“你见过这样的极品室友吗？”“受不了室友了！”在百度贴吧、高校论坛里，不少大学生发帖倾吐自己对宿舍关系的不满。据一项最新的网络调查显示，仅四成90后大学生对寝室关系满意，还有三成大学生对寝室矛盾抱着无所谓的态度，剩下三成学生无法容忍宿舍关系。金陵晚报记者在采访中了解到，在南京高校中，一些辅导员表示，寝室矛盾确实越来越凸显。许多大学生与网友打得火热，却和室友形同陌路。

"Have you ever seen such a gourmet roommate?""Can't stand roommates!"In baidu stick/Colleges and universities in the BBS,Many college students post pour out his dissatisfaction with the dormitory relationship.According to a new online survey,Only forty percent after 90 college students in dormitory relationship satisfaction,There are thirty percent students attitude towards bedroom contradictions embrace it doesn't matter,The remaining thirty percent students can't bear the dormitory relationship.Jinling evening news reporter in the interview to understand,In nanjing university,Some instructors said,Dormitory contradiction is more and more prominent.Many college students with friends to play,With my roommate but were strangers.

　　作息不一致惹争吵 Routine inconsistent argument

　　“因为课业比较重，我平时活动也很多，晚上开会开到10点半回来是常有的事。回来免不了要洗洗东西，整理一下。开开灯、磕磕碰碰地弄出声响，宿舍有人就会有意见。”南京一所高校大三的陈同学说，“我其实已经很注意不要吵他们睡觉了，可是，他们还是会不理解。他们认为我的作息有问题，舍友们虽然一直没有挑明说，但感觉就是不太舒服。”

"Because their are heavier,I at ordinary times activities also many,Open a meeting to come back at half past ten at night is often the case.Back to avoid to wash,Clean up.Open the light/Managed to make noise,The dormitory someone will have opinions."Nanjing a college junior ChenTongXue said,"Actually I have been very careful not to make so much noise they go to bed,but,They still don't understand.They think of my work and rest has a problem,Her roommates opened the talk though there has been no over said,But just don't feel too well."

　　张同学是大四的一名学生，在采访中谈道，“我们宿舍关系其实不错，但系里有同学的关系却处得不好，主要原因还是作息时间。听说一个同学因为自己要夜里11点睡觉，就强制要求宿舍其他人11点以后不许有任何的灯光和声响。在集体宿舍，这根本就不可能。我们系作业多，熬夜写作业是正常的事。白天就算抓紧时间也未必写得完，晚上不熬夜，作业都交不了。”

He is a student of a senior,In the interview said,"Our dormitory relationship is actually good,But the department have the relationship between the students get along well,Main reason or schedules.I hear a classmate for myself to sleep at night 11 o 'clock,Is mandatory for the dormitory rest after 11 o 'clock don't have any light and sound.In the collective dormitory,This is not possible.Our department operation,Stay up late homework is normal thing.Even take the time during the day is not write,Don't stay up late at night,Homework is not."

　　除了作息问题，还有兴趣原因造成的分歧。比如说，有的男生宿舍，多数人很喜欢打篮球，但是宿舍有宅男喜欢宅在宿舍看漫画上网。“他一个人在宿舍时，有时候要开空调用电之类的，有室友也会觉得不公平。毕竟电费水费是大家平摊的。”南京高校一名男生如此表示。

In addition to routine problems,Still interested causes of differences.For instance,Some boys dormitory,Most people like playing basketball very much,But the dormitory have read comic online like curtilage male curtilage in the dormitory."When he was a person in the dormitory,Sometimes want to open air conditioning electricity and so on,A roommate will feel unfair.After all electricity water is sharing."Nanjing university one of the boys said.

　　卫生习惯不可忽视 Health habits can not be ignored

　　一般来说，男生宿舍关系都比女生宿舍关系简单些。但是因为卫生关系造成的宿舍关系不和谐，也是常有的事情。詹同学表示：“我们宿舍关系还行，但有一个室友估计因为娇生惯养，没有养成很好的卫生习惯。衣服、鞋子、书本有时候堆得乱七八糟，我们走都走不过去，这样大家就会不太高兴。”

Generally speaking,,Boys dormitory relationship than the girl's dormitory relationship easier.But because health caused by the dormitory relations not harmonious,Is often the things.Chan said:"Our dormitory relationship ok,But there is a roommate estimates for spoiled,No good health habit.clothes/shoes/Books sometimes of a mess,We all walk not to walk past,So you will not too happy."

　　“宿舍就是大学里的家，家为什么不能干净一点？有一次我因为室友的卫生问题而发飙，实在是看不下去。女孩子东西多，平时吃的零食也多，垃圾不及时清理，放宿舍很容易就发臭。我帮你扔一次可以，可是不能每次都是我帮你扔啊，我又不是你家保姆。”余同学这样对记者抱怨道。但在余同学看来，卫生问题不是困扰最大的宿舍问题，性格才是最重要的原因。“我认为就是性格问题，一个人无法理解另一个人为人处世的做法，彼此看不顺眼，然后就开始说对方坏话。发展到一发不可收拾的时候，两个人就绝交了。”余同学说，这样的宿舍关系不在少数。

"The dormitory is the home of the university,Why can't house clean?Once I angry because of the roommate's health problem,Is really can't see it.What a girl,Eat snacks at ordinary times also,Garbage is not clear in time,It is easy to smell.Can I help you throw,But not every time is I help you throw,I'm not your baby-sitter."More students complained to reporters.But it seems to more students,Health problem is not with the largest dormitory problem,Character is the most important reason."I think that is personality,One person cannot understand another person life,Not pleasing to the eye to see each other,Then I started to say bad things about each other.Development to become clear,They broke up."More than classmates said,So the dormitory relationship.

　　在提到如何解决矛盾方面，有同学说一般男生会当面直接讲出来，而女生比较容易冷战。

When it comes to how to solve the contradiction,A classmate said general boy will speak out directly face to face,While girls are easy to the cold war.

　宿舍问题与宿舍结构有关 Dormitory problems related to the structure of the dormitory

　　南京航空航天大学心理健康教育中心杨雪花老师介绍，之所以90后比较容易出现宿舍关系问题，首先表现在宿舍结构的改变上。“以前一个宿舍住6-8人的时候，矛盾不突出，是因为很少出现5或7个人孤立一个人的情况，但是现在宿舍住4个人，3个人孤立一个人的情况就比较容易发生了。”杨雪花说，另外一方面90后年轻人的自我意识比较强，现在年轻人大多很自我，人际关系上就容易出现问题。

Psychological health education center of nanjing university of aeronautics and astronautics YangXueHua teacher,The reason after 90 dormitory relationship problems more easily,In the first place in the changes in the structure of the dormitory."Before 6-8 people lived in a dormitory,Don't conspicuous contradictions,Because rarely appears five or seven people isolate a person,But now the dormitory for 4 people,Three people isolate a person it is easier to happen."YangXueHua said,On the other hand after 90 young people's self-consciousness,Now young people are very self,Interpersonal relationship is easy to appear problem.

　　南京航空航天大学经济与管理学院辅导员刘旭老师表示，在她的学生中确实也有不少学生存在宿舍关系不好的问题。一般来说，她会这么处理，首先是让学生明白大学毕竟不像在家里，是自己一个人的天下，群体生活肯定要慢慢适应，要学会换位思考与包容。其次，要家长多配合，不能惯着孩子，当孩子在学校出现问题时，就要求走读或者去责怪别人。最后，就是多组织一些以寝室为单位的集体活动，让大家意识到缘分的不容易。“实际上同学们现在在宿舍吵吵闹闹，毕业时还是会互相舍不得的。”刘旭老师说。

Economic and management college of nanjing university of aeronautics and astronautics counselor LiuXu teacher said,Indeed there are many students in her students dormitory relationship bad problems.Generally speaking,,She will deal with,First is to let students understand the university after all don't like at home,Is one of the world,Group life are sure to have slowly adapted to,Learn to put yourself in other's shoes and tolerance.The second,To parents more,Don't spoil the child,When children problems in school,Requires the day or to blame other people.At last,Is the organization more collective activities of the unit in our bedroom,It is not easy to make everyone aware of fate."In fact the students noisy in the dormitory now,Graduation will loathe to give up each other."LiuXu teacher said.

　　-相关新闻 宿舍关系大调查 - related news survey dormitory relations

　　日前，有南京大学工程管理学院的同学在小百合BBS上贴出了“宿舍关系大调查”的帖子。据说，他们对在自习室和图书馆学习的同学做了随机调查，结果发现，造成宿舍矛盾的主要原因有以下几种：生活习惯(10点睡6点起VS3点睡10点起)；性格差异(话痨VS哑巴)；学习习惯(讨论式学习VS安静式学习)；感情因素以及贫富差距等。而在解决矛盾的方式方面，将近50%的同学选择了顺其自然，其次是沟通交流，选择冷战的同学不到10%，还有就是请客吃饭或第三方调解。根据该调查结果，宿舍偶尔发生较大摩擦的占52%，从不发生的占1%，经常发生的没有。由此可见，同学们还是很注意维持自己的宿舍关系。(南京大学实习生 杜杨 记者 曾亚莉 报道)

Prior to the,With nanjing university's school of engineering management students in small lily BBS stick out"The dormitory relations survey"The post.It is said that,Them to your library and study of the classmate did a random survey,The results showed that,A major cause of dormitory contradiction has the following several kinds:Living habits(Ten o 'clock sleep 6 points up VS3 sleep since ten o 'clock);Personality differences(Words consumptive VS the dumb);Study habits(Shuld learning VS a quiet type);Emotional factors and the gap between rich and poor, etc.And in the way of solving the contradiction,Nearly 50% of the students chose to let nature take its course,Followed by communication,Choose the less than 10% of the students of the cold war,There is a dinner or a third party.According to the results of the survey,Dormitory occur large friction of 52%,Never happen accounted for 1%,Often happen.Thus it can be seen,Students are very pay attention to keep our dormitory relations.(Nanjing university interns DuYang reporter CengYaLi reports)