“你这里还有什么家长QQ群吗？我加一个。”昨天，李女士问我。她的儿子，刚上小学6年级，虽然升学在明年，但“备战”得趁早。

"You here and what parents QQ group?I add a."yesterday,Ms. Li asked me.Her son,Just on the primary school is grade 6,Although bound in next year,but"Preparation for"you.

　　小升初的这场暗战，年年“厮杀”。上一届的“硝烟”尚未散尽，新一届的又来了。

Another of the dark war,From year to year"fight".On one of"smoke"Has not yet magnificent,The new again.

　　如何抢占先机，“家长QQ群很关键”。其实，李女士已加了两个QQ群。焦虑的她，不想错过任何一条消息。

How to take advantage,"Parents QQ group is the key".In fact,Ms. Li has added two QQ group.Anxiety of she,Don't want to miss any news.

　　“QQ群，有这么重要吗？”我问。

"QQ group,There are so important?"I asked.

　　她给我看了这样一段文字：“日子一天天过去，对于小升初依然没有官方正式的政策出台。但依照‘国际惯例’，其实战争的序幕早已拉开。”这是一位刚经历升学家长的自述。

She showed me such a text:"The days passed,For another is still not officially policy issued.But according to‘International practice’,In fact the war prelude already open."This is a just experience bound parents own.

　　政策不许选拔，可选拔却从未止步。

Policy no selection,Can select never stop.

　　于是，这场小升初转战地下。选拔条件、选拔时间、学校喜好……不明言的忌讳，一切只能通过QQ群与论坛上的消息。

so,The moving another underground.Selection conditions/Selection time/The school be fond of......Don't professed taboo,Everything can only through QQ group and BBS on the news.

　　

家长加入QQ群，早早备战小升初 Parents join QQ group,Early preparation for another

　　“要说不焦虑，那是不可能的。”张妈妈直言。

"To say not anxiety,That's impossible."Zhang mother the truth.

　　女儿刚入小学，她就加了一个家长群。“里面有全市学校的家长，可以灵灵市面。”她不好意思地笑着说。

Daughter just into the primary school,She added a parent group."There are the school's parents,Can the spirit spirit market."She was sorry to say with smile.

　　从那时起，泡网成了她的必修课。全优成绩，是升入好学校的必备条件；哪些奖项，可在升学时助一臂之力；语数外的培训，该选择哪里……从QQ群、教育论坛中，她开始了升学的起步。

From then on,Bubble net became her a required course.Straight a result,Is a good school to the necessary conditions;Which award,But in the entrance lend a helping hand;The number of language training,This choice where...From the QQ group/Education BBS in,She began to study the start.

　　“这些功课，等到6年级再做，就晚了。”她老到地说，“一切已成定局，不能改变什么了。”每次看到群里有6年级家长问：“一定要全优吗？”张妈妈只能苦笑，“她们入群太晚了，太不关心孩子的升学了。”

"These lessons,Wait until 6 grade again,It will be too late for."She said old,"The die is cast,Can't change what."Every time I see group six grade parents asked:"Must be provided?"A mother can only smile bitterly,"They into the group too late,So don't care about the child's studies."

　　小升初的暗战，在最初就已开始。前期的功课，“老师不会教你，你只能从论坛上、QQ里知道，过来人的经验会教你。”张妈妈说。

Another dark war,In the first began.Prophase work,"The teachers won't teach you,You can only from the BBS/QQ in know,A n experienced person experience will teach you."Zhang mother said.

　　

短短1个月，3个小升初QQ群爆满 Just one month,3 another QQ group full

　　至于各学校选拔时间与内容的信息，“从5年级开始关注，还来得及。”张妈妈说。关注渠道，仍是QQ群与论坛。

As for each school selection time and content of information,"From fifth grade begin to pay close attention to,Still in time."Zhang mother said.Attention channel,Is still QQ group and BBS.

　　朱女士，就是去年暑假过后加入了“小升初群”。那时，儿子刚上小学5年级。选择这时加入，她正是为赶刚过的那场“小升初”。

Ms zhu,After the last summer vacation is joined"Another group of".then,Son just elementary school grade 5.Choose at this time to join,She is just over the drive of"another".

　　此前，她一直在一家奥数论坛潜水。奥数与小升初的微妙关系，已是个公开的秘密。而这个群，就是这家论坛开的。

after,She has been in a mathematical olympiad BBS diving.Mathematical olympiad and another delicate relationship,Already is an open secret.And this group of,Is this BBS open.

　　短短1个月，这个群不断扩容。之后，只能开辟新战场，有了“小升初2群”与“小升初3群”。朱女士身边的不少朋友，也加入了这个群。他们的孩子，同在一处培训。

Just one month,This group of continuous flash.after,Can open a new battlefield,the"Another 2 group"and"Another three group of".Ms zhu side quite a lot of friends,Also joined the group.Their children,With the animal training.

　　今年三四月份的选拔季，QQ群里每天都充斥着各种相关信息：“哪所学校开始考试了，哪所学校开始录取第一批学生了，哪所学校面试问了什么，哪所学校看重何种奖项。”经历过的家长，在群里分享个人经验。热心的家长，还会上传历年各学校的考题。

In April this year three selection of the season,QQ group every day filled with all sorts of relevant information:"Which school start the test,Which school began to admit the first batch of students,Which school interview asked what,Which school value what awards."Experienced parents,In group to share personal experience.Enthusiastic parents,Also upload calendar year each school examination questions.

　　经历了这场直播，朱女士对选拔信息了如指掌。

Experience the live broadcast,Ms zhu to selection information like the back of his hand.

　　“元旦过后，可以不定时地刷新下学校的网页和论坛了，提前考的信息就要挂出来了。”她说。

"After the New Year's day,Can not timing to refresh the page and the school BBS,Take an examination of advance information will hang out."She said.

　　

外地家长分享杭州小升初群 Foreign parents share another group of hangzhou

　　在朱女士的推荐下，我加入了一个还未满额的“小升初群”。群里，已有100余位家长。刚一进入，就弹出小升初的信息。

On the recommendation of the ms zhu,I joined a is not the quota"Another group of".group,More than 100 have a parent.Just enter,Another out of the information.

　　“我很纠结。”家长“娇龙”说。她纠结的是，公办与民办之间，如何选择。她在打听，公办学校的民间排名。她想为这道难解的选择题，多加些已知条件。

"I'm ravel."parents"jiaolong"said.She swirly is,Between public and private,How to choose.She was about,Public school folk rankings.She wants to for the word enigmatical choice,Add some known conditions.

　　《2012小升初考试各校难度，给2013做个参考》、《2013杭州小升初，告诉你XX这些好学校什么时候开始暗招！》，群主发了2个帖子的链接。“我8月份注册，9月份正式看起来的，基本了解得差不多了。”一位家长说。

[Another 2012 exam schools difficulty,For 2013 as a reference]/[Another 2013 hangzhou,Tell you XX these good school when to begin to dark recruit!],Group of the Lord sent two post links."I registered in August,In September the formal look,A basic understanding of get about."A guardian said.

　　2年级家长“蚂蚁”，就急急地加入这个群，引来6年级家长的一阵“围攻”。“我想关心一下，提早做个准备。”他赶忙解释。

2 grade parents"The ant",Just hurried to join this group,Draws a grade 6 parents"siege"."I want to care about it,Early make a preparation."He hurried to explain.

　　看到群里有家长询问某位奥数培训老师，他赶忙要了个联系方式。“我打算让孩子3年级就开始上，先给孩子培养培养兴趣。”他说。在竞争激励的小升初之战中，“学总比不学好。主要看孩子兴趣。现在的孩子什么都不学，肯定不行的。”

See group have parents ask a aoshu training teacher,He hurried to a contact way."I'm going to let the child 3 year starts on,Give first training children raises the interest."He said.In the competitive of another war,"Learning than don't learn it well.Basically see the child interest.Now children what all don't learn,Must not."

　　群里，还有丽水、金华的家长。他们，也想分享杭州的教育资源。

group,And lishui/Jinhua parents.they,Also want to share hangzhou education resources.

　　“丽水的教育太匮乏了。”家长“落叶归根”说。她关注教育论坛已有两三年，对杭州的初中，已了如指掌。有位家长打趣地说，“从丽水来杭州的家长，可以组建一个营了。”

"Lishui education is the lack of."parents"Falling leaves"said.She pay attention to education BBS for two or three years,The junior high school in hangzhou,mastered.A parents jokingly said,"From the lishui to hangzhou's parents,Can form a the camp."

　　

过来人感叹：没有硝烟的战争，太残酷 A n experienced person plaint:No smoke of war,Too cruel

　　群里，有一位“老资格”的家长。她的儿子，已如愿进入杭州一所知名初中。“制胜”的关键是：成绩与各种奖项加分的总分靠前。她“坐镇”群中，为其他家长解开那些升学的微妙。

group,There is a"senior"parents.Her son,Hangzhou has fulfill a wish to enter a famous junior middle school."winning"Is the key to:Achievements and various awards points total score in front.she"Sat on the"group,For other parents untie those bound delicate.

　　其实，在其他家长羡慕的背后，却是当初泡在不同群与论坛的焦虑与纠结。

In fact,In other parents behind envy,It is at the beginning bubble in different groups and BBS anxiety and ravel.

　　群里，她贴了一篇“小升初”经历自述的帖子，反映的却是多数家长共同的体会与感受：

group,She put up a"another"Experience by post,Most of the parents is a reflection of the common experience and feelings:

　　

小升初，想逃都逃不掉！ another,Want to escape all escape not to drop!

　　这场小升初的战争没有任何硝烟，却有着家长们一颗拳拳爱孩子的心。孩子们努力拼搏的劲儿，民办初中绵里藏针的太极掌，所以每年小升初这场战争都会无与伦比地残酷。

The another war no smoke,Are parents a sincere love the child's heart.The children work hard the matter,Junior high school of run by the local people petitions to tai chi palm,So another year of the war will be cruel incomparable.

　　故作潇洒的家长说：“是你自己想不开，被牵着鼻子走。”站着说话不腰疼的低年级家长说：“小升初是孩子自己的事，让他们自己去解决吧。”对于这些唱大戏扯虎皮的家长，我只能说孩子是我生的，要放手可以在别的事上放手，但是事关孩子前途的小升初，我可没有心情来唱大戏。

So smart parents say:"Be your own heart,To be led nose."All talk of lower grade parents say:"Another is the child of himself,Let them to solve it."For these sing spectacular tear its parents,I can only say that the child is born of me,To let go in other things to let go,But another is the child's future,I'm not in the mood to sing spectacular.

　　日子一天天过去，对于小升初依然没有官方正式的政策出台。但依照“国际惯例”，其实战争的序幕早已拉开。

The days passed,For another is still not officially policy issued.But according to"International practice",In fact the war prelude already open.

　　填写资料时，不厌其烦地把孩子这几年的丰功伟绩填上一遍又一遍，能写得醒目显眼就尽量醒目显眼。为的只是能入哪位伯乐的法眼，哪怕给我们孩子一个公平考试竞争的机会。

Fill in data,A lot of children over the past few years the great feats of the fill in again and again,Can write marked conspicuous as far as possible to marked conspicuous.For only can into which the insight FaYan,Even if to give our children a fair test the chance to the compete.

　　一天，二天，三天，脑海里每天闪现的，是接待老师和蔼热情的夸赞孩子的声音。我不停地看手机，怕错过通知我们去考试的电话。对未接电话从不往回打的我，也开始回拨未接来电了。希望、失望、灰心，时光的流逝就这样消耗着我们的内心。

One day,Two days,Three days,My mind flashed every day,Is the reception teacher kind warm praise the voices of children.I kept looking at his phone,Afraid of miss inform us to test telephone.To not answer the phone never played my back,Also began to dial the missed call the.hope/disappointed/frustrated,The passage of time and so consumption our heart.

　　每天层出不穷的小道消息满天飞，有人签约了，有人考试了，一切都不是接待的老师对我们说的那样。

Every emerge in endlessly gossip all over the place,Someone signed,Someone the exam,Everything is not a reception teacher told us that.

　　听着这些不知真假的小道消息，比对着自己没有任何消息的现状，内心的恐惧越来越强。感觉自己和孩子都被这个社会边缘化了，觉得自己的心态越来越差，完完全全地陷入了焦躁不安的情绪中。（记者 高逸平）

Listen to these do not know true and false gossip,Comparison with the present situation of without any news,Heart fear is more and more strong.Feel and children are the society the marginalization,Think oneself state of mind is getting worse,Completely into the restless mood.(Reporter GaoYiPing)