据报道，一名北大硕士毕业生发帖，称没能挣大钱当大官，对不起爸爸。该毕业生在帖文中称找了份8000多元/月、年底会有些奖金的工作，未来会有些许上升空间。但父亲在亲戚面前夸下海口，称其可年赚上百万，还认为北大毕业的学生应该去当市长、省长。这个帖子引发大家纷纷吐槽。

According to the report，A master's post graduate of Peking University，Says no can earn good money when big officer，I'm sorry dad。The graduates in the post this paper says found a 8000 yuan/month、Some of the bonuses at the end of the year will work，There will be some room to rise。But father in before relatives bombast，Says it can earn millions of years，Still think the students who graduate from Peking University should go to be mayor、governor。This post cause people are vomit slots。

　　这个“高度期待”，在时下的中国家长中很有代表性。这就是根深蒂固的“人上人思维”：教育目的就是为了出人头地、博取功名、高人一等、金榜提名甚至光宗耀祖等。前不久有调查显示，2011年，“望子成龙”已成为我国居民的九大生活动力之首，也证明了这一点。

the“High expectations”，In the current Chinese parents of very typical。This is fundamental“People thinking here”：Education purpose is to get ahead、Seeks achievement、superior、Gold placard nomination had even。Not long ago the surveys that show，2011 years，“competitive”Nine of the residents of our country has become a big life is the head of the power，Is proof of that。

　　一个健康的社会，成才的价值观应该是多元的，教育的选择也该是多元的。有积极的教育投入意识当然好，但如果在孩子身上投射太多“功名期待”，将“高回报”当做教育的终极目的、唯一目标，非要成龙、成凤、当大官、挣大钱才是成功；而将最本然的人格养成、人本意识以及和谐性情都忘掉了，就值得商榷了。

A healthy society，Exposition of values should is multiple，Education choices also this is multiple。Have positive education into consciousness of course good，But if in the child too much projection“Fame looking forward to”，will“High returns”As the ultimate purpose of education、The only goal，Must Jackie chan、ChengFeng、When big officer、Make big money is success；And the personality of the original、Humanistic consciousness and harmonious temperament all to forget，It is open to question。

　　不要忘了，能考上名校仅仅是“分数高手”，而大成功和大官大贵，可遇而不可求，不是单一的“高分”就能达到和得到的，还对协调能力、个人机遇、情商发展以及意志力品质等因素，有更高更多的要求。再说了，芸芸众生中，高手如云，天外有天，能成为金字塔塔尖者，少之又少，更多人包括名校毕业生也肯定不排除成为塔基。如果家长不切实际，一意孤行，忘了这种发展规律和教育规律，愿望虽好，却会给自己带来苦恼，也会对孩子会造成意想不到的伤害。

Don't forget to，To enter a school is only“Scores ace”，And the big success and big officer big expensive，May meet but cannot be asked，Not a single“High marks”Can achieve and get，Also on the coordinated ability、Personal opportunities、Emotional intelligence development and will power quality, and other factors，Have higher more requirements。besides，Justification of，Ace away like a cloud，behind，Can be the pinnacle pyramid，Little little，More people including school graduates also must not exclude become Kentucky。If parents impractical，does，Forget the law of development and education law，Desire is good，But will bring you distressed，Children also can cause unexpected damage。

　　比如不切实际的“人上人”思维因为忽略了对孩子的个性精神尊重、平等关注，孩子压力很大，活得很累，就会对各种课业负担非常反感，不少家庭中的亲子关系不够和谐，厌学、代际矛盾和冲突不断，与这种过分高攀、拔苗助长关系密切。再比如，一意孤行的“人上人”思维还容易对孩子造成心理创伤，孩子敢怒而不敢言，将更多负面情绪挤压内心，不利于其阳光心态、豁达品格的形成。据报道，孩子正在成为心理疾病多发群体：天津市对本市约160万青少年调查，各种心理问题及精神障碍的检出率为13%至16%；目前来此就诊的20岁以下的青少年人数比1995年增长了约七倍。因为追求功利而让孩子成为“心理残缺者”和“瘸腿发展者”，甚至在人格发展、道德发展方面出现失衡，这就不划算了！

Such as unrealistic“People here”Thinking for ignoring the spirit of a child's character respect、Equal attention，Children are under a lot of pressure，Live very tired，Will to all sorts of schoolwork burden very antipathetic，Many of the family harmony between parents is not enough，disgusted、The intergenerational contradictions and conflicts，And this too have been high、Haste makes waste close relationship。For another example，Promote the“People here”It is easier to cause children thinking psychological trauma，Children can anger to speak，Will more negative emotions extrusion heart，Against the sunshine state of mind、Open-minded character formation。According to the report，Children are becoming mental disease happens group：Tianjin in the city of about 1.6 million teenagers survey，All kinds of psychological problems and the detection rate of mental disorders for 13% to 16%；At present to the clinic of teenagers under 20 people than 1995 grew by about seven times。Because the utility and let the children to be pursuing“Psychology the incomplete”and“Lame the development”，Even in the personality development、Moral development imbalance appear，It is not reasonable！

　　因此，不妨多一些“人中人思维”，教育发展不能以功利化和当大官、赚大钱当做终极目标，而应该注重培养孩子自食其力的劳动能力、快乐拼搏的职业性情以及慈善博爱的公共品质，这是教育的最高目标，也是一种必要的教育平常心。就算是孩子不能成龙，只要能凭借自我劳动，对社会做出积极贡献，同样是一种“教育成功”。正如南科大校长朱清时所言，“一个国家、一个社会需要多种多样的人才，既要有一流的科学家、教授、政治家等，更要有高素质的工人、厨师、飞机驾驶员等高技能人才。”

so，You might as well some“People thinking people”，Education development can not to following and when big officer、Make a lot of money as the ultimate goal，And should pay great attention to the training of his child labor ability、Happy hard work of professional temperament, and charity philanthropic public quality，This is the highest aim of education，Is also a necessary education common heart。Even the child cannot Jackie chan，As long as you can with self labor，To contribute to society，The same is a“Education success”。As south university President zhu qingshi said，“A country、A social need varied talents，We need a first-rate scientist、professor、Politicians, etc，More to have high quality workers、cook、The pilot of the plane contour skills talents。”

　　写到这里，想到了作家刘继荣的女儿的话，“当英雄路过的时候，总要有人坐在路边鼓掌。我不想成为英雄，我想成为坐在路边鼓掌的人”。这种淡定从容、实事求是、量体裁衣、宽松自然、注重和谐的教育发展规划和“人中人思维”，才更值得家长学习，更有教育发展意义和价值！

Wrote here，Think of the writer LiuJiRong daughter words，“When the hero was passing by，Total to want someone to sit on the applause。I don't want to be a hero，I want to be sitting on the curb and clap”。This calm calmly、Seeking truth from facts、tailors、Loose natural、Pay attention to the harmony of the education development plan and“People thinking people”，Just more worth parents learn，More education development significance and value！