生活清贫，年过半百，仍需每天打3份工养家糊口，对于张先生来说，这不算什么。最令他心焦的，莫过于儿子因沉迷网游而辍学，整天窝在家中。曾经他还向父母多次写保证书，立誓要考上大学。

Poor life,middle-aged,Still need to play every day three jobs support a family,For Mr. Zhang speaking,This is nothing.His best of anxious,The son is for indulging online and drop out,Nest all day in the home.Once he also told many times parents write letter of guarantee,Has vowed to pass the college entrance examination.

　　

家长 痛苦儿子因沉迷网游多次辍学 Parents pain son for indulging online school many times

　　现年56岁的张先生，是一位下岗职工。为维持生计，如今，他每天要打3份工，倒垃圾、发广告单，当保安。生活的劳苦，不会让他感觉太多的酸楚。

, 56, Mr. Zhang,Is a laid-off worker.To make a living,now,Every day he will play three jobs,garbage/Hair handbill,As a security guard.Life Labour,Don't make him feel too much sour.

　　他最头痛的是，刚满18周岁的儿子涛涛(化名)本应念高二，却沉迷网游，几乎到了痴迷的地步，辍学在家。

He is the most headache,Just full 18 one full year of life, the son of surging(alias)This should be sophomore,But indulging online,Almost crazy about it,School at home.

　　据张先生回忆，涛涛上小学四年级时，开始接触网络。那时，已渐渐有了网瘾。为此，他和妻子轮流到学校接涛涛放学以防涛涛溜到网吧上网。

According to Mr. Zhang memories,Surging elementary school fourth grade,Begin to contact network.then,Already gradually with the addiction.therefore,He and his wife take turns to the school meet surging in school surging slip to surf the Internet in a cyber bar.

　　然而，这种办法，并不经常奏效。涛涛经常趁放学时的混乱溜走。

however,This way,Doesn't often work.Surging often while when school was over the chaos slipping away.

　　“那时，他妈没少打他。”昨日下午2时，张先生刚清理完医院垃圾，深蓝色的裤子沾满灰尘，棕色的皮鞋浸满黑色油迹。在退休后，他曾干过协警。这份还算正式的工作，因左腿腿疾，没有保住多久，他再次下岗。现在，他走起路来，左腿已明显吃力。

"then,His mother didn't hit him less."2 PM yesterday,Mr. Zhang just cleaned up the hospital garbage,Dark blue pants with dust,Brown leather shoes jinman black smears.After his retirement in,He had done association p.This also is the official work,Because of his left leg leg disease,How long did not keep,He again laid off.now,He walks,The left leg is obvious sweaty.

　　“小学和初一、初二的学习成绩，还在班里中游，而进入初三，他根本就不学习。”张先生说。

"Elementary school and junior/There study result,Also in the middle class,Into the third day,He doesn't study."Mr. Zhang said.

　　初三开始，涛涛因上网多次辍学。张先生苦口婆心，劝儿子上学。谁知，涛涛要挟张先生，“不给买电脑，我就失踪，让你们寻不见。”

Third day began to,Surging because many times on the Internet to drop out.Mr. Zhang well-meaning,Advised his son to school.Who knows,Surging coerce Mr. Zhang,"Not to buy a computer,I was missing,Let you not find him."

　　张先生和妻子琢磨，与其让儿子在外面游荡上网，不如给儿子买台电脑。至少，儿子在家中，他们能控制上网时间。

Mr. Zhang and his wife ponder,And let the son hang around outside the Internet,As for his son to buy a computer.At least,Son at home,They can control the Internet time.

　　然而，张先生错了。电脑买回来了，儿子却更加不听话了。

however,Mr. Zhang is wrong.Computer to buy back,But my son more out of control.

　　

挽救 母亲跪求儿子却无济于事 Save mother begged son but it didn't help

　　2010年，涛涛勉勉强强考上高中。这年，张先生下岗，妻子没有固定工作。念高一时，涛涛隔三差五就不去学校。此时，张先生动了放弃儿子的念头。

In 2010,,Surging unwillingly enter high school.This year,Mr. Zhang laid-off,The wife does not have fixed work.Read a high,Surging from time to time, you will not go to school.At this time,Mr Vivid give up the idea of the son.

　　“我不让他念书。结果，他竟然写保证书，说他会好好念书。”张先生以为儿子回心转意，高一第二学期，如期给孩子报名。谁知，刚把报名费交了，涛涛又说，“念书没意思。”

"I don't let him study.The results,He had written guarantee,Said he would and study hard."Mr. Zhang thought son come round,The second semester of high,Duly signing up to the child.Who knows,Just put the entry fee handed in,Surging and he said,"Study boring."

　　2011年，为劝儿子念书、不再玩游戏，张先生的妻子跪在地上，苦苦哀求，然而，仍无济于事。“我们把家里的网断了，他就卖家里的东西，弄钱上网。”张先生说，去年，儿子卖掉了家里的钢丝床。

In 2011,,For advised his son to study/No longer play games,Mr Zhang's wife kneeling on the ground,Piteously entreat,however,Still no use."We put the home network is broken,He sells the thing in the home,Make money online."Mr. Zhang said,Last year,Son sold home spring bed.

　　“害怕不让他在家里上网，他又没钱在外面上网，万一去偷去抢。只能又给他把网开通。”张先生说，学校的老师也三番五次到家里给孩子做工作。

"Fear not let him get on the Internet at home,He have no money again outside the Internet,One thousand to steal to rob.Only and gave him the net open."Mr. Zhang said,School teacher is over and again to the house for children work.

　　然而，涛涛仍然执着于网游，不能自拔。

however,Surging are still insisting on online,Cannot extricate oneself.

　　

懊悔 对儿子有太多宠爱 There is too much regret to son dote on

　　今年8月24日，涛涛突然提出要去广东打工，并以死要挟，让父母给其买火车票。

August 24,,Surging suddenly offered to go to work in guangdong,And died to coerce,Let parents give their buy train ticket.

　　张先生对涛涛一直甚是疼爱。面对儿子的无理取闹，他再一次点头答应。张先生心想，“他在外面吃吃苦头，就会学乖。”20余天过去，9月底，涛涛返回咸阳，央求张先生给其报名上学。然而，不幸再次重演。

Mr. Zhang has been to surging what is love.In the face of the son's make trouble without a cause,Once again he consent.Mr. Zhang thought,"He eat out come to grief,Will learn good."In the past more than 20 days,By the end of September,Surging to return to xianyang,Beg to Mr. Zhang to its application to go to school.however,Unfortunate happen again.

　　当张先生交完报名费后，涛涛拒绝回学校。整天窝在房间，足不出户，没日没夜地玩网游。张先生的妻子再次跪在儿子面前，泪流满面，请求儿子。然而，得到的却是儿子的嘲笑和不屑。

When Mr. Zhang for delivery after registration,Surging refused to go back to school.Nest in the room all day,Never leave home,No day and night to play online.Mr Zhang's wife kneeling in front of son again,, tears streaming down her face,Request son.however,Is given a son laugh and disdain.

　　“都怪我把他惯坏了。”张先生有两次婚姻，和前妻生有一女。涛涛是与第二个妻子所生，那时，他已经38岁。

"All blame me spoiled him."Mr Zhang has two marriage,And his ex-wife born a woman.Surging is born with a second wife,then,He has 38 years old.

　　“她妈打他，我老护着。”张先生说，为给孩子更好的物质条件，他在工厂下班后，还要到外面兼职，错过了和孩子交流的机会。

"Her mother beat him,I always protect a."Mr. Zhang said,To give the child a better physical condition,He in the factory after work,Want to go outside part-time,Missed and children the opportunity to exchange.

　　

绝望 想搬出去住，躲着儿子 Desperate want to move out,Hide son

　　10月27日，是涛涛18周岁生日。因沉迷网络、经常辍学，涛涛几乎没有朋友。

On October 27,,Is surging 18 years old birthday.Because of the addict network/Often drop out,Surging almost no friends.

　　“他整天在家玩游戏，连饭都能忘了吃，瘦得皮包骨头。”张先生说，儿子经常找他要钱，他不给，害怕儿子出去做坏事。

"He at home all day playing games,Even rice can forget to eat,skinny."Mr. Zhang said,Son often find him for money,He did not give,Fear son go out to do bad things.

　　“我情愿把他关进看守所。”绝望的张先生表示，他想在外面租房子，躲儿子远远的。儿子已经年满18周岁，是成年人了。

"I would rather he put in jail."Desperate Mr Zhang said,He wants to rent a house outside,Hide son far away.Son has 18 one full year of life,An adult.

　　“我每天要到医院清理垃圾，还要发广告，晚上到小区当保安。若不是这个儿子，日子也不会过得这么清贫。”说话间，泪水在张先生的眼眶打转。

"Every day I had to go to the hospital to clear off the rubbish,Will send advertising,In the evening to the village as a security guard.If not the son,Days will not have so poor."While speaking,Tears in the eyes of zhang spinning.

　　就这样放弃儿子?张先生说，他现在还狠不下心，毕竟儿子成了这样子，父母也有过错。可是，他已经不知道怎样挽救儿子。老师曾多次挽救他

So give up son?Mr. Zhang said,He is still not malicious heart,After all, son became like this,Parents also have fault.but,He has not know how to save the son.The teacher has repeatedly save him

　　昨日下午3时许，曾给涛涛代过课的李老师介绍，网络和手机对学生的学习影响很大。教育局会抽查网吧，发现有学生上网，直接问责学校校长。学校更是三令五申，告诉学生不许去网吧。

Yesterday afternoon 3 when xu,Have given surging generation after class teacher li is introduced,Network and mobile phone has a great influence on student learning.Education bureau will check Internet cafe,Found to have students surf the Internet,Direct accountability school principal.The school is repeated orders,Tell the students not to go to cyber cafes.

　　“学校不定期会组织老师，去网吧进行检查。”李老师说，喜欢上网的学生很多，但是绝大多数的学生都有自制力，能克制。

"School tramp would organize the teacher,To go to net bars for inspection."Mr Li said,Like the Internet a lot of students,But the vast majority of students have self-control,restrained.

　　即使遇到一些痴迷网络的学生，老师多找其谈话、多去家里走访，学生一般都会被感化，认识到错误。

Even if meet some crazy network students,The teacher find out the conversation/Much to his home to visit,Students will generally be detention,Realize error.

　　然而，对于涛涛，他和其他老师没少费心，多次到涛涛家中劝说，却无济于事。

however,To YuTaoTao,He and other teachers to do not have little trouble,Many times to surging house persuasion,But it didn't help.

　　“现在网络普及，不光是学校教育学生，更多是家长要管好孩子。”李老师说。专家家长应积极干预激发孩子情感

"Now the network popularization,Not only is the school education students,Is more parents to manage the child."Mr Li said.Experts parents should active intervention inspire children emotional

　　涛涛曾给张先生的决心书上，写着“从今日起，从高一念，发奋从(重)新好好学习，立誓考上大学”，落款时间为2011年11月16日。张先生说，他攒了不少儿子的决心书、保证书，却无法挽回儿子。昨日，咸阳市心理学会心理咨询师康北莉表示，涛涛虽然年满18周岁，但从其行为举止判断，其心智远远没有达到成年人应有的状态。“此时，家长应该积极干预，而不是放弃。”康北莉说，张先生对儿子的过度宠爱，让孩子觉得父母的养育理所应当，没有责任感，甚至缺乏基本的情感。

Surging gave Mr. Zhang on the written pledge,written"From this day, be,From GaoYiNian,Arouse from(heavy)The new study,Vowed pass the college entrance examination",Badging time for 2011 nov. 16,.Mr. Zhang said,He saved a lot of son's written pledge/guarantee,But cannot be redeemed son.yesterday,XianYangShi psychological society psychological counseling ShiKang north lisa said,Surging although 18 one full year of life,But from its behavior judgment,The mind is not reached adults due status."At this time,Parents should active intervention,Instead of giving up."Kang north lisa said,Mr. Zhang to son's excessive dote on,Let children feel the parents raise the well-deserved,Have no sense of responsibility,Even the lack of basic emotions.

　　“孩子读初中时，是价值观定期的关键时期。若没有正确的引导，极易扭曲。找不到实现自我价值的途径，就容易依赖虚拟世界。”康北莉称，沉迷网络是孩子对受挫情绪的一种发泄。足不出户是为逃避外部世界。若孩子在学习上找不到乐趣，不应强求。

"The child read junior high school,Is the key period of regular values.If there is no correct guidance,Easily distorted.Can't find the way to realize self value,It is easy to rely on the virtual world."Kang north lisa says,Indulging network is the child to be thwarted a vent emotions.Never leave home is to escape from the external world.If a child in the study find fun,Should not importune.

　　康北莉建议，张先生应找到涛涛在网游之外的其它兴趣点，小心翼翼地转移孩子的爱好，而不能放任自流。另外，张先生一定程度上要示弱，激发儿子的情感，建立起家庭成员的信任。

Kang north lisa Suggestions,Mr. Zhang should find surging in the online other than the interest point,Carefully transfer the child's interest,And not let slide.In addition,Mr. Zhang a certain extent to weakness,Excitation son's emotion,Set up the trust of the family members.

　　

对话涛涛 “父母养我，理所应当” Dialogue surging "The parents to raise me,well-deserved"

　　昨日下午2时许，刚迈进张先生的家门，就能听见敲击鼠标和键盘的声音。涛涛待在自己的房间，眼睛直勾勾地盯着电脑屏幕。记者上前与涛涛打招呼，他头也没抬，自顾玩网游。当记者聊起他正在玩的游戏时，涛涛滔滔不绝地讲解起来。涛涛：这游戏是目前全国最大的单机游戏，有800多万人玩。我现在排在1000多名。我这账号卖出去，能卖好几千元。记者：你玩了多久?涛涛：这游戏，我玩了好几年。记者：最近新出了一款游戏，和你玩的游戏挺像。

About 2 PM yesterday,Just forward Mr. Zhang's family,They hear the knock on mouse and keyboard voice.Surging stay in his own room,Eyes straight staring at the computer screen.Reporter forward and surging say "hello",His head is not carried,Self-care play online.When the reporter talked about he is playing the game,Surging up the reel interpretation.surging:This game is currently the country's largest single game,More than 800 people to play.Now I row at more than 1000.I sold this account,Can obtain a high thousands of yuan.reporter:How long do you play?surging:This game,I played for several years.reporter:Recent new out of a game,And you play of the game is like.

　　涛涛：我很鄙视那款游戏，它是克隆我玩的这款游戏。

surging:I'm despise the game,It's clone I play this game.

　　记者：玩游戏，都不去上学?

reporter:Play games,All don't go to school?

　　涛涛：上学有啥意思，单调重复，我不喜欢现在高中的教学模式。

surging:School have what meaning,Drab repetition,I don't like now high school teaching mode.

　　记者：虚拟的网络世界，就不会单调重复?

reporter:Virtual network world,Will not drab repetition?

　　涛涛：这咋说呢?反正……(沉默)

surging:This zha say?anyway……(silence)

　　记者：你不想回学校?

reporter:You don't want to go back to school?

　　涛涛：等我想上学，我就会去的。我现在不想上学。

surging:And I want to go to school,I will go.Now I don't want to go to school.

　　记者：你已经年满18周岁，好意思让父母一直养着?

reporter:You have at least 18 one full year of life,Not bashful let parents always keeps?

　　涛涛：父母养我，理所应当。我觉着现在挺好的。（卜亮）

surging:The parents to raise me,well-deserved.I feel good now.(BuLiang)