“我不怕孩子问‘我从哪里来’，只怕被追问，‘我是怎么进去的’、‘精子和卵子是怎么相遇的’。”晨报本月24日刊登了《“我从哪里来？”“80后”父母纠结实话实说的尺度》报道后，引起众多“80后”家长[微博]的共鸣。他们说，和父辈相比，已经不会谈性色变，但是在面对孩子追问敏感问题时，还是会觉得无法招架，难以启齿。在国外，父母是如何对孩子进行性教育的？记者昨天采访了数名在沪的留学生，答案不一。而记者翻阅儿童性教育书籍和绘本，发现当触及性教育的敏感问题时，各类书籍的说法也不一样。专家表示，面对孩子的各类性问题，要秉承科学的原则坦然相告。

"I am not afraid of being asked‘Where I came from’,If you are asking,‘How do I go in’/‘Sperm and egg is how to meet’."The morning paper 24, published this month["Where I came from?""After 80"The scale of the parents strands to be honest]After reports,Caused by many"After 80"Parents/micro bo.They say,Compared with parents,Have not talks of color change,But in the face of the child - sensitive question,Still feel unsuccessfully,Was reluctant to.In a foreign country,How do parents progressive education for children?Reporter interviewed several foreign students in Shanghai yesterday,The answer is.The reporters through parole education books and picture books,Found when reach the sensitive issue of sex education,All kinds of books that are different.Experts say,In the face of the child all kinds of problems,To adhering to the scientific principles of calm.

新一代家长对敏感问题乱阵脚 A new generation of parents of sensitive problem random condition

　　“女儿3岁时问过我，她是从哪里来的，我当时很坦然地告诉她，是从我的肚子里出来的。一段时间后，她追问是怎么进到我肚子里的，我有些犹豫，但还是解释说，你是爸爸的精子和妈妈的卵子在妈妈的肚子里相遇后的结晶。又过了两年，有一天女儿突然问，‘那精子和卵子到底是怎么相遇的呢’，面对这个问题我再也招架不住了……”随着女儿的成长，在性教育过程中，家住虹口的吴女士讲述了自己从坦然到犹豫再到难以启齿的过程。吴女士认为，如果是一些可以用日常语言表述的性问题，自己还可能招架，一旦涉及专业术语以及敏感词汇，就实在是有口难开。

"Daughter asked me at the age of 3,Where does she come from,I was very open to tell her,From my belly inside come out.After a period of time,She ask how into the my belly,I'm a little hesitant,But still explained,You are mom and dad's sperm eggs in the mother's belly after meeting.And after two years,One day my daughter asked suddenly,‘The sperm and egg is how to meet’,Facing this problem I can not sustain the......"Along with the growth of the daughter,In the process of sex education,Live in hongkou ms wu told yourself from have to hesitate to unable to process.Ms wu think,If it is some can be used daily language expression of sexual problems,You may also parry,Once involved in professional term and sensitive words,There is really difficult to open the mouth.

　　在性教育的问题上，不少“70末”或“80后”的家长都面临着同样的尴尬。小时候都曾被“你是捡来的”回答糊弄过的他们，在“我从哪里来”这个问题上不想再欺骗孩子，但面对孩子的问题，尤其是触及更敏感的问题时，却也乱了阵脚。

On the issue of sex education,A lot of"At the end of 70"or"After 80"Parents are faced with the same awkward.When I was a child were used to be"Are you pick up the"Answer to deceive them,In the"Where I came from"Don't want to deceive children on this issue,But faced with the problem of children,Especially the problem of more sensitive to touch,But it is wrong.

留学生回忆父母如何性教育 Students to recall how parents sex education

　　在国外，父母是如何对孩子进行性教育？为此，我们采访了数名在沪的留学生。

In a foreign country,How do parents progressive education for children?For this,We interviewed a number of foreign students in Shanghai.

　　来自美国的阿什丽告诉记者：“5岁时问过妈妈‘我是从哪儿来的’，当时妈妈正在做饭，她停了下来，抱起我坐到椅子上，非常温柔地回答了我的问题。关于她的回答因为时间太久有些记不清了，大概意思就是两个彼此相爱的人，他们想更加靠近对方的话就会生孩子，男人的精子和女人的卵子在一起，然后婴儿开始长大。”

From the United States, what li told reporters:"Asked the mother at the age of 5‘Where did I come from’,Mother was cooking at that time,She stopped,Picked up I sit on the chair,Very softly answered my question.Some don't remember about her answer because time is too long,Probably means two people love each other,They want to more close to the other person is saying will give birth to a kid,A man's sperm with the woman's egg,Then the baby began to grow up."

　　美国男孩帕特里克则是在7岁的时候询问过他的父亲：“为什么女孩邻居彭妮和我长得不一样？”“然后我就知道了乳房、阴部，睾丸……后来我们到了高中之后，就不需要再询问父母了，同龄人间也可以问。”

American boy Patrick is at the age of 7 inquired of his father:"Why girl neighbors penny and I look different?""Then I will know that the breast/pussy,Testicular...Later we went to high school,Don't need to ask my parents,Age men can also asked."

　　西班牙的留学生阿夫里尔则表示，西班牙的家庭并不会把性教育“当作一回事”，在孩子有问题或是疑惑的时候，父母都给予解答和帮助。这种情况不单适用于“我从哪里来”，还包括了在生长发育阶段的一些问题。“一般六七岁的小孩都已经知道自己是从哪里来的。”

Spain's foreign students, lille, chertoff said,Spain's family does not have sex education"As a matter",When children have questions or concerns,All parents to answer and help.Not only apply to this situation"Where I came from",Also included in the growth stage of some problems."Average at the age of six or seven kids already know where it came from."

　　来自新加坡的黄同学隐约记得很小的时候，问过爸爸妈妈“我从哪里来”。“妈妈说是被海水冲上来的，当时觉得自己被妈妈捡到好幸运。后来小学的时候又问了一次，这次妈妈说是她生出来的，然后我就完全处于‘妈妈生自己好痛苦’的想象中，没有接下去问了。”

From Singapore HuangTongXue vaguely remember at a very young age,Asked mom and dad"Where I came from"."My mother said it was washed by the sea,At that time, feel oneself to be picked up by a mother good lucky.When the primary school asked a second time,The mother said she came out,Then I fully‘Mother gave birth to his good pain’In the imagination of,No ask next."

　　来自韩国的成同学表示：“韩国对性很保守，女孩子一般不会询问父母这个问题，我是这么认为的”。

From South Korea a classmate said:"South Korea is very conservative to sex,Girls don't usually ask parents this question,I think so".

国内“性教育”教材多含蓄 domestic"Sex education"The teaching material more introverted

　　如何回答孩子关于性的敏感问题？有家长想到求助于国内外的性教育书籍、绘本。记者近日也购买、查阅了10本国内外各类儿童性教育图书、绘本。

How to answer the child about sex sensitive question?Parents had thought of turning to sex education books at home and abroad/Draw the.Reporters recently also buy/Refer to 10 country inside and outside of all kinds of parole education books/Draw the.

　　上理工附小和上海教育出版社合作编写的本市首套中小学性别教育教材《男孩女孩》中，没有回避“卵子”、“精子”、“卵巢”、“睾丸”这类生理器官的词汇，而且巧妙地用漫画的形式、以及一些隐喻式的描述来表现。

In the primary school of science and technology and Shanghai education press cooperation write this city the first set of sex education for primary and secondary schools[Boys and girls]In the,Not to avoid"eggs"/"sperm"/"ovarian"/"testicular"This kind of physiological organs of vocabulary,And ably in the form of comics/And some of the description of the metaphor.

　　在一本名为《成长与性》的中国儿童性教育绘本中，在“生命的来源”章节，书中用文字呈现：“爸爸和妈妈创造生命的器官(生殖器官)接触，爸爸便将生殖器官里的精子种到妈妈的身体里，与妈妈生殖器官里的卵子结合，形成新的生命。”此外，书中另外的章节里还结合图解介绍了男女的生殖器官。《歪歪兔儿童性关怀系列图画书》在提及爸爸怎么把“种子”种到妈妈身体里时，给出的解释为：爸爸的种子在他的生殖器官里，妈妈的种子在妈妈的生殖器官里，当他们碰到一起时，爸爸的种子就种到妈妈的身体里了。

In a book called[Growth and sex]China's parole education picture books,In the"The source of life"chapter,Book with words:"Mom and dad to create life of organs(Reproductive organs)contact,Dad took the sperm in the reproductive organs of the mother's body,With my mother in the reproductive organs of eggs,Form a new life."In addition,The other chapters in the book is based on the diagram, this paper presents the male and female reproductive organs.[Parole the ji ji slanting rabbit care series of picture books]In the mentioned how to dad"seeds"Kind to mother the body,The interpretation of the given:Dad's seed in his reproductive organs,Mother's seeds in the mother's reproductive organs,When they met together,Dad's seed is kind to the mother's body.

　　在《从子宫到地球的距离》的儿童性教育家庭读本中，阐释了性行为：性行为是指男性把阴茎插入女性的阴道，由于兴奋产生射精，将精子输送到女性身体里的过程。

In the[From the womb to the distance of the earth]Parole reader in the family education,Explains the sexual behavior:Sexual behavior refers to the male insert the penis into the woman's vagina,Caused by excitement ejaculation,The sperm to the process of the female body.

　　与上述读本相比，香港家庭计划指导会出版的《我从哪里来》似乎更通俗明了，其中写道：“妈妈的卵巢制造卵子。卵子的形状圆圆的，像个荷包蛋。爸爸的睾丸制造精子。精子的形状像蝌蚪，头尖尖，尾巴长长。”配合这些文字的，是图画里妈妈和爸爸的身体。读本里还有对父母性器官的介绍，尤其是其中有关性交和孩子出生的两张图片，被网友大呼“尺度有点大”。在日本和德国的性教育读本中，也能看到性交场面的图片，被网友直呼“实事求是”。

Compared with the reader,The publication of the family planning association of Hong Kong[Where I came from]Seems to be more popular,One wrote:"Mother's ovarian eggs.The shape of the eggs, round,Like a Fried eggs.Dad's testicular sperm.The shape of the sperm like tadpoles,Head pointed,Tail long."With these words,Is mom and dad body in the picture.Reader in organ in the introduction to your parents,Especially among them about sex and children born in the two pictures,Be out of net"Size is a little big".The sex education in Japan and Germany in the reader,Can see pictures of sex scenes,By the net friend call"Seeking truth from facts".

　　一名不愿意透露姓名的家长表示，为了找到性教育中这类敏感问题的答案，自己曾查阅了国内外不少性教育书籍。她发现，国内的性教育读本很多都是相对较为含蓄。“但是国外的读本又好像太露骨了，把男女性交的场景赤裸裸地呈现出来，连我都吃不消，更不会给孩子看了。”

A is not willing to give his name in the name of the parent,In order to find the answer to such sensitive issues in the sex education,He had access to the many sex education books at home and abroad.She found that,Domestic sexual education book many are relatively more implicative."But the foreign reader and as close to the bone,The men and women sex scenes to show naked out,Even I was unable to,More won't give their children watch."

[专家支招]有技巧地回答“技术性问题” [expert support] have skills to answer"Technical problems"

　　上海性教育协会副会长苏颂兴建议，不同年龄的孩子，由于心智阶段不同，回答的方式也可以不同。比如学龄前儿童，可以讲到“你从妈妈肚子里来”；到了小学，就可以讲精子和卵子；进入青春期，孩子问及两性问题时，则要告知孩子，性的需求是和社会责任相结合的。

Shanghai sex education association, vice President of SuSongXing Suggestions,Children of different ages,Due to the different stage of mental,Answer the way can also be different.Such as preschool children,Can be said"You come from in mommy's tummy";In primary school,Can speak sperm and egg;puberty,The child asked about gender issues,Will inform the children,The demand is and the combination of social responsibility.

　　儿童性教育专家胡萍表示，“10岁前的孩子，可以告诉他们，爸爸妈妈身体接触，精子就会进到妈妈身体里，遇到卵子。10岁以后的孩子可能会进一步问，爸爸和妈妈身上哪个部位接触的？家长这个时候依然要如实回答。”但在解答这个问题时，家长要抱着科学的态度，解决“技术性”的问题，但是一般不要用“性交”、“做爱”、“兴奋”这样带有成人色彩的词汇来回答孩子的问题，否则会造成孩子的性意识被提前唤醒。

Parole education experts said hu ping,"Before the age of 10 children,Can you tell them,Mom and dad body contact,Sperm will be into the mother body,Meets egg.After 10 years old children may be further asked,Mom and dad body which part contact?Parents still have to truthfully answer at this time."But when the solve this problem,Parents should hold the attitude of science,To solve the"technical"The problem of,But generally don't use"Sexual intercourse"/"make love"/"excited"So with adult of color words to answer the problem of the child,Otherwise will cause children of sexual consciousness be wake up early.

　　上海性教育协会副会长苏颂兴表示：“不管回答任何年龄段的孩子，关于性的任 何 问题，都要坚持讲科学 的 原则。 ”

Shanghai sex education association, vice President of SuSongXing said:"Whatever answer children of any age,For any question about sex,All must adhere to the principles of science. "

　　儿童性教育专家胡萍表示：“对于 ‘精子和卵子如何相遇’这 类 问题，要根据孩子的年龄和心智发展程度，给予不同的回答。 ”（晨报记者 林颖颖 实习生 周浥卉 宣圣琦）

Parole education experts said hu ping:"for ‘Sperm and egg how to meet’This kind of problem,According to the child's age and mental development,Give different answers. "(Morning paper reporter LinYingYing interns weeks Yi ou XuanShengQi)