孩子集万千宠爱 家长教育方式需改进 The children set favorite myriad parents education mode should be improved

　　如今孩子大多数都集万千宠爱于一身，让孩子从小在不自觉中就养成了以自我为中心的习惯。对于不爱学习的孩子，就更觉得自己读书是逼于无奈，是为家长、为老师而学。特别在孩子进入预初后，学生都有了自己的思想，他们认为自己可以安排自己的事，不需要家长过多的干涉。下面这个例子就是家庭教育中经常会碰到的一种情况：

Now most of the children are collect myriad dotes on,Let the child in the involuntary, formed the self-centered habits.For the children do not love learning,More feel reading is forced to helpless,Is for parents/For teachers to learn.Especially in children into after preliminary,Students have their own thoughts,They think they can arrange your own thing,Don't need parents too much interference.The following example is the family education we often encounter a situation:

　　小宇是个预初的学生，由于不爱学习，成绩位于班级倒数。孩子的家长十分苦恼。于是小宇妈妈跟小宇沟通，给小宇定出月考考试语文、数学、英语平均分80分的目标。小宇死活不肯答应。妈妈好说歹说，最终达成协议——要是小宇达到了妈妈的目标，妈妈要给自己买部手机。后来当然就是进入一个月的学习并且经历了考试，考试成绩出来，小宇并没有达到妈妈的目标。

Little space is a preliminary students,Because do not love learning,Achievement is located in the bottom class.The child's parents very distress.So little space mother with small space communication,To determine small space on exams language/mathematics/English an average of 80 goals.Small space life and death will not promise.Mother of persuasion,Finally to reach an agreement, if little space to achieve the goal of the mother,Mother will give oneself buy mobile phone.Then, of course, is to enter a month of learning and experience the exam,Examination results come out,Small space and not reached the goal of mother.

"物质诱惑"方式要适当  培养孩子正确思维是关键 "Material temptation"Way to appropriate  Cultivate children to correct thinking is the key

　　这种教育方式相信很多家长都对孩子使用过，而且效果不一。结果是有人欢喜，有人愁。出现以上问题最终还是因为孩子没有清楚"学习到底是为了谁"。家长适当的物质诱惑是可以的，但是绝对不能对孩子产生误导。长期使用物质诱惑容易让孩子觉得学习就是为了得到某个自己想要的东西。得不到的情况下就容易使孩子产生厌学情绪。所以家长更多的应该是引导孩子多思考，多给自己定位。如果要用一定的诱惑，当孩子得到时，也还是可以用"看！努力学习还是可以实现自己的小愿望吧？学习最终还是为自己吧？"诸如此类的话，将孩子引导到正确的思路上来。对第一个W的使用，家长不需要过多的教唆，对家长的要求更多的是引导，只需适时的将孩子引导到正确的思维上就可以了。

This kind of education mode believe that many parents are used to the child,And the effect of different.The result is someone glad,Someone sorrow.Appeared above problems eventually because the child no clear"The study is to who".Parents appropriate material temptation is possible,But not to the child misleading.The long-term use of material temptation is easy to let the children feel that learning is to get some things they want.Under the condition of not easy make the child produce be disgusted with emotion.So parents more should be guide children think more,Give yourself positioning.If you want to use a certain allure,When a child gets,Still can use"see!Study hard or can realize their own small wish?Learning eventually for yourself?"Such words,Children will lead to the correct ideas come up.To the first use of W,Parents do not need too much solicitation,A parent's requirements is more of a guide,Just at the right moment of children will lead to the correct thinking on it.

　　家庭教育，任重道远。我们首先要让孩子对自我、对学习有一个明确的定位，要让孩子清楚的认识到学习不是为了家长，更不是为了老师。所以在平时学习中，没必要跟家长、老师较劲。想清楚了这个问题，孩子才会主动地去学习，主动地去思考。另外，养成第一个W思维有助于帮助培养孩子的责任意识，让孩子知道自己的未来需要的是自己去创造。

Family education,Shoulder heavy responsibilities.The first thing we should let the child to self/Learn to have a clear positioning,Want to let children clearly realize that learning is not for parents,More not to the teacher.So in the normal study,Don't have to tell parents/The teacher alone.Want to clear the problem,Children will be on one's own initiative to learn,Actively to think about.In addition,Form the first W thinking helps to help develop the child's sense of responsibility,Let the children know that their future needs is to create.

5W1H家庭教育应用 5 w1h family education application

　　5W1H家庭教育应用，是上海智康1对1黄晓琴老师结合多年一线教学经验，通过与孩子的接触和沟通，对孩子在学习中的问题和现象进行深入研究，总结归纳出了家庭教育的5W1H应用。旨在解决广大家长在家庭教育中遇到的各种问题，为孩子的健康成长服务。敬请期待黄晓琴老师更多的精彩教育理念。

5 w1h family education application,Is Shanghai wisdom kang 1 on 1 HuangXiaoQin teacher with many years teaching experience a line,Through the contact and communication with the children,Children in the study of the problems and phenomena are in-depth study,This paper sums up the family education five w1h application.Aimed at resolving the parents in the family education in the various problems,For a child's healthy growth service.Please look HuangXiaoQin teacher more wonderful education concept.