中国网10月23日讯（记者 魏婧）近来，“清华学霸”姐妹花在网上引起热议，被网友们惊呼为“神一般的人物”，然而，如此优质的学生就像是高瓦数的灯泡一样，越是光芒万丈，就越让自己的同学黯然失色，活在他们的阴影当中。优等生榜样式的存在，不见得令多少身边的同学羡慕，却着实令这些同学的家长羡慕不已。在他们的口中，优等生被称作“别人家的孩子”，而自己家的孩子总是不如“别人家的孩子”。

China on October 23)(Reporter WeiJing)recently,"Tsinghua science the"Sister spent on Internet cause of hot debate,Be the netizens exclaimed for"God general character",however,So high quality students like high wattage bulbs as,More resplendent,The let his classmate eclipse,Live in their shadow of.The existence of the top student example type,Not really make many the students around envy,But really make these students parents envy.In their mouth,Top student called"Other people's house of in children",And one's own children always as"Other people's house of in children".

当“优等生”活在“学霸”校友的阴影中 when"Top student"Live in"Learn the"The shadow of alumni

　　网友“板上钉钉”是“清华学霸”的初中、高中，乃至大学校友。“我追随着马姐的步伐，在一定程度上也可以说是在马姐的阴影下，一路从工附，到育明高中，再到清华……”,他用幽默诙谐的语言讲述了自己多年来怎样活在两位“学霸”校友的阴影之下。

Net friend"Board nailing"is"Tsinghua science the"Of junior high school/High school,And even university alumni."I followed the pace of MaJie,To a certain extent, also can be said to be in the shadow of MaJie,All the way from working with,To brood Ming high school,To tsinghua……",He humorous language about his years how to live in two"Learn the"The alumni's shadow.

　　虽然不是同一届，但用“板上钉钉”的话说是：马冬晗、马冬昕，这两个如雷贯耳的名字，这两个“别人家的孩子”们中的佼佼者，一直是以她俩为中心（上下两届）的大连孩纸的梦魇。”他与马氏姐妹差了两届，但其父母却深受二人影响。

Although not the same,But with"Board nailing"Words say:MaDongHan/MaDongXin,The two like a thunderclap piercing the ear of name,The two"Other people's house of in children"The top of the,Is they as the center(Fluctuation two session of)Dalian child paper's nightmare."He and markov sisters sent two terms,But the parents will deeply influence two people.

　　他称自己“童年时期很幸运”，爸妈还没有听说过“学霸”姐妹俩，“命运的转折，发生在我迈入大连理工大学附属中学七年二班的大门那一刻起。恰巧班主任也教过马氏姐妹，还偏偏是语文老师！两位马姐作文强悍到完爆我等工科男啊！两个人初中的所有习作都被人整理成书了啊！”

He says his"Childhood is very lucky",My parents have never heard of"Learn the"Two sisters,"Twist of fate,Happened to me entering dalian university of technology attached middle school seven years class two doors that moment.Happen to the teacher in charge also taught markov sisters,Also just is language teacher!The two MaJie composition tough to finish for blasting engineering male ah!Two junior middle school's all assignments are finishing writing ah!"

　　在他参加初中第一次工附中考庆功会，“马冬昕、马冬晗”这一串名字便深深刻印在了与会所有家长的脑海里，包括他的父母。他说自己的的父母属于特别开明的那一类，不大动不动就搬别人家孩子，但也是少不了因为逼自己报这个班报那个班而把马氏姐妹挂在嘴边，“你瞅瞅银马冬昕、马冬晗，怎么就能不让爸妈操心”、“你瞅瞅马冬昕马冬晗，怎么不天天瞧叫唤累啊！”

He took part in junior high school in the first time working with tests victory meeting,"MaDongXin/MaDongHan"This a series of name will deeply impress them in present all parents mind,Including his parents.He said his parents belongs to special enlightened that kind of,Not always move someone else's child,But it is also not because force myself to quote the BanBao that class and the markov sisters in noises,"You MaDongXin silver Chou Chou/MaDongHan,How can not let parents worry about"/"You MaDongXin Chou Chou MaDongHan,Why not call every day look tired!"

　　“板上钉钉”在文章中发问：我有时候在想，我跟两位马姐差了两届，就已经受到了如此强大的范围伤害，那么真真正正和这两位姐妹同届甚至同班的同学呢？

"Board nailing"In this paper the questioning:I sometimes wonder,I with two MaJie sent two terms,Will have been such a powerful area damage,So really with the two sisters are even with the students??

给“坐在路边鼓掌的孩子”一些空间 to"Sit on the curb and clap as children"Some space

　　台湾女作家刘继荣四年前曾经写过一篇文章，说她的女儿在班里成绩中等，却被同学评为“最欣赏同学”，原因是她乐观、幽默、善良、好相处、守信用。妈妈就和她开玩笑：你都可以当英雄了。但女儿回答：妈妈，我不想成为英雄，我想成为坐在路边鼓掌的人。

Taiwan writer LiuJiRong four years ago once wrote an article,Said her daughter in class performance medium,But as students"The most appreciate students",The reason is she optimistic/humor/kind/Good get along with/honored.Mother will tease her:You can when the hero.But the daughter answer:mother,I don't want to be a hero,I'd like to sit on the curb and clap as people.

　　在接受媒体采访时，她这样说道：“最初也曾觉得，我是个普通妈妈，孩子要成为一个小超人，才会心愿得偿。可我这个家长也在成长中渐渐明白，不要把自己沉重的理想寄托在孩子身上，每个人都必须对自己的人生负责。孩子对自己的定位或设立目标，我觉得适中最重要。这一点小孩很难把握准确，需要家长帮助。我很少对我孩子说，你看别人家的小孩如何如何，我只说，你在哪些方面还有提升的空间。每个小孩都是不一样的，即便上同样学校，用同样教材，受教于同样的教师，也不能让他们有一样的性格与成绩。”

When being interviewed by the media,She said that:"Initially had felt,I am a ordinary mom,The child to become a small superman,Will gets.But I the parents also growing up gradually understand,Don't put all your heavy ideal on children,Everyone must be responsible for your own life.The child's own positioning or set goals,I think the most important medium.This child is difficult to grasp accurately,Need parents to help.I seldom to my child said,You see other people's house of in children how to,I only said,You in what aspects and promotion space.Every child is not the same,Even in the same school,Use the same materials,Educated on the same teacher,Also can't let them have the same character and performance."

　　在引导孩子规划自己的生活时，刘继荣曾经告诉孩子：颜色最鲜艳的花要开，色彩平淡的花也要开，最小的梦想也值得花最大的力气来实现。

In the guide children planning our lives,LiuJiRong once told the child:Color the most bright flowers want to open,Colour is flower also want to open,Minimum dream also worth the maximum strength to achieve.

　　她希望为人父母能够明白：家长爱太深，愿意让自己孩子得到世上最好的东西，但也要看到他体力是否够足。你的好心好意，能否换来好的结果，如不能，请及时修正。

She hope that parents can understand:Parents love too deep,Willing to let their children have the best of everything in the world,But also should see his physical strength will be enough for foot.Your kind offer,Can get good results,If you can not,Please timely correction.

　　日前，《蜗居》、《心术》等热门剧集的编剧六六在微博中，同样谈到了这个问题：“我反省一下我不愿意跟我妈聊天的原因是从小承担很大压力，她一张口我就开始烦躁，总生活在 别人家的孩子 阴影里。比方我妈聊某明星，最后会说人家年龄跟你一样大，怎么看起来跟大姑娘一样年轻？你怎么看起来都象人家妈了？我没法解释人家就靠这吃饭。她总能找出别人家孩子的优点将我无情践踏在地。“

a,[Humble abode]/[intention]The writers such as the hourlong series in micro in bo,Also talked about this question:"I rest my head I don't want to chat with my mom is the reason for a big pressure since childhood,Her mouth I began to fret,Always live in other people's house of in children in the shadow.For example, my mother chat a star,Finally will say somebody else's age like you big,How look as young with big girl?How do you all look like somebody else mama?I can't explain the somebody else depends on the dinner.She can always find out other people's house the advantages of children will I ruthless trample in the land."