倾诉人： Talk to people:

　　前几天，我家的孩子又被老师批评了，原因让我觉得很“雷”：上课时，趁老师写板书背过身，孩子竟然把裤子脱了下来。“你怎么可以这样子！”“同学很开心啊，逗他们笑！”儿子一脸的无辜和坦然，显然，虽然被老师批评了，但他完全没有意识到自己的错误在哪里。

A few days ago,My child was criticized by the teacher again,Why let me feel very"ray":In the class,While the teacher write the blackboard writing back too,The child actually took off his pants."How can you like this!""Classmate is very happy,Make them laugh!"Son a face of innocence and calm,obviously,Though being criticized by the teacher,But he didn't realize his own mistake in where.

　　我不是没有教育过他，在他更小的时候我就反复叮嘱过他，背心、短裤遮挡的部位是不可以给别人看到的。没想到他居然为了逗笑同学，做出如此出格的举动。后来，我偷偷去观察他平时上课的举动，发现他经常是趁老师不注意，就做出一些夸张的事情来，我要怎么对待他这样的行为呢？

I don't be to have no education him,When he was younger I told him again and again,vest/Shorts keep out of the site is not can give others to see.I didn't know he had to laugh,Make such a move.later,I secretly to observe his usual behavior in class,Found that he is often while do not pay attention to the teacher,Will make some exaggeration,How do I treat him such behavior?

专家分析： Expert analysis:

　　很明显，孩子的行为是为了博取他人的注意，关键是孩子的内心认定这种行为是一种自豪、肯定的行为，而不是一件令自己羞愧的行为。你需要反思的是，在家庭里面，孩子是否有这样取悦父母的行为？你们是如何处理的？是鼓励、惩罚，还是忽略？

It is obvious,The child's behavior is fishing for the attention of others,Key is the child's heart that this kind of behavior is a kind of pride/The behavior of the affirmation,And not something to be ashamed of his own behavior.You need to reflect on it,In the family,Children are so please parents' behavior?How do you deal with it?Is to encourage/punishment,Or ignore?

　　孩子往往很多行为是针对父母的，当前你需要做的是不要把孩子的行为过度解读，不过度评判或惩罚，因为这样往往会强化孩子的行为本身。另外，鼓励、惩罚、过度关注在另外一个层面都是“认同”，会强化其本有的行为。你要学会在家庭里面对孩子不好的行为视而不见，不认同、不批判、不惩罚，但对于孩子好的行为则要大加表扬，夸张一点也可以，这样孩子的不好行为就会因得不到认同而逐渐消失。

Children often many behavior is in view of the parents,Currently you need to do is not to the child's behavior over reading,Not too much judge or punishment,Because it tends to strengthen the child's behavior itself.In addition,encourage/punishment/Excessive attention is on another level"identity",This some will strengthen its behavior.You have to learn how to face the blind children's bad behavior in the family,Don't agree with/Don't criticize/Don't punish,But for child good behavior to his praise,Exaggerated can also,The child's bad behavior will gradually disappear for get approval.