“孟母三迁”的故事，国人都了解。现而今，每年开学之际，不少现代“孟母”也忙着搬家。笔者的一些同事和朋友，不乏有为孩子能上心仪学校紧急购房的，有为让孩子少在路上奔波而在学校附近租房的，甚至还有停薪留职甚至辞职当家庭主妇专职陪读的。一时间，陪读似乎已成为一种时尚，大有愈演愈烈之势。据中国社会科学院教育研究所最近的一项调查显示，我国有26.8%的家庭存在陪读现象。

“MengMuSanQian”story，People understand。now，The year of，Many modern“Mother meng”Is also busy move。The author's some colleagues and friends，There is no lack of the right for children to go to school emergency buying，Let the children less for the on the road and near the school of rent，Even without pay leave even quit when housewife or relatives can apply for the full-time。time，Or relatives can apply seems to have become a kind of fashion，Great called-are。According to the Chinese academy of social sciences education institute a recent survey shows，Our country has 26.8% of the family or relatives can apply existing phenomenon。

　　陪读低龄化这种有违教育科学理念的行为能成为一道独特的风景线，与家长们的攀比和从众心理，“独二代”的娇生惯养等密切相关。按理说，家长为孩子学习生活创造良好的条件，这本无可厚非。但不惜以夫妻分居、放弃工作、丢下生意等为代价，到学校附近租房陪读，这种做法就显得过犹不及了，更与“孟母三迁”的本意相悖。

DiLingHua or relatives can apply this against education science concept behavior can be a unique scenery line，And parents bandwagon and group psychology，“Only the second generation”The spoiled, and so closely related。By rights，The parents for the children learning life create good conditions，This understandable。But at husband and wife separation、Give up work、Leave the business as the price，To rent a house near the school or relatives can apply for，This kind of practice is the last，More and“MengMuSanQian”Intended disobeys。

　　从小就开始陪读是把双刃剑，但明显弊大于利。影响了家长的事业和正常生活不说，就连让孩子不输在起跑线上的初衷恐怕也难以实现。有从事幼儿教育的专家经过调查得出这样的结论:陪读孩子发生心理问题几率远远大于正常孩子，尤其是过度依赖性陪读可能会给孩子健康成长带来诸多不良的心理阴影。包括造成怯懦胆小、依赖性强、缺乏自信、独立性差、社会适应不良、人际关系不佳等，甚至可能产生逆反心理、厌学弃学等问题。陪读，最后变成孩子阳光成长的绊脚石，应当提早引起家长们的警觉。再者，孩子们总有一天要离开家长羽翼的呵护去独自面对生活的风风雨雨，“不经历风雨怎么见彩虹”，陪着牵着又能到何时呢?从这个意义上讲，让孩子早些心理“断奶”，早些自立自强，不仅是长远之策，更是明智之举。

As a boy, he began to or relatives can apply is double-edged sword，But obviously do more harm than good。The influence of parents career and normal life don't say，Even let the children not to lose in the starting line, I'm afraid the original intention is also difficult to realize。To be engaged in preschool education experts after investigation to conclude that children or relatives can apply psychological problems happened chance than normal children，Especially excessive dependence or relatives can apply for may give children healthy growth to bring a lot of bad psychological shadow。Including cause cowardice timid、Strong dependence、Lack of confidence、Independence difference、Social maladjustment、Interpersonal relationship is not good, etc，May even produce negative mentality、QiXue learning problems。Or relatives can apply，Finally become a stumbling block to children sunshine to grow，Parents should be caused by early alert。moreover，The children are always one day to leave parents wings care alone to face life disturbances，“How can we see the rainbow without experiencing”，With holding and can arrive when??In this sense，Let the children early psychological“weaning”，The early self-reliance，Not only is the long-term strategy，Is wise。

　　面对陪读低龄化，我们在批评应试教育弊端，呼唤教育体制改革的同时，作为家长首要的是做出冷静的思考、科学的抉择，而不是盲目跟风、攀比从众。记得鲁迅先生在上世纪初就曾经提出过这样的问题《我们现在怎样做父亲?》，讲到“父母对于子女，应该健全的产生，尽力的教育，完全的解放”。笔者认为，时至今日，这个问题依然值得深思:今天，我们应当怎样当家长?表面看，现代“孟母”是对孩子“尽力的教育”，但是过度的关注反而束缚了孩子，“圈养”的孩子心理长不大更难成才。

In the face of DiLingHua or relatives can apply，We in criticizing exam-oriented education drawbacks，Call education system reform at the same time，As parents first is a calm thinking、Scientific choice，Rather than blindly follow suit、Bandwagon conformity。Remember Mr. Lu xun in the century once raised this problem《We are now how to do father?》，Talked about“The parents to their children，Should improve the production，Try my best education，Complete liberation”。The author thinks that，today，This problem is still worth ponder: today，How should we as parents?Surface see，modern“Mother meng”For children“Try my best education”，But excessive attention but bound the child，“in”Children grow up a psychological more difficult。