军训，已然成为学生迈向新起点的第一课。十天左右的军训，通过队列训练、内务训练，旨在培养学生的团队合作意识、严谨规范意识和吃苦耐劳的意志品格。近日，记者在省会一所中等职业学校调查发现，貌似柔弱的女孩子们轻伤不下火线，对军训欣然接受，倒是那些男孩子们面对训练叫苦连天，泡病号，甚至串通家长“演双簧”。人们不禁反问，学生们到底怎么了？什么原因让本应充满活力的男生们变成了弱不禁风的“玻璃脆”？

Military training,It has become a new starting point to students of the first class.About ten days of military training,Through the queue training/Interior training,Aims to cultivate students' teamwork consciousness/Rigorous standard consciousness and bear hardships and stand hard work will character.recently,Reporter in the provincial capital a secondary vocational school survey found,Seemingly weak girls minor injury not burn,Military training to accept,It is those boys in the face of the training cry to heaven,PaoBingHao,Even in collusion with parents"Play programses of".People can not help but ask,The students how exactly?Why let this should be energetic boys become fragile"Glass brittle"?

　　学校不能天天洗澡，男生选择退学 The school can't take a shower every day,Boys drop out of school choice

　　15岁的肖阔今年考入石市一家职业学校。入学参加军训三天，每次列队他都是懒懒散散，教官屡次调教不改，曾痛骂他是“一滩烂泥”。受不了军训的苦，肖阔打电话给父母要求退学。父母知道孩子的性格，但也想趁机会好好磨炼一下儿子，就主动跟班主任联系，让肖阔一定坚持军训，并不再接孩子电话。

15 years old this year XiaoKuo admitted to stone city a vocational school.Admission to participate in military training three days,Each rank he is idling about,Instructor frequently set-up do not change,Had bawl out he is"A beach mud".Can't stand the suffering of military training,XiaoKuo call parents to ask drop out of school.Parents know that a child's character,But also embracing to chasten a son,Is active footman director contact,Let XiaoKuo must adhere to the military training,And no longer meet the child telephone.

　　肖阔实在没办法，只能选择逃避：其他人集合军训，他躲到餐厅的角落；其他人整理内务，他长时间蹲厕所。“对我来说，军训就像火上烤、锅里熬一般痛苦，太累了，我受不了。”肖阔毫不掩饰自己对军训的厌恶。

XiaoKuo do not have method really,Can only choose escape:Others set military training,He hide in the corner of the restaurant;Others make your bed,His long squat toilet."For me,Military training is like the fire roast/Pot boil general pain,Too tired,I can't stand."XiaoKuo made no effort to hide their dislike of military training.

　　作为肖阔的同学，新生张焕患了另一种厌学病——— 适应不了集体生活。开学5天后，张焕的父母来学校给他办理了退学手续。班主任了解退学原因，他只说就想退学。向教官了解，教官说这孩子训练很认真，从没有消极情绪；向宿舍人员了解，同宿舍的说他一直情绪稳定。后来班主任与其家长沟通情况，询问到底是有人欺负张焕还是军训的强度过大时，其母满怀歉意地说，“学校老师挺负责任，学校环境也很好，但我家孩子从没住过校，孩子退学一是不能天天洗澡，二是食堂伙食不习惯，天天吃泡面。实在是受不了，只能选择退学，找个能够走读的学校。”“现在这样娇生惯养吃不了苦的孩子越来越多了，尤其是近两年，这不，军训开始才不到一星期，我这边已经接到很多孩子的退学申请了。”该校一名班主任无奈地说。

As XiaoKuo classmates,New ZhangHuan had another kind of be disgusted disease -- is not adapted for collective life.Five days after the,ZhangHuan parents came to the school to give him to deal with the formalities of drop out of school.The teacher in charge to understand drop out of reason,He only said it wanted to leave school.To instructor know,Instructor said the child training very seriously,Never negative emotions;To the dormitory staff know,Roommate said he was emotional stability.Later, the teacher in charge and its parent communicate situation,Ask exactly is someone bullied ZhangHuan or the intensity of military training is too,Mother said with regret,"School teacher is responsible,School environment is also very good,But my children have never lived in school,Children drop out of school a is can't take a shower every day,The second is not used to the food in the school cafeteria,Eat instant noodles every day.Is really can't stand,Can only choose drop out of school,Find a can day school.""This can't bear hardship spoiled children are more and more,Especially in,It's not,Military training began to less than a week,My side has received many children drop out of the application."The school a teacher in charge helplessly said.

　　男生叫苦连天，女生意志坚强 Boy cry to heaven,Girl has a strong will

　　记者采访的这所职业学校是河北众多职业学校之一，大部分孩子是中学毕业后直接来这里学习技术的，平均年龄普遍在15岁至16岁之间。“按理说，这个年纪的孩子应该学会独立了，而现实往往不是这样的。”

Reporter interviews the vocational school is one of the many vocational schools in hebei province,The majority of children is after graduating from high school directly come here to learn technology,The average age in common between 15 to 16 years old."By rights,This age children should learn to be independent,But the reality is often not such."

　　据该校教务处主任介绍，本着锤炼学生心智，同时加强身体锻炼的目的，新生入校，他们都会要求进行军训。前几年，军训安排在部队，实行全封闭式。期间，学生和教官们同吃同住，一律不准外出，反而叫苦喊累的人不是那么多。最近两年在学校军训，住宿和吃饭条件改善很多，学生却不习惯了，退学率不降反升。“十天军训我全程参与，近三年来我观察，男女生对于军训的态度，跟传统观念中的认识会有所颠覆。看似软弱的女孩顶着烈日站军姿，一站几个小时没事，泡病号、叫苦连天的却是那些看似很强壮的男孩子。”

According to the school academic director is introduced,Based on students' mind,At the same time, strengthen the purpose of the exercise,Enrolling new,They will for military training.Before a few years,Military training arrangement in the army,A totally enclosed.period,Students and the instructors with eat to live,Are not allowed to go out,But cry shout tired are not so much.Over the past two years in school military training,Accommodation and meal conditions improve a lot,Students did not accustomed to,Attrition rate does not drop back up."Ten days I participate in military training,Nearly three years I observation,Men and women living in the attitude of the military training,With the traditional concept of the understanding would be upset.Seemingly weak girl under the scorching sun JunZi station,A station a few hours all right,PaoBingHao/Cry to heaven are those who seem very strong boy."

　　他曾亲历的两个案例就是一个很好的对比。前几天军训，一名女生突发胃病，胃部疼痛不止，可她不愿意耽误军训。吃完胃药后继续训练。而另一个男生，为了逃避站军姿，曾在两天内三次翻墙头逃跑。“三年来，军训期间女生请假的非常少，更别提退学。”这名主任介绍说。“每年第一个办理退学的，百分之百都是男生。”

He had by two case is a good contrast.Military training a few days ago,A girl burst stomach trouble,Stomach pain more than,But she doesn't want to delay military training.Finish after gastric medicine to continue training.And another boy,In order to avoid JunZi station,In two days was three times over the wall escape."Three years,During military training very few girls ask for leave,Mention drop out of school."A director said."Every year the first deal with the drop out of school,One hundred percent were all boys."

　　记者查阅该校提供的数据发现，今年该校共接受新生910人，其中男女比例为1：1。而在不到一周的时间里，已退学和拟退学的21人中，男生占到了三分之二，多达15人。

Reporters access to the school to provide the data found,The school this year a total of 910 people accept new,The gender ratio is 1:1.In less than a week in time,Already drop out of school and quasi drop out of 21 people,The boy accounted for two-thirds,Up to 15 people.

　　家长串通孩子一起应付学校 Parents collude with children cope with the school

　　除了男生的吃苦能力退化，被女生甩到了后面，更让一些老师们不理解的是家长的态度。“以前，遇到学生出现入学不适应的抵触情绪后，家长们很通情达理，会和校方联合起来做学生的工作。现在却演化成家长和学生结盟，一起来应付老师。”该校一名班主任失望地说，有的时候，因为过分溺爱和心疼孩子，学生和家长串通起来编造谎言。

In addition to the boy's father's degradation ability,The girl was left behind,More let some teachers don't understand is the attitude of the parents."before,Meet students appear admission does not adapt the conflict after mood,Parents are very reasonable,And the school will unite to do the work of students.But now have evolved parents and students alliance,Together to deal with the teacher."The school a class teacher disappointed to say,sometimes,Because spoiling their children and love dearly,Students and parents in collusion with up forged a lie.

　　该校有一名男生，跟校医说军训期间出现大腿抽筋，不能长时间站立，想军训期间在旁见习，未被批准。次日，其母来到学校，对班主任说男孩在四川的爷爷病危，他是长孙，按当地风俗必须回家见爷爷一面。“他被其母带回两天后，新生需要学籍现场注册，我就给他母亲打电话，询问孩子在哪儿，对方当即回答在石家庄。后来意识到自己说话有误，又补充道，我工作忙，让孩子自己回四川了。”事后，班主任问起和这名学生同在一个军训班的初中同学，这位同学回答道，“他的QQ号每天都挂着，他说还是呆在家里舒服，让我们羡慕嫉妒恨呀。”

The school has a boy,With school doctor said during military training in leg cramps,Can't stand for long,Want to military training period in the practice,Has not been approved.The next day,Mother came to the school,To the teacher in charge said boy in sichuan's grandfather be terminally ill,He is an,According to local custom must go home to see grandpa side."He was her mother back to two days later,New students need onsite registration,I will call to his mother,Ask the children where,Each other immediately answer in shijiazhuang.Then realized I speak incorrectly,added,I work busy,Let the child himself back to the sichuan."afterwards,The teacher in charge asked and the student with a military training class of the junior middle school students,The students answered,"His QQ number hanging every day,He said or stay at home and comfortable,Let us envy jealousy hate ah."

　　“这不是欺骗是什么？”这名班主任反问道，“这些家长也太不负责任了。”

"This is not cheating is what?"A teacher in charge counter-question a way,"These parents also too irresponsible the."

　问题孩子背后一定有个问题家长 Problems behind children must have a question parents

　　这些年，关于男孩教育连连败退的报道也经常在媒体上出现。诸如，吃苦耐劳精神、挫折教育严重匮乏等。最近比较热的一个话题是男孩阳刚不足，阴柔有余，出现“男孩女性化”倾向。“一个人的成长是家庭、社会和学校共同促成的，除了学校教育外，家庭教育更能影响孩子的一生。”一位教育界人士表示，“一个问题孩子背后，肯定有一个问题家长。”

these,About the boy education repeatedly now reports also often appear on the media.Such as,Preparedness to work hard/Setback education serious lack, etc.Recently is a hot topic is the boy masculine shortage,More feminine,appear"The boy feminine"tendency."A person's growth is family/Social and school contributed to the common,In addition to the school education,Family education more can affect a child's life."A educators say,"A problem child behind,There must be a question parents."

　　他分析说，这些年，随着城镇居民生活水平的提升，还有独生子女政策的推广，一个家庭围绕一个孩子转，对孩子的培养完全乱了章法。一些家长甚至认为毫无节制的满足孩子，顺应他们的想法，就是对孩子好。“这是大错特错。过分地溺爱孩子，只能让孩子娇生惯养，没有责任和担当。尤其是男孩，原本应该是顶天立地的男子汉，长期在这种家庭教育的熏染下，到一个崭新的环境一遇到困难，就像遇到军训这种事，不是选择适应，努力寻找解决问题，而是选择消极对抗，甚至选择逃避，也就不稀奇了。”“我们在谈到学校教育和家庭相互背离不相融合的时候常说的一个公式叫做“5+2=0”，就是说老师辛辛苦苦用5天培养的良好习惯、思想品质，孩子们回家两天就被家长的错误言行彻底颠覆了。”省会另一名专教育家也呼吁，希望更多的家长能认识到这个问题。建立健康的家庭教育氛围，同时和学校建立良性的沟通，给孩子创造一条健康的成长之路。

He said the analysis,these,Along with the urban residents living level of ascension,And one-child policy promotion,A family around a child turn,To the child's culture is totally messed up composition.Some parents even think rampant meet the children,Comply with their ideas,Is good for children."This is a big mistake.Excessively spoiling children,Can let the child be spoiled,No responsibility and bear.Especially the boy,Originally should be the tallest man,Long-term in this family education under the happiness,To a new environment to every difficulty,Like meet military training this kind of thing,Not choose to adapt to,Try to find problem solving,But choice against negative,Even the choice of escape,Is nobody in particular.""We are talking about the school education and family not deviate from each other when combining say a formula is called"5 + 2 = 0",That is the teacher training hard for five days of good habits/Thought quality,The children home two days is parents' words and deeds error overturned thoroughly."Capital the other a special educators also called for,Hope that more parents can recognize the problem.To build up a healthy family education atmosphere,At the same time and school set up benign communication,Give children to create a healthy growth path.