朋友家的小孩狂热地喜欢上了玩电脑游戏，朋友很痛苦，来找邓志革倾诉，邓志革淡淡一笑，劝他说：“没事儿！不要把孩子逼绝了！”

My friend's house child crazily like playing computer games,Friends are very pain,To find DengZhiGe pour out,DengZhiGe smile,Told him:"That's all right!Don't leave the child forced despised!"

　　邓志革，湖南株洲职业技术学院院长，从事教育工作30余年，儿子邓滔崧正在美国波士顿大学攻读经济学硕士。邓志革很少在旁人面前大谈自己的育儿经，但他身边的亲戚朋友都知道，邓志革的儿子曾经是著名的“网吧少年”，为了把儿子从电脑游戏前拉回来，他和夫人用尽各种办法，整个过程可以用惊心动魄、置之死地而后生来形容。

DengZhiGe,Hunan zhuzhou vocational and technical college dean,Engaged in education work more than 30 years,Son DengTao pastel, currently in the United States Boston university for a master's degree in economics.DengZhiGe rarely in front of others about their parenting the,But he nearby of relatives and friends all know,DengZhiGe son was famous"Internet bar young",In order to put the son from computer game pull back,He and his wife used various methods,The whole process can use heartquake/Born in desperate and described.

　　“在儿子沉迷于网络游戏的日子，我悲、苦、恨、气、恼、怒、羞，什么感觉都有，唯一没有的就是对孩子的绝望。”邓志革说。

"In the son addicted to online game day,I am sad/bitter/hate/gas/angered/anger/shame,What feeling,Not only is to the child's despair."DengZhiGe said.

　　

在班主任办公室里，年近五旬的父亲嚎啕大哭 The teacher in charge in the office,Nearly Pentecostal the father wail aloud to weep aloud

　　

“除了真情和信任，没有任何计谋能够对孩子起作用” "In addition to love and trust,No counsel for children to play a role"

　　那是一段猫捉老鼠的岁月。

It was a cat to catch mice years.

　　邓滔崧上初三的时候，班主任老师发来的一条短信让邓志革很是疑惑：“你儿子上课总是打瞌睡，难道是夜里睡眠不够吗？”邓志革也纳闷了，每天晚上10点，儿子总是准时上床睡觉，难道这中间有啥猫儿腻？

DengTao pastel on the third day,The teacher in charge teacher sent a message to DengZhiGe is very confused:"Your son is always doze off in class,Is it enough sleep at night?"DengZhiGe also felt suspicious,Every 10 p.m.,Son is always go to bed on time,Is this what MaoErNi among?

　　一天夜里两点，邓志革起来查房，发现客厅里面的电脑冒着蓝光，没有关上，推开儿子的房间一看，儿子和衣而卧，两眼假寐。原来半个月以来，儿子总是趁着他们睡熟的时候起来关掉声音打电游，刚才听到他的房屋有响声，儿子来不及关电脑就跑回房间了。

One night at two o 'clock,DengZhiGe up ward,Found sitting in the computer at the blue light,No close,Push the son's room a look,Son go to bed in one's clothes,Two eyes doze.The original since half a month,Son is always before they turn off the sound when asleep up play electric swim,Just heard his house a noise,Son too late to turn off the computer and ran back to the room.

　　知道在家里深夜上网已再无可能，邓滔崧开始找各种理由外出。一天晚上，已经过了10点，还不见儿子回来，夫人急了，给邓志革打电话：“滔崧说晚上到同学家给别人过生日！”他立即打电话给儿子要好的一名同学的妈妈，对方说：“我儿子说，今天是邓滔崧的生日！”事情败露，两个孩子商量好了欺骗家长。漆黑的夜里，邓志革和夫人沿街挨个网吧搜索，终于，在一家网吧里见到了儿子和同学正在联网打游戏，那投入的眼神和表情告诉他，此时此刻的儿子已经完全沉浸在游戏中，忘记了时间，忘记了回家，也忘记了自己还是一个孩子。

Know at home late at night and there was no Internet already can,DengTao pastel began to find out all sorts of reason.One night,Has been ten points,I have yet to see son came back,Lady nasty,DengZhiGe to make a phone call:"The deep pastel said evening to students to other people's birthday!"He immediately called son good a classmate's mother,Each other and say:"My son said,Today is DengTao pastel birthday!"It found out,Two children company good cheated parents.Dark night,DengZhiGe and Mrs. One by one down the street Internet search,finally,In a net bar to see his son and students are playing games online,The input of look in the eyes and face told him,At this moment the son has to be totally immersed in the game,Lost track of time,Forgotten to go home,Also forgot or a child.

　　打也打了，骂也骂了，不起作用。“不敢打狠了，骂狠了，怕以后对抗我们更难管理。”教师出身的邓志革深谙教育之道。

Dozen also played,Scold also scolded,Doesn't work."Can't play hard,Scold hard,Afraid of later against us more difficult to manage."A teacher DengZhiGe know the way of education.

　　月考结束了。全年级学生大排行，原来儿子在学校能排50名左右，这次跌到了260名。邓志革这个大院长被班主任“提溜”到了学校。“你儿子这样下去很危险，没有好大学读，你们做家长的再不管，这孩子怕是要毁了！”班主任的话毫不留情。邓志革看着儿子的黑眼圈，他当然知道问题出在哪里。一边是儿子倔强的软硬不吃的一副表情，一边是班主任刺耳的各种言语，快50岁的邓志革那一刻突然不知如何是好，他失态地在班主任的办公室里面嚎啕大哭起来。“儿子，你赶紧醒醒吧！老爸求你了！”儿子见状慌了，赶紧蹲下身子，帮助老爸擦眼泪，“您别哭了，好不好，我改我改！”儿子一脸的悔意。

Test on the end of the.All DaPaiHang grade students,The original son in the school can row about fifty name,The dropped to 260.DengZhiGe this dean was the teacher in charge"hold"The school."Your son go on like this is very dangerous,There is no good university read,You do the parents again no matter,I'm afraid the child to ruin!"The teacher in charge words no mercy.DengZhiGe looked at son's black rim of the eye,He certainly know where's the problem here.One is the son of the hard and soft stubborn won't eat a pair of expression,One is the teacher in charge of harsh words,Fast fifty years old DengZhiGe that moment suddenly don't know how to do,He started in the teacher in charge's office wail up inside."son,You to wake up!Daddy please!"See this son panic,Quickly moved down the body,Help father to wipe tears,"You don't cry,good,I've changed my I changed my!"Son of a face of regret.

　　事后回想起自己当时的做法，邓志革说：“眼泪是真心实意流下来的，绝对不是苦肉计！除了真情和信任，没有任何计谋能够对孩子起作用。”

Later recalled his practice at that time,DengZhiGe said:"Tears are flowing down from your heart,Absolutely not help!In addition to love and trust,No counsel for children to play a role."

　　

父子相互承诺签署特殊保证书 Father and son mutual commitment signed the special bond

　　

“见到成绩下滑，我也想管住自己，但感觉缺乏点外在的压力” "See grades slipped,I also want to control yourself,But feel lack of some external pressure"

　　但眼泪归眼泪，一星期之后，放学回家又看不到儿子的身影了，邓滔崧开始准时到网吧报到，夜场游戏里有他忙碌的手和眼睛，沿街四处搜捕儿子的行动又成了邓志革和夫人的必修课。

But tears to tears,After a week,Come home from school and see the figure of the son,DengTao pastel began to arrive on time for Internet cafes,An evening in the game has his busy hands and eyes,Down the street for around the son of action and have become DengZhiGe and lady a required course.

　　有一天，儿子突然拉住邓志革，对他说：“老爸，你和我妈以后也别满大街抓我了，咱们做个交易如何？”见儿子主动提出解决问题的办法，邓志革眼前一亮。“啥交易？”“你允许我每周日痛痛快快玩游戏，不管多长时间，不许干预。我保证平时好好上课，最后给你考个重点本科！”“君子一言，驷马难追！”儿子与他击掌！邓志革看看儿子说：“口说无凭，咱得立个字据！”

One day,Son suddenly took DengZhiGe,Said to him:"dad,You and my mom later don't full avenue to catch me,Let's make a deal?"See son offered a solution to the problem,DengZhiGe shine at the moment."What trade?""You allow me good game every Sunday,No matter how long,No intervention.I promise I usually take the class,Finally give you test a key undergraduate course!""An honest man's word,recalling!"Son and he give me five!DengZhiGe see son said:"Minister oral,I have to make a written evidence!"

　　于是，父子在副校长的见证下，签署了一份特殊的“保证书”：经过父子协商，我们达成以下协议：一、父亲邓志革保证每周日允许儿子邓滔崧玩游戏一整天，家长不得以各种理由干涉。二、儿子邓滔崧向父亲保证，周日以外时间好好学习，高三毕业后考取湖南大学。签字人：邓志革 邓滔崧，证明人：副校长某某。于是，这份史无前例的保证书被放在了学校副校长的抽屉里面。

so,Father and son in the testimony of the vice President of the next,Signed a special"guarantee":After the father and son consultation,We reached the following agreement:a/Father DengZhiGe guarantee every Sunday to allow my son to DengTao pastel play games all day,Parents may interfere with a variety of reasons.two/Son to father that DengTao pastel,Except Sunday time to study well,After graduating from high school admitted to hunan university.signatory:DengZhiGe DengTao pastel,references:Vice President XXX.so,This unprecedented bond were placed in the school vice principal of the drawer.

　　回忆起这份特殊的保证书，邓滔崧很感谢父亲当年对自己的信任。他说，父亲没有把我当成敌人、对手或者是坏孩子，而是把我当成一个可以信赖的朋友，有种“多年父子成兄弟”的感觉。他后来对父亲说过这样一段话：“见到成绩下滑，我也想管住自己，但感觉缺乏点外在的压力。我当时就觉得，我一定要考上大学，否则对不起我爸在老师面前流下的眼泪！”

Remember this special bond,DengTao pastel thank father had his trust.He said,Father didn't put me as the enemy/Opponents or a bad boy,But put me as a friend he can believe in,Have a"Years of father and son into brothers"feeling.He later to the father said such a sentence:"See grades slipped,I also want to control yourself,But feel lack of some external pressure.At the time I think,I must pass the college entrance examination,Otherwise I'm sorry my father shed tears in front of the teacher!"

　　生活按照约定匀速前进着。儿子如约以优异成绩考入湖南大学。

Life, in accordance with the contract, uniform to go forward.Keep the son with excellent performance was admitted to hunan university.

　　

大学里儿子现身说法帮扶网瘾同学 The university that advise son helping students addiction

　　

“给孩子自己成长的机会和时间，家长需要做的有时候只是等待” "Give your child the opportunity to grow and time,Parents need to do sometimes just waiting"

　　故事到此如果终结，还不够精彩。在儿子上大三的时候，某天湖南大学一位领导在一次会议上看到了邓志革，拉住他私下说：“老邓，你不知道你儿子现在有多棒！”

The story of this if the end,Still was not good enough.The son in his junior year,One day a leadership of hunan university in a meeting to see the DengZhiGe,Took his private said:"One person.but,You don't know how good your son now!"

　　“咋了？”邓志革一脸惊愕。

"zha?"DengZhiGe a face of consternation.

　　原来，湖南大学搞了一个学生活动，让优秀的学生帮扶那些整天沉迷网络游戏导致挂科的学生，社团的负责人说了很多点子。最后邓滔崧站了出来，“我觉得你们说得都不对路，因为你们不懂玩游戏的人的心理。”“那你懂吗？”“当然，我从上一年级开始就去网吧，我爸和我斗争了12年。”邓滔崧以自己的例子现身说法，敞开心扉和沉迷网游的学生交流，最绝的是他在网吧摆了一个擂台，一个人横扫了十一个对手，那些孩子全服了，邓滔崧说：“可是，我现在不玩儿，我以前觉得考不上大学，我老爸没有面子，但现在我是为自己读书。”那些同学被邓滔崧的传奇经历打动，很多人就此幡然醒悟，走出迷途。

The original,Hunan university make a student activities,Let the good student supporting those who spend all day addict network game is hanged division to the students,Corporate officials said a lot of ideas.Finally DengTao pastel stand out,"I think you are not marketable,Because you don't understand to play the game the person's psychology.""That you understand??""Of course,I'm from grade one to go to Internet cafes,My dad and I struggle for 12 years."DengTao pastel in their own example that advise,Open your heart and indulging online student exchange,The most unique is that he in the net cafe put a ring,A man made a clean sweep of the eleven opponents,The children all served,DengTao pastel said:"but,Now I'm not playing,I used to think I failed university,My dad did not face,But now I am reading for himself."The students were DengTao pastel legend by experience,A lot of people in this were disillusioned,Out of the lost.

　　这件事后来传到了学校一位领导的耳朵里，经过多方了解，他才知道，这位大学校园里的传奇人物原来是他的老朋友邓志革的公子。

This event to the school a leadership's ear,After much understand,He didn't know,The university campus legend was his old friend DengZhiGe's son.

　　听到朋友的叙述，邓志革的内心涌出一股暖流。他想起了邓滔崧的老师当年安慰他时说的话：“有的孩子不能教育，有的孩子可以教育，你一定要相信自己的孩子是可以教育的。”“应该给孩子自己成长的机会和时间，家长需要做的有时候只是等待。”邓志革说。

Hear your friend's account,DengZhiGe heart gushed out a stream of warm current.He thought of his DengTao pastel teacher said that words to comfort him:"Some children can't education,Some children can education,You have to believe that their children can be of education.""Should give the child grow on your own opportunity and time,Parents need to do sometimes just waiting."DengZhiGe said.

　　毕业了，邓志革希望儿子读研，邓滔崧告诉老爸，他的志向是出国留学。出国之前，他想请学校的一位教授给自己写推荐信，可这位教授对于推荐学生的事情很审慎，他婉拒了邓滔崧的请求。

graduated,DengZhiGe hope son to go to graduate school,DengTao pastel tell dad,His ambition is to go abroad to study abroad.Before going abroad,He wanted to please the school a professor to write their own recommendation letter,But the professor to recommend students business is prudent,He declined DengTao pastel request.

　　邓滔崧给那位教授写了一封信：我高中的时候经常逃课上网，梦想便是开一个网吧。我不需要像其他同学一样，抓住高考改变命运。成绩不差，主要是数学与物理成绩较好，是因为比较虚荣，怕被别人说笨。……如今我要毕业了，我的梦想是坚定地走自己的路，去学经济学，成为一名真正的学者，成为一个对国家有用的人。祝您一切顺利、全家健康！改日学生定当登门请教！

DengTao pastel to the professor wrote a letter:My high school often skip classes online,Dream is to open an Internet cafe.I don't need like other students,Seize the college entrance examination change destiny.Performance is not bad,Mainly is the mathematics and physics better results,Because it is more vanity,Afraid of being said stupid.……Now I am going to graduate from graduate school,My dream is to firmly go his own way,To learn economics,To become a real scholar,Become a useful person to the country.I wish you every success/Family health!Another day students shall consult the house!

　　邓滔崧把信给父亲转发了一份，邓志革阅后的第一感觉是欣喜，他告诉儿子：“如果我是那教授，我一定为你写推荐信。”

DengTao pastel gave his father a forward,DengZhiGe after reading the first feeling is joy,He told:"If I were the professor,I must write a recommendation for you."

　　教授果真推荐了邓滔崧，他飞到了大洋彼岸，开始了崭新的留学生活。（记者 桂杰）

Professor if recommended DengTao pastel,He flew to ocean the other shore,Start a new study life.(Reporter GuiJie)

　　(来源:中国青年报)

(Source: China youth daily)