老师一说上厕所，一群小朋友蜂拥而上，光腚一排男女不分……看到这儿，有朋友会会心一笑，“幼儿园是最坦荡荡的地方。”可两三岁的幼儿已经有了性别意识，幼儿如厕有无必要男女分流？作为家长，你会留心孩子在厕所里的“小动作”吗？当孩子提出“为什么我是这样，她（他）是那样”时，你会如何应对？是避还是编，抑或坦然面对？

The teacher said, "go to the toilet,A group of friends.,Light MAO a row of men and women regardless of...See here,A friend will be a hearty laugh,"Kindergarten is the place where the most being naked."Can two or three years old children have the gender consciousness,Children such as toilet is necessary to men and women shunt?As a parent,You will pay attention to the children in the toilet"Petty action"??When a child puts forward"Why am I like this,she(he)Is so"when,How do you deal with?Is avoid or knitting,Or open to?

　　最近，家住杨汊湖的吴女士心中堵着一口气一直咽不下，3岁的儿子烁烁（化名）居然被人当众蔑称“小流氓”，只因同龄的小女生尿尿时，烁烁蹲在一旁多瞄了几眼。

recently,Live in Yang branch lake of ms wu heart block with a sigh of relief has been swallow not to descend,3 year old son sparkle(alias)Incredibly was gook in public"The little rogue",Because of the same age when small girl pee,Glitter squat down on one side more took a few eye.

　　“小伢们好奇而已，喊‘小流氓’太伤尊严了。”回想起上周二下午发生在眼前的一幕，吴女士的情绪立马变得激动起来。吴女士说，当天下午，她去接儿子烁烁放学，顺便在小区里玩一玩。小区里有一个中心花园，烁烁很快跟那里的几个同龄的小朋友玩到了一起，她则坐在一旁跟两个相熟的妈妈聊天。

"Small Ya are curious about it,shout‘The little rogue’Too hurt the dignity."Recall last Tuesday afternoon happened in front of the scene,Ms wu mood immediately became excited.Ms wu said,In the afternoon,Her bright to pick up son after school,By the way in the community in a play.In the community have a central garden,Sparkle with there soon several age children to play together,She is sitting on one side and two phase of your mother chat.

　　突然，一个高八度的声音引起了她的注意，“别个姑娘伢尿尿，你盯着瞄么事，你这是流氓行为，长大了还得了”，循声望去看到一位婆婆一边教训儿子，一边给一个跟儿子差不多大的小女孩穿裤子。“你家里的小伢在公共场所尿尿才是不文明行为，大人应该好好教一教。”吴女士说，听到对方数落自己的儿子，她当即上前理论。双方家长展开了一场“谁更有素质”的舌战，最后各自黑脸离开。

suddenly,A high-pitched voice caught her attention,"Another girl Ya pee,You stare at glance? Things,You this is hooliganism,Grew up also got",The cry for miles to see a mother-in-law side lesson son,For a while with son about the size of the little girl wear pants."Your home small Ya pee in public places is not civilized behavior,Parents should teach a good teaching."Ms wu said,Hear each other grumble and his son,She immediately forward theory.Both parents launched a"Who has a better quality"Words of,Finally with their left.

　　回家后，吴女士意识到自己处理问题有失冷静，觉得有必要给儿子上一课身体的秘密，告诉儿子不要在公共场合暴露自己的隐私部位，也不要窥视、触碰别人的隐私部位。

After coming home,Ms wu consciousness to handle their problems be calm,Think it is necessary to his son a lesson in the secret of the body,Don't tell son in public exposure their privacy parts,Don't peep/Touch other people's privacy parts.

　　然而，第二天在幼儿园看到的另一幕令吴女士愕然，“老师一说上厕所，一群小朋友蜂拥而上，男生、女生光着小屁屁站了一排。有的小女生看男生尿尿看得出神，还模仿男生挺肚子。有的小男孩尿完了后，裤子都没穿好就跑去喝水。”随后，吴女士向幼儿园的老师表达了建议男女生分开如厕的想法，老师说幼儿园硬件配套有限，无法满足这一需求，甚至认为吴女士有些小题大做。

however,The next day at the kindergarten see another scene make ms wu startled,"The teacher said, "go to the toilet,A group of friends.,boy/The girl naked small fart fart stood a row.Some small girls see boys pee see god,Also imitate the boy's belly.Some small boy urine after finished,Don't wear pants good run to drink water."then,Ms wu to kindergarten teacher expressed suggest boys and girls separate toilet idea,The teacher said kindergarten hardware co., LTD., form a complete set,Unable to meet this demand,Even think ms wu some make a mountain out of a molehill.

　　“小孩也有隐私。”吴女士说，起初她也认为孩子们年龄尚小，男女生一起上厕所，一起睡午觉无所谓，但经历了那次吵架事件后，她觉得在孩子有了性别意识后，家长和老师都应该重视这方面的教育和引导。

"Children also have privacy."Ms wu said,At first she also think the children age is still small,Men and women living together up the toilet,Take a nap doesn't matter together,But after the fight after the event,She felt the child has the gender consciousness after,Parents and teachers should pay attention to the education and guidance.

【记者调查】 [Reporter investigation]

幼儿园男女生混合如厕很常见 Kindergarten men and women born mixed toilet is very common

　　幼儿园的小朋友如厕有无必要男女分流？连日来，记者通过实地探访、电话咨询等形式采访了30多所幼儿园，结果显示没有一所幼儿园专门为小朋友配建分离式男女厕所，男女生混合如厕的现象在中、小、托班很常见。

Kindergarten children toilet is necessary to men and women shunt?For the last few days,Reporter through the on-site visit/Telephone counseling and other forms interviewed more than 30 kindergartens,Results show that no kindergartens specifically for children of men and women PeiJian separate toilet,Men and women born mixed toilet in the phenomenon/small/Joe class is very common.

　　“孩子们做事有一定的群聚性，一个说想上厕所，一群孩子可能都会嚷着要去，男女同上很难避免。”采访中，多数老师认为现阶段给孩子们专门配建分离式男女厕所不现实，主要是因为园舍场地有限。而在日常教学中，幼儿园还是倡导男女生分流如厕，只是在实际操作过程中，年龄小的孩子们很难做到这一点。

"The children do have certain cluster sex,Said one want to go to the toilet,A group of children can cried out to go to,Men and women as above it is difficult to avoid."interview,Most teachers think at present give children special PeiJian separate men and women toilet not reality,Mainly because of garden pieces of limited space.And in the daily teaching,Kindergarten or advocate men and women living shunt toilet,Just in the actual operation process,Young children it is difficult to do this.

　　“小伢们懵懵懂懂的，发现大家长得不一样，在好奇心的驱使下，有时候上厕所就会你揪我一下，我摸你一下，还有的小男生会向女生炫耀自己尿得远。”一位从事幼儿教育近十年的老师说，出现类似的情况，老师一般都会及时制止，告诉他们男女有别，没什么好奇的，但不可能完全杜绝孩子们之间做“小动作”。

"The small Ya of MengMengDongDong,Parents found not the same,Driven by curiosity in,Sometimes the toilet will you catch me,I feel you once,There's little boy to girl to show off their own urine far."A engaged in preschool education nearly 10 years of the teacher said,A similar situation,The teacher usually stopped in time,Tell them male and female have differences,Nothing curious,But impossible to completely prevent between children do"Petty action".

　　当然，也有些幼儿园为了培养孩子们“男女有别，相互尊重”的意识可以说是煞费苦心。四美塘幼儿园园长梁欣洁介绍，虽说幼儿园无法给孩子们提供男女分离式厕所，但从小班起老师就会通过音乐引导或语言引导的方式帮助孩子建立男女分流如厕的规则意识并形成常规习惯，比如：老师播放《萤火虫》，就表示“请小淑女上厕所”，而当《童年》的音乐声一响起，就表示“小绅士们上厕所的时间到了”。

Of course,Also some kindergarten in order to cultivate the children"Different men and women,Mutual respect"Consciousness can be said to be take great pains.SiMeiTang kindergarten LiangXinJie kinzley is introduced,Although kindergarten not to provide children with men and women separate toilet,But from the class teacher will through the music guide or language guide way to help children establish men and women shunt toilet rule consciousness and form regular habits,For example:Teachers play[fireflies],said"Please little lady toilets",And when[childhood]The music sounds,said"Little gentlemen's time to go to the toilet".

【家长反应】 [Parents reaction]

与孩子谈性有的回避有的编 And children about sex some avoid some knitting

　　“无所谓吧，等到孩子长大了以后自然会懂的。”在与家长的交流中，记者谈及“你是否介意男女生同厕”这一话题时，不少家长的回答如出一辙。有教育专家认为，这样的回答某种程度上也折射出中国家长在面对孩子早期性教育问题上的被动态度。

"Doesn't matter it,When the child grew up later will naturally understand."And parents in the exchange,Reporters about"Do you mind if men and women living with toilet"The topics,Many parents answer be exactly the same.Have education experts say,Such answer a certain extent, also reflects the Chinese parents in the face of the child early sex education problem of passive attitude.

　　“你会主动对孩子进行早期性教育吗？”“你能坦然面对孩子提出的性话题吗？”记者随机采访了70多位4~6岁孩子的父母，近七成家长直言“很被动”，一般是“孩子不问，咱就不提”，倘若孩子主动谈到相关话题，有两成家长选择装糊涂避而不谈，还有三成家长称靠即兴发挥，“编到哪儿算哪儿”。

"You will be active to children early sex education?""You can accept children put sex?"Reporter random interviewed more than 70 4 ~ 6 years old the child's parents,Nearly seventy percent of parents the truth"Very passive",The general is"Children don't ask,I will not ask",If children active when it comes to related topics,Twenty percent of parents choose to dissimulate cast a veil over,And thirty percent said parents by improvise,"Knitting is where".

　　回避与戏说行得通吗？记者就“你知道自己是如何来到这个世界上的吗”这一问题向90多名4~6岁的孩子征集答案，有近六成的孩子十分肯定地回答：是妈妈生的，另有四成孩子的说法可谓无奇不有，“买宝宝床时送的”、“花盆里长的”、“妈妈吐出来的”……5岁女孩豆豆的答案居然有四个版本，“奶奶说我是从垃圾堆捡回来的，爷爷说我像孙悟空一样从石头里蹦出来的，爸爸说我是从妈妈肚子上那条线中钻出来的，妈妈说我跟小飞象一样是送子鸟送来的，我也不晓得我是从哪里来的。”

Avoidance and make bitter work?Reporters were"You know how we came to this world"The problem to the more than 90 children aged 4 ~ 6 for the answer,Nearly sixty percent of the children is sure to answer:Mother is born of,Another forty percent said children is found,"Buy the baby bed sent"/"Flowerpot, even the"/"The mother spit it out"...5 years old girl doug answer should have four version,"Grandma said I am from landfill to pick up the back,Grandpa said I like sun wukong from stone of jumped out,Father said I am from mother in the stomach in the line of the drill out,Mom said I with small fly like is brought SongZi bird,I don't know where I had come from."

　　家长们为何难以坦然面对孩子提出的性话题？调查显示原因不外乎两个：一是自身相关知识有限，不知如何回答孩子的“怪问题”；二是觉得问题太过敏感，难以启齿，怕说多了“催熟”孩子。

Parents why difficult to calm in the face of the child proposed sex?Investigation shows that for no better reason than two:One is their own knowledge limited,Don't know how to answer the child"Weird problem";The second is think the problem too sensitive,Was reluctant to,Afraid said much"after-ripening"children.

【老师说法】 [The teacher said]

家长谈性连哄带骗是误导 Parents talk about sex even coax belt cheat is misleading

　　“与其戏说，不如不说。”省商务厅幼儿园园长杜蕴表示，事实上，武汉市在幼儿性教育方面并非空白。目前武汉市大部分幼儿园采用的《幼儿园主题探究课程》教材中，从小班到大班都有部分内容与幼儿早期性教育相关，如《我长大了》、《特别的我》等等，通过教学能够解答孩子们现阶段的一些困惑，例如：我是怎么来到这个世界上的，男孩和女孩有什么不同。但是，作为家园共同教育的另一主体家长，往往并没有作好思想准备应对孩子提出的性问题，受传统思想影响，有的家长采取回避的态度，有的家长采取连哄带骗的方式，这样反而对孩子是一种误导。

"Talk with,Better say nothing than nothing."Province business hall calls kindergarten du aggregates said,In fact,Wuhan city in the early childhood sexual education was not blank.At present most of the wuhan city kindergarten[Kindergarten theme exploration course]textbook,From class to class are part of the content and early childhood sexual education related,if[I grew up]/[Special I], etc,Through the teaching can solve the children present some confusion,For example:How did I come into this world,Boys and girls, is there any difference.but,As a common education home another subject parents,Often do not prepared for children to put forward sexual problems,The traditional thought influence,Some parents take to avoid attitude,Some parents take even with the way to cheat,So instead of children is a misleading.

　　硚口区实验小学校长吕敬东表示，不可否认的是，与“50、60”那一代的家长相比，在对孩子进行早期性教育方面，“70、80”这一代的家长无论是教育意识还是教育方法都要进步很多。

Qiao KouOu experimental primary school principals LvJingDong said,There is no denying that,and"50/60"The generation of parents compared,Children in the early sex education aspects,"70/80"This generation of parents whether education consciousness or education method to made a lot of progress.

　　前不久，她无意中听到几个女生私下聊到青春期生理反应，发现孩子们在这方面存在不少误区，于是就“是否有必要开展青春期教育”征求高年级学生意见，结果绝大部分学生表现出极大的兴趣，其中有一半的学生表示父母从未跟他们讨论过相关话题，生长过程中的一些生理变化有时令他们很困惑。值得一说的是，有近三成的学生表示他们有信心能够从容面对青春期的“秘密”，因为父母曾提前打过“预防针”。

Not long ago,She overheard a few girls talk privately to puberty physiological reaction,That the children were found in this respect exist many errors,So he"Is it necessary to carry out education of adolescence"Ask for the senior and junior students opinion,Results most students showed great interest,One half of the students said they discussed with parents never related topics,In the process of growth of some physiological changes sometimes makes them very confused.Be worth what say is,Nearly thirty percent of the students said they have the confidence to calm in the face of the adolescent"secret",Because their parents have played in advance"Flu shot".

【专家建议】 [Experts suggest]

家长应淡定面对客观释疑 Parents should calm in the face of the objective disabuse

　　幼儿教育专家、武汉市教科院教科所家庭与社会教育研究室主任陈红梅认为，每个孩子的身心发展状况不一样，何时对孩子进行性教育因人而异，既不能操之过急，也不能够糊弄到底。当孩子关注到两性差别时，家长没必要遮遮掩掩，这样反而会进一步激起孩子的好奇心。

Preschool education experts/Wuhan to teach science college training section family and social education research director ChenGongMei think,Each child's physical and mental development is not the same,When to child sexual education is different from person to person,Not only can't have too many irons in the fire,Also can't deceive exactly.When a child attention to when sex difference,Parents didn't necessary to cover up,So it will further arouse the curiosity of children.

　　其实，孩子的想法是天真无邪的，是家长往往想得过于复杂。幼儿阶段，孩子们提出的问题一般都很直观，建议家长有一说一，用最简单、客观的语言回答孩子“是什么”即可让孩子释疑。武汉晨报 记者向洁

In fact,The child's idea is innocent,Parents often think is too complex.Preschool period,The children questions usually very intuitive,Suggested that parents have a say,With the most simple/Objective language answer children"Is what"Can let the child disabuse.Wuhan morning paper reporter to clean