女儿上高中时，家长开始记教育账，为孩子的点滴支出都在其中，并称：“将来这些，你都是要还的！”不料，一本账记了10页不到，“压力山大”的女儿就快崩溃了。面对丈夫和老师的质问，简女士也觉得委屈：“我只不过是想用这种方式，促进孩子发奋努力，哪里会真让她还呢？”

Daughter is in high school,The parents began to take education accounts,For the child's drop spending are in it,said:"Future these,You are to be returned!"but,An accounting record is less than ten pages,"Pressure shandong"Daughter will soon collapse.In the face of the husband and the teacher's question,Jane woman will feel wronged:"I just want to use this way,Promote child work all the harder,Where will it really let she also?"

半年花了三万五 Half a year spent thirty-five thousand

　　 前日，简女士和女儿从荆州来到武汉，找到武汉大学心理特聘教授尹邓安，希望解除心中的心结。简女士告诉尹邓安，女儿去年考上了当地一所省示范高中的三限生，交了2万多元的择校费。这对一个工薪家庭来说，算是一笔较大的支出。为了鼓励女儿上进，简女士便想出了记账的法子。

The day before yesterday,Jane lady and her daughter came to wuhan from jingzhou,Find the wuhan university DengAn psychological distinguished professor Yin,Wants to lift the heart knot.Jane lady told DengAn Yin,Daughter last year went to the province demonstration high school three limit was born,Made 20000 multivariate ZeJiaoFei.This to a working families,Is a larger spending.In order to encourage daughter progress,Ms Jane will come up with accounting way.

　　 去年8月底开始，简女士就中规中矩地记起账了。女儿的每笔支出都在列：择校费、学费、住宿及每月生活费、各类学习用品，甚至是衣着支出。短短的半年时间，各类支出加在一起已经超过了3.5万元。

At the end of August of last year began,Jane lady is to remember the compasses account.Her daughter's each spending are listed:ZeJiaoFei/tuition/Accommodation and monthly cost of living/Learning supplies all kinds of,Even dress spending.Short time half a year,All kinds of spending together has more than 35000 yuan.

要钱需莫大勇气 Want money need great courage

　　 平时，给女儿生活费时，简女士都会将账本取出，当着女儿的面来记录，每次都会随口道：“现在给你花的钱，将来你都得还我！”每回女儿都默不作声。

At ordinary times,Her daughter life time consuming,Jane lady will take out books,In the presence of her daughter's face to record,Each time can freely way:"Now give you spend the money,In the future you must also I!"Every time the daughter are silent.

　　 简女士的女儿上高中后成绩并不好，加之住校，母女间的交流很少。对于记账，简女士并未感到女儿有何异样反应，只觉得女儿在讨要生活费或是买学习资料的钱时，仿佛是鼓起了莫大的勇气。

Jane lady's daughter is in high school performance is not good,And in residence,The communication between the mother and daughter rarely.In charge,Jane lady did not feel daughter has any different reaction,Only think daughter for living or buy study material money,As if is take the great courage.

考试失利终崩溃 Examinations will collapse

　　 去年底，简女士从老师那里得知，女儿在一次考试失利后，崩溃了。她将自己反锁在寝室里大哭大叫，说自己将来考不上大学怎么办，欠妈妈的害怕还不了……

end,Ms Jane know there from the teacher,Daughter in a test after the defeat,collapse.She will be locked himself in the bedroom shout loudly cry,Say your future test not to go to college,Owe mom also the fear of not……

　　 这件事后，家人还有老师都对简女士产生了偏见，女儿甚至认为妈妈很冷血。“这个法子是我看过一篇教育心得后，受到的启发，别人都用得挺好，我怎么就用出问题了？”

After this,My family and teachers to ms Jane have prejudice,Daughter even think mom is very cold-blooded."This way is I read an article after education experience,Inspired by,The other people all used well,How do I use wrong?"

　　 对此，尹邓安表示，好的教育经验也是要区分对象的，简女士的女儿内向而敏感，平时学习压力大，记账的行为无形中又给她施加了压力，导致亲子矛盾终于被激化。他认为，母女俩还是欠沟通。在咨询室里，母女俩敞开了心扉，交流由沉默到争吵、再到诉说，继而再沉默，最后是哭泣，母女间的心结悄然打开。（楚天金报 记者赵莉）

this,DengAn Yin said,Good education experience is to distinguish between object,The daughter of ms Jane within and sensitive,Usually study pressure,Accounting behavior virtually and gave her the applied pressure,Lead to parent-child conflicts finally be sharpened.He thinks,Mother and daughter both still owe communication.Many in the,Both mother and daughter opened your heart,Communication by silence to quarrel/To tell,Then I silence,The last is the cry,Between mother and daughter heart knot quietly open.(Chutian ZhaoLi 27 reporters)

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