11月21日，山东籍研究生方光（化名）被大连某高校开除后，在济南一四面围网的戒网学校，又一次内疚地哭了。在这之前，方光因长时间痴迷于老虎机赌博游戏，惨输掉80余万元，气死了亲生爷爷。父母的拳拳期盼，变成了一场难以预料的悲剧。

On November 21st,Shandong FangGuang cadastral graduate students(alias)Dalian is a university after fire,All of the Seine in jinan a ring network school,Another guiltily cry.Before that,For a long time FangGuang obsessed with slot machines gambling game,Miserable lost more than 80 ten thousand yuan,Grieve own grandpa.Parents' sincere look forward to,Become a unexpected tragedy.

齐鲁网11月25日发自济南 Qilu net November 25th from jinan

“一好遮百丑” 片面的家庭教育 "A good cover ugly" One-sided family education

　　方光出生在山东省潍坊市区一个普通职工家庭。小学、中学繁重的学习压力，致使方光伴随着应试升学的大潮只争朝夕。在经过鲤鱼跳龙门式的高考惨战后，2003年，方光如愿以偿地考入了山东某医科高校。

FangGuang was born in shandong weifang city an ordinary worker family.Elementary school/Middle school heavy study pressure,The FangGuang entrance examination with the spring seize every minute.After carps jumping gantry the college entrance examination after the war,In 2003,,FangGuang achieve what one wishes the ground was admitted to the shandong some medical universities.

　　“到了大学，学习无压力，你学也行，不学也行，只要考试及格就没人说你”。一下子，方光在大学中失去了方向感。在无压和无聊下，方光也有了足够的时间去玩游戏，感受游戏世界中惊心动魄的刺激。慢慢地，方光无法自拔，以至于走到了极度疯狂的地步。

"The university,Learning without pressure,You learn to also go,Don't study to also go,As long as the exam no one say you".suddenly,In the university FangGuang lost sense of direction.In the absence of pressure and the boring,FangGuang also had enough time to play the game,Feel the game world thrilling stimulation.slowly,FangGuang cannot extricate oneself,That went to the extreme point of madness.

　　从“魔兽世界”内侧开始，大二到大五，在四年时间里，方光几乎所有的经历都用在了玩游戏上。由于方光聪明，爱思考，方光的技巧，备受“圈内”人肯定。

from"World of warcraft"Medial began to,Two to five,In four years,FangGuang almost all the experience is, in the play games.Because FangGuang smart,Love thinking,FangGuang skills,is"circle"it.

　　“一个宿舍八个人去网吧，一连干两三个通宵很正常”。然而，父母却对方光百依百顺，“一好遮百丑”，“只要学习成绩没落下，不就是玩玩嘛”，父母对方光的行为并没有疑义。

"A dormitory eight people to go to net bars,For dry two or three all night is very normal".however,Parents are the other light jump through hoops,"A good cover ugly","As long as the study result under the decline,Play is not well",Parents each other the behavior of light and no doubt.

　　一次刻骨铭心的回忆让方光现在想来诅咒自己是个“禽兽”。“由于我们家离学校不远，有一天我在网吧上网，妈妈正好在家里包好了水饺去学校给我送，当时舍友说我去上自习去了，于是妈妈就在那等。一等，再等，到晚上十二点还没等到，妈妈就到学校周围的挨个网吧找我。一直到找到凌晨两点，妈妈才找到我。当时正在玩游戏，妈妈看到我后也没多说什么，放下饺子，说了一声早点回去睡觉就走了。当时自己还特别烦，还说了一些生气的话。直到第二天7点自己才回去，妈妈也并没有责怪我。回学校后，舍友说妈妈在学校里等了一天，回想起这件事情，现在看看自己疯狂的做法，自己确实很禽兽，一点也对不住妈妈”。

An unforgettable memories FangGuang now want to let oneself is a curse"animals"."Because our house not far from school,One day I in the surf the Internet in a cyber bar,Mother just at home a dumpling wrapped to send me to school,When roommates said I to go to self-study went to,So my mother in the other.first,wait,Twelve o 'clock at night to haven't wait,Mother went to school around the round Internet bar looking for me.Has been to find two o 'clock in the morning,The mother didn't find me.At that time is playing a game,Mother saw me also didn't say more??????,Put down the dumplings,Said a sound to go back to sleep and went away.Oneself at that time still special vexed,Also said some angry words.Until the second day 7 themselves to go back,Mom did not blame me.Back after school,Roommates mother said in school and a day,Recall it,Now look at yourself crazy practice,I do the animals,A little also sorry mom".

大学：空虚、无压、毫无方向 university:empty/No pressure/There is no direction

　　一向聪明，基础扎实的方光，在本科毕业时，还是以优异的成绩考入大连某高校的研究生。从本科到研究生，从小城市到繁华都市，方光父母、爷爷、奶奶在提起方光时更加引以为豪。

Always smart,FangGuang based solid,In the undergraduate course graduate,Or with excellent performance was admitted to a university graduate student of dalian.From undergraduate to graduate,From the city to the busy city,FangGuang parents/grandpa/Grandma in FangGuang mention more proud.

　　但走进更高学府的方光，面对大城市中的种种诱惑，研究生阶段更加无聊、无压、空虚、无方向感，一次偶然的机会，方光在大连某电玩城被老虎机游戏所吸引，而且很快深陷其中。

But into the higher FangGuang universities,In the face of the cities in all sorts of temptation,The graduate student stage more boring/No pressure/empty/No sense of direction,A pure chance,FangGuang in dalian city was a video games attracted slot machine game,And soon coming unstuck.

　　“所有人都在看你玩，一下子打进来，赢八九万，成就感悠然而生”。方光觉得，这种赌博游戏，能够更刺激地带给自己瞬时的成绩感，缓解空虚和无聊。

"All the people are watching you play,Suddenly come in,Win 890 thousand,A sense of accomplishment ages".FangGuang think,This kind of gambling game,Can be more exciting zone to instantaneous achievement feeling,Ease emptiness and boring.

　　最疯狂时，方光连续三天三夜待在电玩城，然而输多赢少，最多时每次能输掉十几万元。面对老虎机这种游戏，方光完全掌控不了。

When the most crazy,FangGuang continuous three days and three nights stay in video games city,However winless,Most time every time can lose several hundred thousand yuan.In the face of machine this game,The complete control of the FangGuang not.

　　十万、二十万、三十万-，方光凭借着与“哥们”们的感情，借钱玩老虎机游戏赌博。但早已发觉方光痴迷于这种狂热赌博的父母，并没有做出有力的举措，阻止方光。然而，在父母看来，只要是成绩好，无论怎样的错误也都能够抚平儿子身上的缺点，这种贪迷也并没有引起父母足够的重视。

One hundred thousand/Two hundred thousand/Three hundred thousand -,FangGuang with and"Elder brothers"The feelings of the,Borrow money playing slot machine game gambling.But had been aware of FangGuang crazy about this frenzy gambling parents,And not to make effective measures,Stop FangGuang.however,In parents,As long as the performance is good,No matter what kind of error are also tames son weaknesses,The greedy fans did not cause parents enough attention.

遭退学 爷爷被气死 Been expelled from grandpa was so angry

　　2012年2月的一天，方光在继续逃学痴迷老虎机赌博持续长达半个月后，被实习医院的患者举报，学校方面立即作出处理，给予方光勒令退学处分，这时的方光已经因玩老虎机赌博输进去了80余万元。

One day in February 2012,FangGuang continues to play truant obsession slot machines gambling lasted more than half a month,Is the practice of hospital patients report,Schools make an immediate treatment,Give FangGuang bilge sanctions,At this moment FangGuang has for play slot machines gambling lose in more than 80 ten thousand yuan.

　　方光父母接到学校方面的电话时，一下子崩溃了，爷爷也因无法承受突如其来的打击，突患心肌梗塞而离世。温馨和睦的家庭一下子家破人亡，而且还要承担方光赌博输掉的巨额债务。

FangGuang parents received school of phone,Crumpled up,Grandpa is unable to withstand sudden shock,Tu suffer from myocardial infarction and away from the world.Warm and harmonious family suddenly family broken up,But also take FangGuang gambling lost huge debt.

　　“爷爷去世了，儿子遭开除了，80多万元对于一个家庭来说是个毁灭性的打击，一夜之中爸爸的头发全白了，一个家庭就这样垮了 ”， 方光后悔地解释道。

"Grandpa passed away,Son was fired,More than 80 yuan for a family is a devastating blow,One night in dad's hair all white,A family so collapsed ", FangGuang repentantly explained.

“我的青春我做主” "My youth I make decision"

　　“妈妈求你了，妈妈求你了，再三地好好想想这多时间多疯狂吧，妈妈在家里快扛不住了，妈妈一直在等着你回来。方光妈妈在给戒网学校中的儿子的信中写到。

"Mom please,Mom please,Again and again think about this much time more crazy,Mom at home fast carry not to live,Mom has been waiting for you back.In FangGuang mother to quit school and the son's letter wrote.

　　“父母就是烂命一条，吃糠咽菜过来的，父母的命不值钱，父母就是为了孩子一个前途，就算父母的脸让你踩到泥里去，只要能对你有利也无所谓。”方光回忆自己的父母对自己太过于溺爱，也因为父母对美好生活的过度期盼，对孩子学习成绩的过度偏见，致使让自己养成了一个特里独行的性格。

"Parents is a bad life,Eat bran pharyngeal food come over,Parents' life worth,Parents to children a future,Even if the parents face let you trampled in the mud,As long as it doesn't matter to your advantage."FangGuang recall his parents to oneself too much spoil,Also because the parents of a better life excessive look forward to,To academic performance of excessive bias,Cause to form a John terry the character that you never walk alone.

　　“我的青春我做主，那爸爸妈妈的青春呢？我们这代人太过自私了”，“想想自己犯的错误，自己不是人，是个禽兽”。方光感悟到。

"My youth I make decision,That mom and dad? The youth?Our generation is too selfish","Think of their own errors,Himself not people,Is a beast".FangGuang feeling to.

　　在封闭，几乎与世隔绝的戒网学校里，按时起床、定时跑操、上课、作息，方光重新过上了有规律的生活。每天背诵“弟子规”、学习“孝”经。在心理咨询老师的疏导下，让方光慢慢顿悟到了这场悲剧背后，可以避免但又无法抗拒的前因后果。

In the closed,Almost isolated ring network school,Get up on time/Timing PaoCao/class/Work and rest,FangGuang to lead a regular life.Every day recite"Disciple gauge"/learning"Filial piety"the.In psychological counseling teachers under the channel,Let FangGuang slowly insight to the tragedy behind,Can be avoided, but cannot resist the cause and effect.