“浏览网页或者打开邮箱总会有黄色信息弹出。”2010年10月15日，深感“互联网色情网站泛滥”的7名石家庄女性网友自筹资金，创办了公益网站“中国反色情网”(以下简称“反色情网”记者注)，宣传反色情知识、举报色情网站。

"Browsing the web or open the mailbox will always have yellow information popup."On October 15, 2010,deeply"The Internet porn site flood"7 name shijiazhuang female net friend self-raised funds,Established public web site"China and against pornography"(Hereinafter referred to as"Against pornography web"Reporter note),Propaganda of knowledge against pornography/Report pornographic web sites.

　　据介绍，由于举报色情网站，“反色情网”已经先后4次获得中国互联网违法和不良信息举报中心的奖励。该网站还荣获了由中华孔子学会、中国伦理学会德育专业委员会等组织的“影响中国”2011年度道德人物评选活动的特别奖。

According to introducing,Due to report to pornographic web sites,"Against pornography web"Have successively won 4 times China Internet illegal information reporting center and bad reward.The site also won by the Confucius society/Learn Chinese ethics moral education professional committee of the organization, etc"Affect China"2011 annual moral character selection activities of the special award.

　　但两年多来，“反色情网”“宣传反色情知识”的专业水准受到了不少质疑：有人指出，网站所刊载的性知识误导青少年；更有专家忧虑地对中国青年报记者表示，在青少年常常借助网络独自寻找性困惑的答案时，像“反色情网”这种只有爱心但不专业的“恐吓式”性教育，令人堪忧！

But for more than two years,"Against pornography web""Propaganda of knowledge against pornography"Professional standards are a lot of questions:It is noted that,Web site published sexual knowledge mislead teenagers;More experts worry to the China youth daily reporters,With the application of network in adolescent often alone looking for sex confused the answer,like"Against pornography web"The only love but not professional"Threaten type"Sex education,worrying!

　　

“手淫”、“同性恋”被归为色情 "masturbation"/"gay"Referred to as pornography

　　通过媒体报道得知“反色情网”后，媒体人吕频马上浏览了该网站。她坦言，网站内容让她觉得“太荒唐”。

Through the media reported that"Against pornography web"after,The media people LvPin immediately browsing the web site.She said,Site content to let her think"It is absurd to".

　　“该网站对色情的定义十分宽泛。”令吕频无法理解的是，“手淫”、“同性恋”在“反色情网”都被归入了“色情”、“淫邪”的行列。

"This web site to pornographic definition is very broad."Make LvPin cannot understand is,"masturbation"/"gay"in"Against pornography web"Were classified as the"pornography"/"corrupt"ranks.

　　吕频注意到，网站专门设立了“手淫之害”、“同性恋之害”、“戒除手淫”等栏目，其中，《细说邪淫危害：手淫》、《男人不做男人，我对不起爸爸妈妈》、《怎样克服同志倾向呢》等文章，传播的性观念和性知识值得商榷。

LvPin noticed,Web site set up"Masturbation and"/"Gay and"/"Got rid of masturbation"And other columns,the,[Expatiate fornication harm:masturbation]/[Man does not make the man,I'm sorry mom and dad]/[How to overcome the tendency to comrade]Articles and so on,Propagation of sexual idea and sexual knowledge is questionable.

　　她表示，虽然该网站出于忧心下一代因性迷失的考虑，将青少年作为重要的教育对象，“但仅就其对同性恋和手淫的无知、歧视而言，就不能称为合格的性教育者”。

She says,Although the web site of the next generation of anxiety because of sexual lost consideration,Will teenagers as important education object,"But only the gay and masturbation ignorance/Discrimination in,It cannot be called a qualified sex educators".

　　除此之外，吕频还提醒说，网站中诸如“同居让女孩由橘变枳”、“女孩找对了婆家就是橘，找不对就是枳”等观点，也不是正确的婚恋观。

In addition,LvPin also remind said,Website such as the"Cohabitation want to let the girl by orange variable thunb"/"The girl found the husband's family is orange,Find wrong is empirically"View such as,Marriage is not correct.

　　而网站采用的“恐吓式”性教育，更令吕频难以接受。

But the web site"Threaten type"Sex education,What makes LvPin hard to accept.

　　在“反色情网”的“淫乱恶果”栏目中，不乏《邪淫让我总是与好运失之交臂》、《淫人妻女，妻女必被人淫》、《淫邪恶报感应录》等以“因果报应”来警告人们勿淫邪、勿堕胎的文章。

in"Against pornography web"of"Fornication consequences"Column of,Thering is no lack of[Fornication let I always missed and good luck]/[Influence among her people,Will be only her]/[Corrupt evil for induction record]to"karma"To warn people not corrupt/Don't abortion articles.

　　她直言不讳地指出：“反色情网”这种所谓的“挽救”是对青少年的误导，长此以往令人堪忧。

She uneuphemistically makes:"Against pornography web"The so-called"save"For the young people is misleading,In the long run is concerned.

　　

青少年借助网络为性困惑寻找答案 Teenagers with the aid of network for sexual confusion for the answers

　　谈起创办初衷，9月7日，“反色情网”7名初创者之一的赵女士告诉记者，“反色情网”的宗旨就是为了“遏制色情泛滥，弘扬中华民族伦理道德，建设社会主义精神文明新风尚，净化社会人心”，宣传反色情知识，举报色情网站。

About original intention was,On September 7,,"Against pornography web"One of the seven start-up of ms zhao told reporters,"Against pornography web"Aim is to"Curb pornography flood,Carry forward the Chinese nation ethics,The construction of socialist spiritual civilization new fashion,Purification social people",Propaganda of knowledge against pornography,Report pornographic web sites.

　　另一初创者柳女士介绍说，初创的7人都是经常做公益的朋友，来自各行各业。目前，网站的核心管理人员有10人左右，其中也有男性。

Another start-up is ms liu said,The startup, aviva bioscicences 7 people are often do public friend,Come from all walks of life.At present,The core of the web site management personnel 10 people or so,Some of them are men.

　　“忏悔台”、“淫乱恶果”、“清心园”、“德音雅乐”……“反色情网”20多个栏目的设置，是依靠大家的“集思广益”。各栏目中，记述网友亲身经历的文章占网站稿件的近二分之一，其他几乎全部由网友推荐。

"Confession table"/"Fornication consequences"/"Clearing away the garden"/"DE sound gagaku"……"Against pornography web"More than 20 columns Settings,Depend on everybody"brainstorm".Each column of,Describes net friend experience article accounted for nearly half website manuscript,Other almost entirely by the net friend recommended.

　　柳女士承认，10名核心管理员之间较为“松散”，各自负责将网友推荐的“有警醒作用”的稿件上传网站，同时10人还可以随时查看邮箱，回复网友邮件。

Willow lady admitted that,10 core administrator is between"loose",Responsible for their net friend recommended"A vigilant role"The manuscript the upload sites,At the same time 10 people can always check E-mail,Reply net friend mail.

　　她告诉记者，先后有数十家国家和地方媒体宣传报道过该网站。“每一次媒体报道后，都会带动网站的点击量。”

She told reporters,There have been dozens of national and local media publicity reported the web site."Every time after media reports,Will drive the website hits."

　　网站统计数据显示，每日独立访客数量的最高值达到了1.1万，累计达128.9万。登陆IP地址分布于山东、福建、河北、陕西、河南、新疆、内蒙古等地。

Website statistics data show,The number of visitors to the independent daily high reached 11000,Amounted to 1.289 million.Landing IP address distribution in shandong/fujian/hebei/shaanxi/henan/xinjiang/Inner Mongolia.

　　赵女士特别指出：“其中大部分为青少年网友。”因为涉及对性问题的困惑，很多青少年羞于向父母、师长请教，于是转而通过互联网，自己寻找答案。在赵女士看来，“反色情网”的创办除举报色情网站外，也起到了为这些青少年释疑解惑的作用。

Ms zhao specifically:"Most users for young people."Because of the confusion in sexual problems,Many teenagers ashamed to their parents/Teachers ask,So turn through the Internet,To answer for yourself.Women seem in zhao,"Against pornography web"The foundation of the report in addition to pornographic web sites,Also play a for the teenagers disabuse to reassure role.

　　她告诉记者，通过打电话、发邮件、QQ向网站求助的，大多数是青少年。

She told reporters,Through the call/E-mail/QQ to web site for help,Most are teenagers.

　　

“忏悔疗法”、“恕道戒淫法”受到质疑 "Confession therapy"/"Forgives her method from"questioned

　　记者在该网站的“戒除手淫”专栏中，看到许多青少年网友贴出了自己的“戒淫”誓言 “从今天起，我这辈子都不会再手淫”；“戒除手淫1000天！”……

Reporter in the website"Got rid of masturbation"column,See many teenagers netizen posted their"Quit her"oath "From this day onwards,I've won't masturbation";"Kick the masturbation 1000 days!"……

　　该网站的相关文章显示，“手淫”使不少青少年背上了沉重的心理负担。

The website of the relevant article display,"masturbation"Make many teenagers to carry on a heavy psychometrics burden.

　　在《高中生讲述自慰后的痛苦》一文中，一位高中生认为自己因自慰出现了生理不适，他觉得“很丢人”，选择“没告诉爸妈”。在网上了解到前列腺炎“不好治”后，他便开始恐惧，甚至表示已与未来的孩子说“再见”。

in[High school students about masturbation after the pain]The article,A high school student think you for masturbation appeared physical discomfort,He felt"Is a shame",choose"Didn't tell mom and dad".In the online to know prostatitis"Bad governance"after,He began to fear,Even said already and future children said"goodbye".

　　在《长期手淫的我现在的样子》一文中，一名网友更介绍说自己“手淫”之前算是个比较活泼开朗的人，他认为“恶习”让他变得“性格自闭、内向、自卑，人多的场合不敢说话”，甚至“现在还带了点猥琐”。

in[Long-term masturbation of I now look]The article,A net friend more said himself"masturbation"Before a quite lively, cheerful people,He thinks"vice"Let him become"Character autistic/introverted/inferiority,Public can't speak",even"Now with some trivial".

　　“手淫并不等于淫邪！”河北省心理咨询师协会副理事长，生殖健康咨询师培训讲师田国才强调，现在医学上已经用中性词“自慰”代替带有歧视意味的“手淫”一词。并且现代医学上认为，“自慰”是一种正常的宣泄行为，适度自慰也并无害处。

"Masturbation does not equal to corrupt!"Hebei psychological consultant association deputy director,Reproductive health consultant training lecturer TianGuoCai stressed,Now medical have neuter gender phrase"masturbation"Instead of a means of discrimination"masturbation"A word.And the modern medicine thought,"masturbation"Is one kind of normal catharsis behavior,Moderate masturbation and harmless place.

　　田国才发现，“反色情网”几乎全部使用“手淫”一词，带有明显的道德审判色彩，将正常的“自慰”行为和“淫邪”画上了等号。

TianGuoCai found,"Against pornography web"Almost all use"masturbation"A word,With obvious moral judgment colour,Will normal"masturbation"Behavior and"corrupt"Painting of the equal sign.

　　他还发现，“手淫之害”专栏的多数文章均采用现身说法形式，告诫“一旦染上手淫，不仅身体会垮掉，而且一生都完了”。田国才表示，这些现身说法“过于危言耸听”，“最重要的是‘适度’！”

He also found that,"Masturbation and"Most of the column article adopts advise others by using one's form,warned"Once infected with masturbation,Not only the body will crumble to dust,And life all over".TianGuoCai said,These advise others"Too alarmism","The most important thing is‘moderate’!"

　　田国才特别指出，自慰的害处并不在其行为本身，“自慰后的负罪感”才是最大危害。“许多人自慰后懊恼、后悔，认为自己万劫不复，长期处于这种心理状态下，没病反倒生出病。”

TianGuoCai special points out,Masturbation does harm not in its behavior itself,"Masturbation of guilt"Is the biggest harm."Many people masturbate after chagrin/regret,Think you everlasting perdition,In the long run, this kind of mental state,Have no disease but produce disease."

　　记者在该网站“戒除手淫”栏目中，看到一篇“介绍几个戒除手淫的专业法门”的文章。针对青少年“戒除手淫”，该文介绍了这样的方法 “忏悔疗法”，写一篇忏悔录，把自己的苦闷、罪恶真诚地发泄出来，然后再反反复复地忏悔，反反复复地许愿发誓；“恕道戒淫法”，把一切女人想象成自己的亲人，年纪大的看成是自己的母亲，年纪相当的看成是自己的姊妹，年纪小的看成自己的女儿或者是自己未来的女儿。

Reporters on the web site"Got rid of masturbation"Column of,See a"Introduce a few got rid of masturbation professional practice"article.Aimed at young teenagers"Got rid of masturbation",This paper introduces this method "Confession therapy",Write an essay confessions,Their distress/Sin sincerely let out,And then repeatedly to confess,Repeatedly to vow to swear;"Forgives her method from",Put all women imagine their loved ones,Older as his mother,Age quite as his sister,Young as his own daughter or is the daughter of his future.

　　对“反色情网”创办的良好初衷，田国才并不怀疑，但对其为青少年解疑释惑的能力和水平却提出了质疑。

to"Against pornography web"Established good original intention,TianGuoCai do not doubt,But the questions for young people the ability and level had put a question.

　　

选志愿者不考虑专业背景 Choose a volunteer not to consider professional background

　　7月17日，自称“一个手淫的人”的网友给“反色情网”公布的邮箱发邮件寻求帮助。“我本来想自己戒掉手淫的，但是每次都挡不住诱惑。”这名网友迫切想知道管理员的手机号和QQ号，以方便联系。

July 17,Claim to"A masturbation people"'s net friend give"Against pornography web"Published mailbox mail for help."I wanted to quit his of masturbation,But every time all can not hold up against temptation."A net friend desperately want to know the phone number and QQ number,To facilitate contact.

　　记者注意到，管理员在邮件中建议他：写一写您的经历、后果，发在这里，我们转交给心理咨询老师。

Reporter noticed,Administrator in mail advised him:Write a write your experience/consequences,Post here,We turn over to psychological counseling teachers.

　　柳女士告诉记者，为了回复这些留言、维护网站，10名核心管理员每天都要花费大量时间，且并不计算报酬。虽然不断有心理咨询网站想花钱和“反色情网”合作，但因为担心对方以营利为目的，误导青少年，“反色情网”最终拒绝了这些合作邀约。

Ms liu told reporters,In order to reply to these comments/Maintenance of website,10 core administrator everyday want to spend a lot of time,And not calculation reward.Although there is growing psychological consultation website want to spend money and"Against pornography web"cooperation,But because of fears that the other party carry on a business for profit,Misleading teenagers,"Against pornography web"Eventually rejected the cooperation invitation.

　　不过对于回复中提到的“转交给心理咨询师”，柳女士和赵女士表示，网站管理员中并没有心理和生殖健康方面的专业人士。目前，网站志愿者已发展到200多人，成为该网站志愿者的唯一标准就是有爱心，而学历、专业背景不在考察之列。

But for the reply mentioned"Turn over to psychological consultant",Willow lady and ms zhao said,The webmaster and no psychological and reproductive health professionals.At present,Web site volunteers has developed to more than 200,Become the site volunteers only standard is to have love,And the degree/Professional background is not among the investigation.

　　对于大多数网友的求助，他们会像对网友“一个手淫的人”说的那样：“本网有许多戒除的经验”，鼓励其多浏览一些戒色网站和论坛。

For most users to for help,They would like to net friend"A masturbation people"Said that:"We have many from experience",Encourage its browse through some ring color website and BBS.

　　不过网友“一个手淫的人”最终对咨询的结果并不满意，他在邮件中表示说：“都看完了，我是想说，我要怎么戒？”而他收到的回复也只是，“我们也只能告诉您一些道理，改变还得靠自己。”

But net friend"A masturbation people"Ultimately for consulting results are not satisfied,He said in the mail:"Are finished,I want to say,How can I quit?"And he received reply is just,"We can only tell you some truth,Change still have to rely on their own."

　　对于是否有人会质疑该网站不够专业，学习检验专业的赵女士辩解称：用优秀传统文化的思想，比如儒家思想，作指导原则就“足够了”。

For if someone questioned the website is not professional,Learning inspection professional zhao lady defends:With excellent traditional culture thoughts,Such as Confucianism,For guiding principle is"enough".

　　她举例说：孔子评论《诗经》时提出“思无邪”，这就是一个指导原则，要求不能够有“邪思邪念”；孔子还说过，少之时，血气未稳，要戒之在色。“这些都是经过几千年验证了的！”她补充说。

She, for example:Confucius' comments[The book of odes]Put forward when"Think no evil",This is a guiding principle,Request not to have"Evil thought evil thoughts";Confucius said,Less when the,Flesh not stability,Want to quit in the color of the."These are all after thousands of years of verified!"She added.

　　作为一名专业人士，田国才并不认同这一观点。“性心理、生殖健康都是严谨的科学问题。”他表示，解答这类问题，当然要由专业人士，按照相关专业知识，给出准确答案。

As a professional,TianGuoCai does not agree with this view."Sexual psychology/Reproductive health is rigorous scientific questions."He said,To solve the problem,Of course the professionals,In accordance with the relevant professional knowledge,Provide accurate answer.

　　对于“反色情网”的情况，田国才表达了担忧：许多青少年在性的问题上出现困惑，不愿和父母交流，而选择相信网络信息，“一旦信息有误，便会造成认知上的极大偏差，心理阴影更可能伴随一生。”(樊江涛 周聪聪)

for"Against pornography web"situation,TianGuoCai expressed concern:Many teenagers in sexual questions appeared confused,Don't want to communicate with their parents,And choose to believe that network information,"Once the wrong information,Will cause cognitive maximum deviation,Psychological shadow more likely to accompany lifetime."(FanJiangTao ZhouCongCong)