静下心来，我们不禁思考，“狼爸”行为根源何在？许多中国家长，对孩子一直抱有极高的期望，希望借孩子实现自己未竟的梦想。这种植根于心底的“望子成龙”的期望和群体性焦虑，严重影响了家长在教育孩子过程中的行为。大家都渴望成功，渴望通过自己的“教育”，能够让孩子“出人头地”。诚然，“棍棒底下出孝子”、“不打不成材”的传统理念曾影响了许多人，但现在这种观点的弊端和局限性已经暴露无遗。

Settled down to，We can't help thinking，“The Wolf dad”Behavior what root？Many Chinese parents，For children have been sky-high expectations，Hope to borrow children realize his dream of the infinite。This is rooted in the bottom of my heart“competitive”Expectations and collective anxiety，Serious impact on the parents in the education of the child process behavior。Everyone is eager for success，By his own desire“education”，Allows children to“Come out on top”。admittedly，“Under the sticks a filial son”、“Don't play BuChengCai”The traditional concept has influence to many people，But now the disadvantages and limitations of the view has been completely exposed。

　　这位打死亲女的“狼爸”曾表示，不希望孩子再过留守儿童的生活。但他们的女儿从小离开父母，几乎未享受过父母的疼爱，对家长存在陌生感，甚至是失去了安全感建立的过程。与此同时，家长也不适应孩子在他们身边，也也许还搅乱了他们现有的生活，家长也并不了解如何关心和爱护孩子。双方都不适应彼此的存在，这种不适应和不恰当的教育方法导致了悲剧的最终发生。

The killing kiss a woman“The Wolf dad”Has said，Don't want children to rear children's life。But their daughter from the left his parents，Hardly enjoyed its parents，The commissioner for parents there，Even lost security process。At the same time，Parents also get used to the child at their side，Also may also disturbed their existing life，The parents did not know how to care about and care for the child。Both sides are not adapt to the existence of each other，This does not adapt and inappropriate education method led to tragedy happened eventually。

　　其实，一味地靠“打骂”、体罚来“教育”孩子，往往会付出令人痛心的代价。部分家长在孩子年幼时，并未付出努力为孩子制定良好的行为规范和准则。并在与孩子的彼此交流中，放弃使用爱和温暖来影响孩子，而是一味地选择使用“棍棒”。打骂和暴力，只会让孩子对家长产生更多的抵触情绪。很多家长无奈地表示，“棍棒”把孩子“打疲了”，孩子不但对这种教育方式产生了抗拒的心理，更有些孩子还会对此产生“抗体”，选择置之不理，即使家长的棍棒变本加厉，打骂也变得毫无作用。于是，家长和孩子之间的关系变得无可弥补，而贻害更深的是，棍棒教育的方式还会在这个孩子成立家庭后继续延续，从而影响新的家庭。

In fact，Blindly on“Beat and scold”、Corporal punishment to“education”children，Tend to pay the price of painful。Some parents in young children，Did not pay for the child to make good behavior standards and norms。And with the children in each other，To give up the use of love and warmth to influence a child，But given to choose to use“sticks”。To abuse and violence，Will only make children parents to produce more of the outlaw motion。Many parents helplessly said，“sticks”The child“Play exhausted the”，The education of children not only way to force produced psychological，Some children also will have more production“antibody”，Choose ignored，Even if the parents of the sticks]，Beat and scold also become had no effect。so，The relationship between parents and children become is up，And leaving a legacy of deeper is，Sticks education way will be in the child was established after the family continues to continue，Which affect the new family。

　　文中的“狼爸”只是一个极端的例子，我们仅是希望通过对这个事件的反思，能够帮更多的孩子逃离棍棒之苦，希望更多家庭能够营造出爱的氛围，让孩子在家中懂得爱，才会付出爱，乃至在社会上付诸更多的温情。为避免“狼爸”悲剧继续重演，希望家长能够在孩子教育的问题上重新思考，如何构建良好的沟通？如何从孩子的视角去思考问题？能否给孩子更多的空间。

The text of the“The Wolf dad”Just an extreme example，We are only hope that through of the incident reflection，To help more children escape sticks of bitterness，Hope that more families can build a loving atmosphere，Let the children know how to love in the home，Will give love，And even in the society into more warmth。To avoid“The Wolf dad”Tragedy continue to repeat itself，Hope that parents can in children education problem to think，How to construct a good communication？From the perspective of children how to think about the problem？Can you give children more space。

　　教育专家孙云晓在谈及家庭教育问题时，曾表示，“应该让孩子懂得尊重生命，既包括尊重自己的生命，也包括尊重别人的生命。要让孩子深刻意识到，生命对每个人来说只有一次，人的一生，要努力让自己的生命美好，就像树上的果子一样，越来越成熟，越来越芬芳。”生命不能重来，失去的时间不能寻回，但是爱可以。家长如果能够珍惜与孩子间建立彼此理解和欣赏的亲子关系。保护好孩子单纯、脆弱的心灵，教会他们爱，才是长久之计。希望不再有孩子因为棍棒教育而受到伤害，无论是身体，还是心灵。（新华教育 商亮）

Education experts SunYunXiao family education when we talk about the problem，Has said，“Should let the children understand respect for life，Both respect for your life，Also include respect other people's life。To let the children deeply aware of that，Life for everyone to have only one，Person's life，Try to make their lives better，As of the fruit of the tree，More and more mature，More and more fragrant。”Life can not be heavy，The lost time can't be found anywhere，But love can。Parents if can treasure and children established between each other understand and appreciate the parent-child relationship。Protect good boy simple、Tender heart，Church they love，Is a stop-gap。Hope there is no longer any children because the sticks education and hurt，Whether the body，Or heart。（Xinhua education ShangLiang）