父亲离妻舍女去美国，母亲另嫁他人赴香港 Father from his wife pieces of female to the United States,The mother marry others in Hong Kong

　　海口一名17岁少女因父母离异导致性格叛逆。父亲离妻舍女去了美国，母亲另嫁他人后赴香港定居。少女既不想与父亲和后母移民美国，也不想与母亲和继父搬到香港去生活和学习。女孩于今年3月离家出走已7个多月，至今不肯与母亲见面。母亲关关(化名)思女心切，求助本报帮忙寻找其女儿。

Haikou a 17-year-old girl for her parents divorced lead to rebel character.Father from his wife pieces of female went to the United States,The mother married after others to live in Hong Kong.Girl with his father and stepmother is don't want to immigration to the United States,Don't want to and mother and stepfather moved to Hong Kong to live and study.The girl from march this year to run away from home has seven months,So far refused to meet with her mother.Mother cage(alias)Think women eager,Help our help looking for their daughter.

　　本报记者聂元剑

Our reporter nie yuan jian

女儿出生时父亲离妻舍女去了美国 When our daughter was born from father wife pieces of female went to the United States

　　据关关介绍，17年前，当女儿刚出生的时候，她的前夫就突然抛弃她们去了美国。记者反复问其原因，关关才勉强地提到，当时前夫怀疑女儿非他亲生。但关关称：她的作风很正派，女儿就是前夫的。

According to the cage is introduced,17 years ago,When my daughter just the time of birth,Her ex-husband suddenly abandon they went to the United States.Reporters repeatedly asked the reason,Cage reluctantly to mention,When ex-husband doubt her daughter not his own.But cage said:Her style is very decent,Daughter is the ex-husband.

　　关关生下女儿的头几年，前夫每月还给孩子寄抚养费用，后来就不寄了。家人随后经常在女孩面前提及关关的前夫，言语大多是责备其抛妻弃女的行为，这让女儿从小在心里埋下了仇父的“种子”。

GuanSheng shut her head a few years,Ex-husband to send a month child raising cost,Then is not sent.Family then in front of the girls often mention cage ex-husband,Words are mostly blame the wife and throw the behavior,This lets the daughter grew up in the heart of the QiuFu buried"seed".

　　关关说：“虽然后来前夫还经常与女儿有联系，但父亲过早的离妻舍女，还是在女儿心理造成了很大的伤害。我现在也深深地感觉到，自己一个人教育女儿还是有些力不从心，女儿经常不听我的话。我经常想：如果不是她丈夫当初提出离婚，如果他们是一个幸福的家庭，夫妻俩人共同来教育孩子的话，效果会好得多，女儿绝对不会这样不听话的。”

Shut tariffs:"Although later ex-husband often and daughter has contact,But the father of the early from his wife pieces of female,Or in the daughter psychological caused a lot of damage.I now also deeply feel,His daughter is still a personal education some ability not equal to one's ambition,Daughter often does not listen to my words.I often want to:If not her husband had put forward a divorce,If they are a happy family,Husband and wife two people together to education child word,The effect will be much better,Daughter never so naughty."

父亲邀女儿移民美国遭到女儿拒绝 The father asked his daughter by daughter refused to immigration to the United States

　　据关关介绍：在女儿读初一的时候，她的前夫让女儿移民美国与他一同生活。女儿当时非常高兴，与父亲一同到了美国，并办理移民美国的手续。然而，女儿与父亲到了美国后，却发现自己与父亲是那样的陌生，父亲在她面前涌现的不是亲情，而是对父亲当初离妻舍女的怨恨。而且女儿与继母及继母生的孩子也难以沟通。

According to the cage is introduced:In the daughter when read first,Her ex-husband let daughter immigration to the United States with his life together.Her daughter was very happy,Together with his father went to the United States,And handle the formalities of immigration to the United States.however,With his father after the daughter went to the United States,They find themselves and father is so strange,Father in front of her emerging is not love,But the father had up from his wife the resentment.And daughter with his father and stepmother children born also difficult to communicate.

　　关关说：“女儿从美国回来后说，她与父亲在美国生活了一个月的时间，就是不愿意与父亲说一句话，她和自己的父亲更谈不上沟通。女儿与父亲在美国居住一个月后回到了海南，孩子放弃了移民美国与父亲一同生活的梦想。”

Shut tariffs:"Daughter said after coming back from America,Her father and living in the United States for a month's time,Just would not say a word with his father,She and her father much less communication.Daughter and my father lived in the United States after a month returned to hainan,The child gave up immigration to the United States with the dream of life with his father."

　　记者说：“从你的谈话中，我感觉到前夫给你的思想造成了很大的影响，影响你教育孩子的方式。你所称的要教育好小孩，很大的目的是为证明给前夫看：没有前夫，你们母女一样生活愉快。因此，小孩稍许不听话，你就火冒三丈动手打孩子，你不懂得耐心地去诱导孩子，你不是真心实意地为孩子好！”

reporters:"From your conversation,I feel ex-husband give your mind has created the very big impact,Affect your child education way.What you call to education good children,A lot of purpose is to prove to see her former husband:No ex-husband,You live like a mother and daughter.therefore,The child slightly not obedient,You can fire emit three zhangs lay a finger on children,You don't know how to patiently to induce children,You are not whole-heartedly for good children!"

　　记者这番话先让关关极为反感，她不为自己的行为后悔。但在仔细回想记者所说的话后，关关又承认：她教育孩子的方法是有问题的，毕竟孩子现在已赌气出走了。她认为这可能是受与前夫离婚的影响，但她平时没有察觉出来。

Reporter these words let shut off a strong dislike,She not for their own behavior regret.But in careful recall reporters after said,Cage and admit that:She education child method is to have a problem,After all, children has now ran away in anger.She thinks it may be due to the influence of the divorce with her ex-husband,But she did not notice at ordinary times out.

母亲带女儿移居香港女儿要回海南生活 Mother take my daughter moved to Hong Kong daughter going back to hainan life

　　关关与前夫离婚不久，就另嫁了一位家在香港的男子。女儿从美国回来后不久，关关与现在的丈夫开始办理移居香港的手续。接着，她与现在的丈夫带女儿到香港居住和生活。女儿在香港生活和读书一年后，对当地的语言和生活习俗不适应，坚持要求回海南生活。于是，关关又暂时放弃在香港的生活，与女儿一同回了海南。

Shut off with her ex-husband divorce soon,On the other married a home in Hong Kong's man.Daughter soon after coming back from America,Shut off and now husband began to deal with the formalities that moved to Hong Kong.then,She and her husband now take my daughter to Hong Kong living and life.Daughter living in Hong Kong, and reading a year later,On the local language and life custom does not adapt,Insist on back to hainan life.so,Cage and temporarily abandon living in Hong Kong,Together with daughter back to the hainan.

　　关关一家生活在海口，女儿初中毕业后，关关考虑到女儿将来参加高考的问题，安排女儿到文昌一所高中上学。她没想到，女儿在文昌读书后，情况变得更糟。女儿在文昌这所中学上学后，很快与当地的男子谈上了恋爱。女儿曾向关关提及此事，得到关关的极力反对。女儿从此很少与关关谈及男朋友的事情。关关至今也不清楚女儿谈的恋爱对象住在文昌哪个地方。

Shut off a live in haikou,Daughter junior high school after graduation,Shut off considering the daughter will come to the university entrance exam questions,Arrange a daughter to wenchang high school to go to school.She didn't think,Daughter in wenchang after reading,The situation became worse.Daughter in wenchang this middle school after school,Soon and local man talk about the love.Daughter had to shut off mentioned it,Get shut off objected to.Daughter since then rarely and shut off about boyfriend things.Cage has also not clear daughter talk about love object live in wenchang which place.

　　去年，女儿在与关关发生争执后，曾赌气离家出走，但10多天后回来。去年底，女儿高一上学期结束，就放弃了读书，与关关呆在家里。今年3月，女儿说自己男朋友出了一点车祸，她要去照料。此举遭到关关强烈反对。女儿当即离家出走，至今不归。

Last year,Daughter in and shut off after a dispute,Once in anger away from home,But more than 10 days come back.end,A daughter on the end of the semester,Gave up reading,And shut off to stay at home.In march this year,Daughter said to her boyfriend out a car accident,She wants to go to take care of.The move was shut off strong opposition.Daughter immediately run away from home,So far not to.

　　女儿离家出走的这段时间，见家人打的电话都不接，关关没有一点办法与女儿沟通。她还听女儿的同学说，关关的女儿最近在网上与朋友聊天时说，她要邀请一帮人去与另一些人打架……此事让关关非常着急。她为此打电话给本报新闻热线，寻求处理办法。

Daughter run away this time,See family phone calls are not meet,Shut off to do not have a bit method and daughter communication.She also listen to her daughter's classmate say,Cage's daughter recently on the Internet to chat with friends, said,She wants to invite a gang to and some other person fight...It let shut off very worried.She therefore call our newspaper news hotline,Seek treatment method.

女儿不听话母亲想送女儿去少年管教所 Daughter not obedient mother want to send my daughter to reformatory

　　关关在寻问记者管教女儿的办法时，也提出了自己的想法。她对记者说：想送女儿去有关部门进行少年管教。否则，任女儿这样下去，情况会不可收拾。

Shut off in asked reporters discipline daughter's way,Also the author puts forward his own idea.She told reporters:Want to send my daughter to the relevant departments for young discipline.otherwise,Let her daughter go on like this,Things will not pick up.

　　记者认为关关送女儿去少年管教所的办法，可能会太过于极端。因为送去少年管教所的孩子，都是犯非常严重错误、甚至违法的满14岁而未满18周岁的少年。这样搞不好，会在孩子的成长过程中留下严重的阴影。

The reporter thought cage sends her daughter to reformatory way,May be too extreme.Because sent to the reformatory children,Are made very serious mistakes/Even illegal 14 years old and full 18 one full year of life to the young.So maybe,Will the growth of children left in the process of serious shadow.

　　记者认为关关应更多的在自己身上找原因，因为孩子毕竟是受教育阶段，他们很多行为是受大人的影响的，是不是关关在教育孩子的方法上出了问题，值得她思忖。

The reporter thought cage should be more in yourself to blame,Because the child after all is influenced by education stage,They a lot of behavior is influenced by the effect of adults,Is shut off in the education of children method out of the question,Is worth her contemplate.

　　在记者的提示下，关关开始认真的思考自己教育孩子方面的情况。她疏理了在教育孩子上两个方面的过错：一是在孩子上小学阶段，经常打骂孩子。当时她没有体会到自己的缺点，认为自己出发点是为孩子好，是孩子不听话，不争气。因此，经常忍不住打骂孩子。二是孩子上初中后，关关虽然不再打孩子了，但她仍不愿意与孩子平等地交谈，总是以“我是你妈妈”“我说的都是为你好”“你要听话”等命令的口气与女儿谈话。这让女儿不愿意与母亲交谈，甚至讨厌母亲，讨厌家庭。在外面遇到能交谈的朋友，就宁愿离家出走，不与家人来往。

With the reporter's cues,Cage began to think seriously about their education child aspects of the situation.Her child establish in education on the two aspects of the fault:A child is in the elementary school stage,Often beat and scold children.At that time she did not realize their own shortcomings,Think you starting point is good for children,A child not obedient,Don't try to make a good showing.therefore,Children often could not help but beat and scold.The second is the child after junior high school,Shut off although no longer playing children,But she is still not willing to work with children equal talk,always"I am your mother""I said is good for you""Do you want to listen"The tone of such as command and daughter conversation.This lets the daughter is not willing to talk with her mother,Even hate mother,Hate family.In the outside meet to talk to friends,Would rather stay away from home,Don't associate with his family.

　　随后，关关改变了送孩子去少年管教所的想法。关关对记者说，只要能帮她找回女儿，她愿意改变自己教育孩子的方式，尊重女儿，让女儿真正感到家庭的温馨。

then,Cage changed to send children to reformatory ideas.Cage told reporters,As long as you can to help her find her daughter,She is willing to change their way of children education,Respect daughter,Let daughter really feel the warmth of the family.