让孩子独自窝在家里看电视、上网，还是把孩子送进托管班、培训班打发时间？暑期中，不少双职工家庭都为如何带孩子困扰不已。“独柴难烧、独子难教。”记者近日采访了解到，一种被称为“家庭互助”带伢方式在武汉悄然流行，多个家庭分工合作，变“独养”、“圈养”为“拼养”，既减轻了家长的负担，又能让孩子们充分享受和伙伴玩耍的乐趣。

Let kids alone nest at home to watch TV、Internet，Or send their children to hosting class、Training kill time？In summer，Many families where both parents are for how to take children by trouble。“Alone to burn wood、An only son to find it hard to teach。”Recently, reporters know to interview，Is called a“Family help each other”Take Ya way quietly popular in wuhan，Multiple family division and cooperation，change“Alone raise”、“captivity”for“Spell keep”，Not only reduce the burden of the parents，And let the children enjoy the fun to play with friends。

家长轮流当班安排丰富多彩 The parents take turns on duty for rich and colorful

　　7月31日上午9时许，省博物馆，13岁的王怀天、李燕妮、董超、邓晗乔，在王怀天的爸爸王兴友的带领下，一起进行“文化游”（如图）。从楚文化馆到编钟馆，4名孩子时而认真欣赏文物，时而展开激烈讨论，玩得好不欢乐。“我是这次活动的‘当班家长’，其他几个孩子的家长都要上班。”王兴友介绍，4名小朋友都是武汉市第25中学的“准初二”学生，去年起，在学校的鼓励下，他们几个家庭开始“拼养”孩子，每天至少轮流安排一名家长陪护。孩子们在学校形影不离，放学后在一起做作业，周末和假期也结伴学习、游玩或参加社会实践。这个暑假，除了做暑假作业、参加培优外，家长们还为孩子们安排了丰富多彩的活动，如参观博物馆、到东湖赏荷花等，还准备结伴出省旅游。“带4个孩子比带一个还轻松。他们在一起有话说，就不会缠着我了。”王兴友笑着说。

July 31, 9:00 am xu，Province museum，13 years old WangHuaiTian、LiYanNi、DongChao、DengHan Joe，In WangHuaiTian father WangXingYou lead，Together with“Culture to swim”（As shown in figure）。From the chu cultural center to bells hall，Four children sometimes earnest appreciation of cultural relics，Sometimes an intense discussion，Play very not happy。“I am this activity‘Parents on duty’，Several other children's parents have to work。”WangXingYou introduced，Four children in wuhan city high school is 25“Must second”students，Last year，In the school encouragement，A few families to“Spell keep”children，Every day at least, take turns to arrange a parents chaperone。The children in the school was like peas and carrots，The homework after school，Weekends and holidays also study groups、Play or to participate in social practice。This summer，Besides do a summer homework assignments、Outside in the pew，The parents for the children also arranged for the rich and colorful activities，Such as a visit to the museum、To the east lake to admire the lotus, etc，Prepare to the provincial tourism rooms。“With four children than with a relaxed。They say together，Won't tease me。”WangXingYou said with a laugh。

孩子觉得有趣假期不再孤单 Children find interesting holiday no longer lonely

　　参观省博物馆的两个小时里，4名孩子有说有笑，亲如一家。“以前放假，我一个人可孤单了，经常吵着要妈妈给我生个弟弟妹妹。现在我们4个就是兄弟姐妹了。”李燕妮说。

Visit the museum of province two hours，Four children talking and laughing，came。“Before the，I a person may be alone，Often noisy want mom to give I have a brother and sister。Now we four is the brothers and sisters。”LiYanNi said。

　　董超说，以前他感到很孤单，曾经沉迷于网络游戏。现在有了伴，大家在一起学习、跳皮筋、下棋、画画、打球，每天都很快乐，也就不那么爱上网了。

DongChao said，Before he was very lonely，Ever indulge in online games。Now have a companion，Everyone in the study together、TiaoPiJin、chess、drawing、play，Be happy everyday，So much love the Internet。

　　今年春节，这4个家庭还在一起吃团年饭。“大家都到我家来，一人做一个最拿手的菜，有咖喱土豆、番茄炒鸡蛋、可乐鸡翅……”邓晗乔说，这是自己最难忘的一次团年饭，感觉特别温暖。

The Spring Festival，The four families also have a special dinner together。“We all come to my house，A people make a best dishes，Curry potatoes、Scrambled egg with tomato、Coke chicken wings……”DengHan Joe said，This is your most memorable a reunion dinner，Feel very warm。

整合家庭资源相互取长补短 Family resources integration mutual complement each other

　　在4名孩子的班主任程东峰和家长们看来，“拼养”能整合各家资源，相互取长补短，让孩子们成长得更快。

In the four children of the teacher in charge ChengDongFeng and parents look，“Spell keep”Families can integrate resources，Mutual complement each other，Let the children grow faster。

　　程东峰举例说，董超的数学很棒，其他3个孩子常向他取经。而董超的英语以前比较差，在另外3名同学的帮助下，现在有了很大进步。“我很讨厌记东西，李燕妮常给我讲解语法、句型，教我记忆方法，还经常抽查我的背诵情况，学习效果好多了。”董超说。“孩子们在一起互相影响，共同进步。邓晗乔现在懂事多了，有时会帮忙分担家务，不再像过去那样以自我为中心了。”邓晗乔的妈妈朱亚萍说。

ChengDongFeng for example，DongChao math is very good，Three other children often take to him。And DongChao English before relatively poor，In three other under the help of the students，Now had the very big progress。“I hate to remember things，LiYanNi often give I teach grammar、Sentence patterns，Teach me memory method，Also often my recite selective examination，Learning effect much better。”DongChao said。“The children together interact with each other，Common progress。DengHan Joe now much more sensible，Sometimes will help share housework，No longer to be self-centered。”DengHan Joe's mother ZhuYaPing said。

　　王兴友告诉记者，家长们平时交流频繁，互相学习好的教育方法，看待问题更加积极，对孩子也更加理解和包容了。

WangXingYou told reporters，Parents are usually communicate frequently，Learn from each other good education method，Look at problems more active，For children have become more understanding and tolerance。

观点：加强安全教育费用各家分摊 view：Strengthening the safety education cost his contribution

　　据了解，在武汉，“拼养”孩子的家庭不在少数。对此，武汉市教科院青少年心理辅导中心副主任陈敏丽认为，“拼养”比“独养”更加科学，不仅让孩子不再孤单，还可以培养他们的团结合作精神。但也存在局限性，“孩子们在一起，需要家庭居住空间足够大，而且家长之间也要建立足够的信任感。还要特别注意安全问题，不然出了事故谁负责？”

According to understand，In wuhan，“Spell keep”The child's family is not a few。this，Wuhan science institute teenagers teach psychological counseling center, deputy director of the ChenMinLi think，“Spell keep”than“Alone raise”More scientific，Not only let children no longer lonely，It can cultivate their solidarity cooperation spirit。But there are limitations，“The children together，Need family living space large enough，And parents to set up enough between the trust。Will pay special attention to safety problems，Or accident who is in charge？”

　　中南财经政法大学教授乔新生建议，“拼养”家庭一定要加强对孩子的安全、自护、自救教育。当孩子们出现矛盾时，家长尽量不要插手，要让孩子自己学着解决。

Harvard University professor QiaoXinSheng zhongnan financial advice，“Spell keep”The family must strengthen to the children's safety、Since the、Self-rescue education。When the children appear when the conflict，Parents try to stay out，To let the children learn to solve themselves。

　　武汉家长魏红英也对孩子实行“拼养”模式。她的经验是：经济方面实行AA制。孩子们到家中吃饭，无非就是加几个菜，这部分费用由各家支付就行了；但一些额外开支，如看电影、参观、外出旅游等，建议建立明细账，由各家分摊。这样一来，“拼养”基本上就不存在额外支出了。（楚天都市报 记者罗欣 实习生邹红 陈楠 周书粲 通讯员高莉）

Parents of children WeiGongYing wuhan also carried out“Spell keep”mode。Her experience is：Economic aspects of AA system。The children to the home for dinner，It is nothing but add some dishes，This part of the fee paid by families will do；But some extra spending，Such as movies、visit、Traveling, etc，Proposal to set up subsidiary ledger，By his share。so，“Spell keep”Basically does not exist the extra expenses。（Hunan day metropolis daily reporter LuoXin interns ZouGong ChenNan week ruled GaoLi book correspondent）