自己看的节目，不再喜欢坐在电视机前了。”杨澜说。

Yourself to see the show,No longer like the sit in front of the television."Yang LAN said.

　　但是面对网络没有那么简单了。

But in the face of the network not so simple.

　　杨澜并不认同为了减少孩子和电子产品的接触，就让家里的电视、电脑等产品全部消失，人为地进行隔绝。“这会极大地影响孩子在班里的社交。”杨澜说，这样做的结果是，当班里的孩子都在说他们热衷于看的某一个卡通片和一个游戏的时候，孩子只能无话可说。

Yang LAN is not identity in order to reduce child and electronic product contact,Let TV at home/Computer and other products all disappear,Artificially in isolation."This will greatly affect the child in the class social."Yang LAN said,As a result,The children are on duty in say they are keen on watching a cartoon and a game all the time,Children can only have nothing to say.

　　随着孩子们步入学校，和网络的接触越来越多，学校几乎所有的功课都要在网上完成，他们还经常通过网络看一些喜欢的卡通片、电影，跟同学聊天。看到孩子一直坐在电脑前面，杨澜也开始慌张，但她明白，如果经常问孩子到底在做什么，是对孩子的不信任。最后，杨澜跟孩子们达成了一个“交易”：从眼睛的保护、身体的发育、颈椎的成长以及学习等各个方面考虑，星期一到星期五不上网看无用的东西，不玩游戏；星期五晚上、星期六和星期天每天只玩一个小时。孩子们同意了。

As the children into the school,And network contact more and more,School almost all the homework will be online,They also often through the network to see some like cartoons/The movie,Chat with students.See their children have been sitting in front of a computer,Yang LAN began to panic,But she understand,If often ask children really doing,Is the child's distrust.finally,Yang LAN and the children reached a"trading":From the protection of the eyes/Body development/The growth of the cervical spine and learning, and other aspects,Monday to Friday don't read online useless things,Don't play games;Friday night/Saturday and Sunday only an hour every day to play.The children agreed.

　　既然谈好了，杨澜就充分尊重他们的选择。看到孩子待在电脑前，虽然心里很想知道他在干什么，但杨澜就跟自己说：“不要问他，他一定在做作业。”

Since had talked about the,Yang LAN will fully respect their choice.See their children to stay in front of the computer,Although the in the mind be very want to know what is he doing,But Yang LAN will say to yourself:"Don't ask him,He must be in doing his homework."

　　健康的体魄比奥数班更重要

Healthy body is more important than Olympic math class

　　现在的孩子“压力山大”，课业要搞好，奥数、英语不能少，课余还要学才艺。可孩子的精力是有限的，作为家长，如何帮助孩子平衡各方面的关系，作出选择和取舍？

Now the children"Pressure shandong",Schoolwork should do well,aoshu/English cannot little,After school we also learn talent.Can the child's energy is limited,As a parent,How to help children balance all aspects of relationship,To make a choice and choices?

　　可能跟自己的经历有关，杨澜不认为那些课外的辅导班有那么大的作用，相反，她认为，上了课外辅导班很可能让孩子上课就不认真听，所以她的孩子没有去上奥数班，她也没有给他们做任何跟知识相关的课外补习。

May with own experience about,Yang LAN don't think those after-school remedial class have a big role,instead,She thinks,The extracurricular class is likely to let the child attends class will not listen carefully,So her children not to go to Olympic math class,She also did not give them any knowledge related to extra-class continuation.

　　多出来的时间干什么呢？当然是去锻炼。

Extra time to do?Of course is to exercise.

　　“大家去看看自己的孩子，特别是看看自己家的男孩子，他的骨骼、他的肌肉真的在发育吗？”杨澜担任政协委员的时候，曾和几个委员一起提交过一个关于提高民族体质的提案，她认为，目前我国青少年的体质非常让人担忧，无论是爆发力、耐力还是力量，都全面低于日本。而一个人的体魄跟其精神力、意志力、活跃程度以及创造力都有直接的关系。

"We go to see their children,Especially to see one's own boys,His bones/His muscle really in development?"Yang LAN's political consultative conference (CPPCC) as the time,Once and several committee submitted together a about enhancing the national physique proposal,She thinks,At present our country adolescents constitution very worrying,Whether the explosive force/Endurance or power,All comprehensive less than Japan.And a person's body with their mentality/willpower/Activity and creativity are directly related.

　　这样的背景下，在奥数和运动之间，杨澜毫不犹豫地给孩子选择了运动。“如果因此没有得100分，只能得85分，我认了，因为不需要知道那么难的题目。”但是，“我需要你锻炼，需要你正常的、健康的发育，在长大成人的时候，有一个健康的体魄，有着非常有活力的生命的状态。”杨澜说。

This background,In mathematical olympiad and movement between,Yang LAN do not hesitate to give the child chose movement."If therefore not 100 points,Only 85 points,I recognize the,Because it does not need to know so difficult questions."but,"I need you to exercise,Need you to normal/Healthy development,In adults,Have a healthy body,Has a very vibrant life state."Yang LAN said.

　　一到周末，杨澜就给孩子充足的时间去出汗、去锻炼，并且亲自陪着。而杨澜发现，这还让她有个意外的收获：跟孩子建立起了“哥们儿”般的友谊，大大促进了亲子关系。

A weekend,Yang LAN will give children enough time to sweat/To exercise,And personally accompany.And Yang LAN found,This also let her have a windfalls:With children established"buddy"Of friendship,Greatly promoted the parent-child relationship.

　　在培养孩子的兴趣上，父母也会面临选择的困惑。

In the cultivation of the children's interests,Parents will face a choice of confusion.

　　杨澜坦言自己也犯过错误。

Yang LAN said oneself also made mistakes.

　　儿子5岁的时候，杨澜曾逼他练钢琴。钢琴老师问杨澜的儿子：你为什么要学习钢琴呢？儿子回答：是妈妈让我学的。

Son at the age of five,YangLanCeng forced him practicing the piano.Piano teacher asked the son of Yang LAN:Why do you want to learn the piano?The son replied:Is mom let me learn.

　　在学琴的4年中，儿子痛苦，杨澜也不愉悦，“为学琴冲他歇斯底里地叫喊过。”终于有一天，儿子说“妈妈我想把钢琴砸了”，杨澜意识到儿子是真的不喜欢弹钢琴，于是终止了儿子的学琴生涯。

Learning music four years,Son pain,Yang LAN also not cheerful,"To learn piano blunt he hysterically cries over."Finally and one day,Son said"Mother I want to hit the piano",Yang LAN realized son is really don't like playing the piano,Then terminated the son to learn music career.

　　杨澜的女儿却喜欢弹钢琴。杨澜由此感叹，哪怕是同样的父母、同样的家庭，每个孩子也不尽相同，孩子的天性真的有神秘之处，必须要对此敬畏。

Yang LAN's daughter is like playing the piano.Yang LAN this exclamation,Even if is the same parents/The same family,Every child is endless also and same,The nature of the child really have mysterious place,Must this fear.

　　“男孩穷养女孩富养”的根本是财富观

"Boy a poor girl eutrophic"The fundamental is wealth view

　　近年来，“男孩穷养女孩富养”的说法在不少爸妈中盛行，这种说法认为，只有穷养男孩，苦其心志，劳其筋骨，将来他才可担当大任；只有富养女孩，在物质上开阔其视野，在精神上丰富其思想，将来她才能见识广，有主见，一生幸福。

In recent years,"Boy a poor girl eutrophic"In many parents that place,This kind of view think,Only a poor boy,frustrates,Toil flesh and bone,In the future he can bear responsibility;Only the eutrophic girl,In the material open his view,In spirit enrich its thought,She can see wide in the future,independent,Whole life happiness.

　　杨澜对此并不以为然，她认为对男孩太严苛了会让他习惯顺从权威，男孩从小过分穷养也可能让他变得惟利是图。有一些人在成年以后走上歧途，恰恰是因为他们小的时候过于贫穷，以至于有钱高于一切从小在他思想里扎了根，为了达到这个目的，可以不择手段。同样，有的家庭经济条件非常优越，把女儿娇宠到傲慢、无知的程度，殊不知，溺爱只能让女孩长大后娇纵无礼，“谁愿意娶这样的女孩进门？”

Yang LAN does not approve,She think the boy is too tough will let his habit of obedience authority,The boy from too poor to raise may also let him become mercenary.Some people in adulthood misstep,Precisely because when they were very young too poor,That money above everything grew up in his mind taken root,In order to achieve this purpose,Can by hook or by crook.The same,Some family economic condition is very good,Spoil her daughter to arrogance/Degree of ignorance,Little imagine,Dote on can only let the girls grew up baby rude,"Who would like to marry such a girl in the door?"

　　杨澜认为，不管父母是穷还是富，孩子将来都要自己经营人生。因此，父母要让孩子学会从小把钱、情感、价值、精神能够放在一个相对合理的位置上。杨澜的做法是，在孩子很小的时候就给他们灌输一个理念：18岁以后，妈妈把大学的学费都交齐了，你们就自己过日子了。

Yang LAN think,Whether his parents is poor or rich,Children are the future to operate their own life.therefore,Parents should let the child learn to put the money from/emotional/value/Spirit that can in a relatively reasonable position.It is Yang LAN,In children at a very young age will give they instill an idea:After 18 years of age,Mother put university tuition fees are paid, the,You will be his life the.

　　接受了这样的理念，孩子们正确的财富观自然就会慢慢培养起来。

Accept the idea,The children the right wealth view naturally slowly up training.

　　暑假的时候，杨澜的儿子去博物馆实习，跟工人们一起拆木箱、钉钉子、做记录，因为是高中生，博物馆并不给他付工钱。中午在外面吃饭，班上有一些同学吃比萨，还有一些同学甚至吃更贵的寿司等，但儿子觉得自己还没有挣钱，就买一个5元的三明治吃了。回来以后，杨澜对儿子的行为大加表扬。杨澜跟儿子说，你要算算，假设你刚刚大学毕业每个月可以挣多少钱，如果一顿午饭就花40元，意味着你根本养不活自己。

During the summer vacation,Yang LAN son go to the museum practice,Together with the workers and wooden boxes/Nail nails/Make record,Because is a senior high school student,The museum is not to pay for his wages.Noon eating outside,There are some students in the class to eat pizza,Some of my classmates even eat more expensive sushi, etc,But the son feel is not to earn money,Buy a 5 yuan sandwich ate.back,Yang LAN son's behavior to heap praise.Yang LAN with son said,You want to calculate,If you just graduated from the university can earn much money every month,If a lunch to spend 40 yuan,Means that you never keep not to live yourself.

　　“穷养、富养，归根到底是一个财富的价值观的问题。”杨澜认为，不论男孩还是女孩，最关键的是要培养正确的价值观、财富观。而过分纠结于穷养、富养问题，“往往是父母自己过于看重金钱的结果”。本报记者 李洁言 樊未晨

"Poor keep/eutrophic,In the final analysis is a wealth of the values of the problem."Yang LAN think,No matter boy or girl,The key is to cultivate the correct values/Wealth view.And too ravel in poor raise/Eutrophic problem,"Parents are often the result of his being too concerned with money".Our reporter fan LiJieYan not morning