“今天的天空一如既往的阴霾，我的心情也随之低沉到了极点。”昨天上午，杨凯照例发出了当天的第一条微博。

"Today's sky, as always, haze,My mood will be low on top of the world."Yesterday morning,As usual, "issued on the day the first micro bo.

　　很快，几条评论瞬间跃然网页，“你要努力学习，天气的阴霾迟早会过去。”“下周不是要数学测验吗？打起精神来。”望着这些说教式的评论，杨凯毫不犹豫地将其拉入黑名单。

soon,A few comments on instant web page,"You have to study hard,The weather will be over sooner or later haze.""Next week not to math test?Brace up to."Look at these ShuiJiaoShi comments,"Do not hesitate to its pull into the blacklist.

　　杨凯今年13岁，上初一。这个月初，爱好刷微博的杨凯发现自己每每发表一篇微博，都会收到几名固定微博网友的评论，每篇至少10条。

13 years old this year",New moon on.This month,Hobbies brush micro bo's "found himself often published a micro bo,Will receive several fixed micro bo netizen comments,Each at least ten.

　　起初，杨凯以为是自己独特的微博内容引发了网友的兴趣，每当有人评论时，他都兴奋地与对方交流自己的感受。然而，近来，杨凯越发察觉出了端倪。

At first,"Thought is its own unique micro bo content caused a net friend interest,Whenever someone comment,He was sober enough to communicate their feelings with each other.however,recently,"The more perceive a clue.

　　杨凯的父亲常年在外出差，母亲郁女士是一位全职妈妈，而她每天的“要务”就是照顾好儿子的学习和生活。但自从杨凯上初中以来，郁女士发现儿子的成绩开始走下坡路，性格也越发地孤僻。

"Father have migrated on a business trip,Mother ms yu is a full-time mother,And she everyday"priority"Is to take good care of son's study and life.But since the "since junior high school,Ms yu found son's grades began to decline,Character is also growing withdrawn.

　　“以前小学放学时，他最喜欢缠着我讲学校里和老师同学之间的事，现在呢，问啥子都不搭腔。”焦虑中，经朋友提醒，郁女士注册了时下年轻人热衷的微博，并第一时间搜索出了儿子的账号。

"When elementary school before school,His most like to tease me about school and between teachers and classmates,now,Ask what all don't spoke to each other."Anxiety in,The friends remind,Ms yu registered the young people nowadays for micro bo,And the first time search out the son's account.

　　一看才醒悟，郁女士发现，儿子这段时间都在与电脑交流，每天至少更新4条微博，其中一条竟写着，“就不能少说几句，每次回家都唠叨个没完，崩溃。”

A look at to awaken to,Depression woman found,Son this period of time are in and computer communication,Every day at least, updated four micro bo,One of the lines have write,"Cannot little say a few words,Come home every time all nagging on,collapse."

　　上周末，亲戚长辈一群人到杨凯家做客。闲聊时，舅妈随口一句，“你的微博内容怎么不能明朗些”的问话，令杨凯怒火中烧。在他的多次“质问”中，杨凯的妈妈、姑姑以及舅妈承认都悄悄关注了他。

Last weekend,Relatives elders a group of people to YangKaiGu guest.When chatting,Aunt freely a,"Your micro bo content how can't clear some"'s question,Make "steamed up.In his many times"query"in,"Mother/Aunt and my aunt admitted that are quietly focused on him.

　　家庭聚会结束后，杨凯把微博上的几个“可疑对象”通通拉进黑名单。哪知，发现无法看到儿子微博后，郁女士又再次以同龄人的身份申请了一个账号，然而纸里包不住火，这一做法再次被心细的杨凯识破。

Home after the party,"The micro Po few"Suspicious objects"All haul in blacklist.Which know,Found that can't see son after micro bo,Ms yu again to the identity of the peers applied for an account,However paper bag not fire,This practice was again but cautious of "see through.

　　直到昨天，杨凯对微博粉丝及陌生的回复依旧很敏感。

Until yesterday,"To the micro Po fans and strange reply is still very sensitive.

　　昨日，记者对巴蜀中学、重庆一中、南开中学、18中、松树桥中学的20名初中学生，就“是否愿意把微博账号告诉父母”的话题展开调查。

yesterday,Reporters bashu middle school/Chongqing one/Nankai middle school/In the 18/Pine bridge school 20 junior high school students,it"Would like to put the micro bo account to tell their parents"An investigation of the topic.

观点> view>

孩子：大多以纠结为主，不乏乐观者 children:Mostly to ravel give priority to,Thering is no lack of an optimist

父母：家长越想深入，孩子越想逃避 parents:The parents want to further,The children want to escape

　　无独有偶，近来，高一学生魏晓冉也发现母亲通过表姐的微博关注自己。当她得知“情报”后，第一时间便是删除以前的部分微博。“我在网上说话都比较直接，肯定不能让我妈知道，不然她还不给我念紧箍咒！”此后，魏晓冉再没敢发表过自己的感想，多以转发为主。

similarly,recently,The high student WeiXiao vaijean, also found that mother through the cousin micro bo focus on her.When she learned that"intelligence"after,The first time is to eliminate the previous part of the micro bo."I speak on the Internet are directly,Sure can't let my mother know,If she still doesn't give me read tight the hoop curse!"Since then,WeiXiao vaijean, never dare to have published their own feelings,In forward primarily.

　　对于父母提出加自己微博，初二学生刘芸倒是挺坦率，她对父母说：“没啥，加就加呗。”没想到，事后刘芸向同学传授经验，同意加微博仅是一个保全自我，又能安抚父母的缓兵之计，“在他们加我前，我已经重新申请好了一个小号。

To parents and their proposed micro bo,It's quite frankly LiuYun teenager students,Her parents said:"nothing,Add and then add bai."Didn't expect,LiuYun afterwards to teach students experience,Agree to add micro bo is only a preservation self,And to appease the parents stalling tactics,"They add me in front,I have to apply for a trumpet.

　　重庆一中王涛的想法倒是颇为积极。王涛的父母从事媒体行业，三人在去年就相互关注。王涛记得，一次英语考试失误，因为不敢与父母交流，就在微博上写下失误原因以及体会，没想到，父母反而在微博上安慰自己。

Chongqing one wang tao idea is quite positive.Wang tao parents are in the media industry,Three people last year on mutual concern.Wang tao remember,An English test error,Because can't and parents exchange,In micro bo write error causes and experience,Didn't expect,Parents but in micro blog consolation.

　　前不久，南京一对父女的微博对话爆红于网络。女孩“@依旧莼白咖啡”在微博上罗列自己的假期：“8天长假，老爸管得严，不让乱跑，不过山人自有妙计！30号宅家，1号出去唱K，跟家里人说是去朋友家玩的！2号出去涮火锅，就说出门充话费！3号出去逛街，就说去营业厅交个网费，4号……”

Not long ago,Nanjing father a pair of micro bo dialogue detonation red in network.The girl"@ still Chun white coffee"In micro bo listed on their holiday:"8 seven-day holiday,Dad pipe tightly,Don't let run,But the pseudonym of own inspiration!30 curtilage home,1 out sing K,With his family, to the friend's home to play!No. 2 out rinse hot pot,He said out words fee charge!3 out shopping,He said to business hall hand over a net charge,4..."

　　不想，“@山前老李”很快回复：“老实在家待着！！吃火锅、逛街必须由你妈跟着。”女孩嘴一横：“你谁呀？去死”。“李××。”“@山前老李”自报家门。小女孩一看，慌了，赶紧认错：“爸！对不起，对不起，我不知道是您啊。您怎么也玩微博了。汗。”

Don't want to,"@ piedmont Lao li"Soon reply:"To stay home!!Eat hot pot/Shopping by your mother must be followed."Girl's mouth a cross:"You who ah?To die"."Lee * *.""@ piedmont Lao li"Stated his name.The little girl a look,panic,Hurriedly mistake:"dad!I'm sorry,I'm sorry,I don't know what you did.How do you also play micro Po.sweat."

　　介于网络上30701次的疯狂转发，10月7日，“@依旧莼白咖啡”更新微博，“谢谢大家的关注，老爸已经保证不玩微博了，大家都散了吧。”

Between the network 30701 times crazy forward,October 7,,"@ still Chun white coffee"Update micro bo,"Thank you for your attention,Dad has pledged not to play the micro bo,Everyone spread.long it."

　　儿子上高三年级的周泽也是个微博控，可他关注了身边的所有同事和好友，就是没关注自己的儿子。“孩子有点小秘密多正常啊，谁没有经历过青春期。”他认为，家长偷看孩子微博就已经形成了猫和老鼠的关系，你越想深入，孩子越想躲避，如此只会造成亲子关系的恶化。

The son of grade three in ZhouZe is a micro bo control,But he focus on the side of all the colleagues and friends,Just can't pay attention to his son."The child is a little small secret more normal ah,Who has not experienced adolescence."He thinks,Parents peek children micro bo could have formed the relationship between the mouse,The more you want to further,The children want to avoid,So will only cause the deterioration of the parent-child relationship.

专家建议> Experts suggest>

微博可浏览，最好不要评论 Micro bo can browse,Had better not comment

　　市协和心理顾问事务所副所长、亲子与情商教育专家蒋华认为，长期的父爱缺失使孩子缺乏力量，内心不够强大，以及在事无巨细的代替下，母亲对孩子出现的高期待是造成杨凯与母亲关系出现裂痕的主要原因。

City union psychological consultant firm deputy director/Parent-child and emotional quotient education experts JiangHua think,Long-term father absence make the child lack of power,Heart not strong enough,And the share of instead of down,The mother told her child appeared high looking forward to is a "mother and relationship between the main reasons for the cracks.

　　蒋华建议，当家长与孩子间的交流出现障碍时，浏览孩子微博以了解孩子的心理动态是可取的，但最好不要评论，尤其忌讳说教式的评论。“我很不赞同杨凯母亲以孩子同龄人的身份与他在互联网上交流，一旦孩子发现，将会造成对家长信任感的危机。”

JiangHua Suggestions,When between parent and child communication appear obstacles,Browse the child micro bo in order to understand the child's psychological dynamic is desirable,But had better not comment,Especially taboo ShuiJiaoShi comments."I'm not agree with "the mother of the child with his peers identity in Internet communication,Once the children found,Will cause the crisis of trust for parents."

　　“青春期的孩子比较注重人与人间的尊重。”蒋华还表示，当家长发现孩子出现问题时，切忌以，“你最好……你应该……”的句式与孩子对话，不妨转换为，“你看这样是不是更好。”并伴随轻拍肩膀或背部的动作。（应当事人要求，文中杨凯为化名）

"Adolescence children comparison among people pay attention to respect."JiangHua also said,When parents discover the child problems,Avoid by all means is to,"You'd better...You should..."The patterns and children dialogue,Might as well into,"You see it is better."And with light pat on the shoulder or back action.(Requests should be,"In this paper for the alias)

　　见习记者刘冰鑫

Trainee reporter LiuBingXin