专家称，小学生对异性有好感“非常正常”

Experts say,Elementary school students have good to the opposite sex"Very normal"

　　家长不必大惊小怪，正确引导就行了

Parents don't have to make a fuss,The correct guide line

　　新快报记者 何宁

New express HeNing reporters

　　“小学生自制结婚证结婚，一周后闹矛盾离婚”，“五年级小学生已‘相恋’三年，两成小学生承认有‘恋情"，“小学生‘早恋’，外貌是第一‘恋爱准则"……近日，小学生“恋爱”、“结婚”的新闻频频见诸报端，对于如此“早熟”的“蛋蛋后”，家长们怎么看？他们是否该正确引导孩子？

"Pupils homemade marriage married,A week later the contradiction divorce","Five grade pupils already‘Fell in love’Three years,Twenty percent of pupils have admitted‘relationship","pupils‘Early love’,Appearance is the first‘Love rule"...recently,pupils"love"/"married"News frequently in the central hunan province,For so"early"of"After balls",How do parents think?Whether they are the correct guide your child?

　　儿子爱慕班里一女孩家长引导其奋起直“追”

Love a girl the son in the class parents guide its rise straight"after"

　　新快报记者在采访中了解到，在广州的小学里，也有不少小学生对异性有好感。吴女士的儿子读三年级时曾经给班里学习好，长得又漂亮的女同学小慧传过纸条。纸条上写着：“小慧，我很喜欢你。”

New express reporter in the interview to understand,The primary school in guangzhou,There are many students have good to the opposite sex.Ms wu son read three grade in the class have to study well,Grow and beautiful female classmate small hui preached note.Note top write:"Small hui,I love you."

　　吴女士是在儿子的课本中无意发现这张“表白”纸条的。“一开始我很担心，怕孩子早熟，这么早就有喜欢的对象了。”不过吴女士当时并没有当面质问儿子，她小心翼翼地把纸条放回了原处，当作没事发生过。但在接下来的几天，她对儿子的一举一动密切观察。

Ms wu was in the son's textbook accidentally found this picture"vindicate"note."At first I was worried,Afraid of children early,So have like the object."But ms wu was not confronted son,She carefully put the note put back to its place,As nothing happened.But in the next few days,Her son's every move close observation.

　　“我发现儿子并没有像早恋所表现出的征状那样对那女孩子朝思暮想，他在家该干嘛还是干嘛。有一次我找他聊天，提起小慧，他主动说很喜欢她，觉得她学习好，人也漂亮，希望自己的学习也能像她那样好。”

"I found the son didn't like to early love shown symptoms do that to the girl even left yet,He was at home this why or why.Once I find him chat,Mention small hui,He offered to say very like her,Think she study well,People also beautiful,Hope oneself can also learn the like her so well."

　　听儿子这样说，吴女士心头的石头落地了，“原来他对小慧只是爱慕之情。后来我趁热打铁，问儿子小慧为什么学习会这么好呢？儿子想了想说她上课认真听课，积极发言，放学后要做完作业才回家。我就跟儿子说，小慧干什么，你也跟着干什么呀，这样才能追得上她。后来儿子果然很努力学习了。”

Listen to son say so,Ms wu heart stone fell to the ground,"Originally he for small hui just love.Then I strike while the iron is hot,Q son small hui why learning so well?Son wanted to mean to say she listen to the teacher carefully in class,Actively speak,To finish my homework after school to go home.I like son said,Small hui do,You also follow stem what ah,In order to catch up with her.Later the son has very hard to study."

　　吴女士认为，小学生喜欢异性是很正常的现象，不能算早恋，“其只是对异性有好感，家长不要一发现孩子对异性有好感就给他扣上‘早恋’的帽子，现在社会比以前开放多了，家长的心态也要跟着放开。”

Ms wu think,Pupils like the opposite sex is normal,Cannot calculate early love,"Its just have good to the opposite sex,Parents don't discover the child to the opposite sex have unpleasant associations will give he buckled on‘Early love’hat,Now than before more open society,Parents' mentality will follow let go."

　　小学男女生一起玩感情比较单纯

Primary school boys and girls playing together is simple

　　女儿正在读初中的方女士也认为小学生对异性有好感比较正常，“女儿在班里学习成绩好，很多男同学都喜欢跟她玩，放学后也经常跟她打电话。有一次我试探性地问，你有没有男朋友，女儿说没有，还没有发现自己喜欢的，她说有几个男孩子比较喜欢她，但基本上都是讨论学习的事情。”

Daughter is reading junior middle school's party lady also think pupils to the opposite sex compared with normal,"Daughter in the class to do well in school,Many male classmates all like to play with her,After school often also make a phone call to her.Once I tentatively asked,Do you have a boyfriend,Daughter said no,Still did not find their favorite,She said a few boys like her,But basically are discussing learning things."

　　方女士认为，现在孩子们受影视和网络的影响比较大，很多时候还不懂什么是爱情，只是对异性有好感，“现在家长都比较开放了，即使孩子早恋，都不能视其为洪水猛兽，喊打喊杀，对于早恋，宜疏不宜堵，家长要学会正确引导。”

Party women think,Now the children of film and television and the network by a great impact,A lot of times still don't know what love is,Just to the opposite sex have unpleasant associations,"Now parents are opening,Even if the kids to early love,Can't see it as a great disaster,handahansha,For early love,Appropriate hydrophobic shoulds not be plugging,Parents have to learn how to correctly guide."

　　新快报记者在采访中了解到，大部分70后家长都比较开明，对于孩子“早恋”都能持包容的态度。

New express reporter in the interview to understand,Most of the 70 parents are more open-minded,For children"Early love"Can a tolerant attitude.

　　体育东路小学副校长王迪娜认为，前文所述的孩子自制结婚证和离婚证的情况，其实纯粹是出于好奇心，纯粹是模仿，“因为现在很多家长都会带着孩子去参加亲朋好友的婚礼，孩子们看到大人结婚觉得好玩，就会试着去模仿。”

Sports road primary school vice President WangDiNa think,Stated above children homemade marriage and divorce certificates situation,In fact is purely out of curiosity,Is pure imitation,"Because now many parents will take their children to attend the wedding of relatives and friends,The children see adults get married feel fun,Just try to imitate."

　　王迪娜还认为，小学生对异性有好感是非常正常的现象，家长不必大惊小怪，正确引导就行了。“像我们学校，三年级还比较少这种对异性有好感的现象，虽然现在男女生经常在一起玩，比起我们那个年代开放了许多，但他们之间都是比较纯洁的友谊。五六年级相对来说会有一些学生对异性有好感，但这个也不算早恋，他们只是一种对异性的崇拜感或敬佩感，其实这个跟早恋还差得很远。”

WangDiNa also believe that,Elementary school students have good to the opposite sex is very normal phenomenon,Parents don't have to make a fuss,The correct guide line."Like our school,Grade three still less this to the opposite sex have favorable phenomenon,Although now boys and girls often play together,That s than we open a lot of,But between them is the more pure friendship.Five or six years of relatively level will have some students have good to the opposite sex,But this is not love,They are just a kind of to the opposite sex worship feeling or admire feeling,Actually this with early love you are far."

　　“孩子喜欢上一个异性也并不是坏事，家长不妨这样引导，发现孩子有喜欢的异性，可以问孩子为什么喜欢他（她）？喜欢他（她）什么地方？如果喜欢，就要向他（她）学习。家长只要及时并正确引导，孩子很快就没事了。如果家长给孩子扣上早恋的帽子，反而对孩子不好，加重其逆反心理。”

"Children like the opposite sex is not a bad thing,Parents might as well such guidance,Discover the child of the opposite sex is like,Can ask children why do you like him(she)?Like him(she)where?If you like,Will to his(she)learning.Parents as long as timely and correct guidance,The child will soon be okay.If parents give children buckle on early love hat,It is not good for them,Aggravating the negative mentality."

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　　三年级“结婚”似过家家？

Grade three"married"Like play house?

　　记者：现在小学生对异性有好感是不是很普遍？

reporter:Now with primary school students to the opposite sex is not very common?

　　兔子：我以为小朋友结婚这种调调是幼儿园时期玩的呢，以前看李跃儿的书也提到过幼儿期有对异性的敏感期，可到小学三年级了，这个年纪不是已经过了这个敏感期了吗？

The rabbit:I think children get married this tune is kindergarten period play?,Look before LiYueEr of the book is also mentioned preschool period have to the opposite sex sensitive period,To the third grade,This age is not already passed this sensitive period?

　　果果妈：这个是正常的心理吧。这个纯真的感情其实没什么大不了，大人别大惊小怪就是了。

GuoGuo mom:This is normal psychological it.The pure feelings in fact no big deal,Adults just don't make such a fuss.

　　Amy：这应该跟小时候的过家家是一样的性质吧？

AMY:This should with childhood play house is same nature it?

　　可可：看到结婚没什么，看到那离婚，唉……现在孩子真是早熟！

cocoa:See marriage nothing,See the divorce,Alas......Now that the children are really early!

　　果果妈：儿子班里有两个男生，为了抢女孩差点打起来了。

GuoGuo mom:There are two boys in the class son,In order to rob girl nearly play up.