“我要等着妈妈难受时去照顾她” "I will wait for my mother suffered to take care of her"

　　多年来相依为命的母女，女儿却在妈妈的饭菜里多次下药，并且在被发现后非但没有悔改之意还振振有词：“妈妈在乎我，也离不开我，只是她自己不知道，我是在为她创造机会。”省立儿童医院儿保科副主任医师刘亦芳对此表示，孩子因为极度缺乏安全感已出现严重的心理问题，需要正确引导。

For many years and depending on each other,Daughter is in the mother's food many times in the remedy to the case,And in were discovered not only no repentance "lumpenproletariat" meaning:"Mother care about me,Also can not get away from me,Only she didn't know,I am in create opportunities for her."Provincial children's hospital son of doctor of vice director of the department LiuYiFang expressed,Children because the extreme insecurity already appear serious psychological problems,It is necessary to correctly guide.

母亲绝望：一不留神女儿就在饭菜下药 Mother despair:A don't be careful daughter was in food the remedy to the case

　　菁菁妈妈告诉医生，最近一个月晚上睡觉前她经常感觉自己头晕、胃疼有时还想吐。去医院检查后，她被告知患有浅表性胃炎。她以为是自己一直爱吃辣的原因所致，但是就在一周前，她却在无意中发现女儿菁菁正在厨房里偷偷地往饭菜里下药。

The cyanine cyanine mother told the doctor,A recent months before he goes to bed at night she often feel dizzy/Stomach ache sometimes want to vomit.Go to a hospital checking,She was told with superficial gastritis.She thought is oneself always love to eat spicy reasons caused by,But just a week ago,She was accidentally found his daughter cyanine cyanine is in the kitchen secretly went to food in the remedy to the case.

　　“我简直不敢相信自己的眼睛，但事实是我的确看见她把几粒胶囊拧开，把药粉拌在我炒的辣咸菜里。平常这个菜只有我吃，她不吃辣。”菁菁5岁时，父母离异，之后一直是菁菁妈妈一个人很辛苦地抚养孩子。看见女儿这样对待自己，菁菁妈妈既伤心又纳闷：孩子这么恨我吗？

"I can't believe my eyes,But the truth is that I did see her put a few capsules twist off,The powder mix in my Fried hot in the pickle.Usually the food only I eat,She doesn't eat spicy."Cyanine cyanine 5 years old,Parents divorced,After has been the cyanine cyanine mother a person very hard raising a child.See this to his daughter,The cyanine cyanine mother so sad and wonder:Children hate me so much?

　　“现在只要她放学回来我就会把她锁进房间，等我做好饭再把她放出来。”菁菁妈妈表示，她发现女儿有此行为后也试图和她沟通，但是孩子似乎并不愿意多说；还有两次，她只是想去厨房端个汤，只是一转身的时间，回来就看见她把空胶囊壳往口袋里藏。

"Now, as long as she come back from school I can see her lock into the room,I do rice again she put out."Cyanine cyanine mother said,She found that daughter has the behavior after trying to communicate with her,But the child doesn't seem willing to say more;There are two,She just wanted to go to the kitchen end a soup,Just a turn round of the time,Back saw her empty capsule shell to hide in his pocket.

　　菁菁妈妈因为承受不住压力，忍不住把事情告诉了身边很多的亲戚朋友，试图得到一些安慰和劝解，但是结果却并不如她意，一些朋友甚至开始渐渐疏离她们母女。“家里估计以后都不敢来客人了，都怕被她下药。”

The cyanine cyanine mother because will not bear,Can't help put things told side a lot of relatives and friends,Try to get some comfort and propitiation,But the result is not as her meaning,Some friends and even began to gradually alienated from their mother and daughter."Home estimate later all dare not to the guests,Are all afraid of her the remedy to the case."

女儿心声：等着妈妈难受时去照顾她 Daughter voice:Waiting for my mother suffered to take care of her

　　“我自己不吃下过药的饭菜，因为知道妈妈过一会就会难受，我还要去照顾她。”在省立儿童医院儿保科，菁菁告诉医生，为了达到想要的效果，她尝试过好几种不同的药，后来发现家里的感冒药、消炎药“效果”都不明显，只有芬必得最好用，之后她就开始每天把买早饭的钱省下来等攒够了就去药店买芬必得。

"I don't eat any medicine meal,Because we know that mom later will be uncomfortable,I have to take care of her."In the provincial children's hospital son insurance department,Cyanine cyanine told the doctor,In order to achieve the effect of want,She tried several different kinds of medicine,I later found out that the cold medicine at home/Anti-inflammatory drugs"effect"Are not obvious,Only the Finn will use,Then she started the day buy breakfast money province down saved up enough will go to the drugstore buy Finn will be.

　　“最近三个星期，只要有机会，就把药都放在有辣椒的菜里，因为妈妈知道我不吃辣，不会要我吃。”在得知妈妈很可能因为长时间吃了她下的药而导致浅表性胃炎后，菁菁表示她没想过让妈妈生“大病”，只是想让她不舒服。

"The last three weeks,As long as the opportunity,The medicine in the dish with chilli,Because my mother know that I don't eat spicy,Won't make I eat."In knowing mom probably because of long time for her to the medicine after superficial gastritis,The cyanine cyanine said she didn't want to let my mother after born"A serious illness",Just want to let her uncomfortable.

　　经过医生十多分钟的心里疏导，菁菁开始愿意和医生交流。“好几个月了，妈妈心情一直很差，总说要不是我，就不会和爸爸结婚，现在就不会这么累，她明明很在意我，但是又讨厌看到我。”菁菁说，她想起以前妈妈生病时总喜欢把她搂在怀里，还说以后只能靠她了，因此才她萌生了这样的念头：让妈妈不舒服，这样她才知道我是她身边最重要的人。

After the doctor more than ten minutes heart counseling,The cyanine cyanine began to willing to communicate and doctors."Several months,My mother has been very bad mood,Always said if it weren't for me,Won't and dad get married,You wouldn't be so tired,She clearly very much care about me,But I hate to see me."Cyanine cyanine said,She remembered before mother was ill always like to hug her in my arms,Also said that after can only rely on her,So to her initiation such idea:Let mother uncomfortable,So she just know that I am her side the most important person.

　　“其实其他人根本不用担心，我不会对他们下药，因为没有必要。”菁菁说，她的世界里从小就只有母亲，因此她只想引起母亲的关注。

"In fact the others won't worry about,I wouldn't they the remedy to the case,Because there is no need to."Cyanine cyanine said,Her world there is only the mother as a child,So she just want to cause the attention of the mother.

医生解答：孩子因缺乏安全感出现心理扭曲 The doctor answers:Children due to lack of security appear psychological distortion

　　据了解，菁菁爸妈在协议离婚后，菁菁父亲回到福建老家，一年也不和女儿打一次电话，但是抚养费会按时汇给孩子妈妈。

It is understood,The cyanine cyanine parents in the agreement after the divorce,The cyanine cyanine father went back to their hometown in fujian province,One year also not daughter play a telephone,But support will be duly remit children mother.

　　“几个月前，她爸爸突然打电话来，说自己在老家再婚以后生的儿子现在到了上学的年纪，他的开销大，以后就不承担菁菁的抚养费了。”菁菁妈妈说，从那以后她就觉得自己很孤立，孩子马上要上初中了，她一个单亲母亲，在超市工作工资也不高，一想到各种花钱的地方她就心烦，所以经常在孩子面前抱怨，“我不说就憋死了，忍不住。”

"A few months ago,Her father suddenly called,Says he is in their hometown remarried after sons now age to go to school,His spending big,Then does not assume the cyanine cyanine support."Cyanine cyanine mother said,From then on she felt very isolated,The child will soon top junior high school,She is a single mother,Work in the supermarket salary is not high also,The thought of all kinds of money place she is upset,So often in front of children complain,"I don't say will suppress dead,Couldn't help."

　　“孩子长久在这样的环境中成长，安全感已逐渐丧失，现已发展成很典型的心理问题。”刘亦芳表示，有此类心理问题的孩子通常有三个特征：一是只针对自己最在意的人，二是实质上并无恶意，三是经常用“自己的方式”寻找想要的爱。就像菁菁敞开心扉后哭着对妈妈说的：“妈妈我很爱你，但是太害怕你把我等同于那个‘坏人’最后就不要我了。”

"The child long in such an environment to grow,Security has gradually lost,Has now developed into a very typical psychological problems."LiuYiFang said,Have such psychological problems of children usually has three features:One is only for your most care about people,The second is virtually no harm,The third is often used"Own way"Will be looking for love.Like the cyanine cyanine after open up crying to his mother said:"Mom, I love you very much,But it was too afraid of you put my equal to that‘bad’Finally, don't me."

　　刘亦芳指出，大部分的心理问题是缺乏安全感，大部分的治疗方式是心理暗示。对缺乏安全感的孩子，家长一定要改变自己的生活态度，在平时生活中给予孩子积极、健康的心理回馈，用自己愉悦、平静的心态慢慢抚慰孩子不安的情绪，别让成年人生活中暂时的烦恼影响孩子至关重要的生理和心理发育期。

LiuYiFang pointed out that,Most of the psychological problem is the lack of a sense of security,Most of the treatment is psychological suggestion.The lack of a sense of security children,Parents must change their attitude towards life,In ordinary life give children actively/Healthy psychological feedback,With their own pleasure/Quiet state of mind slowly comfort his anxiety,Don't let an adult life temporary annoyance affect children vital physiological and psychological development period.

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　　王炜 童有兵 记者李皖婷

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