原标题：为当班干部，小学生“贿赂”同学

Original title:For cadres on duty,pupils"bribery"students

　　小学四年级的孩子居然会贿赂同学了！昨天下午，网友“晕无语”在西祠上吐槽：同事一早发现桌上的100多块钱不见了，结果竟是孩子拿去贿赂同学拉选票了。这事让“晕无语”真是又晕又无语：“怎么现在小孩子的内心世界和大人一样如此复杂？！这到底是小孩的原因还是大人造成的呢？”

The fourth grade children should bribery classmate!Yesterday afternoon,Net friend"Halo speechless"In the XiCi spit tank:Colleagues early in the morning found more than 100 dollars on the table disappeared,The results were children take bribes classmate pull the votes.It let"Halo speechless"What a halo and speechless:"How is child's inner world and as adults so complex?!What is the cause of the children or adults? Cause?"

　　为了当班干部 In order to shift cadres

　　孩子拿了100元钱“贿赂”同学 The child took 100 yuan"bribery"students

　　【网友发帖】 [Netizens Posting]

　　“晕无语”说，一早上班就听同事说，家里桌上的100多元钱不翼而飞了，后来一追问，才知道是被孩子拿去用了，“如果是买一些吃喝的东西也就算了，哪知道是因为班上一个班干部被免职了，老师要班上同学投票民主选举，结果这孩子拿钱去买小东西贿赂班上同学拉选票！”

"Halo speechless"said,Early in the morning to go to work colleague said,Home of the table 100 multivariate money has disappeared,Then ask a,Just know is the child take to use,"If buy some eat and drink also calculated,Which know because a class cadre in the class was dismissed from his position,The teacher the class to vote democratic election,Results the child take money to buy thing bribes the class ballot!"

　　“晕无语”说，听完这番话，真的是又晕又无语，“现在的孩子都是怎么了，怎么内心那么复杂？到底是谁造成的？”

"Halo speechless"said,After hearing these words,Really is again dizzy and speechless,"Now the children is what,How the heart so complicated?Who is the cause?"

　　【家长观点】 [Parents' opinion]

　　“晕无语”的吐槽引来了不少家长围观，一部分家长认为这样的事情可以理解。

"Halo speechless"The spit tank attracted many parents onlookers,Part of their parents think that such a thing can understand.

　　“毕竟学校是个小社会，更何况现在的孩子成熟得早。”有家长甚至直言：“在说孩子的同时，想想自己，每到教师节时，有几个家长不给老师送礼，这算不算贿赂呢？”

"After all, the school is a small society,Besides now child matures early."Have parents and even the truth:"In the said the child at the same time,Think of yourself,When every teacher's day,There are several parents don't give the teacher a gift,That's not a bribe??"

　　不过也有很多家长不能认同这样的观点。

But there are also many parents do not subscribe to such views.

　　“这么小的孩子就那么世故，和家庭教育有很大关系。孩子还是单纯点好！”

"Such a small child so sophisticated,And there is a great relationship between family education.The child or simple point good!"

　　【老师看法】 [The teacher view]

　　南京雨花台区实验小学一年级班主任张忠芹说，这种现象并不算罕见。

It is nanjing experimental primary school grade one teacher in charge ZhangZhongQin said,This kind of phenomenon does not calculate rare.

　　“特别精明的孩子小学三四年级就会有这种行为。孩子之所以会有这样的行为大多和家庭教育有关，“机灵的家长多着呢，孩子也会耳濡目染的。”

"Special smart child elementary school three or four grade will have this kind of behavior.Children have such behavior mostly and family education related,"Smart parents got so much,The children are exposed to."

　　“两年前，班上有个男孩子，家里是做生意的，这个孩子组织能力很强，很擅长处理各种人际关系，评选三好学生前，他就买了很多小零食分发给同学们。”

"Two years ago,There is a boy in the class,The family is the business,This child have strong organizational skills,Is good at dealing with various kinds of interpersonal relationship,The selection merit student before,He bought a lot of small snacks out to the classmates."

　　对于这样的情况，张忠芹认为不能一棍子打死，单纯地说好或者不好。

For this situation,ZhangZhongQin think not a stick killed,Simply say good or bad.

　　“就像这个孩子，他也没有露骨地表明，‘你吃我的东西就一定要选我’，他只是明白这些相处之道，而这也是一种社会常态的体现。”

"Like the child,He did not broadly show,‘You eat my things must choose me’,He just understand that these along the way,And this is also a kind of social normal reflect."

　　心理专家 Psychological experts

　　10岁之前 Before the age of 10

　　家长不必大惊小怪 Parents don't have to make a fuss

　　南京心理危机干预中心主任张纯说，孩子在社会化过程中，通过电视、广播、家庭等学习一些社会知识，会产生一些成人化的举动，比如说话、做事像小大人。“隐形教育在孩子的成长中是很重要的养分，不可忽略。”

Nanjing psychological crisis intervention ZhangChun, director of the center said,Children in the socialization process,Through the television/broadcast/The family, as well as learn some knowledge of the society,Will produce some ChengRenHua move,Such as speech/Like a grownup work."Invisible education in the child's growth is very important nutrients,Can not be ignored."

　　张纯指出，在孩子10岁之前，商品意识不强，只是知道施与别人一些小恩小惠，别人会对自己好，这就好比孩子认为：“我喜欢吃糖，其他小朋友也喜欢吃糖，我给他们糖吃，他们就会和我玩。”

ZhangChun pointed out that,Before a child's 10th birthday,Commodity consciousness is not strong,Just know that give people a little presents,Others will to oneself good,It's like children think:"I like to eat sugar,The other kids also like to eat sugar,I gave them the sweets,They will play with me."

　　10岁前，孩子的任何行为都是刺激、反应、再刺激、再反应，这样固着化的结果，“只要不是家长让孩子刻意为之的，都不用过度担心，这是符合孩子心理发育规律的，家长不能将此理解成世故。”

Before the age of 10,The child's any behavior is stimulus/reaction/To stimulate/Then reaction,Such sessile change results,"As long as it's not parents let children to painstakingly,All need not excessive worry,It is in the child's mental development law,Parents will not this understanding into sophisticated."

　　而10岁之后，孩子有了耻感，会知道，为了一张选票付出这样的代价，是不符合社会主流价值观的，这时如果孩子还会有类似行为，而且金额过大，家长应该友情提醒，“告诉孩子，要通过自己的努力获得大家的认可，而不是这样的方式。”

And after 10 years,Children have shame,Will know,In order to vote to pay such a price,Is not conform to social mainstream values,At this time if the children will have similar behavior,And the amount is too large,Parents should friendship remind,"Tell the children,Through their own efforts to gain the recognition,Not this way."

　　现代快报记者 郝多

Modern express reporter hao much