张乔峰没有想到，他发在回龙观社区网站上、介绍儿子在家上学经历的帖子，竟然让自己高调走进公众视野。一个多月来，已经有几十家媒体采访他，许多父母辗转找到他，希望让孩子跟着他学习。几天前他去石家庄电视台录制一个节目，还有两位分别从武汉和内蒙古特意远道而来的父亲，希望与他当面一聊。他们都对孩子目前在学校的学习状况不太满意。

ZhangQiaoFeng didn't think，He sent in light on enterprise、Introduce the experience of home school son thread，Unexpectedly let his high-profile into public view。More than a month，Has dozens of media an interview with him，Many parents find he traveled，Hope to let the children learn with him。A few days before he went to shijiazhuang TV recording a program，Have two respectively from the wuhan and Inner Mongolia have the distinguished father，Hope to talk with him face to face。They are currently in the school for children learning status was not satisfied。

　　这位北京大学的毕业生感到了压力。因为在与媒体和家长的接触中，经常有人对他的行为表示不理解和质疑，甚至认为他把刚刚上小学一年级的孩子从学校领回家，是在冒险，是对孩子不负责任。

The Peking University graduate feel pressure。Because with the media and parents in the contact，People often to his behavior said don't understand and questioned，Even thought he put on just a first-grade children brought home from school，Is at risk，Children irresponsible。

　　其实，张乔峰是学校教育的胜出者。当年，他因为数学竞赛成绩突出，从福建农村被保送进入北京大学物理系。可是，当他进入大学后，发现自己只会考试，其他能力非常欠缺。甚至当家乡的父母官到北京看望这些高考的佼佼者，让他在座谈会上讲几句话时，他都不知说什么。于是，他申请休学一年，在图书馆“恶补”人文社科书籍，之后调整专业进入社会学系。

In fact，ZhangQiaoFeng is the school education winners。That year，Mathematics competition because of his outstanding achievements，From fujian countryside walked into Beijing university physics department。but，When he entered the university，Found himself will only exam，Other ability is very deficient。Even when hometown to Beijing to see the famous official in the top of the university entrance exam，Let him give to say a few words，He didn't know what to say。so，He applied for a year off，In the library“Boning up on”Humanities and social science books，After entering society adjusting professional department。

　　当看到独生子上学两三周就开始“打蔫儿”，张乔峰果断地向学校提出退学，辞去年薪几十万元的工作，开始在家教子。

When see two or three weeks only son to school begins“DaNianEr”，ZhangQiaoFeng resolutely put forward to school drop out of school，Annual salary of several hundred thousand yuan quit work，Start at home to visit his godfather。

　　和张乔峰一样，当下许多中国家长尤其是城市里的家长，对中小学教育有诸多不满。于是，其中一些人开始用行动表达不满：让孩子“在家上学”或者进入私人办的私塾、学堂。

And ZhangQiaoFeng as，Then many Chinese parents, especially in the city of parents，For primary and secondary school education, there are many discontent。so，Some people began to use the expressing dissatisfaction：Let children“Home school”Or enter the private do xue、school。

　　目前在北京、上海、广东、浙江、江苏、湖北、云南等地存在大量“在家上学”个案。对于这一现象，中国青年报曾以《“在家上学” 逃离批量生产》为题做过报道。

At present in Beijing、Shanghai、guangdong、zhejiang、jiangsu、hubei、Yunnan, there are a lot“Home school”case。For this phenomenon，China youth daily has to《“Home school” Escape from batch production》Do under the reported。

　　在当今的多数中国城市家庭，女性占据着教育的主导地位。决定孩子学什么特长、上什么补习班的是母亲；想方设法让孩子择校的是母亲；费尽心思搬家租房以便有利于孩子学习的是母亲；在幼儿园、小学、中学中，大部分教师是女老师。

In today's most Chinese urban households，Female dominated the education of the dominant position。Decided to children learn what special features、What is the mother of the cram school；Try to let the child of the school is the mother；Tried to move in order to help to rent a learning is the mother；In kindergarten、Elementary school、Middle schools，Most of the teachers are the female teacher。

　　而中国青年报记者在进一步的采访中发现，“在家上学”现象与父亲的意志有更多的关联。在某种程度上，可以说是父亲高举起反对学校教育、让孩子回归家庭接受教育的大旗。许多在家上学的孩子，虽然是母亲在指导平时的学习和生活，但拍板下决定的还是父亲。记者接触到的“在家上学”的案例，也多是父亲亲力亲为。

And China youth daily reporter in the further interview found，“Home school”The phenomena and the will of the father has more relevance。In some extent，Can say is father raise against school education、Let children accept education into a family flag。Many home school children，Although be in guiding the usual mother life and study，But the decision or father decider。Reporters come into contact with“Home school”case，Also much is father do。

　

　网络时代家庭教育功能被重新正视 Family education function of network times to be taken seriously

　　2011年8月，在由21世纪教育研究院主办的我国第一次明确以“在家上学”为主题的研讨会上，千里迢迢从各地赶到云南大理的参会者中，父亲就占了一半之多。

August 2011，In the 21 st century education research institute of the nation's first to clear“Home school”As the theme of the conference，All the way from all around to yunnan Dali's participants，Father accounted for more than half of the。

　　“这次前来聚会的"在家上学"践行者，以爸爸居多，让我看到了男性力量的睿智、大气、承担与使命感！”来自广州在家开办“六月小学堂”的叶万红感慨。

“This came to the party"Home school"The practice，In the majority with dad，Let me see the power of the wise men、atmosphere、Undertake with the sense of mission！”From the guangzhou start at home“June primary school hall”YeWanGong regrets the。

　　确实，“在家上学”公认的几位“领袖式”人物，都是父亲。

really，“Home school”Accepted a few“Leader type”characters，Are father。

　　浙江女孩袁小逸，之所以能够在家上学，就是因为她的父亲袁鸿林毅然把不适应幼儿园生活的女儿领回了家，并辞职在家教育女儿。他给天资聪慧的女儿制定了“9岁小学毕业，13岁高中毕业，16岁大学毕业，19岁硕士毕业，21岁就可博士毕业”的学业规划。

Zhejiang YuanXiaoYi girl，Are able to go to school at home，It is because her father YuanHongLin resolutely to the daughter of the kindergarten life back home，And resign at home education daughter。He gave the daughter of intelligent talent made“9 years of primary school，13 years old high school graduation，16 graduate from the university，19 years old master's degree，21 years will be graduated from dr”Education planning。

　　小逸在家上学的成功尝试，吸引了许多人前来了解学习。袁鸿林一开始是收了一个与女儿同龄的孩子，后来在家办起了私塾，还让袁小逸当小先生教学生英语。

Small home school successful attempt to escape the，Attracted a lot of people come to know learning。YuanHong skilling took the beginning is a child of the same age with her daughter，Later the private gardens at home，Also let YuanXiaoYi when small teaching students English。

　　同时，袁鸿林确实影响和带动了一些父母。

At the same time，YuanHongLin do influence and drive the some parents。

　　不仅带孩子在家上学，还创办了“在家上学联盟”网站的徐雪金是受到启发的一个实践者。

Not only with the children at home to school，Also founded the“Home school league”Site XuXueJin inspired is one of the practitioners。

　　大学学习工科的徐雪金自从有了孩子，对教育问题的思考多起来，并试图实践自己的教育理念。曾在义乌生活的徐雪金原本与夫人一起经营一家外贸公司，徐雪金选择自己在家带孩子后，生意交给夫人。

University of engineering XuXueJin study since have children，Education to thinking about the problems of rise more，And trying to practice their own education concept。Once in yiwu life with XuXueJin originally Mrs Business together a foreign trade company，XuXueJin choose their children at home，Business to Mrs.。

　　和现在大量的全职妈妈相比照，徐雪金认为像自己这样的“全职爸爸”有许多优势，会使孩子得到更全面的发展。因为全职妈妈会把所有的关注点都放在孩子身上，经常会丧失自我。而父亲的天性与思维上的理性则会避免这些问题。

And now a lot of full-time mother compared，XuXueJin think like that“Full-time dad”There are many advantages to，Can make children get more comprehensive development。For full-time mother will put all the focus on children，Often lose yourself。And the father of the nature and rational thinking will avoid these problems。

　　带孩子时，徐雪金给孩子充分的自由，在他看来，父母与孩子都是独立的个体，做父母的应该尊重孩子的天性。所以，徐雪金带孩子的场景常常是：一边是孩子们快乐地跑跳甚至是哭喊打闹，一边是徐雪金悠闲惬意地在看书。

When children，XuXueJin give children full freedom，In his view，Parents and children are independent individuals，Parents should respect the nature of the child。so，XuXueJin scene with children is often：On one side is the children happy running and jumping or even crying scenes，On one side is XuXueJin carefree agreeable in reading。

　　在21世纪教育研究院的研究人员看来，父亲更多参与孩子教育是网络时代的一个新信号。在工业化社会以前，下一代的教育主要由家庭完成。工业时代的社会分工细化，学校教育一支独大，传统的家庭教育逐渐衰弱甚至被忽视。进入网络时代，生活及社会交往方式发生变化，信息和知识的传播、获取方式也发生了重大改变。于是，家庭教育的功能被重新正视。

In the 21 st century education institute researchers look，Father more involved in their children education is the era of network a new signal。Before in the industrial society，The next generation of education mainly by the family completed。The industrial age social division of labor refined，The school education a single big，The traditional family education gradually weak even ignore。Into the network era，Life and social communication mode change，The spread of information and knowledge、Access method is also an important change。so，Family education function to be taken seriously。

　　从一开始只是“业余”参与家庭幼儿园，共同教育包括自己孩子在内的4个小孩，到后来辞去在杂志社的公职与妻子一同创办小学堂，北京日日新学堂的创办者王晓峰也是一名高举在家上学大旗的父亲。他认为，工业社会之前，教育是进行全人教育，而到了工业社会，由于学校的兴起，教育就变成了技能教育，学校的功能也只是知识传承。在家上学是父母承担教育职责来纠偏学校单一的教育功能。

From the beginning it was“amateur”Participate in the family the kindergarten，Common education including their children, four children，To later resigned in the magazine of office and his wife started primary school hall together，Beijing new school day and the wife of WangXiaoFeng is also a exalted a father at home to school。He thinks，Before the industrial society，Education is carry our education，While in industrial society，Due to the rise of the school，Education becomes skills education，The function of the school is knowledge inheritance。Home school education responsibilities for parents is rectify the education function of a single school。

　　一个曾经在家上学的男孩，通过参加自学考试拿到学历，之后又赴英国留学，如今已回国走上工作岗位。当初，就是他的父亲看到儿子在学校受到老师的各种打击，毅然带孩子回家读书，并动员妻子辞职在家陪伴孩子。周末的时候，一家人走出家门，出外游览。对于每天的学习内容，这位父亲进行了精心的选择，尤其是语文阅读的选择，他下了很大工夫，精选出来文章再给儿子阅读。

A once home school boy，Through the attend self-study exam to get a degree，And to the study in Britain after，Now already back on jobs。had，Is his father saw son by the teacher in the school of blow，Resolutely to take children home for reading，And his wife to stay home with their mobilization。weekend，The family came out of her house，Out to visit。For every day of the study contents，The father, the choice of the carefully，Especially the choice of Chinese reading，He made a very hard，Select the son to read out again。

　　有人说钢琴家傅聪也是在家上学的一个成功例子。在傅雷所写《傅聪的成长》一文中提及，在傅聪八九岁时，傅雷把他从小学“撤回”，让他在家学小学课程，同时学钢琴，语文由傅雷自己教。后傅聪以同等学力考入高中。

Someone says pianist FuCong is also a successful home school example。Written in fu lei《FuCong growth》The article mentioned，In FuCong when eight or nine years old，Fu lei take him from primary school“withdraw”，Let him at home studying elementary school curriculum，At the same time to learn the piano,，Chinese by fu lei oneself teach。FuCong equivalent was admitted to after high school。

　

　男性更能体会到学校教育对孩子的压制 Men can understand the school education to children repression

　　男孩落后了。这不是一个危言耸听的结论，而是一些越来越明显的事实：小学、中学里，女孩子成绩明显高于男生，高考各地“女状元”越来越多，大学里女生比例越来越高、成绩越来越好；无论智力、体力、语言表达，甚至是体育课上女孩都超越男孩。相反，被老师批评、受到打击甚至惩罚的当然是那些男孩子。

The boy behind。This is not an alarmist conclusion，But some more and more obvious：Elementary school、High school in，Girls result was significantly higher than the boys，Around the university entrance exam“The top”More and more，College girls more and more high proportion、Scores more and more good；Whatever intelligence、physical、language，Even in the P.E. class girl beyond the boy。instead，Criticized by the teacher、Hit even punish of course is the boys。

　　著名教育专家孙云晓无奈且有力地发出了“拯救男孩”的呼喊。他与合作者在《拯救男孩》这本书中，多方面多角度论述了男孩成长中的问题，深刻详尽地揭示了男孩成长与教育的四大危机：学业危机、心理危机、体质危机、社会危机，并尖锐地指出：“应试教育是男孩成长危机中最为凶猛的杀手”。

Famous education experts SunYunXiao helpless and effectively issued“Save the boy”Cries of。He and partner in《Save the boy》This book，Various multi-angle ways.the boy growing problem，Deep detailed reveals the boy growth and education of the four big crisis：Academic crisis、Psychological crisis、Physical crisis、Social crisis，And pointedly said：“Exam-oriented education is the most fierce boy crisis of the killer”。

　　而父亲们正是经历过这样的教育过程，深知在其中会受到什么样的打击和伤害，甚至影响今后的发展。他们不愿自己的孩子再受到这样的待遇。

And the father is experienced such education process，See what is being the attack and damage，Even influence the development of the future。They don't let their children go to being treated like this。

　　一直带孩子“在家上学”的尹铁鸿认为，男孩与女孩不同，男孩会做出一些更大胆甚至出格的行为，而这是会被老师打压的。他之所以选择让孩子在家上学，是对学校的弊端很清楚，在家上学最重要的是要培养孩子的自主性，等到他们十三四岁，有了自主意识和某方面的学习兴趣，加上具备的能力，会把知识掌握得很好，参加高考问题也不会太大。

Has been with the children“Home school”YinTieHong think of，The boy and girl are different，The boy will make some more bold even outrageous behavior，And this will be the teacher of the crackdown。He chose to let the children go to school at home，To the abuse of the school is very clear，Home school it is most important to develop the child's autonomy，Wait until they 13 or 14，Have the independent consciousness and certain aspects of the interest in learning，Add basic capabilities，Will the knowledge is master it well，Attend the university entrance exam questions also too won't big。

　　为什么父亲成为在家上学的主导？尹铁鸿认为这是因为母亲在对待孩子的教育问题上，相对急躁，耐心不足，而父亲则更理性、更开放，对孩子可以说更放心、更放任。这有利于孩子自由成长。

Why my father became the dominant home school？YinTieHong think it because his mother in the treatment of children education on the problem，Relative impatience，Lack patience，And the father is more rational、More open，To the child can say more at ease、More indulge。This is helpful for children to grow up freely。

　　吴刚，原四川某地的公务员，后来下海经商。儿子自幼聪颖，上学后成绩一直不错。但是到了四年级，儿子主动提出来不想去上学，理由是不喜欢学校。他认为儿子的认知水平已经超过同龄，自然不喜欢学校的学习。

WuGang，The original sichuan somewhere civil servants，Then create business。Son returns from，After school grades has always been good。But in fourth grade，Son active out don't want to go to school，Reason is don't like school。He thinks the son has had more than their peers cognitive level，Natural don't like school of learning。

　　吴刚同意了儿子的要求，一边做生意一边带孩子“在家上学”。后来，他干脆专职带儿子，并去了大理。

WuGang agreed son requirements，Doing business with children while one side“Home school”。later，He simply full-time with son，And went to Dali。

　　这与吴刚自己的学习经历有直接关系。由于家中藏书很多，吴刚的初高中基本上是在自主阅读中度过的。

This and WuGang their learning experience has a direct relation。Because many books at home，The WuGang high school is basically in independent reading dates。

　　吴刚的儿子平时一般是自学，有问题会与爸爸一同讨论。现在15岁的小男子汉兴趣非常广泛，阅读面广，与他接触过的人都认为这个孩子的才华已经远远超出同龄人，与成人讨论问题也很有自己的见地。吕思勉的《中国通史》、张荫麟的《中国史纲》、柏杨的《中国人史纲》、《全球通史从史前史到21世纪》，单看这名15岁少年已经读过的历史书目，就不难想象他的思想水准和判断力。

The son of WuGang at ordinary times is generally self-study，Have a problem with dad will be discussed。Now the age of 15, little man interested in very extensive，Wide reading，And he contact all think the child's talent has been far beyond their peers，And adult discuss the problem is their own understanding。LvSiMian of《Chinese history》、ZhangYinLin of《China's fujian》、BaiYang of《Chinese fujian》、《Global history from prehistory to the 21 st century》，Only see this 15-year-old teenager had already read history books，Is not hard to imagine his ideological level and judgment。

　　

看清教育的问题，自己在家破解 See education problem，His break at home

　　“在家上学”的实践者中，不乏真正做过老师的教育工作者。六月小学堂的叶万红、北京日日新学堂的负责人张冬青、广东星光学堂的姚泳光都是教师出身。他们了解教育的实质，懂得教育的奥秘，自然也清楚目前学校教育的弊端在哪里，后果在哪里。身陷其中，他们曾试图改变，也许曾有收获，但是由于制度束缚，最终还是寻找另一方式：自己在家带孩子上学。

“Home school”Practitioners of，There really done the teacher's education workers。June YeWanGong hall of primary school、Beijing new school day and the person in charge of the ZhangDongQing、Guangdong stars of the school YaoYongGuang are all teachers was born。They understand the essence of education，Understand the mystery of the education，Nature also clear the disadvantages of current school education in where，Consequences in where。Trapped inside，They tried to change，May once have gains，But because the system of bondage，Finally to find another way：Their children at home to go to school。

　　做了11年记者、编辑的姚景海是北京新东方扬州外国语学校老师。在他从事新闻工作的时候，大多数时间都进行和教育有关的采编工作，用他自己的话就是“对中国学校教育有相当的观察、了解和思考，再结合自己受教育的经历，我对中国学校教育非常、非常失望！”

Do reporters for 11 years、Editor's YaoJingHai is Beijing new Oriental yangzhou foreign language school teacher。In his work in the news，Most of the time and education for the compiler work，In his own words is“The Chinese school education to have quite a bit of observation、Understanding and thinking，Combining his education by the experience，I in Chinese schools education very、Very disappointed！”

　　姚景海应《教师月刊》约稿写的一篇文章中，记录了女儿到学校上学之后又回到家中上学的经过：

YaoJingHai should《The teacher issue》Request to write an article，Record the daughter to school and back home after school after：

　　“2009年暑假时，刚好我太太不喜欢原来工作单位的氛围，这是个机缘，我就说服太太回到家里，自己在家教育孩子。太太同意后，我们再说服女儿。没想到，女儿也很乐意地同意在家学习。”

“In 2009, when the summer vacation，Just my wife doesn't like original work unit atmosphere，This is a chance，I will convince wife came home，Their children at home education。To Mrs.，We will persuade daughter。Didn't expect，Daughter also happy to agree to study at home。”

　　虽然一开始女儿有种种不适应，但在家上学两年的效果让姚景海感到欣慰：

Although a daughter began with all adapt，But home school two years of effect make YaoJingHai be pleased：

　　“进行了两年多在家教育，回头总结：我觉得我们的尝试取得了初步的成功。女儿目前学习的量和进度，比学校教育明显超越很多，综合能力也要强很多。但这不是我们最看重的，最重要的是：女儿的整个学习，是在以轻松、愉快、自由、自主、自我管理的方式进行，她通过两年的磨练、摸索，已经形成了较强的自学、自我管理能力。基本上可以这样说，她已经具备了终身自我学习的能力。自学、自我管理、快乐，这些让我们和女儿自己对在家学习感觉都非常良好！”

“For two years at home more education，Back summary：I think we attempt made initial success。Daughter is the amount of study and progress，School education beyond the obvious than many，Comprehensive ability are also many。But this is not we value most，The most important is：Daughter of the entire learning，Is easy、happy、free、independent、Self management way，She through two years of hard knocks、Grope for，Has formed strong self-learning、Self management ability。Basically you can say that，She has a lifelong self learning ability。self-study、Self management、happy，These let us and daughter of his learning at home are very good feeling！”

　　女儿在家上学的示范效果带动了身边的一些人。姚景海了解到，越来越多的朋友让孩子选择在家上学。

Daughter of the demonstration effect drive home school of the side of some people。YaoJingHai know to，More and more friends to let the children go to school choice at home。

　　之所以选择让女儿在家上学，姚景海认为是因为自己看清了学校教育的弊端。他认为，学校教育学习效率太低，一切知识的获得都是为了考试，其中大量是无用的知识，可是还要反复训练追求准确率。另外，在学校成绩好掩盖了一个学生尤其是老师眼中的“好学生”身上的其他许多弱项，比如自我学习能力、人际交往能力。

Chose let daughter at home to school，YaoJingHai think because they see the school education the drawbacks。He thinks，The school education study efficiency is too low，All the acquisition of knowledge is all for the exam，Much of it is useless knowledge，But repeated training for accuracy。In addition，Good grades in school cover a student especially in the eyes of the teacher“Good students”On the many other weaknesses，Such as self learning ability、Interpersonal skills。

　　有些人在学校一路都是好学生，可是工作以后因为缺乏人际交往能力、社会适应能力，四处碰壁，姚景海认为这是瘸腿的学校教育造成的：学校教育只是培养了一批会考试的人，他们的发展与社会完全脱节。学校教育太需要改变了。

Some people in school all the way are good students，But after work because of lack of interpersonal communication ability、Social adaptation ability，In big trouble，YaoJingHai think this is lame school education cause：The school education just cultivate a group of will test today，Their development and social completely apart。The school education is too need to change。

　　当然，姚景海也看到了一些成功的教育范例，这让他更坚信自己的判断：不同的教育所培养出的人会截然不同。自信的姚景海选择了让孩子在家里轻松快乐高效地学习。

Of course，YaoJingHai also see some successful examples of education，It makes him more firmly believe your own judgment：Different education develop will completely different。Confident YaoJingHai chosen to let the child in the home relaxed happy and high efficiency in the study。

　　作者：李新玲

The author：LiXinLing