家长学生“暗战”玩起高科技 Parents students"Dark war"Play high-tech

　　眼下，年轻人求学工作离家越来越远，跟父母的沟通也越来越少。过去父母为了了解子女的最新动态，翻抽屉、看日记，但现在却不得不做起了“新新人类”，贴吧、空间、博客、人人、微博一个也不落下，父母孩子玩起“暗战”，孩子大喊遭“监视”，父母却直言只是关心。

the,Young people more and more far away from home school work,With their parents have less communication.The past parents to understand the latest trends of children,Turn drawer/See diary,But now have to working"New new mankind",stick/space/blog/everyone/Micro bo a also doesn't fall,Parents children play"Dark war",The children were Shouting"monitoring",But the truth is just care about their parents.

你有没有遭“潜伏”？ Have you ever had"latent"?

　　昨天，山大小树林贴吧里，网友“智·微风祈愿”发帖大呼“贴吧已经被爸妈渗透了！”原来是该网友在一次球赛中伤了手，本来伤势不重，也就没打算告诉家长，怕家里人担心，在贴吧里跟其他网友聊天的时候提到这事，不久家长便得知了此事，还被教训不小心，原来自己的老爸老妈早就已经活跃于贴吧，网友觉得父母逼自己太紧，没有自己的私密空间，引起了众网友的共鸣。有网友随之附和，称自己的空间经常遭家长光顾，自己每天的动态都掌握在父母手中，只能用“马甲”来贴吧发言，却还是没有安全感。“感同身受。我爸在小树林都5级了”，网友“无敌小众”跟帖说。网友“CorpseChen”说，“我爸加我QQ然后把我空间所有日志状态看了一遍，再然后我果断删好友。”

yesterday,The size of the mountain forest stick,Net friend"Wisdom · breeze wish"Post big call"Stick has been parents penetrate!"It is the net friend in a game slander his hand,Was the injury is not serious,They also didn't intend to tell parents,Afraid of family worry,In the stick with other net friend chat of time it mentioned,Soon the parents he learned that the event,Also be lessons are not careful,It's how I met your mother have been active in the stick,Netizens think parents push yourself too tight,Don't have their own private space,Cause the net friend resonance.Have net friend then echo,Say their own space often visit by parents,My daily dynamic is held in the hands of parents,Can only use"Ma3 jia3"To stick to speak,But not a sense of security."empathy.My dad in the small woods all the level 5",Net friend"Invincible little all the"Reply said.Net friend"CorpseChen"said,"My dad add my QQ and then I space all log state see again,Then I decisive delete friends."

　　网络被“潜伏”，学子反应不一自己的QQ空间和贴吧被父母“潜伏”，学子们看法不一。有网友认为，“现在的老爸老妈太霸气了”，“好有爱”；也有一些网友直呼“被监视，受不了”。有网友建言，这样的事情还是要跟家长讲明，“猜忌是最大的伤害”，“容易造成家庭矛盾”。网友“不能拥有别忘记”则直接给家长发帖声称，“尽管爱子心切，但还是希望能拥有自己一点自由的空间”。

Network is"latent",Students have different reaction his QQ space and stick by parents"latent",Students opinions differ.Netizens think,"Now the ssi is the show","Good love";There are also some net friend call"monitoring,Can't stand"."Netizens,Such a thing or to parents to stipulate,"Jealousy is the biggest damage","Easy to cause the family conflicts".Net friend"Can't have don't forget"Is directly give parents the post said,"Although aiko eager,But I still hope to be able to have yourself a little free space".

　　随着网络的发展，现在的年轻人喜欢用网络来记录自己的生活，与网友互动频繁，却冷落了家长。不少家长们只能以“潜伏”的方式来渗透进孩子们的生活。

Along with the development of the network,Now young people like to use the network to record your own life,With the frequent interaction between users,But neglected the parents.Many parents will"latent"Way to penetrate into the children's lives.

　　专家：可以理解，但还是要多正面沟通山东师范大学教育学院副教授、心理学博士董会琴认为，家长这样做，目的是想了解孩子更多的信息，这种做法其实可以理解。毕竟现在的孩子并不是非常愿意与家长倾诉，家长想要知道孩子的生活、关心孩子，这是必然的。但是，从网络上获得这些信息之后如何处理很关键。董会琴教授建议家长不要把这些“情报”当做把柄，而是妥善把现象背后的问题处理好，方式要委婉。“我们还是要提倡多与孩子沟通交流，把自己当做孩子的朋友，让孩子心甘情愿的跟家长倾诉、交谈。”她说。(记者徐玉芹实习生任晓萌)

experts:Can understand,But still want to more positive communication education college of shandong normal university associate professor/Psychology doctor DongHuiQin think,Parents do,Purpose is to want to know their children more information,This practice actually can understand.After all, now the child is not very willing to talk with parents,Parents want to know the life of the child/Care for children,This is inevitable.but,Get the information from the Internet after the very key to how to deal with.DongHuiQin professor suggested that parents don't take these"intelligence"As handle,But behind the phenomenon properly deal with the problem,Be tactful way."We still have to advocate and children communication,As a child his friend,Let the child willing to parents talk/conversation."She said.(Reporter XuYuQin RenXiaoMeng interns)