本报讯“一条牛仔裤，两床被单，三双袜子，五件短袖。”汉口学院电信电气学院大一新生尹小寒（化名），将自己的脏衣服打包邮寄回襄阳的家中让父母帮忙清洗。昨日，他回到家却发现包裹仍被打包放在家里，父母不给洗。

Report from our correspondent"A pair of jeans,Two bed sheets,Three pairs of socks,Five pieces of short sleeve."Hankou college telecom electrical college freshmen a slight cold(alias),Will his dirty clothes packing mail back to the house of xiangyang let parents help cleaning.yesterday,He went home only to find package is still being packing is put in the home,Parents don't wash.

　　原来，尹小寒在9月28日就将自己军训后一个星期的衣服打包好，向申通快递邮寄了包裹。在快递发出后，尹小寒给父母发了短信说军训很累，不想洗衣服，想让父母把自己邮寄回去的衣物好好洗一下，父母当时也没拒绝。但国庆节他回到家中，发现寄回去的衣服原封不动地放在家里，父母压根没打开过。“所以衣服还是得自己亲自清洗。”尹小寒说。

The original,A slight cold on September 28 will his military training after a week's clothes are packed,To ShenTong express mail the package.In the express issued,A slight cold give parents sent a text said military training very tired,Don't want to wash his clothes,Want to let parents their mail back clothes to wash,At that time, didn't have refused to parents.But the National Day he came home,Found that send back clothes intact at home,Parents never have been opened."So clothes still have to wash yourself."A slight cold said.

　　第一次离家，他发现学校的申通快递不贵，于是他就花钱打包邮寄回家给父母洗。“上高中时父母就很惯我，由于不想耽误我的学习，家务活都不会让我多做。上大学了，我想把衣物寄回去让父母帮忙清洗，再享受下高中时‘衣来伸手，饭来张口’的生活，结果被父母拒绝了。”尹小寒泄气地说。

The first home,He found that the school ShenTong express not expensive,So he went home to your parents spend money pack mail wash."In high school when parents are used to me,Because don't want to lose my study,Housework will not let me to do more.college,I'd like to send clothes back let parents help cleaning,To enjoy the high school‘YiLaiShenShou,farther’life,The result is the parents refused."A slight cold discouraged to say.

　　“我们不是不帮他洗，他上大学了，像洗衣服之类的生活小事就应该由他自己来完成。”尹母说，“我们做父母的不能惯着孩子，希望通过这件事能让孩子明白，父母不会帮他一辈子。”

"We are not not to help him wash,He go to university,Like washing clothes and so on small life should be by himself to complete."Yin said mother,"We do the parents can not spoil the child,Hope that through this thing can let the child understand,Parents won't help him for a lifetime."

　　汉口学院电信电气学院新生辅导员孙宪魁表示，新生刚进入大学校园，离开了父母，生活难免会感到不适应，不过适应一段时间后就会消除这种依赖感，养成独立生活的习惯。不过洗衣服这类力所能及的事情应该由自己亲自来解决。

Hankou college telecom electrical college freshman counselors SunXianKui said,New just enter the university campus,Left the parents,Life will inevitably feel does not adapt,But to adapt to after period of time will eliminate this has,Develop the habit of independent life.But wash his clothes such things should be within the reach of by myself to solve.

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 no"weaning":Freshmen just to school noisy to go back home

　　武汉科技大学附属天佑医院精神卫生科主任胡一文接受采访时说，进入大学，意味着学生要建立一个新的交际圈，这对于许多一直待在父母身边的独生子女来说，出现情绪反复和不适应的感觉是很常见的，大多数学生能在"十一"后调整好情绪，但也有少部分人始终无法进入角色，甚至发展到退学的地步。

Wuhan university of science and technology attached fortune favors the hospital mental health department director hu are an interview,Enter the university,Means that the students to establish a new communities,This for many stay in parents only children speaking,Appear emotional repeated and does not adapt the feeling is very common,Most of the students can be in"eleven"After adjust good mood,But there are also a few people always cannot enter the role,Even to the point of drop out of school.

　　胡一文分析，难适应的学生多半是父母把一切事情大包大揽，自己自理能力差，没有受过挫折。而且，如今国内大部分学校最重视的是学习，对如何进行人际交往、如何应对挫折等"生活课"的教育严重缺失。现在新生进入大学，面临建立交际圈、应对挫折等问题。另外，进入大学后，学习方式、生活方式、人际关系等发生了变化，这一切也都是新生进入大学后不适应的原因。

Hu are analysis,Difficult to adapt to the students mostly parents put all things take on all things,His poor self-care ability,Had no setbacks.and,Now the domestic most school most important is learning,On how to carry on the interpersonal/How to deal with setbacks, etc."The life class"Serious lack of education.Now new enter the university,Face build communities/To deal with problems such as frustration.In addition,After entering the university,Learning style/Way of life/Interpersonal relations changed,All these are also new after entering university does not adapt the reason.

　　如何应对新生的不适应？胡一文建议，从预防角度说，家长从小就应该培养孩子独立能力，不要事事迁就，并适时进行挫折教育。"最好让孩子从高中时就开始住校。据我观察，从高中就住校的孩子极少出现适应不良。而且，高中生的个性还在形成之中，出现问题更容易调节，为大学的独立做好铺垫"。

How to deal with the new does not adapt?Hu are suggested,From the Angle of prevention said,Parents should cultivate children from independent ability,Don't yield to all,And timely setback education."It is better to let the child from high school began to live on campus.According to my observation,From high school is in residence children rarely appear maladjustment.and,High school students personality is formed in among,Problems are more likely to adjust,For the university of independent animals".

　　对于入校后出现适应不良的学生，胡一文建议家长从现在开始学会放手，不要一味呵护和代替，要规定孩子打电话的时间，不能动不动就答应孩子回家或家长来学校看望等要求，要鼓励孩子面对新的生活。其次，学生本身也要迈出独立的"第一步"，积极参加喜爱的社团活动，找到自己志同道合的朋友，调整心情，尽快适应大学生活。还可以抽时间到当地的名胜古迹旅游，熟悉当地的风土人情，力争融入同学之中…… 【详细】

Enrolling for appears after the maladjustment of students,A penny saved is hu suggested that parents from now on to learn to let go,Don't always care and replace,To the regulation the child time on the phone,Can't always promised to children home or the parents came to the school to see request,To encourage the children to face a new life.secondly,Students should take itself independent"The first step",Take an active part in favorite club activities,Find your friends,Adjust the mood,Adapt to college life as soon as possible.Can also take time to the local tourism scenic spots and historical sites,Familiar with local customs,Strive to blend in students in…… [detailed]