富二代儿童教育问题出在哪？ Rich the second generation child education what is the problem?

　　在中国，富二代、富三代似乎已经被社会定义为了一个负面词汇，他们总是和飙车、抠女、撞人甚至吸毒等新闻联系在一起。而在西方，世家子弟，意味着发达的智商，优良的品格，承担责任，受过良好教育的同义词。西方贵族从孩子出生时就为他们准备了长期的结构化的教育系统，而刚刚富裕起来的中国，并没有为那些在“优越环境中成长的孩子”做好教育理念和实施技术的系统准备，中国富二代的教育问题已经成为一个社会问题。

In China,Rich the second generation/Rich three generations seems to have been the social definitions in order to a negative word,They always and driving/To dig female/Bump people even to take drugs and so on news relates in together.And in western,Family children,Means that developed intelligence quotient (IQ),Excellent character,responsibility,Received a good education of synonyms.Western noble from child born as they prepared long-term structured education system,And newly affluent China,And not for those in"Superior environment where there are many children"Well education idea and implementation technology system to prepare,China's rich two generation of education has become a social problem.

案例1贵族式留守儿童 Case 1 aristocratic left-behind children

　　陈总是某家企业的创始人，妻子也是一个女强人，他们俩是典型的“两头不见孩子”：早上出门时，孩子还没醒，晚上回家时，孩子已经睡着了。2岁的儿子很可怜，每天陪伴他的只有从农村来的保姆。爸爸妈妈给他报名参加了一个很贵的早教课程，但每次带他去上课的只有保姆和司机。

Chen is always a founder of the enterprises,His wife is also a a strong woman,They are typical"Two head of children":When going out in the morning,The children haven't wake,Night came home,The children have been asleep.2 year old son is very poor,Every company he is from the countryside to nurse.Mom and dad gave him signed up for a very expensive development course,But every time I took him to the class only nurse and driver.

　　专家分析：

Expert analysis:

　　事实上，很多企业家的孩子在某种程度上也是“留守儿童”。中国企业家的忙碌是世界公认的。而在发达国家，无论生意做得多大，周末陪伴家人、孩子的时间是雷打不动的。单就获得父母关注和相处的时间而言，中国企业家子女的0- 3岁甚至远不及普通家庭的孩子幸运。中国企业家的子女在成长早期，成为了另一种特殊意义上的“留守儿童”。这种环境下成长起来的孩子内心是凉的，他们在人际关系中极度冷漠，这种冷漠甚至还会直接影响他的智力发展。

In fact,Many entrepreneurs children in a certain extent is also"Left-behind children".Chinese entrepreneurs' busy is the world recognized.But in the developed countries,No matter how much business,The weekend with his family/The child's time is the unshakable.Single parents have attention and get along with in time,Chinese entrepreneurs children 0 to 3 years old even than ordinary families children lucky.Chinese entrepreneurs children early in life,Become a special significance"Left-behind children".This kind of environment grow up children heart is cool,They in interpersonal relations extreme cold,This kind of indifference and even will directly affect his intellectual development.

　　而这种留守儿童虽然拥有丰富的物质生活，但内心往往比外来工子女的留守儿童更加阴暗与负面。因为在他们的心中，父母即使在身边，也不关注我。那些养了一个败家子的老板20年前没有一个会意识到自己的教育方式有问题，他们会花大价钱送孩子学钢琴学舞蹈，但对重要的素质教育，恰恰是忽略了。

And this kind of left-behind children although has rich material life,But the heart than migrant worker children left-behind children more dark and negative.Because in their hearts,Parents even in the side,Also don't pay attention to my.Those who have a black sheep boss 20 years ago, no one will be aware of their education mode has a problem,They will spend big price send children to learn the piano learning dance,But for important quality education,Just is ignored.

案例2原生家庭的冲突 Case 2 primary family conflict

　　吴先生的生意做得顺风顺水，事业有成后他买了大房子，把父亲母亲岳父岳母都接过来一起住，但在教育孩子的问题上面，两代人经常会发生冲突，老年人对孩子太纵容，吴先生和太太稍微表示不满，他们还有意见，“我们是不是老了？不中用了？”“你小子当年就是我们这样带大的！”

Mr. Wu business automatics,After a successful career he bought a big house,The father mother wife's parents are took it live together,But in education child's question above,Two generations often conflict,The old to the child too connivance,Mr. Wu and his wife a little dissatisfied,They have opinions,"We are old?Not in the?""Your boy that it was that we take big!"

　　专家分析：

Expert analysis:

　　在西方，几代同堂的情况少之又少，每个人都是独立的个体，夫妻吃饭A A制，爸爸妈妈和孩子一起吃饭也A A制。中国人太黏糊了，很注重亲情，挣钱以后就会想方设法地买大房子，几代同堂，爷爷奶奶爸爸妈妈都住在一起，不同时代的人有不同的想法，大家的教育理念很难达成一致，对宝宝的性格形成非常不利，有时候甚至会让孩子形成某种程度上的人格分裂。0-3岁的孩子是通过“人际关系的互动”来判断自己，“姥姥说我很乖”，“爸爸说我很调皮”，到底我是乖的，还是调皮的。对于孩子来说，每个人都是他的“上司”，“上司”太多了，反而不知道应该听谁的，当一个人的自我判断不一致时，原本可以正常进行的行动力就会受到阻碍。

In the west,Several generations of the less and less,Everyone is independent individuals,Husband and wife to eat A A system,Mom and dad and children have A meal together also A A system.The Chinese are very NianHu,Is pay attention to family,Money will be trying to buy a big house,Several generations,Grandpa grandma father mother lived together,Different people have different ideas,Everyone's education idea is hard to reach an agreement,To the baby's character formation is very adverse,Sometimes will let the child to form a certain degree of split personality.0 to 3 years old of children is through"Interpersonal interaction"To judge oneself,"Grandma said I'm good","Dad said I was naughty",What I am good,Or naughty.For children,Everyone is his"boss","boss"Too much,Don't know should listen to the who,When a person self judgment is not consistent,Could have normal line power is prevented.

　　而且，原生家庭的冲突，迟早会变成孩子内心的冲突。还容易养成矛盾犹豫，纠结回避的个性，对孩子的一生来说，会造成有害的负面影响。让孩子难以面对挑战与压力，也不容易承受挫折与失败。

and,Primary family conflict,Sooner or later will become children inner conflict.Also easy to form a contradiction hesitate,Ravel avoidance personality,To the child's life is,Can cause harmful negative effects.Let the child hard to face challenge and pressure,Also not easy to bear setbacks and failure.

案例3强势父母下的胆小孩子 Case 3 strong parents of the timid child

　　田先生是一个叱咤风云的企业家，很多财经杂志都采访过他，认为他胆大果断，性格刚毅，他希望自己的孩子也能够继承这种优良品质，但不知道为什么，两岁的儿子总是一副很胆小的样子，眼神很游移，田先生很困惑，“我这么爱他，他为什么要怕我？”

Mr. Tian is a has-been entrepreneurs,A lot of financial magazine interviewed him,Think he bold decisive,Character and,He hopes his children can also inherited the fine quality,But I don't know why,Two year old son is always a pair of very timid way,Moving the eyes is very,Mr. Tian confused,"I love him so,Why did he want to be afraid of me?"

　　专家分析：

Expert analysis:

　　中国的企业家都属于创业型的，他们胆大果断性格刚毅，这种性格对事业开创非常有利，但在孩子的教育上却会起到负面影响。

Entrepreneurs in China belong to the type of business,They bold decisive character fortitude,This character to create a very good cause,But in the child's education is can have negative effects.

　　教育是由无数细节构成的，做老板的人习惯了高高在上，跟孩子说话的时候，很少会蹲下来用眼神去鼓励他们，孩子看到的是一座大山，家长的语气再温柔也没有用。教育是做出来的，不是说出来的，不是你想孩子怎么样他就会怎么样，你对孩子说一千遍一万遍，“你要胆大啊！”这些都没用，教育是一个技术活，是一招一式做出来的，而这些招式是需要有人去研究的，最好的办法就是与孩子一起做游戏，你扮演乌龟他扮演兔子，你扮演老师孩子扮演猫，你扮演鬼子孩子扮演八路，在孩子面前扮演一个弱者，时间长了，他就会变胆大了。

Education is a by numerous details,Do the boss people accustomed to high above,When talking with children,Rarely squat down down with their eyes to encourage them,Children see a mountain,The tone of the parents again gentleness is useless.Education is made,Not to say that out,Not you want to children how he will,Do you have for your child all times ten thousand times,"You have to brave!!"These are useless,Education is a technique to live,Is a recruit a type to make,And these moves is need someone to go to study,The best way is to play games with children,You play the tortoise he plays the rabbit,You play the child play cat,You play devil 8 children play,In front of children play a weak one,Time long,He will become a bold.

总结 多点时间陪孩子 Summarize more time with their children

　　中国有一句老话，“富不过三代”，身为企业家的孩子父母，对这种无奈的感觉是沉重和揪心的，他们期待两全其美的办法，既能投身事业，又能不耽误孩子。普通家庭子女的教育，可能影响的只是孩子一个人，而企业家子女教育的影响远不止于此正如英国皇家总督学ChristineG ilbert Cbe女士的看法，中国企业家的子女“是否在生命初期播下根植于内心的人文关怀和社会责任感的种子，具有正确的财富观、智慧的智能、内在的原则性和圆润的灵活性……，甚至影响将来国家的G D P指标。

There is an old saying in China,"Rich only three generations",As entrepreneurs parents of children,To this kind of helpless feeling is heavy and anxious,They expect the best of both worlds way,Can is devoted to his work,And can not hold up the child.Ordinary families children's education,The child may affect only a person,And the influence of the entrepreneur children education is far more than that as the royal ZongDuXue ChristineG ilbert Cbe lady's view,The children of Chinese entrepreneurs"Whether in early in life sow is rooted in the heart of the humanistic care and the sense of social responsibility seeds,With the right wealth view/Wisdom of intelligent/The inner principle and fruity flexibility...,Even influence the future national G D P index.

　　所以，更应该关心孩子的内心世界，而不是外在的物质条件。对于我们来说，富二代并不是人格健全，生活充满希望与阳光的代名词(虽然许多人都会这样以为)。他们也许拥有最多最好的教育资源，但其实最需要的，仅仅就是父母的关心与爱，还有温暖的陪伴。

so,Should be even more concerned about the child's inner world,Rather than external material conditions.For us,Rich the second generation is not sound personality,Life is full of hope and the pronoun of sunshine(Although many people would think so).They may have the most of the best education resources,But actually need most,Only is the parents care and love,And warm with.

　　无论再忙，都不是借口，至少在每一个星期，都能创造出一个属于彼此的家庭日。在这一天里，放下所有的工作，专心陪伴孩子，能够多点笑容，多点宽容，多点欣赏！(许琨)

No matter how busy,Is not an excuse,At least every week,Can create a belongs to each other's family day.On this day in,Put down all the work,To accompany children,Can smile more,More tolerant,Multipoint appreciate!(XuKun)