北京独生子女死亡家庭父母7746人，疾病和养老成为这一群体最大的担忧 Beijing one-child family parents 7746 people died，Disease and endowment become this group, the biggest worry

　　失独父母，这一曾被忽略的群体，正在进入公众视野。

Alone lost parents，This has been ignored group，Is entering into public view。

　　他们，大多生于上世纪五六十年代，赶上八十年代首批执行独生子女政策，人到中年遭遇独子夭折。专家估算，我国至少有100万个失独家庭，每年新增失独家庭7.6万个。

they，Most of the s and 60 s, was born in the last century，To catch up with the eighty s the first executive one-child policy，That middle-aged people encounter an only son died young。Experts estimate，Our country at least 1 million lost family alone，An annual increase of only 76000 lost family。

　　北京市计划生育协会数据显示，截至2012年5月，北京失独父母人数为7746人，其中农村1269人，城市6477人，“这一人群年龄偏大，精神和身体状况欠佳，有一定的生活困难”。

Beijing municipal family planning association data shows，By May 2012，Beijing alone lost parents the population is 7746 people，Among them the 1269 people，City 6477，“The older crowd，Poor mental and physical condition，Have certain life difficult”。

　　记者调查，这些积极响应国家政策的“光荣一代”，除了丧失爱子的孤苦外，如今更担心疾病、养老等一系列现实难题，但相关帮扶、保障体系滞后。

A survey，These positive response of national policy“Glorious generation”，In addition to lost a child outside of its loneliness，Now more worried about the disease、Endowment and so on a series of realistic difficult problems，But the relevant supporting、Security system lag。

　　如何为这一群体提供有效的帮助，如何接手他们原本寄希望于子女身上的未来，成为摆在全社会面前待解的课题。

How to do for this group provides effective help，How to take over they had hope that their children on the future，Be in the whole society to the topic before solution。

　　

北京措施 Beijing measures

　　7月20日，北京市计划生育协会表示，针对失独家庭的帮扶主要有两方面。一是政策帮扶，包括给予每人每月200元的扶助金，直至亡故为止。同时可享受特别扶助的，按较高标准执行。二是精神帮扶，即以“亲情牵手”项目为载体的亲情抚慰。2006年开始，北京市人口计生委、计生协在全市范围开展了生育关怀亲情牵手活动，鼓励大学生、部队官兵等青年群体，与失独家庭结为国策亲戚，为他们提供精神慰藉和亲情抚慰。

July 20,，Beijing municipal family planning association said，According to the family lost only supporting basically has two sides。One is the policy supporting，Including giving each every months 200 yuan assist gold，Until death so far。At the same time, you can enjoy special assistance，According to the standards are higher。2 it is supporting the spirit，Namely to“Family in hand”Projects for the carrier of affection comfort。Started in 2006，Beijing population state family planning commission、JiShengXie range in the city in the fertility care family in hand activities，Encourage the students to、The officers and soldiers, youth groups，And loss of the family alone make state policy relatives，To provide them with spirit solace and comfort affection。

　　此外，“暖心计划”以独生子女死亡家庭为目标人群，为其提供养老保险、疾病身故保险、意外伤害身故保险、意外伤害医疗保险、残疾保险、烧伤保险以及女性重疾保险，重点解决这些家庭的养老和医疗困难，真正保障了这一人群老有所养，病有所医。同时，安康计划和服务计划与暖心计划相配套，对于没有发生意外理赔的家庭提供体检等服务，最大限度加大保障力度。

In addition，“Warm heart plan”Only children to death for family target population，Offer for its endowment insurance、Disease die insurance、Person accident injury insurance、Accident injury insurance、Disability insurance、Burns insurance and women serious illness insurance，Focus on the family endowment and medical difficulties，Real security the crowd to old-age care，multi-form。At the same time，Peace plan and service plan with warm heart plan of supporting，For no accident claims provide services such as family medical examination，Maximum increase security efforts。

　　“儿子，好好看家，我们出去玩儿啦！”

“son，A good guard，We go out to play it！”

　　房间空荡，整洁，甚至像宾馆一般一尘不染。

The room empty，neat，Even as the hotel general spotless。

　　“儿子，我们回来啦！”

“son，We're back!！”

　　房间依然空荡，整洁，甚至像宾馆一般一尘不染。

The room still empty，neat，Even as the hotel general spotless。

　　董毅去世14年了。

DongYi died 14 years。

　　心中难过时，董毅父母会离开北京去旅游。每次离开和返回，都会对着空荡荡的房间打招呼。

Heart sad，DongYi parents will leave to travel to Beijing。Every time left and returned，Will the empty room to say "hello"。

　　习惯以“某某妈妈/爸爸”相称

Habits to“So-and-so mum/daddy”match

　　孩子离开后，董毅的妈妈通过网络，结识了许多同命相怜的家庭。北京的几家时不时聚一聚，“我们的痛，旁人怎么能了解？”尚未坐定，几位失独母亲的声音颤抖起来。

After the children left，DongYi mother through the network，Meet the XuDuoTong MingXiang frets family。Beijing's several every now and then get together，“Our pain，How can people understand？”Has not sit quietly，A few lost only the voice of mother to tremble。

　　她们习惯以“某某妈妈/爸爸”相称，很少提及姓名。

They used to“So-and-so mum/daddy”match，Rarely mention name。

　　“别人这么叫我们的时候，就感觉孩子还在。”57岁的“小男妈妈”，随身总带着一块手帕，“不知什么时候眼泪就流下来了。”

“Others so that our time，Feel the child is in。”At the age of 57“The little male mother”，Take the total with a handkerchief，“Don't know when I tears fell down。”

　　“董毅妈妈”挺羡慕“小男妈妈”，“孩子是因病离开的，好歹陪着走完了最后一程。”

“DongYi mother”Quite envy“The little male mother”，“The child is due to illness left，Somehow with walked the last a ride。”

　　1998年，20岁的董毅在去同学聚会的路上遭遇车祸，没有留下一句话。

1998 years，20 years old DongYi to students in a car accident was on the way to the party，Leaving no one word。

　　“小男妈妈”也会羡慕“董毅妈妈”，董毅去世后，骨灰放在家中，“可以天天守着。”

“The little male mother”Also will envy“DongYi mother”，DongYi died，Ashes on the home，“Can keep every day。”

　　小男去世后，很快入土为安。6年过去，每当刮风下雨，“小男妈妈”还有止不住的泪，“他一个人在荒郊野外、日晒雨淋，我心疼啊。”

The little man died，Soon out。Over the past six years，Whenever wind and rain，“The little male mother”And the tears of uncontrolled，“He is a man in the jungle、weathered，I love!。”

　　64岁的“孙萌妈妈”，家境富足的她曾一心想为女儿创造更好的未来。

The 64-year-old“SunMeng mother”，The rich family she had to create a better future for her daughter。

　　突如其来的疾病夺走女儿26岁的生命，前半生幸福清零，悲痛填满生活。

The sudden illness, 26, claimed the life of the daughter，First half happiness will become 0，Grief fill life。

　　大年夜，她端着饭碗突然大哭，丈夫呵斥“这日子还过不过？”她一个人跑到女儿的墓地呆上两天两夜，哭着一遍遍抚摸冰凉的墓碑，直到手冻得没知觉。

eve，She took the job suddenly burst into tears，Husband reprimand angrily to“This day is over but？”She ran to her daughter's graveyard for two days and two nights，Crying over and over again, touch the cold tombstone，Until cold hand didn't consciousness。

　　女儿去世时，“孙萌妈妈”买下两块连着的墓地，准备百年后常伴自己的孩子。

Daughter died，“SunMeng mother”Buy two pieces of connecting cemetery，Prepare after one hundred years usually associated with their children。

　　起初，她想和女儿葬在一起，但想起女儿生前说喜欢住大房子，“就不跟她挤了。”

At first，She want to and daughter was buried in together，But think of daughter was said like living large house，“They don't she crowded。”

　　

失独母亲的“软弱”和“悲凉” Lost the mother alone“weak”and“dismal”

　　45岁的“阳阳妈妈”，情愿自己是六七十岁，“那样可以离阳阳近一些，离现实远一些。”

45 years old“Yang mother”，60 years old is willing to himself，“That can leave Yang nearly some，Far from reality some。”

　　孩子走后两年，老公开始很少回家，“阳阳妈妈”觉察出什么，但失去孩子的悲伤抽走了所有的力气，她没有过问。

Two years after the child go，The husband started rarely go home，“Yang mother”Perceive what，But losing a child of sadness take away all the effort，She didn't ask。

　　直到有次深夜想起阳阳的时候，她给老公打电话，得到的回答是“儿子都走了，我跟你没什么关系了。”

Until there is time of late at night when Yang，She gave her husband a call，The answer is“Son went，I told you no relationship。”

　　最后，结婚20年的老公一纸诉状闹到法庭，说“夫妻感情破裂，要求分割财产。”

finally，Get married twenty years of husband a complaint against troubled by the court，said“Couples rupture，Requirements segmentation property。”

　　每一次开庭，“阳阳妈妈”都一个人。站在庭上，看着老公在律师和助手的陪同下，控诉婚姻有多么不幸，“阳阳妈妈”说“对人性心灰意冷”。

Each time the hearing，“Yang mother”A person。Stand in the court，Look at the husband, accompanied by lawyers and assistant，Charges have unfortunate marriage，“Yang mother”said“Human nature to lose hope”。

　　一审判决，离婚后房子归女方，她觉得一切该结束了，没想到老公又提起上诉。

verdict，After the divorce to her house，She felt that all this is over，Didn't expect the husband and appealed。

　　“孩子没了老公就是唯一的依靠，就算不能依靠，也不能成为施害者。”“阳阳妈妈”的软弱让北京的几位姐妹又愤怒又心疼，“法律说保护女人，都保护哪里去了？”

“Children don't the husband is the only depend on，Even if it can't rely on，And also can't become the harm done。”“Yang mother”Weak let Beijing's several sisters and angry and distressed，“The law to protect women said，Protect where？”

　　一间不足10平米的平房外搭出个棚子，一半是厨房，一半是吴锐的“卧室”。

A less than 10 square meters one-story houses outside build a shed，Half is the kitchen，Half of the WuRui“The bedroom”。

　　失去孩子后，离婚的吴锐寄居在80岁的父母门外，一晃十几年。

After losing a child，The divorce WuRui sojourn in the 80-year-old parents outside，Filled more than ten years。

　　逼仄的斗室内，她和父母在距离电视不足一米处一字排开。

The houses were cramped inside，She and her parents in the distance TV one meter of insufficient survivors。

　　电视里画面跳动，他们却如三尊雕塑。

Television pictures to beat，But they like three statues。

　　吴锐的妈妈说，日子就这么一天一天过。吴锐每个月领到的200元补贴，大多都要用来控制病情，“我们活着，她才活着，那以后呢？”

WuRui's mother said，Day will one day so。WuRui each month to 200 yuan of subsidies，Most are used to control the condition，“We live，She was alive，The later？”

　　记者调查北京多位失独父母，他们孩子都是在十几岁至二十几岁之间，因疾病或是意外去世，大多没有结婚和下一代。

Reporter investigate more than Beijing alone lost parents，Their children are in the teens to between the twenties，Because of the disease or accident died，Mostly not married and the next generation。

　　失去孩子那年，孙文霞（化名）39岁，原本有再生一个的机会。孩子生前巨额的治疗费，让她几乎没来得及悲伤，就背上债务继续生活。债务还清已是2011年，孙文霞已快60岁了。

Losing a child that year，SunWenXia（aliases）39，Had a chance of regeneration。The child was huge treatment，Let her almost had time to sorrow，Just back debt to continue to live。Debts already was in 2011，SunWenXia is 60。

　　更多的是已没有生育的机会。

More is already no birth of opportunities。

　　女儿离开后，“孙萌妈妈”曾尝试过抱养一个孩子。当她走进孤儿院，孩子们“哭喊着我就呆在这里，我不跟你走。”她的心瞬间凉了，“不是我的，就不是我的。”

Daughter left，“SunMeng mother”Tried BaoYang a child。When she walked into the orphanage，The children“Crying I'll stay here，I don't go with you。”Her heart instant cool，“Is not my，Is not my。”

　　“小男妈妈”说，抱养孩子在失独群体中并不是太多，“这跟爱心真的没有关系，父母亲总会跟自己离开的孩子比，精神负担更重。”

“The little male mother”said，BaoYang child lost in the group and in alone is not too much，“It has to do with love doesn't matter, really，Parents always leave children than with yourself，Mental burden heavier。”

　　

害怕“老无所依”的明天 fear“In "no old”tomorrow

　　焦虑，时不时在失独父母心中弥漫。

anxiety，Every now and then lost parents in the diffuse in the heart。

　　谈到现状，他们总会做一组比较：

Talking about current situation，They always do a comparison group：

　　首先跟失去孩子的年轻父母比他们好歹还年轻，还能生育，还会有孩子，还有希望。“我们呢？”

First with losing a child's young parents than they somehow still young，Can still birth，Will also have children，Still have the hope to。“We?？”

　　然后是子女不在身边的空巢老人不管子女怎么忙，他们总归有个盼头儿。逢年过节，还可以共享天伦。看病抓药，总还有可以依靠的人。“我们呢？”

Then the children of not around the old man no matter how busy attended to children，They hope to have a leader。holiday，Can also share tianlun。Longed to see a doctor，There's always person to depend on。“We?？”

　　接着是没有子女的孤寡老人他们没有拥有过，又怎么会因为失去伤心。再者说，他们可以成为五保户，成为政策关照对象。“我们呢？”

Then there is no children of the childless old to did not have them，And how can because of losing a sad。Then again，They can be 5 protect door，Be favorable policies in the object。“We?？”

　　……

......

　　有一天走不动了，生病了不能去挂号，还遭到保姆的欺负……

One day couldn't walk，Sick can't registered，Also the bullying of...... by nanny

　　这是“孙萌妈妈”经常想象的场景，“我不怕死，怕病。”她说。

This is“SunMeng mother”Often imagine scene，“I am not afraid of death，Afraid of disease。”She said。

　　“锥心泣血，悲天怆地，撮土焚香，母为儿祭。”每年儿子祭日，61岁的“李昭妈妈”都会写诗寄托哀思，黑体加粗的方块字堆砌着她对儿子的思念。

“Cone QiXie heart，Sad day chuang to，Heap of earth burning incense，Mother to son offering。”Every year son memorial，The 61-year-old“LiZhao mother”Will write poems on their grief，Be bold move to stack the bold her son of missing。

　　“国盛家破今日，老无所依明天”去年的祭词，李昭妈妈这样写道。

“Countries house break and today，Old in "no tomorrow”Last year's offering words，LiZhao mother wrote。

　　养老、医疗，成为大多与共和国同龄的失独父母，最大的共同焦虑。

endowment、medical，Most of the same age as republic lost parents alone，The most common anxiety。

　　新闻里说北京好点的养老院排号要10年，还说年纪大一些的失独父母寻找养老院，被对方以“没人签字，出了问题谁负责”理由拒之门外。

The news says Beijing better PaiHao nursing home to 10 years，Also said older lost parents looking for nursing home alone，Be each other to“No one sign，Who is responsible for the problems”Reason out the door。

　　这些都会让他们紧张万分。

These will make them nervous extremely。

　　调查期间，记者针对失独父母找养老院向海淀、朝阳、大兴等地多家养老院咨询，得到的答复是入住养老院一定要有监护人（多为子女）签字，如果没有必须有所在街道或工作单位提供的相关证明。

During the survey period，The reporter lost parents to find a nursing home alone to the haidian、chaoyang、Daxing, several nursing home consultation，Get reply is in a nursing home must have a guardian（More for their children）signature，If no must have in the street or work units to provide relevant proof。

　　“去哪儿找证明？谁愿意管这摊子事儿呢？”失独父母的担忧并不是没有来由，无论是所在社区还是原工作单位，都没有承担这项职责的部门。在养老体系本身存在着种种掣肘的背景下，这些失去依靠的父母们无疑更加忧心忡忡。

“Where to find proof？Who would like to pipe up about this？”Lost parents' concern is not alone and not the other，Whether the community or the original work unit，Are not taking on the responsibilities of the department。In the pension system itself exists with all the background of constraints，These lose depend on parents are undoubtedly more worrying。

　　“即使养老院没这么多问题我们也担心。”“李昭妈妈”脑海中会时常浮现年老的自己出现在养老院里的样子，“别人的儿女定期来看望，我们只能眼巴巴地看着。”

“Even if we have so much nursing home are also worried about。”“LiZhao mother”Mind will always emerge old themselves in the appearance of the nursing home，“Other people's children to visit regularly，We can only anxiously watching。”

　　北京大学人口所教授穆光宗总结，无人养老，无人送终，是很多独生子女夭亡父母普遍担忧的残酷现实。而入住社会养老院又面临着重复的刺激与伤害。

Beijing university professor of population MuGuangZong summary，No one endowment，No one will，Only children is a lot of parents are worried about the ill cruel reality。And check in society and face the nursing home repeat stimulation and damage。

　　穆光宗直言，失独群体的产生是计划生育政策必然产生的结果，“我们应该善待他们，他们响应国家号召才走到了今天，他们老了，政府应该关心帮助他们，让他们有自己的家园，让他们有自己的生活，让他们有安宁的晚年。”

MuGuangZong the truth，The group is a lost the family planning policy will produce results，“We should be good to them，They respond to a nation called on to go today，They are getting old，The government should care to help them，Let them have their own their homes，Let them have their own life，Let them have peace of old age。”

　　

对“玻璃心”的尴尬救助 to“Glass heart”Awkward relief

　　失独群体进入公众视野后，一组数据被反复提及：据专家估算，目前全国失独家庭已超百万，与此同时，每年新增失独家庭7.6万个。

Lost groups into public view after alone，A set of data being repeatedly mentioned：According to experts estimate，At present the family has lost over one million alone，At the same time，An annual increase of only 76000 lost family。

　　北京市计生委此前披露，目前北京共有3900个“失独”家庭，其中涉及7746人。

City family planning previously disclosed，Now Beijing has 3900“Alone lost”family，One involving 7746 people。

　　与之对应的是，自2007年我国出台计划生育家庭特别扶助制度开始，年满49周岁、失去独生子女的父母，按照规定可以每人每月领取不低于100元的扶助金。

And the matching is，Since our 2007 on family planning, special assistance system began，At least 49 years old、Lose the singleton female parents，According to the regulation can person receives every month of not less than 100 RMB assist gold。

　　在北京，这项补贴自2008年开始发放，数额为每人每月200元，直至亡故。

In Beijing，The subsidies since 2008 issue，Amount for each every months 200 yuan，Until death。

　　此外，根据北京各区县情况，独生女子亡故后，女方年满55周岁，男方年满60周岁，可一次性领取5000元到10000元不等的补贴。

In addition，According to each district and county of Beijing，The only woman after death，The woman at least 55 one full year of life，The man the age of 60 one full year of life，But one-time get 5000 yuan to 10000 yuan of subsidy。

　　“哦，是领那个死了孩子的补贴是吧，给，填这张表。”“孙萌妈妈”在领取这笔钱时，街道干部的话再次伤害了原本脆弱的心。

“oh，Bring the dead child is subsidies. Yeah，to，Fill in the form。”“SunMeng mother”After receiving the money，The streets again the word of cadres damage fragile heart。

　　“董毅妈妈”看到区政府计生网站有个“公众留言”板块，满怀希望地留言呼吁关注失独群体。得到的答复是“您好，您的建议我们会向有关领导反映，同时感谢您对人口计生工作的关注。”

“DongYi mother”See the district government or a web site“Public message”plate，Hopefully message calling attention to lose only group。Get the answer is“How do you do，Your Suggestions to the relevant leaders we will reflect，And thank you for the concern of the field to the population。”

　　“根本就不体会我们的感受。”这样的官方辞令，也让“董毅妈妈”感到失望。

“Don't realize we feel。”So that's the official line，Also let“DongYi mother”disappointed。

　　2008年，因领失独取补贴要进行公示，“李昭妈妈”跟街道产生激烈的争执，最终在中国计生协相关领导的干预下才没有公示。

2008 years，For the loss brought to take public subsidies，“LiZhao mother”Produced with street a heated argument，Finally, in China JiShengXie intervention of relevant leaders did not public。

　　“一公示，所有人都知道了。”“李昭妈妈”说，“干吗还要撕开我们的伤口给别人看。”

“A public，All people know that。”“LiZhao mother”said，“Why we wound to tear apart to see other people。”

　　“董毅妈妈”说，曾有个公益组织要捐助北京一个生活困难的失独者，她帮忙联系街道，对方回复“大姐求求您了，我们街道自己救助她，别让她去成吗？”

“DongYi mother”said，Once there is a public organization to donate Beijing a life difficult lost the alone，She help contact street，Each other back“Big sister please，We salvage her street themselves，Don't let her go into？”

　　今年的母亲节后，中国传媒大学的研究生廖琦立拍摄关于失独群体的纪录片，遭到街道计生人员阻挠，不得不改到哈尔滨拍摄，定名《玻璃心》。

This year's festival mother，The communication university of China LiaoQiLi graduate student film of the loss of the documentary group alone，By the street or obstruct personnel，Have to change to Harbin shooting，named《Glass heart》。

　　

11年前规定“必要的帮助” Eleven years ago provisions“The necessary help”

　　事实上，2001年底颁布的《人口和计划生育法》明确规定，独生子女发生意外伤残、死亡，其父母不再生育和收养子女的，地方人民政府应当给予必要的帮助。

In fact，Promulgated by the end of 2001《Population and family planning law》Specific provision，Only children accident disabled、death，The parents no longer fertility and adopt children，The local people's government shall give the necessary help。

　　但“必要的帮助”是什么，具体谁执行，如何实施，均没有提及。

but“The necessary help”Is what，The specific executive who，How to implement the，All did not mention。

　　“政府是知道这一群体存在的。”2002年前后，《北京文学》社长兼执行总编杨晓升通过对6个失独家庭的探访，撰写了长篇报告文学《只有一个孩子中国独生子女意外伤害悲情报告》。

“The government is know this group of existence。”Around 2002，《Beijing literature》President and executive editor of YangXiaoSheng through six lost family visit alone，Write a long report literature《Only a child China's one-child accident harm tragically report》。

　　这部报告文学的命运同样悲情，由于种种原因，最终没有出版。

The report also kind the fate of literature，For a variety of reasons，Ultimately no published。

　　“写这本书的目的不是攻击计生政策，而是探讨如何解决这个日渐庞大的群体面临的问题。”10年过去，杨晓升构想的救助体系依然没有出现。

“Write the goal of this book is not an attack or policy，But to explore how to solve the increasingly large groups are faced with the problem。”In the past 10 years，YangXiaoSheng idea assistance system is still not appeared。

　　在北京，一些尝试在慢慢进行。

In Beijing，Some try to slowly。

　　西城区展览路街道在3年前联合辖区内的失独家庭组建“新希望家园”，通过组织活动、心理互助等帮助失独者走出心理困境。

West ZhanLanLu streets in three years ago within the jurisdiction of the united lost family is established“New hope home”，Through the organization of activities、Psychological help each other and help the psychological predicament alone lost out。

　　丰台区的民间团体瑞普华老年救助基金会正筹划公益组织“萤火虫公社”，搭建平台帮助失独者实现自治。

The folk group red fengtai district PWC relief foundation is planning elderly public welfare organizations“Fireflies commune”，The platform structures help realize the lost only autonomy。

　　北京市计生委相关负责人在接受采访时透露，未来计生委和计生协会在政策、经济和情感三个层面加大对失独群体的关注和帮扶，解决他们面临的生活和心理难题。

City family planning related principal said in an interview，The future state family planning commission and family plan association in the policy、Economic and emotional three levels increase of attention and lost only groups supporting，Solve their life and mental problem facing。

　　

“正视这个群体的存在” “Face up to the existence of this group”

　　“如果我们不解决好这个问题，就是对人民的不负责任。”7月16日，国家计生委原巡视员、中国人口福利基金会原理事长苗霞说。

“If we don't solve the problem，Is to the people's irresponsible。”July 16,，The national family planning inspector、Former chairman of China population welfare foundation MiaoXia said。

　　自1988年从事计生工作，历任国家计生委机关党委书记、纪委书记等职,原本到了退休年纪的苗霞，自2002年一直关注失独群体，“有责任去推动些事情。”

Engaged in the field since 1988，Successive state commission authority secretary of the party committee、Secretary of the discipline inspection commission duty and so on,Originally the retirement age MiaoXia，Since 2002, has been paying attention to the group，“Have a responsibility to promote some things。”

　　在苗霞看来，这一问题并非突然出现。同时，因深刻了解失独群体所面临的困境和危机，以及公众对计生工作的负面情绪，苗霞坦陈“发泄情绪容易，但要真正解决问题，需要一个完善的机制和体系。”

In MiaoXia seems，This is not suddenly appear。At the same time，Because of a deep understanding of the lost the dilemma facing the group and crisis，And the public on the field by negative emotions，MiaoXia admitted“Emotional easy，But to really solve the problem，Need a perfect mechanism and system。”

　　比如通过修正法律中定义模糊的条文，将扶助独生子女伤残、死亡的责任明晰，让失独者们不再求助无门。

For example by fixed law provisions of vague，Only children will help disabled、The responsibility of the death of clear，Let alone lost those in the wealthy no longer for help。

　　比如现行计生特别扶助制度，只针对49周岁之后失独父母，“但失去孩子到49周岁之间的真空期可能是他们最痛苦无助的时候。”

Such as the current or special assistance system，Only to 49 years old lost parents after alone，“But losing a child to 49 years old vacuum period between may be their most pain helpless。”

　　比如各级政府部门设立专门负责失独群体的组织，失独者遇到各种困惑都能及时给予帮助，而不是像现在这样求助无门。

Government departments at all levels such as a special group of organization responsible for the loss，The lost only encounter all sorts of confusion in time to help，Not like this attack for help。

　　“这些都是我们的框架设计时需要仔细考虑的问题。”苗霞透露，目前正在全国范围内做失独群体的基线调查，了解他们面临的切实困难，以确定最后的框架中着重做哪些工作。

“These are our framework design needs careful consideration。”MiaoXia revealed，At present are nationwide do alone of the baseline survey group lost，Understand the practical difficulties they faced，To determine the final frame where it do any work。

　　“所有的基础是，国家、政府以及全社会都应该正视这个群体的存在。”苗霞说，“要有一个共识，他们不是负担和不稳定因素，而是一个又一个绝望的、受伤的、对未来失去信心的父亲母亲。”

“Is the basis of all，national、The government and the whole society should face up to the existence of this group。”MiaoXia said，“To have a consensus，They are not burden and unstable factors，But a and a desperate、injured、To lose confidence in the future of a mother and a father。”

　　同时，她认为失独问题绝不仅仅是计生问题，离不开全社会共同的关爱与帮助，“如何帮助他们，用什么样的态度对待他们，真正关乎社会稳定，也真正考量一个国家的文明”。（采写/新京报记者 卢美慧影/新京报记者 尹亚飞）

At the same time，She thinks that the problems are not just lost family problems，Cannot leave the whole society is the common care and help，“How to help them，With what kind of attitude to them，Really all about social stability，Also really a country's civilization considerations”。（Up to date/the Beijing news reporter Lou trafficcast China shadow/the Beijing news reporter YinYaFei）