“喜欢成熟男人，希望对方的年龄在33到45岁……”写下这段寻爱微博的“90后”大学生小肖，被闺密戏称为“大叔控”。

"Like mature man,Hope the other party in 33 to the age of 45 years of age..."Write down this period of finding love of micro bo"After 90"College students XiaoXiao,Be known as girlfriends"Mutombo control".

　　近年来，越来越多女孩在标榜自己是“大叔控”，她们对年长10岁以上的大叔倾心仰慕，对同龄或相近年龄的异性置之不理，引发网友争议。有婚恋专家则表示，年轻人为追求安全感，一味将爱的对象定位于“大叔”，会形成不好的社会风气。

In recent years,More and more girls in flaunt oneself is the"Mutombo control",Their old uncle 10 years old in admiration,Similar to their peers of the opposite sex or age ignored,Cause net friend dispute.A marriage experts said,Young people for the pursuit of a sense of security,Blindly will love object localization in"uncle",Can form the bad social atmosphere.

女孩高呼 宁找离异叔，不要幼稚男 The girl shouted better find divorced tertiary,Don't childish men

　　25岁的白领小齐刚参加东湖一场大型相亲会，不少年轻男孩前来搭讪，她却一概不理，并表明目标对象是年长自己10岁且离过婚的男性，让帅哥靓仔顿时大跌眼镜。小齐告诉记者，前男友和她同龄，之前没恋爱经历，木讷得让她经常发脾气，“只有大叔才懂女生内心，也更会照顾女生，给我安全感。”

25 years of age white-collar richie just to participate in east lake a large blind date will be,Many young boy to come to chat up,She is all ignore,And show that target is 10 years old and divorced men,Let the handsome boy handsome patch immediately.Richie told reporters,Former boyfriend and her age,Love experience before,Was too numb, let she often lost his temper,"Uncle only to understand girls heart,Also more will take care of the girl,Give me a sense of security."

　　“90后”黄冈女孩小肖是一名大四学生。一周前她发布寻爱微博，直言希望对象年龄在33岁以上。大学四年里小肖拒绝了不少追求她的同学，“他们大多眼高手低，想法幼稚”。小肖说，她的父亲年长母亲20岁，生活中处处包容母亲，“我希望找到一个也能这么包容我的人”。

"After 90"Huanggang girl XiaoXiao is a senior student.A week ago released her finding love micro bo,The truth hope object in 33 years old age.Four years in the university XiaoXiao refused to a lot of the pursuit of her classmates,"Most of them are above,Ideas naive".XiaoXiao said,Her father elderly mother 20 years old,Life is inclusive mother,"I hope to find a can also so inclusive me".

网友质疑 是为安全感，还是傍大款？ Netizens question is for security,Or alongside big style?

　　小肖的微博一周内引发900余次转发，500余网友给她留言，其中不乏质疑批评之声。“年纪轻轻干嘛非得找大叔？是为了安全感，还是想傍大款？更有网友为年轻男孩们鸣不平：“现在的女孩都喜欢成熟大叔，所以20岁的男人都是光棍，只有熬到40岁后再去找20岁的女孩。”

XiaoXiao micro bo a week caused more than 900 times forward,More than 500 net friend give her the message,There is no lack of among them the sound of the criticism."Age gently to find why uncle?Is for security,Still want to alongside big style?More netizens for young boys grievances:"Now the girls like uncle mature,So the 20 years old men are single,Only cook to 40 years old to go after looking for 20 years old girl."

　　小肖叫屈：其实“大叔控”仅是一种情感心理需求，跟物质无关，“在我眼里，喜欢一个人就是为了这个人，绝不是为他的钱。”小齐也表示，女生都成“大叔控”，罪魁祸首还是在男生身上，她认为男生应该进行反思。

XiaoXiao accuse:In fact"Mutombo control"Only is a kind of emotional psychological needs,Has nothing to do with the matter,"In my eyes,Love a person is to the people,Is not for his money."Richie also said,Girls into"Mutombo control",Culprit or in the boy body,She thought the boy should reflect.

专家观点 尊重个性但不宜倡导 Expert view respect personality but unfavorable advocate

　　“大叔控”的女孩心理也引起专家关注。婚恋专家、湖北经济学院心理学教授吕斐宜表示，现在处于多元社会，尊重个性的表达，真情实意的选择也无可厚非，但形成推崇之势不免让人感觉遗憾。

"Mutombo control"Girl caused psychological also concerned by experts.Marriage experts/Hubei economy academy professor of psychology LvFeiYi said,Now in a pluralistic society,Respect for individual expression,The real thing choice too narrow,But form praise highly the potential not let a person feel regret.

　　“年轻人的爱情就应是青春活力，每个年龄都有应该体验的事情，吵架也是必经之路。”她认为，“大叔控”看似可以一步进入安全感的情感状态，但不利培养解决问题的能力，一旦出问题后果更严重。同时，“大叔控”这一恋爱观的扩大会影响社会风气，甚至形成恶性循环，“我们应呼吁更多年轻女孩自信独立，懂得陪伴一个男孩成长，跟他一起奋斗，而不是坐享其成一段爱情。” (楚天都市报 记者袁喆)

"Young people's love is should be green vigor,Each age has should experience things,Quarrel is also the only way."She thinks,"Mutombo control"Seemingly can step into the security emotional state,But unfavorable cultivate the ability to solve problems,Once the problem is more serious consequences.At the same time,"Mutombo control"This love, enlargement influence social atmosphere,Even a vicious cycle,"We should call for more young girls independent of self-confidence,Know with a boy,With his struggle together,Not secure a love." (Chutian metropolis daily reporter 袁喆)