妈妈想知道孩子有没有被欺负；园长感慨，从教20多年首遇录音笔 My mother want to know their children have being bullied;The principal regrets,Twenty years of teaching in the first LuYinBi

　　本报通讯员 温振赛本报驻温州记者 苗丽娜/文杨可威/绘

Our correspondent in wenzhou WenZhen "the reporter MiaoLiNa/WenYang can wei/drawing

　　似乎有些匪夷所思，但的的确确真实发生。

It seems that some fantastic,But really what happened.

　　2岁的儿子似乎在幼儿园受了委屈，为了“搜集证据”，孩子妈妈买了一支录音笔，放在孩子口袋里让他天天带去幼儿班。

2 years old son seems to be wronged in kindergarten,In order to"Gather evidence",The child mother bought a LuYinBi,In the children pocket let him every day to preschool class.

　　这个幼儿园的园长说：自己从教20多年，第一次遇到这样的事情。

The kindergarten the principal said:Their twenty years of teaching,First met such a thing.

　　而此事被发到网上后，不少网友感慨：难道孩子家长和老师之间，也要上演“谍战剧”了吗？

And the matter was sent to the Internet,Not a few net friend feeling:Don't children between parents and teachers,Also want to put on"Bourne war play"??

孩子妈妈： The child mother:

很想知道幼儿园里到底怎么样 Want to know what the kindergarten

　　这个幼儿园，位于温州鹿城区。买录音笔的妈妈姓季，她的儿子两岁，今年开始上小小班。

The kindergarten,Located in lucheng district of wenzhou.Buy LuYinBi mother surname season,Her son two years old,At the beginning of this year on the small class.

　　据季女士描述，11月初，她在给儿子洗澡时，发现孩子身上有瘀青，就到幼儿园询问老师和保育员；但幼儿园方面则说孩子表现不错，没有什么异常。

According to the season lady description,Early November,Her son in the shower,Found that children have bruises,Went to the kindergarten teachers and the nurse asked;But the kindergarten has said that children behaved well,No abnormal.

　　幼儿园里也没有摄像头，季女士看不到孩子上课的具体情况。不过，接下来的日子，季女士觉得儿子似乎越来越不想去幼儿园，她很想知道，到底儿子在幼儿园里表现怎么样，有没有被欺负。

In the kindergarten also does not have the camera,Ms season to see children of the specific conditions of the class.but,The next day,Season lady think the son seem to be more and more don't want to go to the kindergarten,She wanted to know,In the kindergarten son what performance,Have you ever been bullied.

　　怎么办呢？季女士在11月中旬网购了一支能工作十多个小时的录音笔，每天打开之后，放入儿子的上衣口袋，让儿子带进幼儿园。

How to do?Ms season in mid-november buys a can work more than ten hours of LuYinBi,Open every day after,In the son's coat pocket,Let the son brought into the kindergarten.

　　就这样，季女士录了整整一个星期。她说录音中的确有哭声，但不能确定哪个孩子哭；也有拍打声，但不知道是拍的是什么东西。

so,Ms season record it for a whole week.She said the recording is crying,But not sure which child cry;Also have flap,But I don't know is pat is what things.

幼儿园园长： Kindergarten calls:

当老师20多年，第一次遇到录音笔 When the teacher twenty years,LuYinBi met for the first time

　　11月28日，在孩子口袋藏了一个多星期的录音笔，不小心掉在床上了。小小班的杜老师看到了，以为是个U盘，又把录音笔还给了接孩子的家长。

November, and,The child hid in his pocket for more than a week of LuYinBi,Fell down in bed.Small class of du, his saw,Thought is a U disk,And the LuYinBi back to pick up the child's parents.

　　从这天把孩子接回去之后，季女士就再也没有让孩子去上过课。

From the day after the child to collect,Ms season will never let the child go to class.

　　又过了一个星期，季女士把录音拿给幼儿园园长听。

And after a week,Ms season the recording to the kindergarten to the principal.

　　园长告诉记者，录音她确实听了，但没什么大问题，就是老师有时候说话重了点，也向季女士做了解释：“小孩不听话，老师适当批评很正常，但绝对不会打孩子。”

The principal told reporters,She really listen to the recording,But no big problem,Is the teacher sometimes speak a little heavy,To ms season explained:"The child not obedient,The teacher appropriate criticism is normal,But absolutely can't dozen children."

　　记者了解了一下，小小班的杜老师，今年20多岁，本科院校毕业的，有教师资格证，参加工作已1年时间。杜老师也说，绝对不会打孩子的。

The reporter understands it,Small class of du, his,More than twenty years old this year,Universities and colleges of undergraduate course graduation,A teacher certificate,Attend work is 1 year time.Du, his also said,Never hit the child's.

　　不过，园长也很感慨：“这位家长太敏感，也太焦虑了，我从事教育20多年，还是第一次听说小孩带录音笔来上学。孩子的教育问题上，家长老师互相沟通才好，放录音笔这种方式，反而会影响老师们的工作和心态。”

but,The principal is also very regrets:"The parents too sensitive,Too anxious the,I'm in the education twenty years,Is the first time heard that children come to school with LuYinBi.The child's education problem,The teacher is good for you to communicate with parents,Put LuYinBi this way,It will affect the teachers work and mentality."

教育专家： Education experts:

沟通，才是最好的办法 communication,Is the best way

　　其实，记者发现，让孩子带着录音笔上幼儿班，季女士真不是第一个。

In fact,Reporter discovery,Let the child with the LuYinBi kindergarten classes,Season is not the first lady.

　　上网用“幼儿园、录音笔”为关键词搜索了一下，发现有不少“孩子上幼儿园，大家给推荐个录音笔吧”、“让女儿带录音笔去上学如何”之类的帖子。

Internet with"kindergarten/LuYinBi"For a keyword search,Discover many"Children in kindergarten,Everyone to recommend a LuYinBi it"/"Let her daughter go to school with LuYinBi"Posts such as.

　　就在最近刚刚发出的一个帖子里，有位家长就承认，看了不少幼儿园虐童新闻之后，难免闪过念头，自家的孩子在幼儿园里怎么样。

In recently issued a thread,One of the parents will admit,See a lot of kindergarten child abuse after the news,Hard to avoid a flash of thought,Their children in the kindergarten.

　　不过，也有网友不同意这样的做法。“阿大大妈妈”就认为，这种做法是在“监视”老师：“其实孩子在幼儿园磕磕碰碰，哪怕有乌青也很正常。老师当然需要适当的批评和管理。大概因为现在都是独生子女，家长对孩子过于保护了。”

but,Have net friend don't agree to this practice."O mother greatly"that,This kind of practice is in"monitoring"The teacher:"In fact the child in the kindergarten,Even if a black is also very normal.The teacher of course need appropriate criticism and management.Probably because now are only children,The parents to the child too protect."

　　温州大学教师教育学院的嵇小怡副教授听说此事后，给出了这样的观点：我们这个社会，越来越缺乏人和人之间的信任，从而也导致了家长和老师之间缺乏信任：“其实录音笔不能解决问题，更好的方式，是孩子家长和幼儿园的良好沟通。”

Wenzhou university teacher education college, an associate professor at JiXiaoYi heard what had happened,Given this point of view:Our society,More and more the lack of trust between person and person,Thus led to the lack of trust between parents and teachers:"In fact LuYinBi can't solve the problem,Better way,Is the child parents and kindergarten good communication."

　　“其实，孩子远比我们想象得更加懂事，家长在他们身上藏录音笔，说一些猜测的话，这种情绪很可能就会影响到孩子，会让孩子感觉，每天上幼儿园似乎是一种不愉快的经历。”嵇教授说，所以说，最好的方式是沟通；如果预感到沟通时情绪可能会比较激动，最好不要当着孩子面进行，这也会对他们造成不好的印象。

"In fact,Children are far more sensible than we thought,Parents in their LuYinBi is hidden,Say some words of speculation,The mood very possible will affect children,Will make the children feel,In the kindergarten every day seems to be a bad experience."Ji professor says,so,The best way is communication;If a presentiment communicate emotions may be more excited,Had better not in front of children face,It will make a bad impression to them.

　　嵇教授说，孩子上幼儿园，基本都是他们人生中第一次接触集体生活：“家长要和老师配合，引导孩子自己去处理遇到的各种问题，引导孩子更好地融入小朋友中。如果只是一味地保护孩子，只会让孩子越来越胆小。”

Ji professor says,Children in kindergarten,Basic it is the first time in their lives contact collective life:"Parents and teachers fit,Guide your child to deal with the different kinds of problems,Guide your child to better into the children.If just to protect children,Will only let the child more and more timid."