歧途。另一可能是，孩子觉得我们不关心他，对生命感到失望，因而走上绝路。

For children show indifference,Children in order to cause our attention,Make a variety of treacherous behavior,But go wrong.Another may be,Children think we don't care about him,Life felt disappointed,Thus to blind alley.