12月24日下午2时许，柳州市某中学初二男生小强(化名)因违反校规携带饮料进校，不服王老师(化名)管教。小强随后把老师拖进男厕拳打脚踢，甚至专门踢打老师的下体，致使该老师至今仍在住院治疗。此事引起了众多读者的关注，许多家长发问：我们的孩子为什么会变得如此难以管教？心理专家介绍，12到16岁的孩子处于“心理断乳期”，逆反心理强、易冲动、易受外界因素影响而产生各种叛逆行为。如何引导孩子步入健康发展的轨道？

About 2 PM on December 24,Liuzhou a boy jack junior middle school(The allotted time periods specified by the)For violation of the rules carry drinks warts,Not miss wang(The allotted time periods specified by the)discipline.Roaches then dragged the teacher into men kick,Even special kicking the teacher's nakedness,That the teacher is still in the hospital.It has attracted the attention of many readers,Many parents ask:Our children why will become so difficult to discipline?Psychological expert introduction,Children between the ages of 12 and 16"Psychological DuanRuQi",Strong rebellious attitude/impulsive/Vulnerable to external factors and produce all sorts of rebellious behavior.How to guide the healthy development of children step into the orbit of?

　　

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各方热议 The parties to the hot debate

　　

暴打老师事件 Suddenly and violently dozen teachers

　　

老师家长： The teacher parents:

　　

学校应严惩肇事学生 School students resources should be severely punished

　　昨日，学生殴打老师的事情见报后，引来各方的关注和热议。

yesterday,Students after beating the teacher's things appear,Draws the attention of all parties and hot debate.

　　今报昨日接到了不少家长、老师以及其他市民打来的电话。一名学生家长说，他的孩子就在小强所在的班级上课，事件发生后，他与很多孩子同班的家长有过沟通，大多数家长都表示，能够理解学校的苦衷，但理解并不意味着接受，应对肇事学生予以严惩。

This newspaper yesterday received a lot of parents/Call from the teacher, as well as other citizens.A student's parents said,His children in jack's class,After the incident,He and many children your parents have communication,Most parents have said,Can understand the difficulties of the school,But understand doesn't mean that,To hit and students shall be punished severely.

　　这名家长说，他们看到学校的领导为这件事情已经忙得不可开交，也知道学校为此事做了很多的努力，很多家长没有再将矛头指向学校。可是，他们仍然觉得，自己孩子的健康成长比什么都重要，如果事情没有一个圆满的答复，他们也只能让孩子转学。

The parents say,They see the leadership of the school has been busy for this matter,Also know that the school did a lot of effort for this matter,Many parents haven't will to school.but,They still feel,Their children's healthy growth is more important than any one thing,If things don't have a satisfactory answer,They also can let the child transfer.

　　该校的一位老师说，她得知很多家长为被打的王老师声援，十分感动。她说，这件事至少可以看出，大多数家长对老师的工作还是非常配合和支持的。可是，老师自己的人身权益应该如何得到保障，成了她心中的一个疙瘩。

The school, one teacher said,She learned that many parents for the king got slapped the teacher support,Very touched.She said,It can be seen at least,Most of the parents to the teacher's work is very cooperate with and support.but,The teacher's own personal interests should be how to get guarantee,Became her in the heart of a knot in one's heart.

　　很多市民也对此事谈了自己的看法，一名姓覃的女士说，教师需要一个安心的教学环境，才能更好地教书育人，此事的发生，与学校教育、家庭教育以及整个社会环境都有关系。

A lot of people also talked about his own views on the matter,A name tain the lady said,Teachers need a secure environment,Can better teaching,The occurrence of this matter,And school education/Family education and the social environment have relations.

　　

部门表示： Department said:

　　

处理此事不容易 It is not easy to deal with the matter

　　昨日下午，记者向学校所属片区教育主管部门了解情况，一位负责人称，目前学校已经将情况向主管部门汇报，但是问题确实十分棘手，仍然需要进一步调查处理。

Yesterday afternoon,Reporter belongs to school for education department know the situation,A responsible person,Schools have to report to the competent department at the moment,But the problem is very difficult,Still need further investigation.

　　“处理这件事谈何容易，我们不可能凌驾于法律之上”，该负责人称，由于此事件当事学生未满14周岁，按照相关法律法规，只能是对孩子进行教育，并尽量与家长沟通。面对众多其他学生家长的诉求，现在校方和主管部门都感到十分为难，都在努力寻求一个可以让事件得到妥善解决的办法。

"When dealing with this matter,We can't is above the law",The responsible person,Due to the event the parties students under 14 years of age,In accordance with the relevant laws and regulations,Only is education to the child,And try to communicate with their parents.The pursuit of a face numerous other parents,Now the school and the department in charge of all feel very embarrassed,Are trying to seek a can let event properly solution.

　　

网友说法： The net friend say:

　　

打人暴露出诸多问题 At a exposed many problems

　　在红豆今网(www.hdjwww.com)论坛上，此事也引起了众多网友的关注，议论该事件的帖子就有30多个，并累积了数万点击量。

In the red bean in the nets(www.hdjwww.com)On the BBS,It also has attracted the attention of many users,Talk about the event of there is more than 30,And accumulated tens of thousands of hits.

　　虽然有网友认为，如果老师能够更忍让一些，事情也许就不会变得如此严重；但更多的网友，对肇事学生的做法给予了谴责，认为其做法非常出格。网友“怒放的天空”就表示：“该学生打老师的行为恶劣，令人痛恨。”网友“柳工仔”提出了自己的观点：“反思现在的教育舆论，学生只要出一点事就指责学校不对、老师不对，搞得老师缩手缩脚的，不敢管学生，学生也有恃无恐，从而出现了小强这样的人。”

Although there are a net friend,If the teacher can be more tolerance,Things may not be so serious;But more net friend,To hit and the practice of students gave condemnation,Believe that it is very good taste.The net friend"In full bloom in the sky"It means the:"The students play the teacher's bad behavior,repugnant."The net friend"Liugong son"The author puts forward his own views:"Reflection is the education of public opinion,Student with a little thing was accused as long as the school/The teacher is wrong,Make the teacher be overcautious,Can't the students,Students also strong backing,Thus appeared the roaches such people."

　　除了批评肇事学生，很多网友将矛头指向了孩子的家长，“gxlzcj”就表示：“孩子打人是不对，但更应该反省的是孩子的家长，俗话说‘养不教，父之过’小强打人的背后，其父母的责任不可推卸。”

In addition to criticism hit and students,A lot of net friend will point towards the child's parents,"GXLZCJ"It means the:"The child object is wrong,But more should reflect is the parent of the child,As the saying goes‘Keep not to teach,The father had’Jack Bauer hitting back,The parents of the unshirkable responsibility."

　　

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叛逆期少年问题多 Young rebellious period problem

　　市民和网友在热议此事的同时，有人表示，小强打伤老师虽是极端事件，却反映出如今社会普遍存在的现象，那就是“正处于叛逆期的少年，容易出现各种极端行为”。不少专家还特别列举了叛逆期少年的一些极端行为。

Citizens and net friend in the matter of hot debate at the same time,Someone said,Jack Bauer wounded teacher is extreme events,But now reflects the social widespread phenomenon,That is"Is in the young rebellious period,Prone to all kinds of extreme behavior".Many experts also specifically enumerated some extreme behavior of the young rebellious period.

　　

小学生预谋“报复”老师 Elementary school students planned"revenge"The teacher

　　小蔡(化名)是柳州一所小学五年级的学生。最近一段时间，小蔡家长不断接到学校老师的“投诉”电话，反映小蔡上课不听话，小动作多，屡教不改，而家长也同样发现小蔡越来越难以管教了，于是带着小蔡找到心理专家、广西社会心理学会副会长刘字。

XiaoCai(The allotted time periods specified by the)Liuzhou is a primary school grade five students.Recently a period of time,XiaoCai parents continue to teacher in school"The complaint"The phone,Reflect XiaoCai class not obedient,Little more than,Often teach not to change,And parents also found XiaoCai more and more difficult to discipline,So with XiaoCai find psychological expert/Guangxi social psychological society vice-chairman liu.

　　刘字跟小蔡连续接触了5次，取得小蔡的充分信任后，小蔡偷偷说出了一个惊人的秘密：他已经连续跟踪了自己的班主任一个星期，把老师家所在小区、住在哪一栋、哪一个单元，甚至哪一号房都搞得清清楚楚，现在他正在筹划实施一项针对老师的“报复”行动！

Liu word with XiaoCai continuous contact with 5 times,After obtaining XiaoCai fully trust,XiaoCai sneak out of a startling secret:He has been followed his own class a week,Communities in which the teacher's house/Live where an/Which one unit,Even room which make clearly,Now he is planning the implementation of a study of the teacher"revenge"action!

　　一个十岁左右的孩子，竟然会产生报复自己老师的想法，在很多人看来会觉得意外，但是在刘字看来，确是很正常的一件事情，他认为孩子产生这种想法背后，必然是有深层次原因的。细问之下，才揭开了谜底。

A child of ten years or so,Actually can produce revenge himself the teacher's ideas,It seems to a lot of people will feel accident,But in liu word seems to be,It is very normal one thing,He thinks children have this idea behind,Must be have the profound reason.Under the wise,To unravel the mystery.

　　原来，小蔡平时调皮好动，课堂上喜欢做小动作，老师发现后，经常在课堂上当着全体学生的面，点名批评小蔡，还将小蔡赶出教室。除此之外，老师还经常向校领导打小蔡的“小报告”。有一次，校领导将小蔡在学校里的表现告诉了家长，家长得知后非常气愤，将小蔡狠狠揍了一顿。

The original,XiaoCai naughty active at ordinary times,Likes to do things in the class,The teacher found that after,Often in the face of all students in class,Criticized XiaoCai,Will also be XiaoCai out of the classroom.In addition to,The teacher also often to the school leader play XiaoCai"About the".There is a,The school leader will XiaoCai told parents in school performance,Parents very angry after that,Will XiaoCai knock.

　　从那次起，小蔡的心里就埋下了“仇恨”老师的种子，后来，小蔡又因老师“打报告”被家长打了几次，心中对老师和家长的反感情绪不断发酵，反抗心理不断增强，最终，他产生了要报复老师的想法。他的第一个计划就是找到老师的家，用木棍或者铁丝将老师家的门锁堵上，让她进不了门。

Since the,XiaoCai was buried in the heart"hatred"The seeds of the teacher,later,XiaoCai because of the teacher"A report"Are parents tried several times to call,Heart of teachers and parents sentiment continuous fermentation,Strengthen the resistance,In the end,He has to repay the teacher's ideas.His first plan is to find a teacher's house,With a stick or wire to the teacher's door lock up,To let her into the door.

　　

受教唆众少年抢劫成人 Be abetted the young adult robbery

　　广西律师协会未成年人保护委员会委员、广西桂中天律师事务所的韦锦标律师说，处于叛逆期的孩子，很容易受到他人的教唆和影响。韦举例说，2011年2月，居住在一个小区里的七八名在校学生，在一名年纪稍大的孩子的教唆下，几人同时对一市民实施了抢劫。当时，他们一群人手持小刀一哄而上，打伤了市民，并抢走了几十元钱。

Guangxi lawyers association minors protection committee/The firm of guangxi GuiZhong day WeiJinBiao lawyer said,In the rebellious period of children,It is easy to instigate and influence by others.Wei, for example,In February, 2011,Living in a village in the name of seven students,Under the incitement of an older child,Several people at the same time robbing a citizen.At that time,They are a group of people YiHongErShang armed with a knife,Wounded people,And took a few yuan.

　　事件中，虽然抢钱的数额不大，但是他们的行为仍然构成了抢劫罪，可是，这群孩子只有两人超过14岁，最小的更是只有11岁，最终，法院判决超过14岁的两人承担了相应的法律责任，而小于14岁的另外几名未成年人则免于法律的制裁。

In the event,Although the amount of money is not big,But their behavior is still constitutes the robbery,but,Only two of this group of children more than 14 years old,The smallest is only 11 years old,In the end,Court decisions more than 14 years of two people to bear the corresponding legal responsibility,And other several minors are less than 14 years old from the law.

　　韦说，不同年龄段的青少年，需要承担的法律责任也不一样，但并不意味着低于14岁的孩子就能为所欲为，处于叛逆期的他们触碰到这样的底线的时候，更应当对他们加强教育，否则他们会很容易继续走上犯罪道路。

Wei said,Different age paragraph the teenagers,Need to bear the legal responsibility is different also,But does not mean that children under the age of 14 to London,In the rebellious period when they touch the bottom line,More should strengthen education to them,Otherwise they will be easy to continue on a path to crime.

　　

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应重视孩子心理“断乳期” Should pay attention to the child psychology"DuanRuQi"

　　为什么叛逆期少年容易出现各种极端行为？据有关心理专家介绍，孩子进入青春期后，除了生理方面开始生长发育，在心理方面也会发生明显的变化。这一时期的孩子具有特殊性，有时候会表现出逆反心理，你指东他偏向西，你说不能这么做，他偏偏要和你对着干。这种现象一般会发生在12到16岁的孩子身上，心理学上称之为“心理断乳期”。

Why young rebellious period prone to all kinds of extreme behavior?According to the relevant psychological experts,Children after puberty,In addition to physiological aspects to growth and development,Will be significant changes in psychology.This period of children with particularity,Sometimes show a rebellious attitude,You mean the east to the west,You can't do this,He must want to and your wishes.This phenomenon generally occurs in children between the ages of 12 and 16,Psychology is called on"Psychological DuanRuQi".

　　心理专家刘字认为，这个时期的孩子，最主要表现是独立活动的愿望变得越来越强烈，但由于缺乏生活经验不能正确理解自尊，只是强烈要求别人把他们看作成人。如果这时家长还把他们当孩子来看待，他们就会厌烦，就会觉得伤害了他们的自尊心，就会产生反抗的心理，萌发对立的情绪。

Psychological experts think liu word,This period of children,The main performance is the wish of independent activities become more and more intense,But due to lack of life experience can't correctly understand self-respect,Just urge others see them as adults.If the parents still treat them as children to look at,They will be bored,Will feel hurt their self-esteem,Can produce resistance of psychology,The rivalry germination.

　　有关专家指出，这个时期的孩子，尽管自我意识发展了，但自我控制能力还很差，常会无意识地违反纪律。另外，由于这一时期孩子体内的荷尔蒙分泌旺盛，他们行为上很容易冲动，如果孩子先天具有攻击性人格，后天又缺乏正确的引导，加上家长和老师在与孩子沟通时缺乏正确的方式和方法，那么孩子就很容易表现出攻击性。

Experts pointed out that,This period of children,Although self-consciousness development,But the self-control ability is poor,Often unconsciously breach of discipline.In addition,Because this period the hormonal secrete exuberant of the child,Their behavior is very easy to impulse,If a child congenital aggressive personality,The day after tomorrow and the lack of correct guidance,With parents and teachers when communicate with children lack of correct way and method,So children can easily show offensive.

　　“心理断乳期”，实质上是青少年们随着身心的成长发育，逐渐从依赖于父母的心理状态中独立出来，自己判断、自己解决所面临的新问题的时期，这是一个人的社会化过程，是一个人从幼稚到成熟的转折时期。

"Psychological DuanRuQi",In essence is the growth of the teenagers with physical and mental development,Gradually independent from the psychology of depend on their parents,His judgment/To solve new problems faced by The Times,This is a man's socialization process,Is a man from naive to mature period of transition.

　　对此，心理专家建议，作为家长和老师，要学会与他们建立一种亲密的平等的朋友关系，要相信孩子有独立处理事情的能力，不要轻易责备孩子，要尊重他们的自尊心，但是又不宜过度溺爱孩子，在是非面前，应该有明确的态度，对于犯了错误的孩子，适当的惩戒也是有必要的，不过要注意方式和方法。(南国今报记者陈新援 唐寅)

this,Psychological expert advice,As parents and teachers,To learn and they set up a kind of equality of intimate friends,To believe that children have the ability to deal with things,Don't blame children easily,To respect their self-esteem,But should not be overly spoil the child,In the presence of right and wrong,There should be a clear attitude,For make a mistake of the child,The appropriate punishment is necessary,But must pay attention to the way and method.(Austral today newspaper reporter ChenXinYuan tang Yin)